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To honour Breast Cancer Awareness Month, Haider Rifaat interviewed breast cancer survivor and veteran artist Nadia Jamil about her road to recovery

Nadia, how’ve you been coping with cancer?
The National Health Service (NHS) in the U.K. is wonderful. They took most of the burden off me. Having my mum and son around has been very nice and I have a fluffy little dog who I cuddle a lot. Friends and family keep in touch and cheer me on. My social media family keeps me smiling and feeling so loved and then of course there’s my faith. Allah has carried me through this so gently and with so much love.

How has your experience with cancer and its treatment been like during the ongoing pandemic? 
Pretty normal. Kind volunteers drove me back and forth from treatments. I went and convalesced at my friend’s place in London a few times during treatments. I got really sick at times and was hospitalised, but I survived. I’m left with arthritis and diabetes, which I’m trying to deal with as positively as possible.

How did you muster the courage to motivate yourself during the initial weeks of your diagnosis? Where did you get that courage from?
I was very scared initially. My best friend was with me during the initial weeks; she gave me a lot of strength, as did my kids. Then of course, Allah sends courage to those who ask for it.

What coping strategies did you rely on to pull through this health crisis?
Prayer, meditation, mental health therapy, pet therapy and reaching out to people

What is the most important lesson that cancer has taught you?
That I don’t need anyone else. Allah shields me and I have an army inside me that can save my life.

At what point did you feel most vulnerable?
When my best friend, who was meant to be my treatment partner, left me before chemotherapy.

Who did you turn to for solace?
Allah and the NHS mental health crisis team.

How are you a different person now than who you were before?
I’m more self-sufficient and more patient. I respect pain and heartbreak; they’re my teachers and I’m not scared of being alone now.

Many people don’t normally share their journey with cancer on social media, but you have. Why did you decide to put yourself out there?
I felt alone and scared. I didn’t know how to share all these intense feelings with any one person, because they might run away. So, I shared my feelings in a space where I didn’t feel deserted. The response was overwhelming!

What role has the entertainment fraternity played at this stage of your life?
None

How do you view life and death?
Life’s a beautiful lesson, a wonderful journey. It’s as positive as you see it and as negative as you perceive it. Death is the one single definitive truth at the end. Death is also the beginning of another journey. Best we prepare for that in this lifetime.

What do you want the readers to take away from your experience?
You’re your greatest friend. Take care of yourself, listen to yourself and don’t think you ever need anyone else. The love of people is a bonus. It might come or go—they might come and go. But you’ll always be there for yourself, so self-partner and self-parent yourself.

How do you want people to remember you?
With a smile.

 

Junaid Khan’s star has been on the rise for quite some time. After a successful music career, he transitioned to becoming a critically acclaimed actor. This fortnight he speaks with Mehek Raza Rizvi about his work, peers and more

Your drama serial “Kashf” has a brilliant script and stellar performances. Tell us about the vibe on set—the stuff your audience doesn’t get to see. 

The plot of the drama serial itself is very serious and apart from a few scenes with dark humour, through Kashf’s father, there isn’t much comic relief. However, behind the camera the atmosphere is very different. The entire cast is extremely fun-loving; most people think I’m reserved, but that’s not true when I’m around people who I’m comfortable with. Hira Mani, as everyone knows is full of life, Danish Nawaz is the absolute king of comedy on our set and Mr. Waseem Abbas, owing perhaps to this theatre background, has excellent comedic timing even in real life. Every time we’re in the makeup room, it’s a complete party! The female cast, in particular, is very supportive of each other; they’re always seen encouraging and rooting for their costars. The vibe on our set is definitely very positive.

“Sun Yaara”, “Mohabbat Na Kariyo”, “Kashf” and another untitled project in the pipeline—you and Hira Mani have done quite a few projects together. Recently, she called you her “lucky charm” in an interview as well. How would you describe your working relationship with her and why do you think you two are casted together so often? 

Hira and I have been doing projects together for quite some time now, due to which we’re aware of each other’s working style and thus are very comfortable with each other as costars. Not only the two of us, but our families too, are friends, so a comfort zone has been developed. Our energy on set is focused on improving our performances solely, instead of having to worry about first getting along with or understanding our costar. We keep pushing each other to do better. The energy Hira brings onscreen is phenomenal; I love working with her because she’s very positive, is very cooperative and believes in teamwork.

As far as production houses wanting to cast us together repeatedly is concerned, I think that happens when an on-screen couple is liked by the audience. It also helps that we’re both professional and with us, there won’t be any issues or tantrums on set.

“Since I’ve always been of a reserved nature, I realised I struggled with expressing my feelings at times, which led to people misunderstanding me.  Any positive emotion that you feel must be communicated”

Talking about the new untitled project, we want to know more.

