A Rajasthani/Sindhi folktale replete with beautiful princesses, enchanted castle, a brave and ingenious hero, passionate romance, ordeals of separation and edifying tragedy
By Mahlia Lone
Background
The famed Rajasthani folktale is set in Lodhrawa in Jaisalmer district Rajasthan, India, around the mid-14th century. Lodhrawa stood on an ancient trade route through the Thar Desert, which was vulnerable to frequent attacks.
In the Sindhi story, Momal Ji Maari (Momal’s mansion), the heroine’s house was located in Ghotki district, near Sukkur. The story occurred in the times of Hamir Soomro, the King of Amarkot (now Umerkot district in south-east Sindh). The city was named after its Hindu founder Maharaja Amar Singh, belonging to the Sodha clan of Hindu Rajputs, who built the Amarkot Fort to wade off Muslim invadors. During the Mughal Empire, Emperor Akbar was born in Amarkot 1542, his father Humayun having fled from his capital in Delhi after his military defeat at the hands of Sher Shah Suri and the Rajput ruler Rana Prasad giving him refuge.
The story in classical Sindhi literature
The first time the story was written down was by 17th-century classical Sindhi Sufi poet from Nasarpur, Shah Inat Rizvi (circa 1613– 1701). Combining the folklore lyrical poetry of travelling minstrels (singers) with the cultivated spiritual thinking of the Sufi saints, Inat brought in a new style of Sindhi poetry. He combined popular songs commemorating the valour of heroes in wars and wise rule of kings during peace that included elements of fantasy, magic, legend and quasi historical romance with the Sufis’ spiritual ideas. Fond of music since childhood, Inat would raptly listen to professional musicians and itinerant minstrels in village gatherings. Belonging by birth to an orthodox Syed family, he was educated in Muslim spiritual poetry.
The story in 20th century Sindhi literature
Shaikh Ayaz (1923 — 1997) translated Abdul Latif’s magnum opus Shah Jo Risalo to Urdu, establishing him as an authority on the subject. He received the Sitara-i-Imtiaz for his efforts and was regarded as a “revolutionary and romantic poet†in his own right.
Tajal Bewas (1938 — 2008) born near Khairpur, was a classical Sindhi poet who authored 44 books, including the story of Momal Rano.
Inat, hence, forged a new genre of Sindhi literature with his groundbreaking work as a “saint-poet of the people singing about their heroes in war and peace and their traditional tales and romances as well as about the traders, weavers, and monsoon rains on which the prosperity of the people depended. He also dealt with the spiritual themes of love and hope, and composed verses in praise of the saints and selfless devotees in the search of God,†commented an expert of classical Sindhi literature. In addition, Inat experimented with idioms and imagery to make his poems more descriptive, further enrichening Sindhi literature.
Inat’s contribution to classical Sindhi poetry was built on by Shah Abdul Latif (c. 1689 – 1752), a young man in his twenties when the older poet died. According to oral tradition, Abdul Latif met the elderly Inat and they would recite their parallel verses on common themes. Regardless of the veracity of this occurrence, Inat’s form, technique and subject matter greatly influenced Abdul. The latter used some of the same idioms and expressions more skillfully and with greater insight, to produce his Shah Jo Risalo, the poetry book on the Seven Heroines of Sindh, one of which was the story of Momal Rano.
The Sindhi version of the folktale
Beautiful Princess Momal of Ghotki lived in a luxurious and magical palace named Kak Mahal or Mirpur Mathelo, near Lodhrawa, north-east of Amarkot (now known as Umerkot). Momal oiled, perfumed and draped in exquisite silken ensembles was a beauty beyond compare. She lived with her seven equally indulged sisters and attendants in the seclusion of her grand mahal. Two of her most famous sisters were named Somal, known for her intelligence, and Natir, infamous as a schemer.
Over the vast grounds of the palace, a magnetic field was spread that gave the appearance of a gushing river. Just as in the fairytale of Sleeping Beauty, a thickly wooded forest had sprung up around the castle protecting it. The jungle housed many wild animals, including ferocious man-eating lions and tigers.
Similarities with tales in World mythology
Apart from the more obvious comparisons with the classical fairytale Sleeping Beauty, the story of Momal Rano shares similarities with the Greek mythological enchantresses the Sirens who lived on the island of Anthemoessa and lured sailors with their enchanting songs and made them crash their ships on their island’s rocky shore. Very few heroes were sharp enought to outwit these deadly mermaids. The mythological hero Ulysses stuffed wax in his sailors’ ears so they couldn’t hear the sirens’ singing and had himself tied to the ship’s mast. This story has parallels with Homer’s epic poem The Odyssey when Odysseus does the same. Similarly, in the mythological story of Jason and the Argonauts Orpheus, the legendary musician, plays his lyre, his lilting music drowning out the siren call.
The condition on becoming Princess Momal’s consort was set on a man being brave enough to enter the magical magnetic field and cross the jungle to enter the mahal and being clever enough to solve the puzzles devised by her wily sisters. Many princes hearing about the unmatchable princess tried but failed; they were robbed by the sisters and attendants and lost their way forever in an unsolvable maze of laybrinths and mirages much like in a House of Mirrors attraction at an amusement park. The princes were never heard from or found again. The more unattainable the princess and the more impregnable the castle, the more legendary and enticing became the prize.
Now men by nature love a challenge, want what they cannot have and are egotistical by nature, and kings are great men
The ruler of Amarkot, Hamir Soomro and his three ministers Seenharro Dhamachanni, Daunro Bhatyanni and the youngest Rano Mahendro, all Rajput Sodhas by caste, used to go horseback hunting in far flung areas of the kingdom. Adventurous and intrepid by nature, they would even cross the boundaries of the small state to neighbouring areas. One day, on a hunting trip, the four men encountered a bedraggled looking man to whom they did not disclose their identity. Grateful for their help and for sharing their food and water, the young man told them what had befallen him. He was a Kashmiri prince who, having heard the legend of Momal’s beauty and charm, got so inspired that he travelled all that distance to try his luck. Having finally fought through to the enchanted castle, the prince was so overcome by Momal’s beauty that her seven sisters and attendants successfully played all types of tricks on him, confused him with multiple puzzles and stripped him of his wealth. Finally, he ran for his life.
Now men by nature love a challenge, want what they cannot have and are egotistical by nature, and kings are great men. Hamir badly wanted to succeed where so many men before him had failed. Having extracted the whereabouts of Kak Mahal, he decided to conquer the castle and win the princess’s hand but failed to do so. Then, in turn, his ministers tried as well, and also failed.
The youngest, Rano was an extremely intelligent, courageous and persistent young man; when it was his turn at last to try his luck, he succeeded in cracking the code of the illusion and reaching the palace. Impressed with hi, Momal accepted him as her consort and that night they consummated their marriage. The next morning, Rano left Kak Mahal and returned to Amarkot to continue his day job of working for Hamir Soomro.
Rano kept visiting Momal every night and their feelings for each other kept growing. Though it was quite a distance between the two palaces, his journey was shortened as if by magic. King Hamir felt envious that his young minister had succeeded where he couldn’t—it was a matter of pride for him. So he forbade Rano from meeting Momal and had his guards keep a check on his nocturnal movements.
Being Hamir’s subject, Rano had no choice but to obey his ruler. But try as he would, his passion would not let him rest. Stealthily, he would slip out at dusk on his camel and return before dawn. He hardly got any sleep, feverishly burning the candle at both ends, gripped by his passion.
Finally, one day the guards caught Rano sneaking off and Hamir had him thrown in the dungeon. After some time, thinking he had learnt his lesson and feeling guilty imprisoning such a loyal and trusty minister, Hamir released him on the condition that he would not meet Momal again. Not being able to resist her pull, Rano snuck off to meet Momal again.
Momal too had started pining for Rano. One night when he was late, thinking he had stood her up, the princess asked her sister Somal to disguise herself in men’s clothing and lie beside her in bed. She wanted to test Rano’s love for her by making him jealous. As was expected, when Rano saw the two sleeping together, he mistook Somal for Momal’s lover. Furious, he left Kak Mahal for Amarkot, leaving behind his cane. Momal woke up, saw the cane and realized what happened. Fearing that he had left her for good under the misapprehension that she had cheated on him, she lit a candle in her window to message to him to return. At last, when there was no sign of Rano, Momal was left with no choice but to set off to Amarkot in search of him. Disguised as a man, she set up residence in Amarkot and Rano recognized his princess.
When the two parted lovers met, Momal pleaded Rano for forgiveness for playing a thoughtless trick on him. But he remained obstinate in his resolve to punish and not forgive her. Out of desperation, Momal jumped in a raging fire to prove her love to him. Rano jumped in after her and both got consumed by the fire, the flames of their mutual passion purifying their bodies and souls.
Moral of the story
The love of Momal and Rano is an allegorical metaphor for the love of the soul and divine. The separation and longing between two lovers parallels the separation of the Divine and the human soul, the longing for the two to merge and dissolve into each other much like Momal and Rano were unified in the burning fire. The human soul longs for Allah, and the beloved renders himself up, caring nothing for the material world in his/her quest to seek union with divinity in the crazed love experienced by Sufis.
The women from this part of the world have, since time immemorial, been strong, out spoken and courageous; they have defied social norms and restrictions to become heroic figures in their own right whose tales have been retold by each generation. Amongst these tragic heroines is the story of Sahiban who openly and intrepidly defied convention and her family in her love for Mirza
By Mahlia Lone
The Bigger Picture
The romance of Mirza Sahiban was first written by the Punjabi Sufi Jat poet Hafiz Barkhudar Ranjha from Tahat Hazara, Sargodha in the latter half of the seventeenth century. Becoming a student in the household of a Hakeem family, he moved to Chitti Sheikhan, Sialkot where his shrine is now located. A few decades after him, the Sindhi poet Shah Abdul Latif Bhittai included the romance in his tragic Seven Queens of Sindh. Hence, the story is shared by Punjabis and Sindhis equally.                 It’s interesting to note that none of these love stories portray the heroine passively pining or quietly accepting her fate while secretly clutching her forbidden love to her bosom as would be accepted culturally of Muslim women. The heroines play a central dynamic role within the story. Their mortal love gained the stature of worship of God as per Sufi tradition. They didn’t die meekly at the altar of love, but rebelled against the conventional norms of society, and sacrificed not only their body but also their soul for love.
The Punjabi Sufi poet Waris Shah wrote:
“Be thankful to God
For making love the root of the world
First he himself loved
Then he made the prophets
His beloved ones.â€
Waris Shah, like other Sufi poets, started his poems with an invocation to Allah. Social and moral conventions seem trivial when viewed from the larger perspective of God and creation. The heroines rebelled against society’s double standards and may have been condemned by their friends and families but in the larger context, they were revered in folklore and by Sufi fakirs alike for taking a stand for what they believed in and for holding out for their right given to them by Islam to marry of their own choice.
The Story
Mirza Khan was the son of Chaudhry Wanjhal Khan, the leader of the Kharral tribe in Dhanbad, a village of Jaranwala, near Faisalabad. They belonged to the Jat community, the land owning but non-elitist farmers that originally hailed from the lower Indus valley of Sindh during Mohammed Bin Qasim’s conquest of Sindh in the 8th century and gradually migrated to the Punjab, Haryana, Rajasthan, etc.
“As Sahiban stepped out with a lungi tied
around her waist,
The nine angels died on
seeing her beauty
And God started counting
his last breath”
—Translated from
Shayer Pillo
Sahiban was the daughter of Sardar Mahni of Khewa, a village in Sial, near Jhang. As it happened, in the village of Khewa, Mahni’s mother had died at the time of his birth. A sympathetic and kindly neighbouring woman, who had recently given birth to a girl, took it upon herself to care for the motherless baby boy and breastfed him along with her daughter. The two children thus grew up as “milk†siblings, as was the custom of the day to call this special relationship.
In time, the girl, named Fateh Bibi, got married to Sardar Wanjal Kharral and moved a day’s journey on horseback away to the village of Dhanbad. The couple had a strong, healthy boy that they named Mirza. Fateh Bibi’s milk brother, Mahni Khan, Sardar of the Sial Jats, also got married and had a lovely daughter named Sahiban.
Mirza was sent as a boy to Khewa to study at his “milk uncle†Mahni’s house who made his daughter and her “cousin†study the Quran together. At first, Mirza didn’t notice how lovely Sahiban was since he was just a regular boy not into girls. But once puberty hit, the two teenagers began to feel attracted to each other.
One day, Mirza took a different path home walking back from school through a bazaar to while away the time. Sahiban was at the vegetable seller’s stall buying squash. Mirza saw the vegetable seller absent mindedly weigh out extra squash transfixed by the teenage girl’s beauty. Mirza saw his playmate with new eyes and too was struck by her blossoming good looks.
Shayer Pillo described Sahiban’s beauty as such:
“As Sahiban stepped out with a lungi tied around her waist,
The nine angels died on seeing her beauty
And God started counting his last breath…â€
Meanwhile, Mirza too was growing up to become a strong and athletic young man, an excellent horseman and highly skilled archer who never missed his target. He rode about the countryside on a powerful steed named Bakki, hunting deer and other animals with his bow and arrow. Sahiban, growing more beautiful each day, became aware of the dashing young man’s physical prime. Love sowed its seeds, which began to sprout and blossom. The two became inseparable, lost in their own world.
Sahiban was no meek miss but had a strong personality and knew how to stand up for herself. Once, upon mispronouncing Arabic, the maulvi (religious cleric) beat her with a chimmak (thin branch used for thrashing that stings). Instead of crying, the young girl admonished the maulvi for his unduly severe chastisement.
The youngsters idyllic days of blissful love were sadly not to last. When Sahiban’s parents found out about the love affair, they promptly sent Mirza back home to his parents, confined their willful, errant daughter to her room and arranged her marriage to Tahir Khan Chadhar who belonged to the same village.
The resourceful heroine sent a taunting message to her lover through Kammu, a Brahmin fakir who was travelling to Dhanbad: “You must come and decorate Sahiban’s hand with the marriage henna. This is the time you have to protect your self-respect and love, keep your promises, and sacrifice your life for truth.â€
Her sarcastic words bit and worked their power on the hot blooded youth. Mirza’s sister pleaded with him not to leave for Khewa, as it was her marriage day and she wanted her brother to be present. His entire family beseeched him that the Sial brothers were very violent and he shouldn’t interfere where their family honour was concerned. But Mirza heeded no one. He was determined to rescue Sahiban from the forced marriage.
Before he left, his father told him that if he went, then he must be sure to return with Sahiban or else family “ki naak kat jai gee†(he would bring great dishonor to their family). It had become a do or die mission. Left with no choice in the matter, Chaudhery Wanjhal grudgingly gave his beloved son his blessings to pursue his love.
“Chal, my Bakki,†(Let’s go) Mirza clicked his trusty steed and thundered towards his lady love in Khewa. He reached her house just as the mehndi ceremony was in full swing and, knowing the lay of the land, managed to steal her away. Pulling her on his horse beside himself, the two lovers galloped off.
When they had left her village far behind, and seeing no one in hot pursuit, Mirza stopped to rest, water and feed his spent horse. Having been riding for over a day now, he too lay down under the shade of a tree to rest for a few moments with his head in Sahiban’s lap and promptly fell asleep in exhaustion with Sahiban watching over him.
Sahiban just knew that her brothers would follow them. Not wanting her hands to be dyed red with blood instead of henna, she desperately wanted to avoid a bloodbath. Knowing how skillful her lover was with his bow and arrow, she decided that she would be able to convince her brothers not to attack a defenseless Mirza. Thinking she would appeal to their love for her, she hastily broke Mirza’s arrow heads as he slept.
Back at the wedding party, Sahiban’s family couldn’t find her anywhere on the wedding day. Realizing she must have eloped with Mirza, her furious brothers and male cousins, accompanied by her jilted bridegroom, rode off on horseback brandishing swords in their hands. When they finally reached the lovers resting under the tree, they disregarded Sahiban who hadn’t given a jot for their izzat (honour).
Mirza awoke to an arrow whizzing past his throat shot by one of her brothers; he reached for his bow, but then spied all the broken arrows strewn about. Looking up at her in perplexity for an answer to what had transpired, he narrowly ducked as an arrow grazed his chest.
Sahiban threw herself on top of him, protectively covering his body with hers. Pushing her aside, her brothers reached them and ganged up on Mirza.
Though he valiantly tried his best to defend himself and Sahiban, Mirza was easily outnumbered. A blow from a sword on the back of his head ended his fragile life. Seeing her lover drop down dead, Sahiban in anguish picked up the same sword and pierced her body, ending her own life.
One of the four timeless tragic Punjabi romances is the story of Sohni Mahiwal set in Gujarat in the 18th century (late Mughal period). The love affair to melt the hearts of countless generations grew between Sohni, potter Tulla’s beautiful and artistic daughter belonging to the Kumhar caste (generational potters) and her Uzbek migrant trader turned buffalo herder, Izzat Baig, nicknamed Mahiwal. Strategically positioned on the River Chenab, Gujarat a the time was an important caravanserai on the trade route between Central Asia and India.
A Sindhi version of the story Sohni Mehar is attributed to the Sindhi Sufi poet Shah Abdul Latif Bhittai and was immortalized in his poetic compendium or collection called Shah Jo Risalo, written in pure Sindhi replete with Sufi symbolism. It’s one of the seven Sindhi tragic romances known as Seven Heroines. In this version, Sohni belonged to the Jat tribe living on the western bank of the Indus River, while Dam, Sohni’s husband lived in Samtia on the river’s eastern bank. During the marriage procession over the river, Mehar gave Sohni a drink of milk and the two fell in the love at first sight.
Let’s return to the Punjabi story popularized in films. Tulla created the most beautiful and sturdy of earthenware pottery painted with lovely designs. As his lovely daughter grew up, she took to painting the pots while her father crafted and baked them. One day, a merchant caravan coming from Bukhara and heading to Delhi stopped en route in Gujarat. A young and rich trader came to inspect Tulla’s famous pottery. There he spotted Sohni with her head bent over a small pot for sweets, using a fine hair brush to paint the patterns meticulously with tiny strokes. Izzat Baig fell in love with her at first sight and desired to buy the pot she was cradling.
Tulla replied that that pot needed to be baked to make it resilient before it could be purchased. The young man returned the next day for it and kept returning every day after that. He was so smitten that when the caravan set off for Delhi, he decided to stay behind. Soon his money ran out, and Tulla hired him as a water buffalo herder. Izzat Baig began to be known as Mahiwal, the buffalo herder.
Deluged with positive attention from the lovesick youth, Sohni too had fallen in love. Whenever he was late, she got depressed but as soon as she would see him coming up the road, she felt elated. Pining in each other’s even momentary absence, the two lovers began to meet in secret.