It’s a very interesting script. The concept may seem basic, but the way the plot evolves, the way each scene is put together and how the characters are knit in, is all very interesting; you won’t feel there was a single scene that was insignificant. The audience is bound to remain on the edge of their seats. Armeena Khan is going to be seen in a drama serial after about three years; Armeena, Hira and I have had a ball together. Overall, it’s looking like a promising project. I just heard the OST (original sound track) and loved it. I think the promos will be out in about a week and you’ll get an idea of what I’m talking about.

You’ve also launched your own motivational web series titled “Keh Do”. What’s the thought process behind that and where did the inspiration come from? 

“Keh Do” is an original song of mine that I released about seven to eight years ago. The concept behind it is very simple, yet personal. Since I’ve always been of a reserved nature, I realised I struggled with expressing my feelings at times, which led to people misunderstanding me. Any positive emotion that you feel must be communicated.

Over the years, I’ve read scripts and characters that have helped me understand, not just other people, but myself as well. I’ve given a lot of thought to who I am and what my purpose is. There were a lot of topics that I tried to decipher and breakdown. Negative thinking is something most of us deal with, so the way I dealt with it, is what you see in the web series, It’s all in my own, simple and brief words. It’s my own modest understanding of things, because, of course, I’m not a psychologist or expert in the field. It’s all about positive thinking and emotions I’ve felt in my life. I’ll be discussing them episode by episode.

“The energy Hira brings onscreen is phenomenal; I love working with her because she’s very positive, is very cooperative and believes in teamwork” —Junaid on Hira Mani

Do you think it’s important for actors these days to explore the web and other avenues apart from traditional television? 

I don’t think any individual is bound to stay confined to one particular avenue, for example, I started my career as a musician. This is a very fluid field; whether it’s important or not is relative. For some, like me, it’s just a creative outlet. I felt if I wanted to put forth something like “Keh Do”, YouTube was the best place for it.

You started your career as a singer, as you just mentioned, but it seems acting has replaced that. Would that be true to assert? 

Music may have taken a back seat due to my other professional commitments, but it’s a huge part of who I am and will always remain the platform with which I started my career. I’ll always be a musician.

“Every time we’re in the makeup room, it’s a complete party! The female cast, in particular, is very supportive of each other; they’re always seen encouraging and rooting for their costars”

Can we expect anything from you as a singer in the near future? 

I’m working on a lot of things, both with my band and solo. I’ll be sharing more details with you very soon. GT will be the first to know!

“I’m working on a lot of things, both with my band and solo. I’ll be sharing more details with you very soon. GT will be the first to know!”

We ran a little search on you and the web is full of projects you’re doing. How does that leave any time behind for family or yourself?

The web at times gives the impression that us actors don’t have time for ourselves, but over the years, I’ve learnt how to balance things. I think balance is very important, in everything in life. I don’t really have much of a social life, so the time that I’m not working, on weekends for instance, is spent bonding with my family.

What is Junaid Khan like at home? 

Junaid Khan at home is like any other regular guy. I’m mostly around my family, watching television, eating my favourite food and connecting with my loved ones.

Designer: Nauman Arfeen
Make up & Grooming: Sabs
Courtesy: Dewan Baqi Farooqui
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Hassan Tahir Latif speaks to the duo behind the first-of-its-kind volume on the history of Pakistani fashion, ‘Pakistan: A Fashionable History’

Saad Sarfraz Sheikh Photo by Shuaib Rana

How did the idea of archiving Pakistan’s fashion history originate?

Mehr: It was one of those disastrous mornings when everything goes wrong. I’d had a baby and had to drop my toddler off to school. Panicking over leaving the baby home, exhausted and mentally spent, I sat collapsed in my car wearing a t-shirt and tracks covered with baby dribble, formula and remnants of a hasty breakfast. Looking out I noticed a fellow mum dressed to the hilt—makeup, hair, three-piece suit—at 7am. What struck me was that she looked as miserable as I felt; I wondered: who’s telling us women to dress a certain way and setting these expectations? That triggered something in me about the fashion industry and I knew I had to find out more.

Saad: Mehr and I were always interested in collaborating on a project. I reached out to her and she mentioned that she wanted to do something on the Pakistani fashion industry. The discussion led to the idea of doing a historical book, which emphasised the formation and evolution of the industry.

Mehr F Husain Photo by Ali Agha

Tell us about the development process.

M: It started with us identifying who the ‘original’ designers of Pakistan are. We reached out to them explaining what the book was going to do i.e. document the origin of the fashion industry and its evolution and impact. The next step was collecting archives, which ultimately led us to interview make-up artists, photographers, stylists, models, fashion journalists and publishers of glossy magazines. Honestly, the Pakistani fashion industry is as indebted to them, as to the design pioneers.

S: While Mehr conducted interviews on the phone, I was lucky to tour Karachi as a musician with my band Quadrum. I’d stay back for a few days after the concerts and meet the Karachi based photographers, designers and journalists. I literally went to all the major old bookshops, hunting for old magazines and books on fashion. I was also lucky to have access to Newsline’s Karachi office, where I scanned anything related to fashion. Those rare and exclusive archives now form a major and integral part of the book.

Rizwan Beyg

Was it difficult to dig through the archives? In fact, were there any easily available archives to begin with?

M: A family member, my cousin Irfan, had sent old print ads to me and I was stunned. With his help, I managed to track down the source. The gentleman was most civil and readily shared them. He was a masterclass on archiving history and how to share them. Others such as Asif Raza, Tariq Amin and Tapu Javeri were also very generous.

S: We literally had to start from scratch, as the archives had to be found first; then I scanned and photographed them one by one from myriad sources. The entire process should’ve taken a year, but actually took three, since the research was extensive and the imagery was non-existent. Surprisingly, most of the individuals interviewed didn’t have much of their own archives. In fact, they requested me to pass on any copies that I found of their work.

Nilofer Shahid by Saad Sarfraz Sheikh

What was the reaction from the fashion fraternity when you embarked on this project?

M: They were wary and unsure; the idea that we wanted to document their industry was an alien concept. Pakistan at a national level has a culture of mistrust stemming from instability and uncertainty in the country and that meant we had to keep explaining, writing, emailing, updating and communicating at every stage and step. I kept the entire process transparent and worked really hard in building relationships with the community.

S: Despite the book being about fashion, the initial response from that fraternity was lukewarm. Many were hesitant to grant us required access, as they’d hoped to undertake a similar project on their own. This did make things difficult for us, but the fact that we have a finished book does speak volumes.

Shamaeel Ansari

What do you hope that this book achieves?

M: I hope people feel proud of Pakistan. Having being born and bred in a fashion capital (London), I don’t see fashion as just clothes—it defines culture, generations, mindsets, the economy and makes history as well. Pakistan has suffered so much, lost so much; I want people to feel inspired and to go out and own their social and cultural history in its entirety and document it all via the written word.

S: The fact that this book is the first of its kind makes it significant. I hope this is seen as a tribute to an important industry, which has defined culture since its inception. I feel there is a massive disconnect in our society, owing to the national identity crisis. We continue to battle with our actual roots and seek to adopt foreign cultures. I want this book to be an eye-opener for all those who feel that disconnect.

Sana Safinaz by Newsline archive
Nilofer Shahid

Mehr, what was the most surprising discovery during your research? Or the most memorable one?

Tariq Amin was a Studio 54 clubber, did you know?! I love retro and disco culture, so hearing that blew my mind. It rejuvenated my spirit after setbacks. I swear I heard Diana Ross speak to me during his interview.

Bodyfocus by Iman Ahmed

I believe in free speech and so coming across people like Fifi Haroon with her magazine ‘Xtra’ and Arshad Tareen of ‘Men’s Club’ was terribly exciting. Those kind of publications don’t, and perhaps can’t, exist now sadly, but the way they broke boundaries and opened up new avenues for liberation and expression was heartening to behold.

Maheen Khan
Nilofer Shahid
Nickie Nina by Ali Agha

Saad, what about you? What was the most memorable photograph you took for this project?

It was an utter pleasure to meet Tapu Javeri at his jewellery store in Karachi and photograph him. Directing Pakistan’s ace photographer for his shoot was scary and fun at the same time. I’m glad his photos turned out great and that he really liked them!

Maheen Khan
Umar Sayeed by Visage

What’s next for you both?

M: After seeing how damaged the publishing industry is in Pakistan and the immense talent that’s not finding avenues, I decided to open my own publishing house; I’ve already received submissions for publishing! I want to focus on changing the model of publishing in the country and make it more meaningful for all parties involved. Personally, I want to now cross over to fiction and also focus on my small crafts enterprise.

Kamiar Rokni

S: I’d like to continue building my own archives and author more books on history, culture and art. I have a lot of unpublished visuals, which I would like to translate into books.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sarwat Gilani is no stranger to complex roles; with the critically-acclaimed web series “Churails”, she’s tapped into yet another dimension of her craft. Following the resounding success of the series, she chats with Mehek Raza Rizvi about the conception of “Churails”, portraying roles responsibly and how she prepared to essay Sara

“Churails” is the first Pakistan-made original series for Indian streaming platform Zee5 Global. We’re curious to know the background behind this affiliation. Who reached out first? 