As we know, at the time it was strictly forbidden for girls to marry out of their caste. When rumours about Sohni Mahiwal spread in the village, her family hastily arranged her wedding to a well to do pottery merchant who travelled long distances to sell the Gujarati potters’ wares.
On the day of the barat (wedding night), Sohni was piled into a doli (palanquin) and carried off forcibly to her husband’s neighbouring house.
Grief-stricken, Mahiwal wanted to be as close to his lady love as possible and started living in a small mud hut across the river from Sohni’s house. Now that she was married, he still didn’t want to leave for his land and his previous life, believing that the earth under Sohni’s feet was his dargah (shrine). He renounced all worldly life and started to live the ascetic life of a fakir (hermit) just as Sufi fakirs do in their love for Allah.
At night, Sohni would sit by a window and look at her lover sitting outside his hut across the river. When her husband left for a long trip to sell pottery, one night she stole out of a house and decided to cross the river. Because she didn’t know how to swim, she turned one of her father’s sturdy garrha (water vessel) upside down to aid her to stay afloat as she crossed the river. Without the pot to keep her afloat as she kicked her feet, she would have gotten swept away by the gushing river. Seeing her risk her life just to meet him, Mahiwal swam and brought her to his side of the river.
Tomb Of Sohni In Shahdadpur, Sindh
Now swimming makes you hungry. Mahiwal caught a fish and roasted it on an open fire to feed his famished girl. Feeding the soul and the body, their bliss was complete.
Sohni Mahiwal continued to meet like this for many nights. Their love madness was growing exponentially. One night Mahiwal hadn’t been able to catch a fish. In a gruesome act of self-mutilation, he carved out a piece of his thigh, roasted it and fed it to his Sohni. When she consumed his flesh, she could taste that she wasn’t eating fish and spying Mahiwal’s black blood soaked dhoti (he had a wrapped a black one so she wouldn’t see the blood) was struck by how crazy in love with her he was.
That night Sohni’s sister in law who lived in the same house discovered her nocturnal secret. Shocked, she went and told Sohni’s mother and mother in law. Sohni’s mother felt ashamed at her daughter’s scandalous behavior. For a Muslim girl to run out of her husband’s house every night to meet her lover at his house was unthinkable. But the girl had become too headstrong and rebellious to heed her mother’s warning.
Sohni’s sister in law decided to take matters in her own hands. She felt she owed it to her brother to save his honour. She devised a plot to make it impossible for Sohni to cross the river and replaced her garrha with one that hadn’t been baked as yet, figuring that it would crumble as soon as it touched the water. Sohni would not dare to cross the river without the aid of a float.
Unaware of the fate that lay before her, the next night, Sohni took the unbaked garrha and began to wade across the swift river. When she was a quarter of the way across, the garrha began to disintegrate in the water. She called out to Mahiwal for help. Mahiwal jumped in and swam towards her, but his leg started bleeding. At the halfway point in the river, he reached Sohni whose head was bobbling up and down as she thrashed in the water, her arms and legs flailing desperately. Weakened by the loss of blood, his body wasn’t strong enough to swim with her against the current. While holding on to each other, they both drowned in the Chenab River.
Mere mortals could not tear apart the lovers joined by God who reunited them in death, forever to lie in each other’s arms.
Legend has it that 75 km. from Hyderabad, Sohni Mahiwal’s graves lie in a tomb located at Shahpur Chakar Road, Shahdadpur. The shrine is visited by lovers who pray for their loves to be restored to them.
For a Muslim girl to run out of her husband’s house every night to meet her lover at his house was unthinkable
You cannot separate the story of Heer Ranjha from that of the author who immortalized their love in Punjabi verse, Waris Shah. The Sayyidzada was an eighteenth century Sufi poet belonging to the Chishti order who settled in Pakpattan where he is buried. Perhaps in part inspired by his youthful unrequited love for a girl, Bhag Bhari, in 1766 he wrote the intricately detailed and lengthy poem replete with realistic and charming depictions of Punjabi village life set within the greater political situation of the day. In addition, the language he used is considered a veritable “treasure-trove of Punjabi phrases, idioms and sayings†passed down to coming generations. Last but not least, Waris Shah elevated the story of romantic love into “a poetic expression of the mystical love and unrelenting quest of the human towards God,†in the Sufi tradition. Like in all fine art and literature, his masterpiece in verse works seamlessly on several different level.
Historical Background
It is widely believed that the real life lovers of Heer Ranjha lived towards the end of the Lodhi dynasty (an Afghan dynasty that ruled the Delhi Sultanate from 1451 to 1526) before Shehnshah Babur supported by Rana Sanga, the Raja of Mewar, and head of the Hindu Rajput Confederacy in Rajputana, defeated Ibrahim Lodi’s 1,000 elephant and 100,000 thousand strong men massive army at the Battle of Panipat, using muskets and artillery never before seen in the Indian Subcontinent.
The story
Born into a wealthy Kharal Jatt family belonging to the Sial tribe in Sial Sharif, Jhang, Heer (named diamond for her astonishingly good looks) grew up to be a beautiful girl. Dheedo, a Jatt of the Ranjha tribe, hailed from the village of Takht Hazara (old name Khajjiyan Wala) by the Chenab River. The youngest of four brothers, he was spoilt and cossetted being his father’s pet. Though his older brothers were kept hard at work toiling on their ancestral agricultural lands, Dheedo led a life of ease. He whiled away his time playing his bansuri (flute).
Trouble began when Dheedo’s father died, leaving his sons to divide up his land at will between them. His brothers resented Dheedo’s idle ways and thought him a fool, so they gave him barren land and their wives refused to give him food. Ranjha tried but failed to work his land, fought with his family and left his village to find his luck elsewhere.
One night, Ranjha took shelter in a masjid (mosque), and started playing his or flute to help him sleep. Soon the villagers gathered round him listening to the melodious music. The maulvi (cleric) admonished him to stop playing his flute, saying he was desecrating the mosque with the haram (not sanctioned by Islam) music. Ranjha, as he began to be known as, replied boldly that his music was not a sin compared to the hypocrisy of the so-called holy men: “You and your kind, with your beards, try to pretend to be saints, but your actions are that of the devil. You run around after women in mosques… you are like curses clinging to the house of God.†The mullah was seething but the villagers refused to back him up, as from in their hearts they agreed with Ranjha. Dumbfounded, the maulvi let him stay the night if he left the next day.
In the morning, Ranjha wandered in the direction of Jhang. Spying a large, verdant field with lush crops and cows grazing, he decided to ask the landlord for work. The owner was Chaudhry Chuchak, chief of the Sayyal clan, who hired Ranjha and housed him in the stables as a hired hand. Heer, the Chaudhry’s fair daughter, had a full moon-shaped face considered pretty at the time, shiny eyes that sparkled like precious gems, jasmine white teeth, ruby red lips and a nose as straight and sharp as Imam Hussain’s sword point. She was delicately built, yet strong and fit.
From Love to Love is a postmodern, subjective short film , available for viewing on YouTube, about a girl who discovers the tale of Heer Ranjha and starts to question what love is as portrayed in contemporary media.
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“As a film director and a woman what pulled me towards the tale was the character of Heer, a girl living in the 16th century challenging traditions of a patriarchal society. Through her love for Ranjha, she stands against capitalism and class system prevalent in Punjab at the time. Even now, Heer is an archetype of a strong, resilient woman who stand against the status quo and epitomizes purity of love, often translated as Sufism. Heer’s tomb in Jhang, is still a symbol of love, devotion and spirituality,†said Sayeda Alina Ali, documentary filmmaker based in Lahore and an MA Graduate in Cultural & Creative Industries from King’s College London. She is an Assistant Professor at the NCA.
Heer checked out Ranjha. He had long hair, not an ounce of fat on him and was musical to boot. She was smitten. Both were at the age when one is ripe for falling in love. Always in proximity with each other and easily meeting up attended or in seclusion, “their love flourished, as did the crops.â€
Years went by swiftly, with the two lovers enraptured with each other and no one discovered their feelings for each other, till one fateful day Kaido, Heer’s uncle, spotted them together canoodling. Incensed, that family respect and pride was at stake, he tattled to her parents who confronted their errant daughter. Though seemingly respectful towards them, she was a resolute and strong willed girl; she was determined that she was in love with Ranjha, their hired hand, and only he was the only man for her.
Not knowing what to do, Heer’s parents called the qazi who judged village issues according to Sharia law. He reminded her that as a righteous Muslim girl it behooved her to respect her parents’ wishes and their honor.
Still Heer was adamant, saying that just as drugs and alcohol cannot be taken away from addicts, Ranjha could not be pried apart from her. Only Allah had that power. Holding up her hand, scarred with an iron burn, she said, “True love is like a mark that a hot iron burns onto the skin or like a spot on a mango. They never go away.â€
“Ranjha, Ranjha kardi ve main aape ranjha hoyi
Ranjha, Ranjha saddo ni mainu heer na aakho koy†—A. R. Rahman
(Repeating Ranjha, Ranjha all time I myself have become Ranjha.
No one should call me Heer, call me Dheedho Ranjha.â€)
Heer’s parents arranged her marriage to Saida Khairra without consulting their headstrong daughter. At the nikkah ceremony when Heer was asked by the qazi if she accepted this proposal, she defiantly replied in the negative. Frightened by the family dishonor she would bring them, her father went ahead and signed the nikaah papers anyway without his daughter’s consent. Heer declared that she was already married to Ranjha, with the nikaah witnessed by Allah and His prophets. But she was forcibly carried off by her relatives to Saida’s house in another village.
Hearing of this, instead of taking action, Ranjha started wandering aimlessly, distraught because he could not bear to think of Heer in another man’s arms. Reaching a wooded area forested with olive, pine, and Acacia trees, he met the famous Shaiva Jogi (ascetic) Gorakhnath, the founder of the Kanphata (pierced ear) sect of jogis at Tilla Jogian. The was the site of the 1st century BCE Hindu temple, monastic complex and sacred pond created, according to Hindu mythology, from the teardrops of the Hindu god Shiva and was located in the Salt Range near Bhera, Sargodha, in proximity to the Rohtas Fort, and the Katas Raj Temples.
Giving up worldly life, Ranjha too became a jogi and covered his body with ash, had several ear piercings and holding a begging bowl, went from village to village reciting “Allah hoo†and begging for food and alms. One day, he knocked unknowingly on the door of Saida’s house. Sehti, Heer’s sister-in-law, answered the door and saw the handsome, young jogi. Sehti had heard Heer’s entire story and believed that her brother had sinned by marrying an unwilling girl. Performing or participating a nikkah without the ready consent of either party she believed was haram (not sanctioned by Islam). So Sehti took it upon herself to right her brother’s wrong and help Heer escape with Ranjha.
Despite her best intentions, unfortunately, the two lovers were caught escaping by the Raja’s men who took them to their lord. The Raja appointed a qazi to deal with the trangressing lovers and the qazi decided to send Heer back to her husband.
Ranjha cursed the villagers in his fury, warning that Allah would not stand for injustice. Lo and behold the town caught fire. The townspeople and the Raja got scared of the wrath of Allah and allowed Heer Ranjha to get married and leave town together.
Heer’s parents acquiesced to the Raja’s order. But humiliated at their loss of face, Kaidu and his co-conspirators plotted to kill Heer. Ranjha returned to Takht Hazara to fetch his family for his barat (bridegroom’s wedding procession). The Sayals returned to Jhang with Heer to prepare for the wedding.
On the night of Heer Ranjhas marriage, the Sayal clan presented a basket of poisoned laddus (lentil sweetballs) to the newlyweds. Happy that her family had finally relented and had blessed her union with her beloved, just as Heer bit into a laddu, she fell down dead. Realizing what had happened; Ranjha took the half-eaten poisoned laddu from her limp hand and stuffed it into his mouth, dying next to his beloved Heer. The star crossed lovers were buried in Heer’s hometown, Jhang. Their tomb continues to be visited by sad souls seeking to marry their beloved.
The deeper meaning that Waris Shah conveyed in Ranjha’s search for Heer as a jogi was man’s quest to find and understand God. Just when he thought he had finally attained her upon the eve of their marriage, she escapes his hands through death. It signifies that the moment you think you understand Allah, your faith will be tested. It’s an unending journey to a higher self and greater undersanding.
The version with the happy ending popular in India
“According to Professor Indu Banga of the Department of History, Punjab University, in Chandigarh, India†wrote S. Conceicao “the earliest ‘kissa’ (story) in Punjabi was that of Heer-Ranjha, written by Damodar Gulati in 1605 during Akbar’s reign. His work was rewritten by Ahmad Gujjar in the 1680s and then by Shahjahan Muqbil in the second quarter of the 18th century and again by Waris Shah who built upon Muqbil’s work and the status of a classic was accorded to his 1766 composition.â€
The following story has been concised by S. Conceicao and is based on folklore, transcribed from an oral rendition of the Jatts from the Patiala State, collected by R.C. Temple and published in the second volume of Legends of the Punjab in the 1880s:
Before she met Ranjha, the strong personality of Heer was illustrated by an incident. Ludan is an old ferryman employed by a landlord named Sardar Noora from the Sambal community to look after his fleet of boats, including his brand new stately river barge. One day without the landlord’s permission Ludan took some men aboard the barge. Noora was furious and publicly upbraided old Ludan who felt wrongfully disgraced after years of faithful service. When the Sardar was away from, in revenge Ludan took the flotilla and “sailed through the night like a vagabond and kept crying, ‘Is there a lord, born of a lady who can take me into his fold?’ The gentlemen heard him; silence was the response as nobody uttered a word. Why to enkindle the fire, why to start fresh feuds! It is inappropriate to do battle and get people killed for this flotilla. Hearing of Noora no one let the sailor drop anchor—.
Heer along with a bevy of girls hears the cry and acts like a mighty gracious queen, ‘cast your anchor along the side of our bank, you will not lack anything here. Who is this monster Noora, the owner of the vessels? No one can shelter you except me, the daughter of Chuchak.’â€
Fearless, Heer gave the old man refuge. Sardar Noora was enraged at this incident. Summoning his friends and servants to his aid, he set off to catch and punish Ludan. On refusal of Heer’s father to return the boats and Ludan, Noora conducted a raid and to his utter surprise found females led by Heer ready to confront his party, which proved to be an even bigger disgrace for him.
When Heer’s brothers found out about the incident out they asked her in concern, “If a mishap had befallen you why didn’t you send for us?â€
Without batting an eyelid she answered, “What was the need to send for all of you? Emperor Akbar had not attacked us.†This was the strength of character of the indomitable young Heer who acted defiantly in a repressive, patriarchal society.
In the story, having left his home, when Ranjha reached the banks of the River Chenab, the sun had begun to set. He asked Ludan to take him aboard and row him to the city of Jhang on the other side. But Ludan refused, thinking Ranjha was a thief who planned to rob him. Ranjha sat down on the river bank, and started to play a melancholy tune on his flute. Moved to pity, and cajoled by the young man, Ludan’s heart softened and he agreed to ferry him across.
Ranjha boarded and made himself comfortable on a luxurious red and white couch. Ludan admonished him saying the couch belonged to Heer, but Ranjha didn’t pay heed and soon fell sleep on it. The next morning, Heer and her girlfriends arrived at the river like “a hailstorm sweeps over a field.†Noticing Ranjha asleep on her couch, Heer blamed Ludan and threatened to have Ranjha beaten for his insolence. But when Ranjha opened his lovely eyes, Heer changed her mind. They spent the rest of the day together and Ranjha told Heer his life story. By the end of the day, Heer swore to be Ranjha’s forever.
The next day Heer brought Ranjha to her father, Mihr Chuchak, saying “Father, I have found someone to herd the buffaloes.†Her father was skeptical because Ranjha with his beautiful long oiled hair and smooth skin looked more like a rich man’s son than like a common herder. He hired him regardless to please his daughter. Every day, Heer brought Ranjha food that her family ate: Milk, bread, rice and sweets. They would spend as much of the day together alone in the forest as they could. Heer neglected her spinning and other household chores, and hardly saw her girlfriends.
The villagers started speculating about the mysterious buffalo herder who Mihr Chuchak’s daughter took food to and who herself oiled his long hair with a quart of ghee. The gossip reached the ears of Kaidu, Heer’s uncle, who began to lurk in the forest, trying to catch the two together.
One day Kaidu found Ranjha alone in the forest, and came up to him, pretending to be a beggar. Ranjha, remembering his days on the road when he, too, had to beg for food and shelter, gave Kaidu half a pastry, which Heer had made for him. Kaidu took the pastry and brought it before the village elders as proof of Heer’s disobedience and wanton behavior. “I have seen Heer and Ranjha in the forests, and I tell no lies. Ranjha will take away Heer, and there will be shame to the Siyals,†he said showing his proof.
The elders went to Chuchak and told him about Kaidu’s accusation. Believing in his daughter’s innocence and moral rectitude, Chuchak furiously refused to believe his brother in law, “Kaidan is a talebearer and a liar. He chases moths all day.â€
Kaidan then went to his sister, Heer’s mother, urging her to use her influence to ward off the scandal. Chuchak finally called Ranjha to him one night after he had returned with the buffaloes dismissed him from his service.
“For twelve years, I have tended your buffalo and now you turn me away without wages!†Ranjha threw his staff down, turned on his heel and left.
They say you can never please everyone. The villagers now started criticizing Chuchak for dismissing Ranjha without even paying him his wages. Heer was also crying inconsolably. Chuchak relented and took Ranjha back into his service and before 70 Khans and 72 nobles Chuchak betrothed Heer to Ranjha, saying: “As long as thou shalt live, she is thine, and when thou art dead she will not deny it. If anyone tears Heer from thee I will bear witness against him in the Court of God.â€
Heer’s mother and uncle were not appeased however and brought Heer before the qazi who reminded her of her duty to respect her family and honour their standing in the village. But Heer refused to give up her buffalo herder, citing, “As wine-bibbers cannot desert the bottle, as opium-eaters cannot be without their drug, so I cannot live without Ranjha.â€
The qazi finally told the Siyals that Heer was too stubborn, and to avoid further scandal they should marry her off right away. The Siyals called a clan meeting. Chuchak’s decision to let his daughter be married to the herder was overruled. Even if the buffalo herder was actually a Ranjha of Takht Hazara, he was from too lowly a family to marry a Siyal. Instead, the family decided to marry Heer off to Saida, of the Khera clan.
On the day of the wedding ceremony Heer refused to say, “Kabul hai†(I accept) when asked if she gave her permission for the nikkah to be performed by the maulvi. Instead the bold girl cried out that she had been betrothed to Ranjha and that their union had been blessed by Heaven and the saints. â€Muhammad (PBUH) formed the marriage procession and Brahma set up the posts of the marriage canopy. The angels sang songs of rejoicing and fairies brought the henna. The Panj Pir (Five Saints) performed the ceremony and the Khizar was the witness.â€
Not heeding her cries, Heer’s parents signed the marriage papers, and the Kheras took Heer back to Saida’s house in Rangpur.