Shailja Saraswati Varghese, who heads content at Zee5 had noticed Asim Abbasi’s movie “Cake” and found it to be an interesting piece of art. She approached Asim and suggested they collaborate. At that point, Asim was in the process of writing the first draft of “Churails” and so he put together the pilot and sent it across. She liked it and asked him to write her a couple of more episodes, which he did and the rest is history. She loved the concept and commissioned Asim to create Pakistan’s first original product for Zee5. She gave him a lot of creative liberty to do things his way, because she could understand that he’s like a stallion—you can’t control Asim.

Did the team consider that the association of “Churails” with an Indian streaming platform could possibly hurt the sentiments of some of your local fans? 

A product like this is not for television or film. It had to be a web series; it was written for web and sadly, we don’t have an online portal of our own yet. If Netflix or Amazon had asked us for our content, that wouldn’t have been a problem, so why should this be? Art has no boundaries and artists want to exchange work. We don’t want to put ourselves in these little matchboxes saying “this is my world” and “this is where my art stays.” Art and music are forms you can’t control; they’re like water. If we had a Pakistani platform and we didn’t use it, then we would’ve at least given a thought to what people would say, but in the absence of such an option, if someone showed interest in Pakistan and its talent, I don’t think there was any room for resistance or second thoughts.

Asim has attempted to show the real, grey people. They could come from any part of society, but they have fallen, they have risen, they have imperfections, but also some great qualities. Your positives and negatives make you human

“Churails” is a brave script, unlike any other to have been produced in the country. However, something as courageous is always susceptible to backlash. Is/was that a fear? 

When I read the script, I knew this was a page-turner. The exceptional story is the hero of the project, it is both the antagonist and the protagonist and that’s a very unique concept to come across. With something so different, there are always fears about how it’ll be received. Whilst we were making it, we did have our doubts about people taking this well, or us hurting the feelings of part of our audience. However, we were blown away with the overwhelming love and encouragement we received when the trailer released and even more so after the first episode premiered. It was unreal; we had attempted to do something so unusual, it could make people feel uncomfortable, but it didn’t. And even if it did make a certain segment uncomfortable, they were happy with it, knowing that for the first time, someone had made the effort to talk about real issues women face that are normally not touched upon in our entertainment industry.

Tell us of the first thoughts you had when “Churails” was offered to you. 

My first thought was “Wow!” I was just thanking my stars to be offered an unbelievable script that would make history in Pakistan. For an actor to be offered such a role and be part of such a project is like a dream. This was the unicorn I had been looking for throughout my career. I had never read, or even watched, anything like this before. I was over the moon. This is right up my alley and I’d been waiting for it for so long. I’m an artist, a rebel—I’ll always stand up for myself and say what’s right when people try to put me down or troll me. This was a story that I could relate to. The issues addressed in this script are pertinent and important to talk about. What more could I have asked for, than someone like Asim Abbasi highlighting these topics so beautifully and sensitively? He really took ownership of the real reflections of our society.

Run us through the creative process of preparing for a role like Sara. Can you relate to the character you’re playing? 

Absolutely! I can relate to Sara completely. I think the casting was done very intelligently. Half the job was done with selecting just the right talent. I think one of the most important tasks on set is hiring the correct people and if you succeed at that, you’ve won part of the battle already.

Preparing for my role involved a lot of readings, rehearsals and personal sessions to discuss our characters, even our personal experiences—our inhibitions, sorrows and complexes—we opened up to Asim wholeheartedly, so he could understand us and see if there were any vulnerabilities he could tap into as an example when we weren’t getting something on set.

There were a lot of things that we talked about, references that we drew. A lot inspiration for Sara’s body language was drawn from Gayatri Devi, the third Maharani consort of Jaipur. I also took inspiration from Meryl Streep’s character in “The Devil Wears Prada” and for a couple of scenes with Omair Rana, I saw and studied Angelina Jolie in “Mr. & Mrs. Smith.” So there was a lot that I picked from reading what I had read before or going back to characters I had seen before.

There were a lot of things that we talked about, references that we drew. A lot inspiration for Sara’s body language was drawn from Gayatri Devi, the third Maharani consort of Jaipur. I also took inspiration from Meryl Streep’s character in “The Devil Wears Prada” and for a couple of scenes with Omair Rana, I saw and studied Angelina Jolie in “Mr. & Mrs. Smith”

How was your experience working with an all-female cast? 

It was almost an all-female cast—we did have a few male co-stars on set as well, but it was an undeniably amazing experience! I think what made it even better was the fact that these were all actors with a background in theatre and were just fantastic at their craft. I always felt inspired by each one of them, as they brought so much to the table. The real magic was in the fact that they were always so normal, grounded and chilled out behind the camera, but as soon as they were shooting, they embodied the strong characters they were portraying so smoothly and effortlessly.