A heartbroken Ranjha had returned to his native village of Takht Hazara, but couldn’t forget his lady love. So he set off to search for her. On the way, he crossed Tilla Jogian, the temple where the jogi Gorakh Nath lived. Bowing before him, Ranjha asked to become a jogi, but Gorakh Nath doubted that Ranjha had the humble nature and ascetism of a true jogi. Ranjha stole the jogi’s conch with which he called his followers for their evening meal and buried it, committing it to the care of Mother Earth and Khizar. Without the conch, Gorakh Nath couldn’t summon his jogis and feared they would keep waiting for their call and thus starve. To prevent this, Gorakh Nath agreed to let Ranjha become a jogi. Ranjha dug up the conch and blew it, once to the east and once to the west, to summon the jogis to their meal. Gorakh Nath rubbed Ranjha with ashes, shaved his head, pierced his ears, and gave him a begging bowl. He told Ranjha, “Call the young women ‘sister’ and the married women ‘mother.’ Beg throughout the city and bring no shame on the profession of begging.â€
Ranjha threw away the begging bowl and earrings and rubbed off the ashes. He didn’t want to call Heer either his mother or his sister.
“I was right about you!†exclaimed the guru.
Ranjha laughed at him, “We Jatts are cunning — we use all means to get what we want. What can I do with a beggar’s bowl, whose heart is set only on plowing? How can I call her ‘mother’ for whose sake I would become a jogi?â€
At first, the guru was angry, but soon he realized that Ranjha was deeply and desperately in love. Moved to pity, he blessed him and prayed that he would achieve his heart’s desire.
Gorakh Nath sent his crow to search for Heer. The crow flew from town to town, from house to house, until it arrived in Rangpur and found Heer, wasting away in Saida Khera’s house. The crow talked to Heer and told her of Ranjha’s faithfulness to her. Then the crow returned to Tilla, bringing news of Heer’s whereabouts to Ranjha. He set off for Rangpur, dressed as a jogi, begging at each village. In Rangpur, all the women flocked to the beautiful young jogi and poured out their troubles to him. They complained about their in-laws, husbands, neighbors, etc. Ranjha listened sympathetically and patiently and counseled the women. He also kept looking for Khera’s pretending to be begging for alms. When Heer’s sister-in-law Sehti answered the door, she saw Heer’s and Ranjha’s reactions when they saw each other. Putting two and two together, she agreed to help them if they would help her escape and join her lover, a Balochi camel driver named Murad.
Together the two wily women made a plan. Heer cut her foot as the two women walked in the garden, and pretended that she had been bitten by a snake. Sehti told the family that Ranjha was a wise jogi who could cure her. Saida brought him to their house and Ranjha pretended to cure Heer of her pretend snakebite. The couple planned their escape. Sehti asked to go with them, and begged Ranjha to help her find Murad. Ranjha blew on his conch. The sound reached far and wide. Murad heard it as he slept. He dreamt that Sehti had called him, asking him to come to her. When he woke up, Murad set out at once for Rangpur.
The following Sunday night in June, the three escaped and met Murad who put Sehti on his camel and crossed the River Chenab. Heer and Ranjha fled to Qabula, the city where Raja Adali ruled.
When the next morning their escape was discovered, the Khera men set off to find them. Murad and Sehti had made it safely back to Murad’s Balochi tribe who drove back their Khera pursuers. Heer and Ranjha weren’t so lucky however. The Kheras captured them and beat Ranjha unmercifully. They brought him before Raja Adali, demanding that Ranjha be put to death.
Heer’s uncle Kaidu testified against Ranjha, while her father Chuchak testified on his behalf pleading that he had betrothed Heer to Ranjha, “I tell no lies. Before 70 Khans and 72 nobles I gave Heer to Ranjha. Ranjha grazed my buffaloes for 12 years and took no pay at all from me. My brethren thrust him away, and seizing Heer married her to the Kheras. If there be a lie in this ask Heer: She is in thy Court. If there be a lie in this may I be punished in the Court of God.â€
Raja Adali called Heer to the stand. When she walked into the court, unveiled, Adali saw how beautiful she was and said to Ranjha: “Thou too art a liar: Heer was first of all betrothed to me!â€
He took Heer to his palace to make her his. Heer prayed to God for protection. When Adali came to her bed that night, he burst into flames. But he managed to save his life by dousing himself with water.
Meanwhile, Ranjha played his flute in supplication to heaven. “The sound of the flute reached Mecca and 70 saints came from there. The sound of the flute reached Multan and the five saints came from there. The sound of the flute also brought the Mother, the Goddess Durga, on her lion to Ranjha. At the sound of the flute came Sakhi Sarwar the Warrior, galloping up on his mare Kakki. At the sound of the flute came Hanuman, the leader, with his army. The army cut down the garden of Adali and left not a tree remaining….All the saints collected took burning logs and set fire to Adali’s city. Burning went Adali into the reservoirs and water was thrown over the people. And when the water reached the fire it blazed forth twofold!â€
The Raja’s advisors told him to return Heer to Ranjha and save the city. Raja Adali sent for Ranjha and agreed to marry him to Heer. In gratitude, Ranjha blew on his conch, and the goddess Indra made it rain. Raja Adali himself gave Heer a way to Ranjha, and the entire city attended the wedding.
Ranjha married his Heer because God willed it. Raja Adali stopped taking bribes and became a just ruler. All the people in Adali’s city lived in happiness. The two lovers rode away into the sunrise, and (like Sehti and Murad) lived happily ever after.
You can’t be a South Asian and have missed the massive coverage of Sonam Kapoor’s glitzy wedding held recently in Mumbai that trended on social media as #Sonamkishaadi. You may have already seen the photos and dance clips, but here is a detailed account fo her love story with her husband Anand Ahuja
By Mahlia Lone
It seems the last name of Kapoor is a lucky one to have for Bollywood acting families; it opens studio doors, ensuring success and longevity of career. During Partition, Surinder Kapoor who belonged to a Punjabi Hindu family from Pre Partition Peshawar was invited by his distant cousin the actor Prithviraj Kapoor to migrate to Bombay and join the burgeoning Hindi film industry. Using his family connections, in 1950 Surinder became secretary to film star Geeta Bali who subsequently married Prithviraj’s middle born son Shammi Kapoor in 1955. Geeta kept acting after her marriage unlike most Kapoor bahus (daughters in law) and in her gratitude to her secretary she helped Surinder become a film producer. He got his big break as a producer when Rajesh Khanna who was a superstar of the 70s consented to do his film as a favour. He said, “Rajesh Khanna who played the title-role in Shehzada (which became a hit) was truly of a princely disposition. He started shooting for me without ever discussing the price, saying that we could settle that once the film is made, he said and made the banner S. K. International Films become an acknowledged company.â€
In the’80s Surinder produced a string of successful films with his middle son Anil in the lead, such as Hum Paanch, Woh Saat Din, Loafer, Judaai, Sirf Tum, Hamara Dil Aapke Paas Hai, Pukar, and No Entry. His eldest son Boney learnt the ropes alongside his father and carried on his legacy as a film producer. Boney was famously married to the late South Indian born superstar Sridevi (see Memorable Romance GT March 16th 2018) and has two budding actress daughters, Jhanvi and Khushi and son Arjun Kapoor from a previous marriage. Arjun’s mother and Boney’s first wife, the late Mona Shourie, who died of cancer, was CEO of Future Studios, the largest ready-to-shoot, fully furnished, indoor shooting studio in Mumbai. The youngest of the three brothers, Sanjay is also an actor but never made it big as a lead.
This is the illustrious Bollywood film family that Sonam was born into in 1985 in the refugee neighbourhood of Chembur, Mumbai to Anil and his wife Sunita, a former model, and the daughter of a well off State Bank of India executive. Anil moved his family to the upmarket suburb of Juhu when Sonam was just a month old where the couple had their younger daughter Rhea, now a film producer, and actor son, Harshvardhan. The kids were educated at the Arya Vidya Mandir school in Juhu. This chain of English medium schools was attended by many Bollywood stars such as Aishwarya Rai Bachchan, Sonakshi Sinha, etc.
Sonam was a “naughty†and “carefree†girl who would pick on the boys, was sporty, playing rugby and basketball, as well as being a good dancer, training in Kathak, classical music and Latin dance. At 15, she took up a waitressing job that only lasted a week. A heavy teenager, she recalled, “I had every issue related to weight that I could have. I was unhealthy, I had bad skin, and I had hair growing on my face!†Then it was discovered that she is diabetic (she started taking an insulin injection everyday) plus has polycystic ovaries that causes hormonal imbalance because of which pregnancies are recommended at an earlier age.
Raj & Krishan Kapoor With Surinder, His Wife & 4 Year Old Boney Kapoor At A Studio Film Mahurat (auspicious Inauguration Ceremony)
Sonam was sent to Singapore to the United World College of South East Asia to help her get into a Western college. After which she got admission at the average University of East London in Stratford, but dropped out soon after. So it’s safe to assume that Sonam was not at all academically inclined.
In Singapore Sonam met with family friend Rani Mukherji who at the time was working on the film Black (2005) opposite Amitabh Bachchan, a casting coup. Sonam decided she wanted to work as a crew member on the set as she had aspirations to become a writer/director. Anil asked the film’s director Sanjay Leela Bhansali to mentor his daughter so Sonam became his assistant director.
Star kids are a saleable commodity in the Indian film industry drawing crowds to cinemas out of curiosity
Sunita Sunit Star kids are a saleable commodity in the Indian film industry drawing crowds to cinemas out of curiosity. Bhansali offered Sonam the lead in his next film, Saawariya (2007) opposite another star kid, Ranbir Kapoor, son of Rishi Kapoor and Neetu Singh, on the condition that she lose a lot of weight. At the time, Sonam at 5’ 96†weighed 180 lb. She spent the next two years overhauling her diet and fitness regime and lost a total of 77 lb. by jogging, doing yoga and playing squash. In addition, she studied acting with renowned coaches.
The debut movie of two star kids was hyped up but, despite being the first Bollywood movie to receive a North American release by a Hollywood studio, and having established stars Rani Mukherjee and Salman Khan in supporting roles, the movie, loosely based on Russian literary giant Fyodor Dostoevsky’s short story White Nights, fared badly at the box office. Sonam and Ranbir who were distant cousins had been hanging out during during filming drifted apart. The young hot shot actor started dating another statuesque beauty Deepika, also a new entry in the film world.
On a side note, two more young actors also part of Sonam’s family are: paternal cousin Mohit Marwah, and last but certainly not least her maternal second cousin, Ranveer Singh who is now engaged to Deepika. As they say, it’s all in the family.
Next, Sonam chose the role of an aspiring singer opposite her idol veteran actress Waheeda Rehman and Abhishek Bachchan in the drama Delhi-6 (2009), another commercial failure. Though she received some positive reviews with critic Rajeev Masand stating that Sonam was “a firecracker, instinctive and uninhibited in what isn’t even a conventional female lead.â€
Finally the next year, she had her first hit with I Hate Luv Storys. During filming the actress was briefly dating the movie’s director Punit Malhotra, who is the nephew of famous Indian designer, Manish Malhotra. Despite her limited success as a box office draw, that year, Sonam became the first Indian actress to appear on The Hollywood Reporter’s “Next Generation: Asia Classâ€, a list of newcomers in film.
Now Sonam is a huge Jane Austen fan. With her younger sister Rhea at the helm as producer, the two sisters decided to remake the Hollywood romcom Clueless in Hindi, a cinematic adaptation of Jane Austen’s comedy of errors novel Emma set in modern day. But the resulting movie Aisha (2010) made under the Anil Kapoor Films Company banner failed to leave much of an impact and couldn’t draw in the masala crowd.
Sonam, however, had quickly emerged as a style icon for younger women and got several ad endorsements, including the lucrative and high profile L’Oreal campaigns. She represented the global brand for the first time at the prestigious Cannes International Film Festival in 2011 and became an instant internationally recognized Bollywood style queen.
After a few more misses, the romantic drama Raanjhanaa (2013) marked a turning point in Sonam’s career. She played the role of a Muslim student pulled into politics after the murder of her Sikh boyfriend. Determined to make her role work, she prepared intensely for her part, by spending time with students, and practising with the Jawaharlal Nehru University theatre club. At this time in her personal life, Sonam was set up with entrepreneur/model Sahir Berry by Rhea on a social media network. The two dated for a few months before breaking up. It seemed she wasn’t clicking with anyone.
Rhea and Anil produced the dramedy Khoobsurat, (2014) in which Sonam, who played a physiotherapist, starred opposite Fawad Khan, who played an Indian prince. The movie was a modest success in India, and did especially well in the international market.
That same year, Sonam was introduced by her stylist Pernia Qureshi to fellow Delhi-ite Anand Ahuja. Pernia became friends with Sonam when she designed costumes for Aisha. Incidentally, Pernia’s mother, Nasreen was born and bred in Lahore and worked as an actress here before moving to New Delhi when she married wealthy Indian Muslim meat exporter, Moin Qureshi.
Back to Anand Ahuja. Anand belongs to a merchant class Khatri Punjabi Sikh family and is third generation wealthy. His grandfather Harish Ahuja is the owner of the country’s largest export house Shahi Exports that exports garment and has an annual turnover of over $450 million or INR3,000 crores. Shahi Exports supplies garments to Abercrombie & Fitch, Gap, Esprit, Wal-Mart, Ralph Lauren and Tommy Hilfiger among others. In 2015, Harish Ahuja bought a 9,000 square feet sprawling bungalow built on a 3,170 square yard plot on Prithviraj Road in central Delhi–where a lot of the top industrialists live–for Rs. 173 crore, which is now worth Rs. 300 crores according to India Times.
Anand was born to Sunil and Beena Ahuja in 1983 in New Delhi and grew up in the family house in the posh Jor Bagh locality of Delhi with his younger brothers, Anant and Amit but since then the family has moved to the exclusive Golf Links gated community.
After doing his high school from the American Embassy School in New Delhi, Anand graduated in economics and international relations from the University of Pennsylvania. In 2010, he went to Wharton to pursue MBA, but did not complete his degree. After interning in Duetsch Bank, he worked as an assistant buyer at a Macy’s Inc. store owned by his uncle, and then as a product manager at Last Sportswear and Amazon.com in Seattle. Getting a good knowledge of the business, he decided to return to India and set up his own clothing brand, backed by his family of course. He set up clothing brand Bhane with a showroom in New Delhi’s upscale Meherchand Market. After he started dating Sonam, the actress and her siblings were spotted wearing the brand at a number of events to help bring it publicity.
Sonam and Anand hit it off almost immediately. Just a month into their relationship, he popped the question to her, which took her a few months’ consideration to answer. But the two lovebirds were not ready to settle down quite as yet. Though she remained tightlipped about her relationship, photos floated about of Anand and Sonam together at public as well as family events and holidays abroad.
The 5’ 9†tall weighing 143 lbs. muscular basketball playing and gym honed guy with the well-built chest and dark brown eyes was well dressed to boot. Escorting her to events, he was content to stay discreetly in the background. Rather than living off her reflected star wattage, he focused on starting India’s first multi-brand sneaker boutique, VegNonVeg that retails international footwear brands, like Nike and Adidas, and lesser known but cult labels like the Japanese Visvim. Meanwhile Sonam was hard at work solidifying her career.
Next Sonam starred in the biographical thriller Neerja (2016) as the eponymous air hostess Neerja Bhanot who died while saving the passengers of the hijacked Pan Am Flight 73 in 1986. Again Sonam got into her role by researching the real life events, and met Bhanot’s family. The film became one of the highest-grossing Bollywood films featuring a female protagonist and was critically well received with Sonam’s performance noted to be her best to date. Hindustan Times critic Rohit Vats wrote that “she carries the film entirely on her shoulder. She looks earnest, scared, benevolent and bold, all at the same time. Sonam won the Filmfare Critics Award for Best Actress and National Film Award – Special Mention. Anand was seated next to Sonam and stood up to applaud and cheer his “partner in crime†when she received the award on stage and Instagrammed: “my fave! #everydayphenomenal.â€
Soon after, Sonam was asked about her relationship with the entrepreneur by a reporter. She replied cryptically, “There are a lot of other things which make you a whole person besides who you’re dating. My personal life is out there because I’ve always been myself but if you’re talking about personal life as in (context of) boyfriend, then I’ll never talk about it.â€
Rhea regularly helps style Sonam at high profile events like the Cannes Film Festival and both sisters are considered stylish and modern. Inspired in part by Anand, they launched their clothing line Rheson in 2017.
“Sonam and Rhea Kapoor have, for years now been considered style icons for young India,†said their brand consultant Anya Rangaswami. “Rheson (RHEa + SONam; pronounced ‘reason’) was conceptualised to be a brand for fashionable young Indian women…at an affordable price…through Shoppers Stop (department store chain and online retailer)…. The first of its kind, the brand aimed to position Indian retail on the global fashion map, building a homegrown brand at a scale never seen before.â€
Certainly the Ahuja business acumen and garment industry knowhow was rubbing off.
After a two-year hiatus from films, Sonam came back in a film that addresses important social issues Pad Man (2018) playing a social worker in Arunachalam Muruganantham, who campaigned for menstrual hygiene in rural India. Pad Man is based on a short story in Twinkle Khanna’s book The Legend of Lakshmi Prasad and co-stars Twinkle’s husband starring Akshay Kumar. Sonam said she wants to make films with a social message and not just provide entertainment. She, in fact, publicly criticised fellow actress Katrina Kaif for doing “over the top films.â€
Most recently, Rhea has produced the romcom Veere Di Wedding, playing in cinemas now, about four girls who embark on a road trip with an ensemble cast co-starring Sonam and her best friends, Kareena Kapoor and Swara Bhasker. When a reporter asked her if it was true that real friends can’t be made in Bollywood, Sonam disagreed, “Completely untrue. Jacqueline, Bebo (Kareena) and Swara are my closest friends.â€
A month before their wedding took place, Sonam and Anand decided they had waited long enough and they were ready to formalize their commitment. Within a month, all the preparations were made hastily but expertly.
Mr. and Mrs. Anil Kapoor put up a grand show, hosting a pre-Mehndi party, followed by a Sangeet, the wedding and a grand reception. Sonam’s cousins: Arjun Kapoor, Ranveer Singh and Jahnvi Kapoor prepared dance performances for the Sangeet. All the top Indian actors like Amitabh Bachchan, Madhuri Dixit, Shah Rukh Khan, Salman Khan, Alia Bhatt, Ranbir Kapoor, Kareena Kapoor, etc. fully participated with fervor. Anand and Sonam tied the knot on 8th May in the 55,000-sq ft. mansion of Sonam’s maternal aunt interior designer Kavita Singh, married to pharmaceutical magnate Jasjit Singh, in Bandra, Mumbai in a traditional Sikh Anand Karaj ceremony.
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Actress Sonam Kapoor poses for photographers upon arrival at the premiere of the film ‘BlacKkKlansman’ at the 71st international film festival, Cannes, southern France, Monday, May 14, 2018. (Photo by Joel C Ryan/Invision/AP)
Mandatory Credit: Photo by David Fisher/REX/Shutterstock (5684288ci) Sonam Kapoor ‘Mal de Pierres’ premiere, 69th Cannes Film Festival, France – 15 May 2016
After the wedding, Sonam jetted off to Cannes to fulfill her responsibilities to L’Oreal as one of its Indian ambassadors where she cut a wedding cake and Instagrammed, “Anand Ahuja this was for us!â€
The couple will not leave for honeymoon right away but have decided to postpone it till October-November due to work commitments. Neither will they be moving to the Ahujas London house as was reported earlier. Instead Sonam will go back and forth between Mumbai and Delhi for the time being. Bollywood Hungama quoted a close friend of the Kapoors saying that the couple have been hunting for residential properties in Mumbai prior to their wedding, “It is true that the couple was seen checking out some property in Mumbai close to her parents’ home. But they didn’t zero in on anything they like. Honestly Anil Kapoor wants Sonam and her husband to stay in the Kapoor bungalow. Anand’s business and family are in Delhi. Sonam’s home and career are in Mumbai. For some time at least she will be shuttling between the two cities.â€
Next up, Sonam will feature in a biopic of the actor Sanjay Dutt, entitled Sanju, plus is filming the romance Ek Ladki Ko Dekha Toh Aisa Laga, co-starring her father and Juhi Chawla, releasing later this year. In addition, she has signed on to play the title role in a film adaptation of Anuja Chauhan’s novel The Zoya Factor.
Looks like the actress has no intention of slowing down and Anand has no mind to hold her back. They must have an extremely trusting, supportive and secure relationship. Sonam said, “I need to be thankful for so much.†Sounds like she found her true match.
Once upon a time, when King Arthur reigned in Camelot, there lived a Cornish knight, Sir Tristan, who fell hopelessly in love with his Uncle King Mark’s bride-to-be the Irish Princess Isolde. The beautiful princess too loved her handsome knight who had valiantly slain a dragon and saved her people. Because they had unknowingly ingested a strong love potion, they had a passionate love that could not be denied…
By Mahlia Lone
The popular Celtic legend of Tristan and Isolde was retold by generations of wandering minstrels who sang of the tragic lovers harkening to the 6th century. Celtic mythology scholars believe that the legend originated in Brittany, western France, which had been settled by Britons. The oral legend, known as the “vulgar†version, a representative of story-telling belonging to the Dark Ages, gave the lovers more choice in carrying out their affair. In the refined High Middle Ages, the 12th century oAnwards the legend stressed the lovers’ honour in keeping with the chivalric and courtly Anglo-Norman literature.
The Story
King Mark of Cornwall ruled in the early 6th century with his seat at Castle Dor, near Fowey. He was the son of King Felix who died after an Irish raid on his castle at Tintagel. According to Arthurian legend, King Mark was violent, treacherous and cowardly by nature. His nephew Sir Tristan, on the other hand, stood for all the virtues of chivalry and was noble, brave and honourable. He also had a poetic soul and was a talented harp player.
King Anguish of Ireland, one of King Arthur’s earlier enemies, was defeated by Arthur in battle and the Irish ruler was forced to accept his supremacy. However, in his later battle with King Mark of Cornwall, King Anguish emerged victorious. When King Mark refused to pay King Anguish seven years back pay for his vassalage, the Irish ruler sent his champion knight Sir Morholt to forcibly extract the payment of tribute.
Sir Tristan and Sir Morholt fought in single combat in a fight to the death. Tristan killed Morholt and a broken piece of his sword remained in the latter’s fatal wound for all to see in the body when it was taken back to Ireland. Tristan too was wounded in the desperate fight. When his wound did not heal, he journeyed to Ireland in disguise so he could be healed by the Irish Princess Isolde, famed for her skill in healing. Isolde was the daughter of King Anguish and Queen Iseult the Elder.
Upon arrival, Tristan discovered that Ireland was being terrorized by a fearsome dragon. A brave and skilled knight, Sir Tristan succeeded in killing the ferocious fire-breathing dragon. In gratitude, Princess Isolde nursed him back to health after the fight. But when she found his broken sword, putting two and two together, she realized that he was the warrior who had killed Morholt, her uncle.
At first she wanted to avenge her uncle’s death, but seeing how grateful her people were to Tristan for killing the dragon that was terrorizing them and destroying their property, Isolde forgave him. Enjoying her company, Tristan lingered on at the Irish court. During his convalescence Tristan played his harp for Isolde and gave her lessons in the instrument as a pretext to spend more time with her.
On his return to Cornwall, all he could talk about was the Irish princess. Hearing his nephew’s high praises, King Mark decided to marry Isolde himself. Loyal and obedient as a knight is duty bound to his king, Tristan had no choice but to agree to return to Ireland and seek Isolde’s hand in marriage for his uncle the king. Back in Ireland, the matrimonial proposal was accepted as an offering of alliance and Isolde was sent to Cornwall under Tristan’s care.
Tristan and Isolde had already developed feelings for each other but their well-established sense of honour prevented them from expressing themselves freely. To ensure her daughter’s marital happiness, Queen Iseult gave the princess a drink to share with her future husband Mark. It was a magic eternal love potion. During the sea voyage from Ireland to Cornwall, Isolde and Tristan inadvertently drank the potion, not knowing what it was, and fell deeply in love.
Upon arriving in Cornwall, the royal marriage took place. But the young couple couldn’t help but still love each other. Their passionate love affair continued in secret. Since the noble Arthurian principles didn’t condone adultery, according to the story, the love potion freed Tristan and Iseult from responsibility. Mirroring the dynamics of the Arthur-Guinevere-Lancelot love triangle, Mark-Iseult-Tristan also all loved each other. Tristan honoured, respected, and loved King Mark as his king, mentor and father figure; Isolde owed her husband loyalty, devotion and gratitude (for his kindness to her); and Mark loved his nephew as well as his wife and felt that they were the closest to him.
A series of intrigues, plots and suspense followed. The King’s advisers warned him that Tristan and Isolde were not as innocent as they seemed. But Mark didn’t want to jeopardise the fragile truce between Ireland and Cornwall and endanger his fragile kingdom till he was sure. So King Mark, his advisers and his knights made various attempts to trap the lovers and obtain proof of their guilt.
Every night, each of the three main characters had nightmares about the future. When King Mark finally got his proof positive of the affair, he resolved to punish them as cuckolding a king was grounds for treason. Tristan was sentenced to death by hanging, while Isolde was to be burnt at the stake. Taking pity on his young and beautiful wife, the king reduced her sentence to being sent to live in a leper colony where she could heal patients.
The dashing blade, Sir Tristan made a daring and exciting escape on his way to the gallows. He made a giant leap from the top of a chapel steeple and rescued Isolde. The lovers managed to escape into the forest of Morrois and took shelter there until they were discovered by Mark’s troops. Left with no choice, Tristan gave up Isolde, and went into exile. The King forgave Isolde.
A depressed and despairing, Tristan left Cornwall by ship for Brittany, sailing across the English Channel. There he met and married Iseult of the White Hands because she reminded him of his Isolde. His wife was the daughter of King Hoel of Brittany, a late 5th- and early 6th-century member of the ruling dynasty of Cornouaille in northwest Brittany, and a relative and loyal ally of Arthur, who had helped him conquer Gaul (northern France). Her brother was Kahedin, also mentioned in Arthurian legend. Kahedin was also to have a love affair with Brangaine, the handmaiden of Isolde of Ireland.
Tristan did not consummate his marriage to Iseult despite her beauty as he couldn’t bear the thought of betraying his one true love.
Pining, he recklessly endangered his life riding to the aid of Kahedin his brother in arms, fell into ambush and was wounded by a poisoned lance.
There were alternating versions of how Tristan got wounded. In the Prose Tristan and works derived from it, Tristan was mortally wounded by Mark who treacherously stuck him with a poisoned lance while the latter was playing a harp for Isolde before he left for Brittany.  According to Thomas’s poetic version, Tristan was wounded by a poisoned lance while attempting to rescue a young woman from six knights.
No one could heal Tristan’s festering wound. Much weakened and pale with loss of blood, Tristan sent Kahedin to Cornwall for Isolde as a last resort in hopes that she would be able to cure him. If she agreed to come and was on board, Kahedin would unfurl white sails on his ship, and if she did not agree the sails would be black.
In music
German composer Richard Wagner’s phenomenal opera Tristan und Isolde (1859) by German composer Richard Wagner is considered “a treatise on life rather than a musical experience†and was vastly influential, groundbreaking and revelatory. In 1924, Thomas Hardy collaborated with the British composer Rutland Boughton to adapt Hardy’s play into the opera The Queen of Cornwall (1924).
Upon Kahedin’s voyage back, Iseult, seeing the white sails, got jealous and lied to Tristan, telling him falsely that the sails were black.
Hopeless, Tristan died in misery before Isolde could reach him. Grief stricken, Isolde, swooning over her lover’s corpse, died soon after of a broken heart. Wrenched apart in life, the lovers were reunited in death.
Tristan and Isolde
in Literature
In the second half of the twelfth century, two French speaking Norman poets penned courtly lyrical romances of the popular legend of oral tradition. Thomas of Britain wrote his poem Tristan the earlier part between 11
and 1170 and latter part between 1181 and 1190 in Old French, while the Norman poet wrote his poem also called Tristan, in the Norman French dialect in 1173.
In 1227, Tristan by Thomas was translated by Brother Robert at the request of King Haakon Haakonson of Norway who wanted to promote the dominant Angevin-Norman (French) culture at his court. The Nordic King commissioned the cleric to produce translations of several French Arthurian works into Old Norse, which became very popular.
Two 12th century poems in the Folies Tristan in Old French related Tristan’s return to Marc’s court disguised as a madman. But the most important development in French Tristaniana was the Prose Tristan of the 13th and 14th century, shortly after the completion of the Vulgate Cycle (Lancelot-Grail Cycle) in the first quarter of the 13th century.
The twelve volumes long Prose Tristan included the episode of Tristan’s participation in the Quest for the Holy Grail. This had a great influence on later medieval literature, and tied the legend of Tristan and Isolde securely into Arthurian legend.
An abridged translation of the French Prose Tristan in English was Sir Thomas Malory’s The Book of Sir Tristram de Lyones, in Le Morte d’Arthur (circa 1469), which became a basis for all subsequent retellings of King Arthur and his Knights of the Round Table stories.
In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, a renaissance or revival of Arthurian literature, mostly written in narrative verse occurred, which included the following: Lord Alfred Tennyson’s poem The Last Tournament from Idylls of the King. The poem, set in Camelot, presented an the account of a tournament with the characters of King Arthur, his fool Dragonet and Sir Tristan. Matthew Arnold’s narrative poem Tristram and Iseult was based on romantic and tragic themes. Algernon Charles Swinburne’s long epic poem Tristram of Lyonesse retold the story in a grand style. Thomas Hardy’s one-act play The Famous Tragedy of the Queen of Cornwall at Tintagel in Lyonnesse was published posthumously in 1923. Even all the way in America, poet Edward Arlington Robinson based his Pulitzer Prize winning poem Tristram on the legend.
Reunion In Death Tristan And Isolde (1881) By August SpiessReunion In Death Tristan And Isolde (1881) By August Spiess
Best-selling novelist Daphne du Maurier, who is from Fowey in Cornwall, finished Cornish writer Arthur Thomas Quiller-Couch’s Castle Dor (1962), set in modern times but based on the original story. Prolific British author Rosalind Miles wrote a trilogy about Tristan and Isolde: The Maid of the White Hands, The Queen of the Western Isle, and The Lady of the Sea. Bengali author Sunil Gangopadhyay also based his novel Sonali Dukkho on the story.
There are many other retellings of the story written by authors in recent times.
Bollywood director Subhash Ghai set the story in modern India and the United States in his musical big budget movie Pardes (1997), starring Shahrukh Khan, Mahima Chaudhary and Amrish Puri, which had the hit song I Love My India.
The most recent Tristan film was Tony Scott and Ridley Scott’s Tristan & Isolde (2006) starring James Franco and Sophia Myles.
Tristan & Isolde (c. 1845) By Rogello Egusquiza
The Tristan Stone
A Cornish granite menhir (long stone) called the The Tristan Stone still stands tall at 2.7 m and proud near the site of Castle Dor, in Fowey, Cornwall. The stone has a mid-6th century two line inscription “Here lies Drustanus, the son of Cunomorus.†A now missing third line was transcribed by the 16th century antiquarian John Leland as reading “with the lady Ousilla.†The menhir marks the story of their eternal love for times to come.
The song Remember is the gist of John Winston Lennon’s childhood. He was born in 1940, at a time when World War II raged on in full force, to an Irish merchant seaman named Alfred who was away at sea for his duties much of the time, including at the birth of his son to his Liverpudlian wife Julia. Both of John’s parents were naturally musical though none of them took it up as a profession. Alf supported his wife and child by regularly sending them his steward’s salary while Julia lived at her father’s house. Things went awry when Alf deserted his post towards the end of the war and became absent without leave for six months.
“Just remember when you were small
How people seemed so tall
Always had their way
Do you remember, your ma and pa
Just wishing for movie stardom
Always, always playing a part
If you ever feel so sad
And the whole world is driving you mad
Remember, remember today”
—John Lennon
John Lennon As A Child
Lennon’s high school reports stated bleakly: “Certainly on the road to failure … hopeless … rather a clown in class … wasting other pupils’ time”
Giving up on him, Julia started to have an affair with a Welsh soldier and got pregnant by him. Her childless older sister Mimi repeatedly complained to Social Services about Julia “living in sin†and she and her dairyman husband George Smith were awarded custody of John. When Alf got back home, he offered to take his wife Julia back but she refused. She gave up her baby girl for adoption and took up with John Bobby Dykins. The Lennons never divorced and Julia became Bobby’s common law wife, having two daughters with him. Meanwhile, Alf tried to whisk off five year old John to New Zealand but Julia and Bobby followed them to Blackpool. The Lennons fought over their little boy and Alf asked his son to choose between his father and mother. Conflicted John chose his father twice, but also started crying when his mother walked away and started to follow her. Imagine the little boy’s anguish!
Singer, songwriter and musician John Lennon of the Beatles as a child, with his mother Julia Lennon (1914 – 1958), 1949. To date, this is the only known photograph of John with his mother. It was taken by John’s cousin, Stanley Parkes. (Photo by Mark and Colleen Hayward/Getty Images)
According to Mark Lewisohn, one of the world’s leading authorities on the Beatles, who has penned many books on the band, Alf decided to leave John with Julia and took himself off. Father and son were not to meet again for 20 years. But it was Aunty Mimi and Uncle George who took John in when Julia handed him over to them after only a few weeks. The poor little boy ended up blaming himself saying later, “My mother … couldn’t cope with me.â€
The strict childless couple was kind to John, and Mimi was determined to give him a “proper upbringing.†John attended Dovedale Primary School and then Quarry Bank High School (renamed Calderstones School) and was described by his cousin Leila Harvey as a “happy-go-lucky, good-humoured, easy going, lively lad.†His aunt would buy him books of short stories, while his uncle got him a mouth organ and solved crossword puzzles with him. Both instilled the love of words and storytelling in him, which would later help him in his songwriting. Herself musical, Julia taught her son to play the banjo, ukulele and piano accordion. Because Mimi didn’t allow records in her house, so 11 year old John would go over to his mother’s house where they would listen to Elvis Presley records together. Naturally creative and with a sense of humour, he also drew cartoons for his magazine The Daily Howl. However, his school reports stated bleakly: “Certainly on the road to failure … hopeless … rather a clown in class … wasting other pupils’ time.â€
Insecure, being a child of a broken home, John would become violently jealousy, slapping, hitting and pushing Cynthia around
At 15, John got into skiffle music (a genre combing jazz, blues and folk music linking it to American popular music). After being pestered by son, Julia bought him his first guitar, an inexpensive Gallotone Champion acoustic on the condition that he keep it in her house, knowing well that her sister would disapprove. When John bragged that he would one day become a famous musician, Aunt Mimi would reply: “The guitar’s all very well, John, but you’ll never make a living out of it.â€
The determined teenager formed his own skiffle band called the Quarrymen, named after his high school. By the summer of 1957, the Quarrymen were playing gigs singing “a spirited set of songs†made up of half skiffle and half rock and roll.†John met Paul McCartney at the Quarrymen’s second performance at a Church garden fête and asked the younger lad to join the band.
Tragedy struck the following year when Julia was killed when a car hit her while she was walking home after visiting John. Devastated by the loss of his mother, John failed all his O-level examinations.
Harrison, McCartney, Lennon & Pete Best As The Drummer
Looking back in 1980 John observed about his family life and his rebelliousness: “Part of me would like to be accepted by all facets of society and not be this loudmouthed lunatic poet/musician. But I cannot be what I am not … I was the one who all the other boys’ parents—including Paul’s father—would say, ‘Keep away from him’… The parents instinctively recognised I was a troublemaker, meaning I did not conform and I would influence their children, which I did. I did my best to disrupt every friend’s home … Partly out of envy that I didn’t have this so-called home … but I did… There were five women that were my family. Five strong, intelligent, beautiful women, five sisters. One happened to be my mother. (She) just couldn’t deal with life. She was the youngest and she had a husband who ran away to sea and the war was on and she couldn’t cope with me, and I ended up living with her elder sister. Now those women were fantastic … And that was my first feminist education … I would infiltrate the other boys’ minds. I could say, “Parents are not gods because I don’t live with mine and, therefore, I know.’â€
McCartney later said bemused that Aunt Mimi “was very aware that John’s friends were lower classâ€, and would patronise him when he visited John at home. According to Paul’s brother Mike, their father was also disapproving, predicting that John would get his son “into trouble,†although he later allowed the fledgling band to rehearse in the McCartney family home. During this time, 18-year-old Lennon wrote his first song, Hello Little Girl that was to become UK top 10 hit five years later.
Meanwhile, his aunt’s and headmaster’s intervention stating his case led` to his acceptance to the Liverpool College of Art. He joined the popular youth culture of the 50s, wearing Teddy Boy clothes (tight trousers, long jackets, fancy waistcoats and suede loafers) partly inspired by the styles worn by dandies in the Edwardian period, and became a disruptive influence in the class, often ridiculing teachers. After a college party to celebrate the end of a term, John asked “Cyn†as he called her to “go out†with him. She replied that she was already engaged. Nonplussed, he deadpanned, “I didn’t ask you to marry me, did I?†They went to Ye Cracke pub for their first date.