I think because we all came from the theatre community, we understood the essence of teamwork. There was no “star” on our set. We all stuck through the strenuous hours, challenging locations and hot weather, because we were working towards one goal, which was Asim’s vision—that was the beauty of “Churails.”  Our friendships have translated from reel to real life, so you can imagine what the vibe must have been like.

Why do you think it’s important to show flawed female characters on screen? 

The whole idea of “Churails” is to get acceptance for a normal, regular human being. In our drama serials, it’s either a negative or positive role, particularly for women. There are fixed stereotypes: the working woman wearing western attire will be painted as cunning, while the one clad in shalwar kameez will be painted as innocent and upright—there is no middle ground, all characters are black and white. Asim has attempted to show the real, grey people. They could come from any part of society, but they have fallen, they have risen, they have imperfections, but also some great qualities. Your positives and negatives make you human.

Mostly, we see stories of characters who aren’t relatable, but “Churails” is the story of real women, with real issues and real traits.

Do you feel gender portrayal in Pakistani drama serials will see a shift in the near future?

I really hope so. I wish “Churails” proves to be a benchmark for our entertainment industry and we move towards more message-oriented content, without creating dilemmas in the minds of our audience and taking down their intellectual ability to understand something. I feel there is no gender equality in our drama serials. In my eighteen years of working as an actress, I’ve always had to be rescued by a man: a husband, lover, father or friend. Never before have I played a character where I fell and rose myself. Every drama is built around the premise of “will they get married?” It’s quite regressive, it’s like you don’t want people to grow. I really pray that we start taking responsibility to tell the truth and stop misguiding the public.

What role can actors play in bringing about this change? 

When offered characters and stories that don’t encourage the idea of uplifting my audience or stimulating intellectual growth, I don’t accept them. If I can’t agree with a concept, I can’t preach it. This is why I’ve always done selective work. Your character has to be believable. I think actors should say no to poor content, regardless of the money involved. This is our responsibility as entertainers. We should not support putting women down in particular.

Women will definitely take away the fact that they aren’t the only ones with flaws. By showing the reality of our world, we’re aiming to make our resilient women realise that they’re born to fly, not crawl

What do you hope, both women and men take away from the web series?  

Women will definitely take away the fact that they aren’t the only ones with flaws. By showing the reality of our world, we’re aiming to make our resilient women realise that they’re born to fly, not crawl. Men on the other hand, will be reminded of all the cracks they’ve made in society and also of the unfair expectations they have of women. We want men to be a little uncomfortable, so they understand this is the new age; every woman has a voice and they are going to fail in shunning us.

More importantly, what has been your biggest takeaway from your experience working on “Churails?”

I think my most favourite experience has been unlearning my preconceived notions about acting.

Photography: Rizwan ul Haq  | Styling: Ella Hussain at Emergency Room 19

Wardrobe: Yellow dress dress courtesy Asim Jofa  | Hair & Makeup: Arshad Khan

Jewellery: Rouge by Rooj Amir and Jewels by Irma Hasan

Fiery singer Meesha Shafi talks to Haider Rifaat about her road to self-discovery, a grand album in the making and nepotism in Pakistan’s entertainment industry

Why did you decide to pursue a full-blown career in music as opposed to acting and modelling?

Music just came to me naturally at a very young age. I’ve been singing since I was four and kind of went with the flow, once opportunities started coming my way. I’d already been acting and modelling for some years when my music career began. Acting, singing and modelling have continued to overlap over the course of my trajectory, however my biggest passion is music. When I sing, my soul sings too.

Has COVID-19 affected Pakistan’s music industry for the better or the worse?

I know for a fact that many musicians are struggling with depression and financial stress because these challenges have put a halt to live gigs and concerts. These gigs are a major source of income for many musicians. Celebrities can still do television commercials and drama shoots, while following the standard operating procedures, but musicians are really having a hard time this year. The studio work is still ongoing, which is an indication of new songs and albums being written and recorded, both remotely and in isolation.

The culture of online music festivals has grown during a global crisis. How would’ve things been different without social media’s power to entertain mass crowds? 

We’re fortunate to be living in a digital age during a global pandemic. It would’ve been even harder otherwise. Social media and the internet at large have helped keep everyone connected with their fans and loved ones. It’s been a blessing!

Tell our readers about the Global Toronto (GT20) music festival that you recently participated in?

It’s called Global Toronto. Initially, it was going to be live but given the circumstances, it shifted online. A very hefty jury selected 20 artists based on submissions from a pool of 150 entries. Those 20 artists played their music to delegates from around the world. These delegates included directors of various international music festivals, agents, promoters, presenters and talent hunters. As the only Pakistani selected, I was very excited to represent our musical heritage with the global music industry. I’d love to see more of our culture and music being played live globally, at international festivals and on radios across the airwaves.