Insecure, being a child of a broken home, John would become violently jealousy, slapping, hitting and pushing her around. They would break up then get back together. John said later, “I was in sort of a blind rage for two years. I was either drunk or fighting. It had been the same with other girlfriends I’d had. There was something the matter with me.â€
John’s friend Tony Bramwell recalled, “Cynthia was beautiful, physically, and on the inside. Although she knew he was apt to find love on the road, she was totally dedicated to his success… and extremely influential. He was insecure and Cynthia was there to pump him up and to buttress, his weak side.â€
Mandatory Credit: Photo by Stilling/Evening News/REX (889633a)
With His Son Julian, 1963McCartney recommended that his friend 14 year old George Harrison become the lead guitarist with his audition taking place rock ‘n roll style on the upper deck of a Liverpool bus. Though Lennon thought Harrison was way too young, he was impressed enough with his guitar playing skills to induct him into the group. Stuart Sutcliffe, Lennon’s friend from art school, joined as bassist. The four became The Beatles in early 1960 and by August they were engaged for a 48-night residency in Hamburg, Germany. Quickly taking on Pete Best as drummer, the band left for Germany much to conservative Aunt Mimi’s horror.
The Beatles ended up accepting three Hamburg residencies over the next couple of years. To keep up their energy during their long, overnight performances playing at clubs, the group started taking the amphetamine Preludin. Meanwhile, Cyn also failed to get her diploma; she rented Lennon’s old room in the Smith house, supported herself by working at a Woolworths store and waited patiently for her boyfriend’s return from Germany. Lennon loved writing many passionate letters to her and on one trip home brought her a suede coat. Aunt Mimi threw a hand-mirror at him for spending so much money on that “gangster’s moll,†perhaps disappointed that her adopted son didn’t bring the expensive gift for her.
In a 1987 interview, McCartney said that the other Beatles idolised John: “He was like our own little Elvis … We all looked up to John. He was older and he was very much the leader; he was the quickest wit and the smartest.â€
The upcoming band’s fortunes changed when one day in end ‘61, local record store owner and music columnist, Brian Epstein caught their lunch time performance at The Cavern Club, an underground jazz and rock ‘n roll nightclub in Liverpool. Epstein said, “I immediately liked what I heard. They were fresh, and they were honest, and they had what I thought was a sort of presence … a star quality.†However, he felt, “They were a scruffy crowd in leather and jeans, and they were not very tidy and not very clean. They smoked as they played and they ate and talked and pretended to hit each other.â€
The Beatles Invade America
Yoko Ono belonged to a noble Japanese family, one of the wealthiest in the country. She was class mates with Prince Akihito, the future Emperor of Japan. But they lost their fortune and begged for food after the Tokyo bombings
Though Epstein had no prior experience of artist management, he had a vision for the band. The Beatles in their turn were impressed that Epstein had the inherent Jewish business savvy, wore expensive suits, and owned a large car. They soon sign with him as their manager though McCartney, Harrison, and Best all under 21, needed the signed consent of their parents first. Epstein had them clean up their act by putting on sharp suits and ties, insisted that they stop swearing, smoking, drinking, or eating on stage, and had them bow at the end of their performances.
Epstein described the process of their style evolution, “I encouraged them, at first, to get out of the leather jackets and jeans, and I wouldn’t allow them to appear in jeans after a short time, and then, after that step, I got them to wear sweaters on stage, and then, very reluctantly, eventually, suits.†Epstein found a suit design he thought would work on the young band mates, “I thought it was an excellent design at the time.â€
McCartney was the first to agree with Epstein’s suggestions thinking that they reflected his RADA (Royal Academy of Dramatic Art) training and believing that the changes made the group look more professional. He said, “We all went quite happily over the water to Wirral, to Beno Dorn, a little tailor who made mohair suits. That started to change the image.â€
Lennon initially resisted wearing suits and ties, but then gave in saying, “I’ll wear a suit; I’ll wear a bloody balloon if somebody’s going to pay me.â€
Master Dorn was awarded two Provincial Shields, awarded for excellence in the art of tailoring, due to his fine work for the Beatles. His sharp tailoring became a part of their image.
Cyn told John she was pregnant. “There’s only one thing for it Cyn, we’ll have to get married,†he replied prosaically. He was 21, she was 22. The Lennons were married in the summer of ‘62 at a Marriage Registery office with McCartney and Harrison in attendance. Epstein was the best man and none of the parents were invited. It was a simple ceremony and very hush hush with no photographs or flowers as Epstein wanted Lennon to appear to be single for the benefit of his growing legion of female fans. The wedding was celebrated afterwards in the same restaurant where John’s parents had celebrated their marriage in 1938—thoughtful Epstein had taken care of it all. The newlyweds had no honeymoon, as Lennon had to play a gig the same night. During her pregnancy, Epstein lent his flat for the couple to live in. On one occasion, when news of the wedding leaked out, the group denied it pointblank. Cynthia was content to keep a low profile, and let her husband bask in the spotlight, loath to endanger his fledgling career.
On The Ed Sullivan Show
The band’s first single, Love Me Do was released at this time. Their debut album Please Please Me, was recorded in less than 10 hours. Lennon recalled how effortless it was, “We were just writing songs … pop songs with no more thought of them than that—to create a sound. And the words were almost irrelevant.†By early next year, Beatlemania had started with the band’s mainstream success in the U.K. They were the boy band pop sensation not only of their time but of all time.
Lennon was on tour when his first son, John Charles Julian Lennon, was born. The baby boy had been named after John’s deceased mother Julia. John did not see his son until three days later, remarking, “He’s bloody marvelous, Cyn! … Who’s gonna be a famous rocker like his Dad then?â€
Yoko was briefly admitted to a Japanese mental institution after her first marriage collapsed. She was suffering from acute depression
“He called me a queer so I battered his bloody ribs in,†Lennon justified.
At the end of ’63, the Beatles were invited to the Prince of Wales Theatre in London for the Royal Command Performance in the presence of the Queen Mother, Princess Margaret and Lord Snowdon. (Queen Elizabeth was heavily pregnant with her youngest Prince Edward at the time.) Reporters looking for a story goaded the band mates that they had sold out their young fans by choosing to play at such an “establishment†event. They even asked cheekily if they would lose their Liverpool accents that evening. “No, we don’t all speak like BBC,†McCartney volleyed back. The Beatles were greeted by countless screaming fans, while the royals were greeted decorously and the other celebrities were virtually ignored.
Lennon recalled his feelings, “I was fantastically nervous but I wanted to say something to rebel a bit.†So he deadpanned, “For our next song, I’d like to ask for your help. For the people in the cheaper seats, clap your hands … and the rest of you, if you’ll just rattle your jewellery. We’d like to sing a song called Twist And Shout.
The Beatles’ appearance was a triumph. But they declined all subsequent invitations to reappear on the show. Lennon explained why in his 1970 Anthology: “We managed to refuse all sorts of things that people don’t know about. We did the Royal Variety Show, and we were asked discreetly to do it every year after that, but we always said, ‘Stuff it.’ So every year there was a story in the newspapers: ‘Why no Beatles for the Queen?’ which was pretty funny, because they didn’t know we’d refused. That show’s a bad gig, anyway. Everybody’s very nervous and uptight and nobody performs well.â€
The “lost
weekendâ€
Their next triumph came across the pond. After a year of Beatlemania in the UK, the group made their US debut appearance on The Ed Sullivan Show in ’64. The band’s mega stardom reached the stratosphere. For the next two years, the Beatles incessantly toured, made movies and wrote songs for their upcoming albums. Lennon also managed to write two books: In His Own Write and A Spaniard in the Works that had his cartoons in it. In ‘65 The Beatles were appointed Members of the Order of the British Empire (MBE) in the 1965 Queen’s Birthday Honours for their achievements and for being ambassadors for British culture.
The same year they were honoured, they were also introduced to LSD. A dentist hosting a dinner party attended by Lennon and Harrison accompanied by their wives secretly spiked the guests’ coffee with the drug. When they wanted to leave, their host confessed to what he had done and told them they’d better stay put till the effect wore off. Later that night, in an elevator at a nightclub, they all believed it was on fire: “We were all screaming … hot and hysterical,†Lennon recalled. This was the beginning of their LSD addiction. Lennon spent 1967 almost constantly under its influence. As his dependence on the drug increased, he drifted further and further away from Cynthia.
One incident that occurred at this time during an interview with Evening Standard reporter Maureen Cleave was to seal his fate. Lennon told her offhand, “Christianity will go. It will vanish and shrink … We’re more popular than Jesus now—I don’t know which will go first, rock and roll or Christianity.†Their Brit fans didn’t bat an eyelid at the comment, but Americans in the super conservative Bible Belt and Deep South are a different breed.  Pandemonium broke out over there with the Ku Klux Klan organising mass burning of Beatles records, and posting death threats against Lennon. Things got so bad that for a while, the Beatles suspended all Stateside tour plans.
Lennon had resumed songwriting prior to his assassination
With his cutting wit, Lennon regularly mocked Epstein calling him a “Queer Jew!†When he heard that Epstein was naming his autobiography, A Cellarful of Noise, Lennon cracked, “More like A Cellarful of Boys.†During the recording of “Baby, You’re a Rich Man (1967), he sang “Baby, you’re a rich fag Jew†just to upset Epstein. None of the other Beatles were as aggressive against their manager who had succeeded in bringing them the promised riches. Was Lennon homophobic perhaps? But then why did he go away on holiday alone with Epstein?
One day, John Lennon met the Japanese-American conceptual artist Yoko Ono, seven years his senior.
Yoko (Ocean Child) was born in Tokyo to wealthy banker Isoko and Eisuke, formerly a classical pianist. Eisuke came from a long line of samurai warrior-scholars and was the daughter of Yasuda Zenjiro who owned the country’s largest financial conglomerate in Japan till it was dissolved at the end of World War II. Belonging to such an upper class family, Yoko was enrolled at Tokyo’s elite Gakushuin (Peers School) founded in 1847 by Emperor Nink? in Kyoto to educate the children of the Imperial nobility and led a blessed life.
Ono was controlling and interfering, and caused friction between the band mates
But following the devastating Tokyo bombings that brought Japan to its knees, even the rich couldn’t stave off starvation. The Ono family too scrounged for food while pushing a wheelchair laden with what was left of their worldly belongings. Ono said this period in her life gave her her “aggressive†attitude.  Her mother managed to bring some of their possessions with them to the countryside,where they were bartered for food, for example Eisuke wisely traded her German-made sewing machine for 60 kilograms of rice with which to feed the family. Isoko had been in Hanoi all this time and was now believed to be a prisoner of war in China. Yoko said in an interview, “He was in French Indochina, which is Vietnam actually…. in Saigon. He was in a concentration camp.â€
By April 1946, conditions in the country started slowly improving. The family moved back to Tokyo. Yoko’s school Gakushuin located near the Tokyo Imperial Palace had miraculously remained unscathed and had reopened and she re-enrolled there. Ono became the classmate of Prince Akihito, the future Emperor of Japan, and they graduated in 1951. Yoko was the first woman to enroll into the philosophy program of Gakushuin University but she didn’t graduate from there as she joined her family in the U.S.
Lennon, a hand-on dad, was on his way home from the recording studio when he was shot
After the war ended in 1945, Ono’s family had immigrated to the U.S. and settled in the affluent town of Scarsdale, New York, half an hour from the City. Ono transferred to Sarah Lawrence College to be with her parents, but she had been living away from them for nine years and had become independent of thought and lifestyle. Ono liked the Bohemian life, meeting artists, poets, and other freethinkers, much to her parent’s shock and disapproval. Inspired by visits to art galleries and seeing avant garde artistes put up installations and do performance art, she dropped out of college, set up a performance art studio in Tribeca, NYC and eloped with Japanese avant garde composer Toshi Ichiyanagi in 1956. The same age as her, Toshi was the experimental fusion music star in Japan, combing Western instruments with those of his country. But the marriage was a mistake and, after living apart for several years, they filed for divorce in 1962.
Suffering from acute depression, Ono returned home to live with her parents and was briefly admitted to a mental institution in Japan. Upon her return Stateside, the impulsive young woman married Anthony Cox, an American jazz musician, film producer, and art promoter and they had a daughter Kyoko Chan Cox. Yoko left their daughter in Anthony’s full time care while she pursued her art career single-mindedly. Not surprisingly, the marriage disintegrated but the couple stayed together for the sake of their joint careers as conceptual artists, while Cox also managed Yoko’s publicity.
To cut a long story short, according to Lennon and Ono, in 1966, he went to the Indica Gallery in London, where she was putting up her conceptual art exhibit. They were introduced by gallery owner John Dunbar. Ono’s Hammer A Nail exhibit called from viewers to hammer a nail into a wooden board. The exhibition had not yet begun, but Lennon wanted to hammer a nail in. When Ono stopped him, Dunbar said to her in disbelief, “Don’t you know who this is? He’s a millionaire! He might buy it.†Ono had supposedly not heard of the Beatles, but said he could if he paid her five shillings. Lennon replied, “I’ll give you an imaginary five shillings and hammer an imaginary nail in.â€
Chapman was a born-again Christian who believed Lennon had committed blasphemy
According to McCartney, the year before Ono had been in London compiling original musical scores for John Cage’s book Notations. She asked McCartney first to give her his own manuscripts for the book but he declined and suggesting that Lennon might oblige. When she approached him, he readily gave her the original handwritten lyrics to “The Word.â€
Perhaps as the first made a better story as well as promoted Ono’s art, the couple agreed to put out their own version of their first meeting to make better copy.
Julian
In a 2002 interview, Ono admitted, “I was very attracted to him. It was a really strange situation.â€
In ’66, the Beatles lost their manager Norman Epstein to a lethal combination of sleeping pills and alcohol. He died in his bed wearing his pajamas and was discovered by his butler. The rock ‘n roll lifestyle had caught up with him. The Beatles were meditating with the Indian guru, Maharishi Mahesh Yogi in the countryside, in Bagnor, Berkshire. Things would never be the same for the band again. Epstein had seemingly effortlessly managed to turn the promising band into one of the biggest acts of the day and left them free to focus on their creative output while he dealt with the business end. He also advised them in their personal lives and provided the balance for their ego-driven rock star personalities. The band mates had no idea how quickly they would drift apart without him.
Meanwhile, Ono was aggressively pursuing her wealthy and world famous would be patron—Lennon. She sent him a slew of letters asking Lennon to sponsor her art show. He too enjoyed corresponding, earlier writing long letters to Cynthia. She even started calling his house. Suspicious, Cyn asked her husband for an explanation but he dismissed it saying she was an artist asking money for her “avant-garde bullshit.†In ‘67, Ono convinced him to sponsor her solo show at Lisson Gallery in London. Till the spring of 1968, the two remained platonic. When the Beatles made their meditation ashram trip to India, Lennon wrote the song Julia that had the lyrics, “Ocean child calls me.â€
Julian Was Named After John’s Later Mother JuliaThe Queen Mother Greeting The Beatles At The Royal Variety Command Performance In Nov, ’63
While his wife was on holiday in Greece that summer, Lennon invited Ono over to his Kenwood home one night to record the Two Virgins album after which he said, they “made love at dawn.†When Lennon’s wife returned home she found Ono wearing her bathrobe and drinking tea with Lennon. He looked nonchalantly at Cyn and said, “Oh, hi.†Cynthia walked out of the house to stay with friends. To exact revenge and to apply salve on her bruised ego, Cynthia slept with Alexis Mardas, the Greek electronics engineer who worked with the band.
When Lennon found out, he asked for a divorce on the grounds that she had committed adultery, a clear case of the pot calling the kettle black. He also wanted custody of Julian, even though he didn’t feel especially close to him. Ono had become pregnant and he wanted to be with her. After negotiations, Lennon capitulated and agreed to let Julia divorce him on the same grounds. The case was settled out of court by the end of the year soon after Ono suffered a miscarriage losing her male baby. Lennon was directed by the judge to give Cynthia a lump sum of £100,000, a small annual payment and custody of Julian.
Lennon said that at the time of Julian’s birth, which was unplanned, he was very young and focused on his career. He was never actively involved in bringing up Julian who felt closer to McCartney than to his own father. On a car journey to visit Cynthia and Julian during Lennon’s divorce, McCartney composed the song, Hey Jules, to comfort him that became the Beatles song Hey Jude. Lennon commented, “That’s his (McCartney’s) best song. It started off as a song about my son Julian … he turned it into Hey Jude.†Lennon too wrote the songs, Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds and Good Night for Julian so he did have feelings for his son.
Without Epstein to keep them together, the band mates started pursuing interests independently of each other. Lennon appeared in the anti-war, black comedy How I Won the War (1967). McCartney took it upon himself to give the band mates a point of focus while coming to terms with Epstein’s untimely death so he made himself in charge of their television special, Magical Mystery Tour . The Beatles immersed themselves in making this psychedelic TV film, which did better with American rather than British audiences.
With Epstein no longer around to take care of the business end, the band members took it upon themselves to handle their financial matters. With that in mind in ‘68 they formed Apple Corps, a multimedia corporation. Lennon described it as “artistic freedom within a business structure.†But they were inexperienced in business matters and the company was soon plagued by problems and sorely in need of professional management. A young receptionist at the company May Pang became Lennon and Ono’s personal assistant.
Lennon spent more and more time with Ono and less with the other Beatles. Knowing that their wedding in 1969 would become a huge global press event, John and Yoko decided to use the publicity to promote world peace. A week long bed-in served as their honeymoon. The couple essentially remained in bed wearing their pajamas and invited the press to the Presidential Suite (Room 702) at the Amsterdam Hilton Hotel every day between 9 a.m. and 9 p.m. Signs reading “Hair Peace†and “Bed Peace†were pasted above their headboard. The novel event garnered headlines the world over and they repeated their bed-in in Montreal. John stated to the press, “It’s part of our policy not to be taken seriously. Our opposition, whoever they may be, in all manifest forms, doesn’t know how to handle humour. You know, and we are humorous, we are, what are they, Laurel and Hardy. That’s John and Yoko, and we stand a better chance under that guise, because all the serious people, like Martin Luther King, and Kennedy, and Gandhi, got shot.†How prophetic!
But what the world did not find humorous was the breakup of the Beatles, for which they blamed Ono. She maintained that the Beatles broke up themselves without any direct involvement from her and said, “I don’t think I could have tried even to break them up.â€
When the group recorded Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band in ‘66, there was still a fraternal spirit between them and they wanted to collaborate together as musicians. It was after that trouble started. The break-up of the Beatles was a not due to a single event or factor but a cumulative process throughout the period 1968 to 1970.