How do you see the current lockdown affecting artists’ creativity and craft, specifically in music? Any experiences you would like to share?

The lockdown has been a great time for ideas and creativity. Many creative people thrive during these times, because the noise and speed of the everyday grind slows down. This is a fertile time to go inwards and ask ourselves what we want to create. Put pen to paper and go back to the old drawing board, as they say. Artists are extra sensitive and when we feel a rush of emotions, we naturally express what we feel through our craft. In such a way, this lockdown will lead to more honest work, made from a deeper, more personal perspective.

Do you feel that artists in the music business today have trouble finding their own voice?

I don’t. The newer batch of artists looks extremely promising and exciting. I’ve been following and even collaborating with many younger indie artists. Reminds me of my days when I started with Overload. That creative spirit, where music was made for the sake of music, is very much still alive.

What new music can we expect from you? Any album in the making?

Yes, I’m working on a big project that involves all original work. It’s a very personal body of work with me, being my most honest and vulnerable self. It’s a multidisciplinary project; an album but more like a thesis. I’m collaborating with several artists, writers, thinkers and creative individuals and am really enjoying the process. My vision’s at a stage where it’s turning into a reality. This project has been a long-time dream of mine and I think the lockdown has really helped show me that the time for it is now.

Which music composer do you wish to collaborate with in the future?

I’ve been truly blessed to’ve worked with the best of the best in Pakistan and abroad. The only name on my wish list is A.R. Rahman.

What’s your connection with Sufism like? Is it self-healing?

I’m a deeply spiritual person. My connection with the divine has become stronger over time. It’s very essential for healing and has been my saving grace through difficult times. Staying balanced, centered and connected is our number one job. That’s how we become the best version of ourselves.

How have you evolved as a person over the years?

That is a vast question; I don’t think I can answer that so briefly. I’ve become a lot wiser and calmer as I grew from a young woman, to a mother, and now at this stage, I feel like I’m returning to my most authentic self. That was the place I wrote “Mein” from. It talks about returning to your true self. Coming full circle and shedding the opinions of others. Not leading a life so egotistically, but from our higher selves, which is an extension of our source energy.

How has motherhood changed you?

It’s changed me a lot. It’s taught me a lot about unconditional love, being a role model and how important it is to prioritise self-care. Children watch and learn. They imitate you. So it’s crucial to show them how they can stand up for themselves, respect and honor their feelings and lead their lives with dignity and kindness.

I wanted your take on nepotism. I believe it shouldn’t be brushed off as common practice in all major career fields. For an entertainment industry like Pakistan, nepotism remains widespread, leaving fresh faces, with considerable talent, on the side. What do you make of this?

I’ve seen many self-made artists follow their own path to success, so I wouldn’t say that only people with family connections make it in the industry.

Let’s talk fashion. Are you someone who follows the latest trends or sticks to her own personal style?

I’ve always followed my own instincts when it comes to fashion. I don’t follow trends. I guess that is the difference between style and fashion. I don’t consider myself fashionable, but I do have a signature way of styling myself.

 

 

 

 

Shahzad Malik, the author of Pakistan’s first English language self-help book, ‘Dare To Be You’, sits down with GT to talk about mental health, the importance of self-actualisation and his journey to becoming a self-help author

Please tell us a little bit about your background and what led you to writing this book.

I was born in Toronto, Canada, but I’ve been raised in Lahore, Pakistan and I’m a Pakistani through and through. I have a business background, but I’m passionate about music and noticing the subtleties of the world around me.

I’ve been lucky to grow up with privilege, but even despite that I found myself stuck in a loop of making sub-optimal decisions. Eventually, it came to a point during my teenage years where I was introduced to self-help books and biographies of people who had ‘made it’ like Warren Buffet, Steve Jobs, and Jack Welsh. I was instantly roped in and I started seeing a common pattern of behaviour between all of them. Similarly, with the self-help books I was reading (and have been reading since), I found that each author focused on one particular aspect of self-development. There was no book that really constituted a bit of everything—a starter kit for someone who wanted to pick up a self-help book and really understand the basics of working on themselves. Looking back, I think it was the combination of the two that led to the concept behind ‘Dare to be You’. I wanted people to have a basic platform from where they can begin their journey towards self-actualisation.

Do you think Pakistan is ready to embrace the self-help genre?

Of course! There’s no question about it. We, as individuals, are programmed to focus on the negatives. We focus more on our bad experiences, ruminating about them and overthinking about what the future holds. Of course, the news doesn’t help much with it. But, we also see so many Pakistanis who go out of their way to help other people—complete strangers even. After all, it’s the people that allow us to collectively become one of the most hospitable nations in the world. Self-help involves the same principles as helping someone else; it’s just focused inward. Through the process of self-development, we’re actually able to not just achieve more ourselves, but also to lift up the people around us.