Some of the factors leading to the breakup were the cessation of touring in 1966, the death of Epstein and differences in artistic vision with each of the member pursuing his own musical tastes. McCartney was more into pop, Harrison was interested in Indian music, and Lennon’s compositions became more introspective and experiential. To make matters worse, unlike the other wives, Yoko did not leave John’s side for a minute, they were always together even when he was working with the rest of the band in the studio. The band mates had made a tacit agreement not to let the women in their lives into their inner sanctum, their studio. Not only that, but Lennon insisted that she should also have a say and input into the band’s recordings. She would make her opinion known without being asked. Harrison especially found her presence and interference increasingly irritating. After all they had achieved their massive success without her help. Harrison was evolving fast as an artist and wanted more space to write songs and sing lead vocals, but Lennon and McCartney dominated the band.
Disregarding the friction she was causing, Ono became so controlling that when she and Lennon were injured in a car accident in the summer of ‘69, partway through recording Abbey Road, and she was laid up in bed, she had a microphone installed in the studio so she could make artistic comments about the album during their recordings.
Journalist Barry Miles wrote that Ono’s continual presence in the studio put a considerable strain on Lennon’s relationship with the other band members. Harrison was so fed up that when she took one of his chocolate digestive biscuits without asking that he exploded and told her off in a rage. As all these stories leaked to the press, she was called “the woman who broke up the Beatles†and became extremely unpopular with fans.
Ono influenced Lennon to produce more “autobiographical†output and, after recording Beatles single, The Ballad of John and Yoko they formed their own band, the Plastic Ono Band. They came out with their first album Live Peace in Toronto 1969, which was recorded during the Toronto Rock and Roll Revival festival and for which guitarist Eric Clapton, bass player Klaus Voormann, and drummer Alan White collaborated with them. After the rock first half, Ono performed an avant-garde set screaming on the microphone. Lennon’s heroin use inspired him to record the song Cold Turkey with the Plastic Ono Band. The Beatles had rejected the song for release as a single even though all the band mates had their own personal drug issues.
His fans greeting his independent musical output with ready enthusiasm greatly cemented Lennon’s decision to quit the Beatles in ‘69 on the flight back to London from Toronto after playing at the Rock and Roll Festival. Back in England, at the next band meeting at Apple, he informed McCartney and Starr of his decision (Harrison was not present at the meeting). He said he wanted a “divorce.†But that day the band also signed a lucrative renegotiated recording contract with Capitol Records, guaranteeing them a higher royalty rate, so Lennon was asked to keep his decision private until the release of the Beatles’ Let It Be album and film the following year. Since it was a mutually beneficial contract that they had negotiated together, and the band mates still trusted each other, they kept this crucial information to themselves.
By 1970, knowing which way the wind was blowing, all four band members had begun working on solo projects. At the end of the year, McCartney filed a lawsuit against the other three Beatles Let It Be album and film the following year. Since it was a mutually beneficial contract that they had negotiated together, and the band mates still trusted each other, they kept this crucial information to themselves.
By 1970, knowing which way the wind was blowing, all four band members had begun working on solo projects. At the end of the year, McCartney filed a lawsuit against the other three Beatles in London’s High Court for dissolution of the Beatles’ contractual partnership. The legal process and negotiations were so lengthy and complicated that it took five years for formal dissolution of the partnership to finalise.
Rock stars have groupies throwing themselves at them daily. There is so much temptation and opportunity to stray. Every couple faces eventual boredom in the bedroom no matter how strong their marriage may be. Being intelligent, Ono was faced with a choice, either she orchestrate a set up and give her blessing to Lennon straying or worse he would end up doing to her what he did to his first wife. In mid ‘73, Ono confided her dilemma to their personal assistant May Pang who had been working for them for three years by now. The 22 year old Chinese-American assistant was neither glamorous nor come from a lofty background. Best of all, Ono felt she could control her and the situation. She told May, “He likes you a lot†and gave her blessing for them to start a physical relationship.
Despite her reservations about how the sexual relationship would pan out, May Pang started sleeping with Lennon and the two moved to L.A. There he started working on an album with record producer Phil Spector, a frequent collaborator with the Beatles. Their drunken recording sessions became legendary and it is said that every musician in L.A. was desperate for an invite to join in their jam sessions. Lennon soon became out of control and later called this 18 month period his “Lost Weekend.†Pang was just too young and inexperienced to be able to control Lennon who was in his early thirties. Ono had been more of an older mother figure who could stabilize him. Not knowing what to do, after a series of calamitous incidents where he publicly behaved self-destructively , Pang encouraged Lennon to reach out to old band mates, friends and even develop regular contact with Julian, whom he had not seen for two years. Ono had always discouraged his contact with his son since she felt threatened by it. Starr, McCartney, Beatles roadie Mal Evans, and American musician Harry Nilsson all came and spent time with Lennon under his roof in L.A. and things improved for Lennon.
Julian began to see his father more regularly. Christmas of ’73, Lennon bought Julian a Gibson Les Paul guitar and a drum machine, and he himself taught his son some chords. “Dad and I got on a great deal better then. We had a lot of fun, laughed a lot and had a great time in general when he was with May Pang. My memories of that time with Dad and May are very clear—they were the happiest time I can remember with them,†recalled Julian wistfully.
But Lennon’s old violence also resurfaced at this time and one night after a heavy night of drinking he tried to throttle Pang. So summer of ‘74, a sober Lennon and Pang returned to live in NYC so he could concentrate on recording and adopted two cats which they named Major and Minor. They also had a spare room for Julian when he visited. Lennon was rewarded for his good behavior with the success of his album Walls and Bridges topping the album charts, and his solo single “Whatever Gets You Thru the Night†becoming the number-one US single, the only one in his lifetime.
While visiting Mick Jagger at Andy Warhol’s compound in Montauk, New York, in early ’75, Lennon and Pang saw a Scottish-style cottage they really liked and Lennon told a real estate broker to put in an offer for it. This was too much for Ono. She was still his wife and had no intention of letting him go so easily. Her understanding with Pang didn’t include buying a house together as a couple that meant a commitment.
Yoko With Her Japanese Upperclass Parents Isoko & Eisuke Ono
Ono started her old formula of calling Lennon nonstop. If it worked once, she figured, it would work again. He refused to take her calls as he knew what she was after. She had also sent him a message via McCartney. Lennon and Pang were planning to visit Paul and Linda McCartney in New Orleans that February where they were recording their Venus and Mars album, but the day before Ono finally reeled Lennon in saying she had a miraculous cure for his smoking habit. After their meeting, Lennon neither returned home nor called Pang. When Pang telephoned the next day, Ono told her that Lennon was unavailable. The married couple’s separation was over, although Ono would allow him to continue seeing Pang as his mistress to give him the illusion of choice.
Privately Lennon kept quiet to maintain peace at home but publicly he was generous enough to give Pang respect telling biographer Larry Kane, “You know Larry, I may have been the happiest I’ve ever been… I loved this woman (Pang), I made some beautiful music and I got so fucked up with booze and shit and whatever.â€
Ono knew she had to cement her relationship with a child. She had suffered three miscarriages already in her attempt to have a child with Lennon. When the couple reunited, she became pregnant for the fourth time. Not being the mothering sort, she told Lennon that unless he was willing to be a househusband and take care of the baby like her previous husband had done she would abort. He agreed readily. Sean Taro Ono Lennon was born on Lennon’s 35th birthday and was a heaven sent gift for him. Elton John stood in as the baby’s godfather. True to his word, Lennon took five years off from the music industry to take care of his second son.
Lennon was a dedicated, hands on dad. He declared proudly, “He (Sean) didn’t come out of my belly but, by God, I made his bones, because I’ve attended to every meal, and to how he sleeps, and to the fact that he swims like a fish.†He even hired a photographer take pictures of Sean every day of his first year and himself made drawings for him, who were posthumously published as Real Love: The Drawings for Sean.
All this devotion to his second son did not help relations with his first son. In a Playboy interview shortly before his death, Lennon said honestly, “I’m not going to lie to Julian. Ninety percent of the people on this planet, especially in the West, were born out of a bottle of whiskey on a Saturday night, and there was no intent to have children. So 90 percent of us… that includes everybody… were accidents. I don’t know anybody who was a planned child. All of us were Saturday-night specials. Julian is in the majority, along with me and everybody else. Sean is a planned child, and therein lies the difference. I don’t love Julian any less as a child. He’s still my son, whether he came from a bottle of whiskey or because they didn’t have pills in those days. He’s here, he belongs to me and he always will.†Lennon added he was trying to re-establish a connection with then 17-year-old Julian saying “Julian and I will have a relationship in the future.â€
Surprise, surprise, after his death it was revealed that he had left Julian very little in his will. His entire estate after taxes was left to Ono, and Sean will inherit the £220 million fortune after her death as per Lennon’s will.
Even now, the two brothers are not close, though they are cordial. Julian said that he doesn’t feel resentment towards his younger half-brother, “I love Sean to death. He’s a very smart kid. But I do think there are things done without his knowledge. Someone in the camp could be manipulating events,†referring to Ono’s manipulative influence in an interview.
It wasn’t till shortly before his December 1980 murder that Lennon resumed his musical career. There was always a healthy competitiveness between Lennon and McCartney who had both dominated the Beatles with their songwriting and vocal talents. As long as McCartney was producing what Lennon considered mediocre material, Lennon was relaxed enough to enjoy his musical hiatus, the minute McCartney released Coming Up in 1980, Lennon sat up and took notice. “It’s driving me crackers!†He remarked that he couldn’t get the tune out of his head and so competitively Lennon started writing songs again.
Yoko Ono, Daughter Kyoko Cox & Second Husband Anthony Cox Who Brought Up Their Daughter Without Yoko’s Help
Remember the offhand remark that Lennon had made thoughtlessly how the Beatles were “more popular than Jesus†way back in 1966? Well, there was a deranged Beatles fan from Texas named Mark David Chapman who had gotten obsessed with it. A big Beatles fan, he had idolized Lennon and himself played the guitar trying to be like Lennon. But after he became a born-again Christian, he turned against his idol. Jan Reeves, the sister of Chapman’s best friend Mark, said he “seemed really angry toward John Lennon and he kept saying he could not understand why John Lennon had said it (that the Beatles were more popular than Jesus). There should be nobody more popular than the Lord Jesus Christ. He said it was blasphemy.†When members of his prayer group made a joke in reference to Lennon’s song Imagine chanting “Imagine, imagine if John Lennon were dead,†the idea of the assassination was born, Chapman’s childhood friend Miles McManushe told interviewers after the event.
Chapman had also been influenced by reading John Lennon: One Day at a Time by Anthony Fawcett detailing Lennon’s rock ‘n roll lifestyle in NYC. Chapman’s wife Gloria stated, “He was angry that Lennon would preach love and peace but yet have millions of dollars.†She quoted him saying, “â€I would listen to this music and I would get angry at him, for saying that he didn’t believe in God… and that he didn’t believe in the Beatles….He told us to imagine no possessions and there he was, with millions of dollars and yachts and farms and country estates, laughing at people like me who had believed the lies and bought the records and built a big part of their lives around his music. I just wanted to scream out loud, ‘Who does he think he is, saying these things about God and heaven and the Beatles?’â€
So three months prior to the murder, Chapman started planning to kill Lennon. He admitted he had a whole hit list of people in mind, including David Bowie, Johnny Carson, Marlon Brando, Walter Cronkite, Elizabeth Taylor, George C. Scott and Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, but John Lennon was the easiest to find. He was also particularly infatuated by Lennon.
Ono recalled the events of the fateful evening of December 8, 1980 with precision. The couple was thinking about going out for dinner after spending several hours in a recording studio, but decided to return to their apartment first so Lennon could see Sean before he went to bed. Right at the entrance of their Dakota apartment building, Chapman was waiting for them. He fired five times at Lennon at close range, hitting him four times in the back. Lennon died on the spot in Ono’s arms. Chapman calmly sat down to read The Catcher in the Rye until the police arrived and arrested him. He kept repeating to them that the novel was his statement.
Chapman’s legal team wanted to plead not guilty due to insanity in Chapman’s defense. Not only had he killed Lennon who was such vocal proponent of peace and brotherly love, but he had shot him in the back, a cowardly act, and then had waited calmly to be arrested. He had to be insane. His lawyers had expert testimony that he was a paranoid schizophrenic who believed the devil made him kill Lennon. But Chapman insisted that he wanted to plead guilty because he was carrying out the will of God, and denied hearing voices prompting the act; he also said God had visited him in his jail cell and told him to confess. Justice Dennis Edwards allowed the plea change without further psychiatric assessment. Dr. Daniel Schwartz, director of forensic psychiatric services at Kings County Hospital, told the judge in court that he said Chapman actually became John Lennon in his own mind, and decided to destroy the real John Lennon because Lennon was “evil†and “a phony.â€
Chapman was sentenced to a prison term of 20-years-to life with psychiatric treatment during his incarceration; he has been imprisoned ever since, having been denied parole nine times since he became eligible in 2000. Each time there is a parole hearing, mandated by law to be every two years, Ono is there in person to lead the campaign against his parole.
Following the murder, a distraught Ono went into complete seclusion for an extended period.
The Bed In At The Amsterdam Hilton Served As The Couple’s Honeymoon In ’69
In the coming years she continued to honour Lennon’s memory. She funded the construction and maintenance of the Strawberry Fields memorial in remembrance of Lennon in Manhattan’s Central Park, directly across from the Dakota Apartments, where she still lives to this day. The memorial was officially opened on Lennon’s 45th birth anniversary. In 1990, Ono collaborated with music consultant Jeff Pollack to honor Lennon’s 50th birth anniversary with 1,000 stations in over 50 countries participating in the simultaneous broadcast of his ’71 peace song Imagine. In 1997, Ono and the BMI Foundation established an annual music competition program for songwriters in honor of John Lennon’s memory. In 2000, she founded the John Lennon Museum in Saitama, Japan. Ono was present as U.K. First Lady Cherie Blair’s unveiling of a 7-foot statue of Lennon in 2002 to mark the renaming of Liverpool airport to Liverpool John Lennon Airport. (Incidentally, Julian and Cynthia Lennon were present at the unveiling of the John Lennon Peace Monument next to ACC Liverpool eight years later.) Ono dedicated a new memorial called the Imagine Peace Tower located on an island near the ReykjavÃk harbour, Iceland, in 2007 that projects a vertical beam of light high into the sky. And, in 2009, Ono created an exhibit called John Lennon: The New York City Years for the NYC Rock and Roll Hall of Fame Annex, using music, photographs, and personal items.
John Lennon Vintage Signed Apple Records PublicityAt Sean’s Birth
But toward Lennon’s first born son Julian Ono remained intractable. Because he was completely left out of his own father’s will in favour of his stepmother, Julian had no choice but to take the matter to court. After a legal battle that lasted for years, the matter was finally settled with Julian reportedly getting £20 million, which he denied.
Yoko One hasn’t remarried.
Before his death, Lennon declared, “I still love those guys. The Beatles are over, but John, Paul, George and Ringo go on.â€
All Bollywood fans mourned Sridevi’s tragic untimely demise this February. The highest earning Indian actress of her time, she was Bollywood’s first female Superstar carrying the movie on her own appeal without relying on a big name hero. Acting in Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam, Kannada and Hindi language films, she had pan Indian appeal, and was a talented dancer as well as having great comedic timing. In a national poll, Sridevi was voted “India’s Greatest Actress in 100 Years.â€
Her death as in her life drew in the crowds with hundreds of thousands of mourners lining Mumbai’s streets crying out “Sridevi Amar Rahe†(long live Sridevi) as her funeral cortege slowly traversed the six km. from Green Acres society where the family lived in an apartment in Lokhandwala Complex to the crematorium in Vile Parle. The funeral procession was headed by a tall, open truck covered in white flowers (her favourite colour) a massive portrait of Sridevi in the back. Her body draped in the national flag and encased Snow White like in a glass casket was done up with full make-up, wearing a ceremonial gold and maroon coloured Kanjeevaram sari with a large gold necklace and sindoor (vermilion) on her forehead to proclaim her suhaagan (married woman) status. The Kapoor men, Boney, Anil, Sanjay and Arjun travelled in the truck with the body. The Maharashtra government accorded full state honours for the funeral and there was a gun salute before the cremation. Her last rites were performed by her two daughters, Jhanvi and Khushi, as Boney looked on with his head bent mournfully. Sridevi’s ashes are to be scattered at sea.
Let’s take a look back at her life, career and her relationship with her beloved Boney and her lovely girls.
Born Shree Amma Yanger Ayyapan in 1963 in Sivakasi, Madras State, to a Tamil lawyer, Ayyapan, and Rajeshwaramma, belonging to an upper caste Reddy family from Andhra Pradesh, Sridevi had a younger sister Srilatha. The family was strictly vegetarian and, till her marriage, Sridevi was always accompanied by her mother or by her sister on film sets. She started acting in Tamil films at only four years of age in 1967. In 1972, Sridevi made her first Bollywood movie as a child artist and, in 1975, she portrayed the heroine’s youngest sibling in the cult classic Julie.
Hitting puberty, Sridevi starred in her first leading role in a Tamil film at only 13 in 1976. In the following years, she followed it up with a number of films with South Indian Superstars, Kamal Haasan and Rajinikanth. Fittingly aged 16, Sridevi made her Hindi film debut as a heroine in Solva Sawan in 1979. But her big break in Bollywood came four years later when she stared opposite Jeetendra in Himmatwala, which became one of the biggest blockbusters of the year. The actress with massive “Thunder Thighsâ€Â became a huge hit with the masses. Her vigorous dance on the catchy song “Nainon Mein Sapna†fully synchronized with Jeetandra made her an overnight sensation, as did her daring, loud outfits and elaborate headgear. The very next year, the two starred in Tohfa, the biggest hit of the year, making Sridevi a bona fide star. She appeared on the cover of Filmfare magazine with the headline, “Unquestionably No.1!†In total, Jeetendra and Sridevi ended up doing 16 films together, including the above two.
In 1986, Sridevi played a woman/snake in Nagina, the second biggest blockbuster of the year. Though many actresses have played this role complete with writhing snake like dance moves, Sridevi’s dexterous climax dance on the song “Main Teri Dushman†became the snake dance to beat for all Indian actresses.
In her personal life, Sridevi’s parents arranged her marriage with Indian-American tennis player Vijay Amritraj who had newly become famous playing on the American tennis circuit. However, she broke off her engagement as she had fallen for Bengali born and raised Bollywood Disco dancing star, Mithun Chakraborty, husband of another actress Yogeeta Bali. Between 1984 and 1989, Mithun and Sridevi starred in four Hindi films together. Their relationship conincided with a spate of second marriages of Hindu Bollywood actors with their actress paramours, such as Dharmendra with Hema Malini and Raj Babbar with Smita Patil. In 1985, Mithun too secretly wed Sridevi. After three years of waiting in the wings, Sridevi gave up on the relationship after Yogeeta tried to commit suicide and Mithun refused to either publicly acknowledge his second marriage or leave his first wife. A steadfast Yogeeta told a reporter, “I will accept it even if he takes on a second wife.†Sridevi figured Mithun was neither getting divorced like he claimed nor going to in the future, Sridevi got her marriage annulled in 1988. Incidentally,  Mithun went back to Yogeeta, and the couple is still married today and has four children together.
At this point, producer, older brother of star Anil Kapoor and son of Hindi film producer Surinder Kapoor, Boney finally spoke up and made his feelings known to Sridevi. Boney had been smitten with the actress after watching her in a Tamil film, and once she made her Bollywood debut, offered her a role in a movie he was planning Mr. India starring brother Anil. Boney admitted later, “I fell in love with Sri after watching her Tamil film during the late 1970s. I even flew to Chennai to meet her but she was shooting in Singapore. A few months later, I watched Sri’s debut Hindi film Solva Sawan (1979) and realised I wanted her to work with me. One day I went to meet her on the sets of a movie. But Sri was an introvert and wouldn’t talk to strangers. She talked to me in half-broken English and Hindi and just said that her mother took care of her projects. When she (her mother) asked for Rs. 10 lakh, I offered her Rs. 11 lakh because I wanted to be close to Sri. Her mother was impressed.â€
During the shooting he continued to make an extra effort, “There were no vanity vans at that time but I arranged for a separate make-up room for her (Sridevi). Gradually, she felt comfortable with me,†he said.
In 1983, Boney had an arranged marriage with Mona and had two children, Arjun and Anshula, with her as Sridevi was heavily involved with Mithun. In fact, Mithun had first gained fame in Boney’s 1980 production of the rural set drama Hum Paanch. Mona recalled that Mithun didn’t approve of Sridevi’s close friendship with her producer Boney and to reassure the former she tied a raakhi on the latter and declared him to be like a brother to her.
When the award winning Shekhar Kapur directed Mr. India, the sci-fi movie about a hero who becomes invisible, became the highest grosser of the year, defying all odds, it . Another of Sridevi’s unique dance numbers on the song “Hawa Hawaii,†her comedic turn as Charlie Chaplin, as well as the villain Amrish Puri’s catchphrase “Mogambo khush hua†(Mogambo is pleased) in the cult classic became super popular with the audience.
Sridevi’s character wearing a blue chiffon sari blowing in the wind sings “Kaate Nahin Kat Te/Yeh Din yeh raat/Lo aaj main kayhtee hun/ I love you†(These days and nights don’t seem to end without you, so I’m telling you today that I love you) to the hero, Boney probably imagined she was singing to him. Filmfare magazine described her as “truly a goddess in a blue sari.â€
Speaking about what first attracted him to Sridevi, the producer observed, “I was impressed from the start by the dignity with which she conducted herself. On the sets when she was shooting she would largely keep to herself. But she was never considered standoffish. There was always warmth towards her. What really endeared me to her was that she was down to earth. Success never went to her head. She was always grounded and continues to be. So commands respect spontaneously. When she enters a room people stand up for her.â€
Sridevi recalled their courtship years, “Boney came to me in 1984 to sign me to play Seema, the lead female role for Mr. India. He confessed later, that he fell in love with me outright.†Boney even paid off Sridevi’s mother‘s debts and the grateful actress finally started responding to his advances.
In 1989, Sridevi played a double role portraying fraternal twins separated at birth in ChaalBaaz, a feat she performed with great expertise. Director Pankaj Parashar said “She proved her range with the movie and after that she got lots of offers which saw her in a double role.†She was deemed to have such a wide range that she played double roles in four more movies. The same year saw the release of the uber successful producer Yash Chopra’s romantic comedy Chandni with Sridevi playing the title role and it became the biggest blockbusters of 1989.The Times of India declared it, “one of the most watched films of Indian cinema.†According to the Tribune, “Leena Daru (costume designer) scored a winner again when she created the ‘Chandni Look’ for Sridevi. Every street corner sold the salwar-kameez and dupatta that gave the heroine a refreshingly understated look, rarely seen on the Indian screen.†Additionally, Sridevi’s dance number on “Mere Hathon Mein Nau Nau Choodiyan†was played at every wedding and the audience thirsted for even more of her. Sridevi became the undisputed queen of Bollywood in the 80s. She got Filmfare Best Actress nominations for both the movies, and won the award for ChaalBaaz.
In her private life, stories about Sridevi’s affair with married man Boney gained momentum. But the couple denied the allegation and Sridevi vociferously brushed it aside as idle gossip.
Meanwhile, she continued to work in big budget commercial potboilers. Yash Chopra repeated his formula once again by casting Sridevi opposite Anil in his 1991 film Lamhe. Influential Indian website Rediff.com stated, “Quite easily one of his most definitive films, Chopra surpassed his own findings of romance with the insightful, lovely Lamhe….One of the most remarkable films of her career…often considered a film way ahead of its time.†Though critically acclaimed , the film’s theme of incest did not hit it off with the conservative class and even Sridevi found it to be “too bold†for her personal taste. However, it won five Filmfare trophies including Filmfare Award for Best Film and Sridevi’s second Filmfare Award for Best Actress. The Rajasthani costumes worn by the actress in the film also won designer Neeta Lulla her first National Film Award for Best Costume Design. This movie too over the years became a cult classic.
The next year, Sridevi starred in the epic Khuda Gawah opposite Bollywood Superstar Amitabh Bachchan. She played a double role as an Afghan warrior Benazir and her daughter. Shot mostly in Mazar-i-Sharif, Afghanistan, the movie was a huge hit there with BBC reporting that “it ran to packed houses for 10 weeks in Kabul.†The movie remained “in great demand after the re-opening of cinema halls in the country (in 2001)†according to a website.
By now madly in love with his heroine, Boney produced the most expensive Indian films of its time, the action comedy Roop Ki Rani Choron Ka Raja (1993) starring his brother and his ladylove. But the gimmicky movie bombed badly at the box office.
Their love, however, was flourishing. “He did take a few years to sort out his life before formally proposing to me in 1993,†the actress recalled. “I fell in love with him when I got to know the real him. It was difficult, traumatic even and it took me many years to finally accept the fact that I was destined to be with Boney. In hindsight, I only wish that I had realised and accepted his love for me sooner. I always believe in following my heart and I am glad that I did. My parents had passed away by then and my sister was shocked with my decision.â€
By now, Sridevi had been acting nonstop for 30 years. Her parents had both passed away from illness and her sister was married. The actress hankered for a family of her own. Judaai (1997) became Sridevi’s last film appearance before she took a 15 years hiatus from film acting. Yet again cast opposite Anil (soon to become her brother in law in real life), she portrayed a greedy, money hungry housewife who “sells†her husband to a rich girl.
Soon after, Sridevi got knocked up and the news of her pregnancy spread like wildfire.
Mona related her side to reporters, “He (Boney) was 10 years older to me. I was 19 when I married him. So I literally grew up with him. Ours was a 13-year-old marriage. So it came as a shock when I realised that my husband was in love with somebody else… There was nothing left in the relationship to give it a chance because Sridevi was already with child. My family, including my father, my mother and sister was the greatest support. The humiliation was painful because I was pitted against a heroine. I was made to feel lesser than her. The industry wives gave me suggestions like, ‘Why don’t you lose weight?’ or ‘Why don’t you join a gym?’ All this made me realise that I had to get up, dust myself and start walking all over again. Also the advice that my friend Meena’s mother gave me became the gospel truth for me. She said, ‘If somebody has no place for you in their lives, then you can have no place for them in yours.’ I understood that I had not failed – my relationship had!’†Their two kids Arjun and Anshula faced a lot of difficulties at school during their father’s affair as the fellow students would mercilessly tease them.
In 1996, Sridevi and Boney tied the knot in a simple temple ceremony a few months before their daughter Jhanvi was born. But Boney did not immediately announce the wedding.
A big humiliating scandal was caused when Mona’s mother, Sattee Shourie publicly verbally abused Sridevi and even tried to physically beat her. In retaliation, the actress banned Boney from meeting his first family. According to a 1997 Stardust story, the star felt extremely insecure about her marriage: “It rankles her no end that Mona is still Boney’s legally wedded wife, while she herself continues to remain his mistress, a temple wedding notwithstanding.â€
On one occasion, Boney met his first wife Mona and took his children, Arjun and Anshula out on a picnic. Sridevi was livid and started shouting, “You b-, you @!#*!#!. How can you do this to me? If you love your kids and wife so much then why don’t you shift back into that house again? You cheat, you liar…†Sridevi didn’t want a repeat of her experience with Mithun who when push came to shove neither left his first wife and children nor publicly acknowledged Sridevi as his wife. She was not even willing to let Boney see his kids. After Jhanvi’s birth, under pressure from Sridevi and her family, Boney divorced his first wife and gave her custody of the kids. This is a major reason that Arjun has no relationship with his step-mother and half-sisters.â€
Arjun, now himself an actor, frankly said in an interview, “My relationship with Sridevi would never be normal. She is just my father’s wife and nothing beyond that.â€
In 2000, Sridevi gave birth to their younger daughter, Khushi. Their in laws from both sides were supportive of the couple. Sridevi said that Srilatha, “shares a great relationship with my husband and is convinced that he is the best thing that ever happened to me!†Moreover, she declared that she herself shared a very warm bond with the entire Kapoor khandaan (family), “I share a fantastic relationship with them. My mother in law adores me and I always try to pamper her because she loves to be spoilt by me. I can also never forget the support and strength I got from my sister in law Sunita (Anil’s wife and Sonam’s mother) all through and the love I got from Boney’s sister, Reena. The affectionate bond I share with Boney’s youngest brother, Sanjay (also an actor) and his wife Maheep is also a lifeline!†Incidentally, Boney launched both his brothers in films and also managed Anil’s career till the year 2000.
Starting 2004, Sridevi started making special appearances on TV and on the runway; she also started painting too keep herself creatively occupied.
2009 was a good year for Boney; it was the year he produced the second highest grossing action blockbuster of the year Wanted starring Salman Khan in his comeback role. In Pakistan, the movie shattered records having the highest opening weekend of any Indian movie up till then.
Sridevi too made her comeback with the comedy English Vinglish from debutante director Gauri Shinde. She played a simple, middle class housewife who enrolls in an English-speaking course after her husband and daughters mock her English. The Times of India called it “easily one of the best films of 2012†and Sridevi’s performance “a master class for actors.†While Rajeev Masand of CNN-IBN wrote, “Sridevi delivers a performance that is nothing short of perfect. It’s warm and fuzzy, and leaves you with a big smile on your face.â€
Sridevi became the only actress in Bollywood to make a successful comeback as a leading lady after marriage and a long time out because she was smart enough to reinvent herself. Not only did she not pick a project based on a romantic theme, but also she came back slimmer and even more attractive than before despite the passing of years.
To keep slim, svelte and young looking, Sridevi was reputed to have had 29 plastic surgeries, including liposuction, a number of rhinoplasty procedures, lips augmentation, Botox and fillers, a breast lift with implants, etc. After Sridevi’s death that was initially supposed to be due to cardiac arrest, Piyali Ganguli claimed on a social media post that “Sridevi was always under immense pressure to keep her weight down, have a wrinkle-free face, and do everything possible to hide her age.†Piyali said that she met Sridevi five years ago and found her very beautiful but unhappy and that continuously visited clinics in Southern California.
The husband and wife teamed up for their home production for the thriller Mom that marked a career milestone for her—her 300th film. She played a mother avenging her teenage daughter’s (played by Pakistani starlet Sajal Aly) rape, a role she said she empathized with and found it hard to be in a normal state after the rage she felt during filming. The film did well both critically and commercially. The news website Firstpost.com commented hilariously, “Here is a 53-year-old leading actress doing what Amitabh Bachchan once excelled at….Sridevi is a far more a riveting watch than a shirtless Salman Khan with his 6 plus packs or the quintessential middle aged Hindi film hero, who refuses to grow up….Suddenly, Bollywood shines bright with hope for the heroine over 50.â€
In an interview, Boney proclaimed that Mom was his gift to his wife, “If I were Shah Jahan I would have built her a Taj Mahal. If I were a painter, I would have made her a beautiful painting. But, I make movies. Hence, I don’t know a better way than the gift of films for her.â€
Having shot for her last on-screen appearance, a cameo in upcoming film Zero, Sridevi, Boney and Khushi along with the rest of the Kapoors, including Anil, were in Dubai end February attending nephew Mohit Marwah and Antara Motiwala’s lavish wedding in Dubai. Jhanvi was back in Mumbai shooting for her debut movie Karan Johar’s Dhadak opposite Ishaan Khatter (actor Shahid Kapoor’s brother).
Dressed to the nines in dazzling ensembles matching those of her seventeen year old daughter, Sridevi looked ravishing. She posed for cameras, danced and enjoyed herself thoroughly, blissfully unaware tha t these were her last few days in this world. After the wedding celebrations ended on 20th February, she told Boney who had a meeting in Lucknow on the 22nd to take Khushi and return to India without her as she had to shop for Jhanvi. She was staying in Room No. 2201 at Jumeirah Emirates Towers Hotel.
Boney related the events of the fateful day to his old friend Komal Nehta: “On the 24th (February 24th ) morning, I spoke to her. When she told me, ‘Papa (that’s how she addressed Boney), I’m missing you’, I also told her that I was missing her (Sridevi) a lot. But I didn’t tell her that I would be joining her in Dubai in the evening (he had decided to pay her a surprise visit). Jhanvi had seconded my idea of going to Dubai because she was scared, her mom, not used to being alone, would misplace her passport or some important document if she was alone.†According to Boney, there had been only two occasions in the last 24 years when they had not travelled together abroad — when Sridevi had travelled for two film appearances. “Although I didn’t accompany her on those two trips, I made sure that my friend’s wife was with her on both the occasions. The Dubai stay was the first time Sridevi was alone for two days — 22nd and 23rd — in a foreign land. I booked a 3.30 p.m. flight to Dubai on February 24th, and reached the hotel where she was staying at around 6.20 p.m. Dubai time.†After reaching the hotel, the couple hugged and kissed, and chatted for around 15 minutes. Boney suggested they go to Zuma for a “romantic dinnerâ€. “I went to the living room while Sridevi went to the master bathroom to bathe and get ready. I channel surfed channels and was watching the South Africa-India cricket match for a few minutes followed by the Pakistan Super League cricket match highlights.†After around 15-20 minutes, he got restless as it was around 8 p.m. then and being a Saturday, he felt restaurants would fill up.
Boney’s impatience made him shout out to his wife from the living room. After calling out to her twice, he lowered the volume of the TV set and bellowed. Still no reply. He then walked to the bathroom and knocked on the door, calling out “Jaan, Jaan.†Again only silence at the other end, so he opened the door. The tub was full of water and a motionless Sridevi was immersed completely, from head to toe, in the water. There were no splashes to be seen on the bathroom floor outside the tubs, so it was clear that she had not flayed or struggled in her last moments. First, Boney called his friend and after he arrived, finally the police at 9 p.m.
To shocked fans all over the world, it was announced that Sridevi died on 24th February 2018 at 19:00 GMT in Dubai. The initial report of cause of death was a cardiac arrest, but after a couple of days the forensic report released by the Dubai Police indicated that she had died of accidental drowning in the hotel bathtub. Traces of alcohol were found in her body and water in her lungs. On the 27th, the case was closed and her body was flown back to Mumbai accompanied by Boney and stepson Arjun on a private jet, belonging to the Indian industrialist and close friend, Anil Ambani.
Tributes poured in from the world over. The Prime Minister of India Narendra Modi lamented on social media, “Saddened by the untimely demise of noted actor Sridevi. She was a veteran of the film industry, whose long career included diverse roles and memorable performances. My thoughts are with her family and admirers in this hour of grief. May her soul rest in peace.â€
In a different vein, a professor at Oxford University wrote, “Ordinariness, thy name is not Sridevi. In life nor death. For a woman who had everything else, she seemed to crave it, hiding that obscene talent behind Corpulent Kapoor, motherhood, the couture gowns, the plastic surgeries which straightened all the kinks. I mourn you, what you were and what you could have been.â€
After the funeral, Boney released a touching statement: “To the world, she was their Chandni, the actor par excellence, their Sridevi, but to me, she was my love, my friend, mother to our girls, my partner. To our daughters, she was their everything, their life. She was the axis around which our family ran.â€
All Bollywood fans mourned Sridevi’s tragic untimely demise this February. The highest earning Indian actress of her time, she was Bollywood’s first female Superstar carrying the movie on her own appeal without relying on a big name hero. Acting in Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam, Kannada and Hindi language films, she had pan Indian appeal, and was a talented dancer as well as having great comedic timing. In a national poll, Sridevi was voted “India’s Greatest Actress in 100 Years.â€
Her death as in her life drew in the crowds with hundreds of thousands of mourners lining Mumbai’s streets crying out “Sridevi Amar Rahe†(long live Sridevi) as her funeral cortege slowly traversed the six km. from Green Acres society where the family lived in an apartment in Lokhandwala Complex to the crematorium in Vile Parle. The funeral procession was headed by a tall, open truck covered in white flowers (her favourite colour) a massive portrait of Sridevi in the back. Her body draped in the national flag and encased Snow White like in a glass casket was done up with full make-up, wearing a ceremonial gold and maroon coloured Kanjeevaram sari with a large gold necklace and sindoor (vermilion) on her forehead to proclaim her suhaagan (married woman) status. The Kapoor men, Boney, Anil, Sanjay and Arjun travelled in the truck with the body. The Maharashtra government accorded full state honours for the funeral and there was a gun salute before the cremation. Her last rites were performed by her two daughters, Jhanvi and Khushi, as Boney looked on with his head bent mournfully. Sridevi’s ashes are to be scattered at sea.
Let’s take a look back at her life, career and her relationship with her beloved Boney and her lovely girls.
Born Shree Amma Yanger Ayyapan in 1963 in Sivakasi, Madras State, to a Tamil lawyer, Ayyapan, and Rajeshwaramma, belonging to an upper caste Reddy family from Andhra Pradesh, Sridevi had a younger sister Srilatha. The family was strictly vegetarian and, till her marriage, Sridevi was always accompanied by her mother or by her sister on film sets. She started acting in Tamil films at only four years of age in 1967. In 1972, Sridevi made her first Bollywood movie as a child artist and, in 1975, she portrayed the heroine’s youngest sibling in the cult classic Julie.