Mental health awareness is an increasingly highlighted subject. How do you think ‘Dare to be You’ will help its readers?

While I was writing my book, I was very conscious of the fact that a self-development book should never talk down to its reader. Thus, the book is written more as a conversation with a friend. It builds upon the already familiar sense of hospitality that comes so innately to all of us. Another aspect about the book is that anyone can pick it up and make sense of it. While it addresses heavy topics, the book itself is not heavy at all. Regardless of where you are in life, ‘Dare to be You’ is just the little push you need. It’s a great way to take your first step towards self-development.

How do you hope to reduce the stigma around mental health and seeking therapy in Pakistan?

I honestly don’t understand why the stigma exists in the first place. Mental health is just as important as physical health; they both go together, hand-in-hand. My hope would be that through reading the book and pondering over what the book talks about, more people will become aware that it’s completely human and natural for everyone to have ups and downs in their life. And that we all have the potential to fight through those downs to rise back up again.

If we were to summarise 3 key learnings from the book for our readers, what would they be?

It’s very hard to point out just three key learnings from the book, because it touches upon a number of topics. But if I had to, I would probably say: believing, being grateful and being more forgiving, especially towards our own selves.

‘Dare to Be’ you prides itself to be the first English self-development book in the country. How is your debut endeavour different from Qasim Ali Shah’s urdu writings on the subject in the same genre?

Qasim Ali Shah’s writings have inspired and helped a number of people, as do his talks and trainings. I think it would be unfair to compare his works with this book and vice versa. I think the hope is that all such works end up serving the reader and helping in one way or the other.

What do you hope to achieve from writing this book?

My only hope is that it helps the readers—that anyone who picks up the book finds themselves having taken the first step on their journey of self-development, and that they are able to actualise their passions and their dreams.

How difficult is it in Pakistan for a writer with little to no means and relevant network to publish a book?

There are a number of publishing houses that are now operational in Pakistan, which is a very heartening thing to see. This wasn’t the case even a couple of years ago when the book was in its early stages. Now, the internet has made it a lot easier for all of us to express ourselves and put our thoughts and ideas out there, including through publishing a book.

What is next for Shahzad Malik?

I’ve been involved with motivational speaking and talks, with a recent one that took place in Washington, about how to work in Pakistan and be an agent of change, so I enjoy doing this. People have been asking me about writing another book, but for right now I want to focus on ‘Dare to be You’ and work on its Urdu version.

Any parting advice for our readers?

Never ever stop believing in yourself. You are, without any shred of doubt, capable of much more than you let yourself believe. Never give up!

Zahara by Zuria Dor is an amalgamation of tradiational craftsmanship and impeccable quality. The Zahara collection reflects creativity that reinvents the traditional aesthetic, revising the beauty and sophistication of delicately hand-embellished couture

Outfits: Zuria Dor

Model: Maha Ishaq Tahirani

Photographer: Aleena Naqvi

Make up / hair: Hadi

Jewellery: Jaipur & Co.

 

Earlier this year, GT’s very own Nimrah Khokhar tied the knot with Khurram Shafiq in a beautiful day-time ceremony. We wish the happy couple all the best for their journey together.

 

 

 

Rehmat Ajmal first captivated us through the way she brought a unique artist’s sensibility to fashion modelling; she’s now bowled us over with her brand Rehstore. Mehek Raza Rizvi speaks to Rehmat about fashion, art, business and more

With a thriving modelling career, what propelled you to start your own clothing line?

In 2018 I graduated from the National College of Arts in Textile Design. Given my busy schedule of shoots and other freelance projects, I couldn’t have worked alongside any existing designer from 9-5, so I decided to start something of my own in order to make the most of my free time. Initially, it started as a side business, but with constant support of all my customers and friends, it’s safe to say Rehstore has taken over to become the main business for me. I do feel both Rehmat Ajmal and Rehstore help each other in many ways. What I do as a model is very closely related to fashion, so I think they pair together very well as different branches of the same tree.

Most people might not be aware of your educational background as an artist. Please tell our readers about it.

I did my O & A Level from Lahore Grammar School (LGS). My main subjects were Art & Business Studies. After graduating from LGS, I did my Bachelors in Textile Design from National College of Arts and graduated with a distinction in 2018. I started Rehstore in 2019.

How would you describe the vision behind Rehstore?

Rehstore began in the midst of an existential crisis. The word Rehstore is a play on “Restore” and “Rehmat’s store”. I had graduated recently and I was feeling uncertain about many things in life personally and professionally. Opening Rehstore gave me a sense of direction and empowered me in many ways. Although it combines both art and business, it will always be more than a business for me; it represents restoration of self and my own identity. The vision Rehstore carries is more than what it sells on its virtual shelves—it shines more on the ability to take a risk as an entrepreneur and to put yourself out there powering through self-doubt and fear.

A recent post on Rehstore’s Instagram, introduced “Rehstories,” an initiative to celebrate fellow artists. Despite the competitiveness in your industry, how important is this support?

Give two different artists the same brush and the same canvas and ask them to paint an apple, you’d be surprised to see how different both apples would be. Rehstories is an initiative to showcase works of young artists via Rehstore’s platform so they are able to reach out to more customers. It is honestly a small effort from our side in the middle of a global pandemic to help small businesses. I believe that a true artist is never afraid to share his or her paints. I am happy to make a difference in someone’s life even if it’s in a very small capacity.

On the topic of competition, the craft you focus on (surface design) is gaining popularity with other clothing brands as well. Does that put pressure on you?

To be very honest I feel more happiness than pressure! To have more makers to meet the growing demand of a very prestigious craft we need more suppliers in the business who all have different styles to offer. I strongly believe in healthy competition. It pushes you to create better and that in result adds value to your business and its growth. I’ve had constructive conversations with people in different countries who practice the same craft and learnt so many things from them. I wish for the same sense of community to formulate in Pakistan by sharing and being more secure in our own skill.

Tell us about your recent collaboration with Samsara Couture House.

It got planned pretty quickly and was concluded online. It was a great experience to join hands with a team that took my designs and processed them into beautiful stitched products.

How do you think such collaborations help individual brands grow?

It’s quite enterprising you know? At first, I was struggling with the business side of things, but now I’m finding more ways to create like an artist, yet sell like a businesswoman. With collaborations like these one learns so much about the whole business cycle. All that can come in handy for when you want to expand.

We’ve witnessed an influx of homerun businesses blossom in quarantine. Has the slowing down of everyday life impacted your creative process?

It’s actually given me more time to spend with my business. I’ve really organised the structure of things in this time as a coping mechanism, so in my case it’s safe to say that it’s impacted me rather positively.

What about you as a person? Is there a silver lining during these strange times?

You know I may seem like a social butterfly on social media, but in real life I’m very introverted. I enjoy my company at home and even before this pandemic hit us, I preferred staying at home as much as I could. Personally, I’ve really found it calming, but professionally it’s impacted me like everyone else around the globe. I think now people, including myself, are finding newer and more creative ways to cope with work.

We’re aware of your love for dance, but haven’t seen any performance recently. Can we expect something in the future?

I used to dance a lot as a teenager and in my early 20s. I was an active member and later the president of my school and college’s dance societies. I recently played a role in a musical that was showcased in Alhamra as well. But now I’m really out of practice and wouldn’t call myself a professional performer. I’m not partaking in any projects as of now, but let’s see when I’ll find it in me to dance again. For now my feet are resting!

What are your hopes and aspirations for your business a decade from now?

I believe Rehstore will always be a small business in size, but big in what it has to offer. In the future I see collaborating with like-minded creative individuals and bring newer things to the table. I do know that throughout the journey my biggest competition will always be me and I hope that with the support of platforms such as GT and so many others who have helped me in this journey, I’ll be able to conclude a better and a more evolved store in its nature and the products it has to offer.

SHORT & SWEET

Modelling or running your own business?

Running my own business

Describe your personal style in three words.

Minimalist, effortless and comfortable

What keeps you motivated?

I imagine what I want my future to look like and then I set out to create it

Tell us of an instant mood-lifter.

To be honest, I Facetime my little niece to feel better instantly, so I guess to speak to your loved ones and keep them close to you can be a quick fix

A song that describes your personality the best?

“Reflecting light” by Sam Phillips

Do you have a nickname?

Rehmu & my mother calls me Lemon (not sure why)

What irks you most about social media?

Misuse of it! Making an active choice to use it to spread hate and negativity

Alternate career choice?

I think a motivational speaker

A weakness you’re working on?

I’m working on problem management, like being able to manage a problem or a given situation more calmly and productively and holding back from reacting emotionally, especially while making business decisions

A strength that gets you through hard times?

Processing and reflecting

Atikah Gardezi brings to life one of South Asia’s most famous painters, Amrita Sher-Gil. A Hungarian-Indian artist, she revolutionised modern art in the Subcontinent and was known for her avant-garde work.  Captured by Rehan Khan, this shoot exudes Old World charm

Photography: Rehan Khan

Concept & Styling: Maha Rehan

Hair & Makeup: Azeee

Muse: Atikah Gardezi

Wardrobe: Generation

Accessories: Jewelicious

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