Hitting puberty, Sridevi starred in her first leading role in a Tamil film at only 13 in 1976. In the following years, she followed it up with a number of films with South Indian Superstars, Kamal Haasan and Rajinikanth. Fittingly aged 16, Sridevi made her Hindi film debut as a heroine in Solva Sawan in 1979. But her big break in Bollywood came four years later when she stared opposite Jeetendra in Himmatwala, which became one of the biggest blockbusters of the year. The actress with massive “Thunder Thighsâ€Â became a huge hit with the masses. Her vigorous dance on the catchy song “Nainon Mein Sapna†fully synchronized with Jeetandra made her an overnight sensation, as did her daring, loud outfits and elaborate headgear. The very next year, the two starred in Tohfa, the biggest hit of the year, making Sridevi a bona fide star. She appeared on the cover of Filmfare magazine with the headline, “Unquestionably No.1!†In total, Jeetendra and Sridevi ended up doing 16 films together, including the above two.
In 1986, Sridevi played a woman/snake in Nagina, the second biggest blockbuster of the year. Though many actresses have played this role complete with writhing snake like dance moves, Sridevi’s dexterous climax dance on the song “Main Teri Dushman†became the snake dance to beat for all Indian actresses.
In her personal life, Sridevi’s parents arranged her marriage with Indian-American tennis player Vijay Amritraj who had newly become famous playing on the American tennis circuit. However, she broke off her engagement as she had fallen for Bengali born and raised Bollywood Disco dancing star, Mithun Chakraborty, husband of another actress Yogeeta Bali. Between 1984 and 1989, Mithun and Sridevi starred in four Hindi films together. Their relationship conincided with a spate of second marriages of Hindu Bollywood actors with their actress paramours, such as Dharmendra with Hema Malini and Raj Babbar with Smita Patil. In 1985, Mithun too secretly wed Sridevi. After three years of waiting in the wings, Sridevi gave up on the relationship after Yogeeta tried to commit suicide and Mithun refused to either publicly acknowledge his second marriage or leave his first wife. A steadfast Yogeeta told a reporter, “I will accept it even if he takes on a second wife.†Sridevi figured Mithun was neither getting divorced like he claimed nor going to in the future, Sridevi got her marriage annulled in 1988. Incidentally,  Mithun went back to Yogeeta, and the couple is still married today and has four children together.
At this point, producer, older brother of star Anil Kapoor and son of Hindi film producer Surinder Kapoor, Boney finally spoke up and made his feelings known to Sridevi. Boney had been smitten with the actress after watching her in a Tamil film, and once she made her Bollywood debut, offered her a role in a movie he was planning Mr. India starring brother Anil. Boney admitted later, “I fell in love with Sri after watching her Tamil film during the late 1970s. I even flew to Chennai to meet her but she was shooting in Singapore. A few months later, I watched Sri’s debut Hindi film Solva Sawan (1979) and realised I wanted her to work with me. One day I went to meet her on the sets of a movie. But Sri was an introvert and wouldn’t talk to strangers. She talked to me in half-broken English and Hindi and just said that her mother took care of her projects. When she (her mother) asked for Rs. 10 lakh, I offered her Rs. 11 lakh because I wanted to be close to Sri. Her mother was impressed.â€
During the shooting he continued to make an extra effort, “There were no vanity vans at that time but I arranged for a separate make-up room for her (Sridevi). Gradually, she felt comfortable with me,†he said.
In 1983, Boney had an arranged marriage with Mona and had two children, Arjun and Anshula, with her as Sridevi was heavily involved with Mithun. In fact, Mithun had first gained fame in Boney’s 1980 production of the rural set drama Hum Paanch. Mona recalled that Mithun didn’t approve of Sridevi’s close friendship with her producer Boney and to reassure the former she tied a raakhi on the latter and declared him to be like a brother to her.
When the award winning Shekhar Kapur directed Mr. India, the sci-fi movie about a hero who becomes invisible, became the highest grosser of the year, defying all odds, it . Another of Sridevi’s unique dance numbers on the song “Hawa Hawaii,†her comedic turn as Charlie Chaplin, as well as the villain Amrish Puri’s catchphrase “Mogambo khush hua†(Mogambo is pleased) in the cult classic became super popular with the audience.
Sridevi, Boney Kapoor, Jhanvi Kapoor, Khushi Kapoor at Manish MalhotraÂ’s 50th birthday bash hosted by Karan Johar on 5th Dec 2016 shown to user
Sridevi’s character wearing a blue chiffon sari blowing in the wind sings “Kaate Nahin Kat Te/Yeh Din yeh raat/Lo aaj main kayhtee hun/ I love you†(These days and nights don’t seem to end without you, so I’m telling you today that I love you) to the hero, Boney probably imagined she was singing to him. Filmfare magazine described her as “truly a goddess in a blue sari.â€
Speaking about what first attracted him to Sridevi, the producer observed, “I was impressed from the start by the dignity with which she conducted herself. On the sets when she was shooting she would largely keep to herself. But she was never considered standoffish. There was always warmth towards her. What really endeared me to her was that she was down to earth. Success never went to her head. She was always grounded and continues to be. So commands respect spontaneously. When she enters a room people stand up for her.â€
Sridevi recalled their courtship years, “Boney came to me in 1984 to sign me to play Seema, the lead female role for Mr. India. He confessed later, that he fell in love with me outright.†Boney even paid off Sridevi’s mother‘s debts and the grateful actress finally started responding to his advances.
In 1989, Sridevi played a double role portraying fraternal twins separated at birth in ChaalBaaz, a feat she performed with great expertise. Director Pankaj Parashar said “She proved her range with the movie and after that she got lots of offers which saw her in a double role.†She was deemed to have such a wide range that she played double roles in four more movies. The same year saw the release of the uber successful producer Yash Chopra’s romantic comedy Chandni with Sridevi playing the title role and it became the biggest blockbusters of 1989.The Times of India declared it, “one of the most watched films of Indian cinema.†According to the Tribune, “Leena Daru (costume designer) scored a winner again when she created the ‘Chandni Look’ for Sridevi. Every street corner sold the salwar-kameez and dupatta that gave the heroine a refreshingly understated look, rarely seen on the Indian screen.†Additionally, Sridevi’s dance number on “Mere Hathon Mein Nau Nau Choodiyan†was played at every wedding and the audience thirsted for even more of her. Sridevi became the undisputed queen of Bollywood in the 80s. She got Filmfare Best Actress nominations for both the movies, and won the award for ChaalBaaz.
In her private life, stories about Sridevi’s affair with married man Boney gained momentum. But the couple denied the allegation and Sridevi vociferously brushed it aside as idle gossip.
Meanwhile, she continued to work in big budget commercial potboilers. Yash Chopra repeated his formula once again by casting Sridevi opposite Anil in his 1991 film Lamhe. Influential Indian website Rediff.com stated, “Quite easily one of his most definitive films, Chopra surpassed his own findings of romance with the insightful, lovely Lamhe….One of the most remarkable films of her career…often considered a film way ahead of its time.†Though critically acclaimed , the film’s theme of incest did not hit it off with the conservative class and even Sridevi found it to be “too bold†for her personal taste. However, it won five Filmfare trophies including Filmfare Award for Best Film and Sridevi’s second Filmfare Award for Best Actress. The Rajasthani costumes worn by the actress in the film also won designer Neeta Lulla her first National Film Award for Best Costume Design. This movie too over the years became a cult classic.
The next year, Sridevi starred in the epic Khuda Gawah opposite Bollywood Superstar Amitabh Bachchan. She played a double role as an Afghan warrior Benazir and her daughter. Shot mostly in Mazar-i-Sharif, Afghanistan, the movie was a huge hit there with BBC reporting that “it ran to packed houses for 10 weeks in Kabul.†The movie remained “in great demand after the re-opening of cinema halls in the country (in 2001)†according to a website.
By now madly in love with his heroine, Boney produced the most expensive Indian films of its time, the action comedy Roop Ki Rani Choron Ka Raja (1993) starring his brother and his ladylove. But the gimmicky movie bombed badly at the box office.
Their love, however, was flourishing. “He did take a few years to sort out his life before formally proposing to me in 1993,†the actress recalled. “I fell in love with him when I got to know the real him. It was difficult, traumatic even and it took me many years to finally accept the fact that I was destined to be with Boney. In hindsight, I only wish that I had realised and accepted his love for me sooner. I always believe in following my heart and I am glad that I did. My parents had passed away by then and my sister was shocked with my decision.â€
By now, Sridevi had been acting nonstop for 30 years. Her parents had both passed away from illness and her sister was married. The actress hankered for a family of her own. Judaai (1997) became Sridevi’s last film appearance before she took a 15 years hiatus from film acting. Yet again cast opposite Anil (soon to become her brother in law in real life), she portrayed a greedy, money hungry housewife who “sells†her husband to a rich girl.
Soon after, Sridevi got knocked up and the news of her pregnancy spread like wildfire.
Mona related her side to reporters, “He (Boney) was 10 years older to me. I was 19 when I married him. So I literally grew up with him. Ours was a 13-year-old marriage. So it came as a shock when I realised that my husband was in love with somebody else… There was nothing left in the relationship to give it a chance because Sridevi was already with child. My family, including my father, my mother and sister was the greatest support. The humiliation was painful because I was pitted against a heroine. I was made to feel lesser than her. The industry wives gave me suggestions like, ‘Why don’t you lose weight?’ or ‘Why don’t you join a gym?’ All this made me realise that I had to get up, dust myself and start walking all over again. Also the advice that my friend Meena’s mother gave me became the gospel truth for me. She said, ‘If somebody has no place for you in their lives, then you can have no place for them in yours.’ I understood that I had not failed – my relationship had!’†Their two kids Arjun and Anshula faced a lot of difficulties at school during their father’s affair as the fellow students would mercilessly tease them.
In 1996, Sridevi and Boney tied the knot in a simple temple ceremony a few months before their daughter Jhanvi was born. But Boney did not immediately announce the wedding.
A big humiliating scandal was caused when Mona’s mother, Sattee Shourie publicly verbally abused Sridevi and even tried to physically beat her. In retaliation, the actress banned Boney from meeting his first family. According to a 1997 Stardust story, the star felt extremely insecure about her marriage: “It rankles her no end that Mona is still Boney’s legally wedded wife, while she herself continues to remain his mistress, a temple wedding notwithstanding.â€
On one occasion, Boney met his first wife Mona and took his children, Arjun and Anshula out on a picnic. Sridevi was livid and started shouting, “You b-, you @!#*!#!. How can you do this to me? If you love your kids and wife so much then why don’t you shift back into that house again? You cheat, you liar…†Sridevi didn’t want a repeat of her experience with Mithun who when push came to shove neither left his first wife and children nor publicly acknowledged Sridevi as his wife. She was not even willing to let Boney see his kids. After Jhanvi’s birth, under pressure from Sridevi and her family, Boney divorced his first wife and gave her custody of the kids. This is a major reason that Arjun has no relationship with his step-mother and half-sisters.â€
Arjun, now himself an actor, frankly said in an interview, “My relationship with Sridevi would never be normal. She is just my father’s wife and nothing beyond that.â€
In 2000, Sridevi gave birth to their younger daughter, Khushi. Their in laws from both sides were supportive of the couple. Sridevi said that Srilatha, “shares a great relationship with my husband and is convinced that he is the best thing that ever happened to me!†Moreover, she declared that she herself shared a very warm bond with the entire Kapoor khandaan (family), “I share a fantastic relationship with them. My mother in law adores me and I always try to pamper her because she loves to be spoilt by me. I can also never forget the support and strength I got from my sister in law Sunita (Anil’s wife and Sonam’s mother) all through and the love I got from Boney’s sister, Reena. The affectionate bond I share with Boney’s youngest brother, Sanjay (also an actor) and his wife Maheep is also a lifeline!†Incidentally, Boney launched both his brothers in films and also managed Anil’s career till the year 2000.
Starting 2004, Sridevi started making special appearances on TV and on the runway; she also started painting too keep herself creatively occupied.
2009 was a good year for Boney; it was the year he produced the second highest grossing action blockbuster of the year Wanted starring Salman Khan in his comeback role. In Pakistan, the movie shattered records having the highest opening weekend of any Indian movie up till then.
Sridevi too made her comeback with the comedy English Vinglish from debutante director Gauri Shinde. She played a simple, middle class housewife who enrolls in an English-speaking course after her husband and daughters mock her English. The Times of India called it “easily one of the best films of 2012†and Sridevi’s performance “a master class for actors.†While Rajeev Masand of CNN-IBN wrote, “Sridevi delivers a performance that is nothing short of perfect. It’s warm and fuzzy, and leaves you with a big smile on your face.â€
Sridevi became the only actress in Bollywood to make a successful comeback as a leading lady after marriage and a long time out because she was smart enough to reinvent herself. Not only did she not pick a project based on a romantic theme, but also she came back slimmer and even more attractive than before despite the passing of years.
To keep slim, svelte and young looking, Sridevi was reputed to have had 29 plastic surgeries, including liposuction, a number of rhinoplasty procedures, lips augmentation, Botox and fillers, a breast lift with implants, etc. After Sridevi’s death that was initially supposed to be due to cardiac arrest, Piyali Ganguli claimed on a social media post that “Sridevi was always under immense pressure to keep her weight down, have a wrinkle-free face, and do everything possible to hide her age.†Piyali said that she met Sridevi five years ago and found her very beautiful but unhappy and that continuously visited clinics in Southern California.
The husband and wife teamed up for their home production for the thriller Mom that marked a career milestone for her—her 300th film. She played a mother avenging her teenage daughter’s (played by Pakistani starlet Sajal Aly) rape, a role she said she empathized with and found it hard to be in a normal state after the rage she felt during filming. The film did well both critically and commercially. The news website Firstpost.com commented hilariously, “Here is a 53-year-old leading actress doing what Amitabh Bachchan once excelled at….Sridevi is a far more a riveting watch than a shirtless Salman Khan with his 6 plus packs or the quintessential middle aged Hindi film hero, who refuses to grow up….Suddenly, Bollywood shines bright with hope for the heroine over 50.â€
In an interview, Boney proclaimed that Mom was his gift to his wife, “If I were Shah Jahan I would have built her a Taj Mahal. If I were a painter, I would have made her a beautiful painting. But, I make movies. Hence, I don’t know a better way than the gift of films for her.â€
Having shot for her last on-screen appearance, a cameo in upcoming film Zero, Sridevi, Boney and Khushi along with the rest of the Kapoors, including Anil, were in Dubai end February attending nephew Mohit Marwah and Antara Motiwala’s lavish wedding in Dubai. Jhanvi was back in Mumbai shooting for her debut movie Karan Johar’s Dhadak opposite Ishaan Khatter (actor Shahid Kapoor’s brother).
Dressed to the nines in dazzling ensembles matching those of her seventeen year old daughter, Sridevi looked ravishing. She posed for cameras, danced and enjoyed herself thoroughly, blissfully unaware tha t these were her last few days in this world. After the wedding celebrations ended on 20th February, she told Boney who had a meeting in Lucknow on the 22nd to take Khushi and return to India without her as she had to shop for Jhanvi. She was staying in Room No. 2201 at Jumeirah Emirates Towers Hotel.
Boney related the events of the fateful day to his old friend Komal Nehta: “On the 24th (February 24th ) morning, I spoke to her. When she told me, ‘Papa (that’s how she addressed Boney), I’m missing you’, I also told her that I was missing her (Sridevi) a lot. But I didn’t tell her that I would be joining her in Dubai in the evening (he had decided to pay her a surprise visit). Jhanvi had seconded my idea of going to Dubai because she was scared, her mom, not used to being alone, would misplace her passport or some important document if she was alone.†According to Boney, there had been only two occasions in the last 24 years when they had not travelled together abroad — when Sridevi had travelled for two film appearances. “Although I didn’t accompany her on those two trips, I made sure that my friend’s wife was with her on both the occasions. The Dubai stay was the first time Sridevi was alone for two days — 22nd and 23rd — in a foreign land. I booked a 3.30 p.m. flight to Dubai on February 24th, and reached the hotel where she was staying at around 6.20 p.m. Dubai time.†After reaching the hotel, the couple hugged and kissed, and chatted for around 15 minutes. Boney suggested they go to Zuma for a “romantic dinnerâ€. “I went to the living room while Sridevi went to the master bathroom to bathe and get ready. I channel surfed channels and was watching the South Africa-India cricket match for a few minutes followed by the Pakistan Super League cricket match highlights.†After around 15-20 minutes, he got restless as it was around 8 p.m. then and being a Saturday, he felt restaurants would fill up.
Boney’s impatience made him shout out to his wife from the living room. After calling out to her twice, he lowered the volume of the TV set and bellowed. Still no reply. He then walked to the bathroom and knocked on the door, calling out “Jaan, Jaan.†Again only silence at the other end, so he opened the door. The tub was full of water and a motionless Sridevi was immersed completely, from head to toe, in the water. There were no splashes to be seen on the bathroom floor outside the tubs, so it was clear that she had not flayed or struggled in her last moments. First, Boney called his friend and after he arrived, finally the police at 9 p.m.
To shocked fans all over the world, it was announced that Sridevi died on 24th February 2018 at 19:00 GMT in Dubai. The initial report of cause of death was a cardiac arrest, but after a couple of days the forensic report released by the Dubai Police indicated that she had died of accidental drowning in the hotel bathtub. Traces of alcohol were found in her body and water in her lungs. On the 27th, the case was closed and her body was flown back to Mumbai accompanied by Boney and stepson Arjun on a private jet, belonging to the Indian industrialist and close friend, Anil Ambani.
Tributes poured in from the world over. The Prime Minister of India Narendra Modi lamented on social media, “Saddened by the untimely demise of noted actor Sridevi. She was a veteran of the film industry, whose long career included diverse roles and memorable performances. My thoughts are with her family and admirers in this hour of grief. May her soul rest in peace.â€
In a different vein, a professor at Oxford University wrote, “Ordinariness, thy name is not Sridevi. In life nor death. For a woman who had everything else, she seemed to crave it, hiding that obscene talent behind Corpulent Kapoor, motherhood, the couture gowns, the plastic surgeries which straightened all the kinks. I mourn you, what you were and what you could have been.â€
After the funeral, Boney released a touching statement: “To the world, she was their Chandni, the actor par excellence, their Sridevi, but to me, she was my love, my friend, mother to our girls, my partner. To our daughters, she was their everything, their life. She was the axis around which our family ran.â€
Grace Patricia Kelly was born in 1929 in Philadelphia and aptly named after her paternal aunt, an aspiring actress who had died only in her early 20s. Her father was an ambitious and driven bricklayer by the name of John B. Kelly who was one of ten children born to extremely poor Irish Catholic immigrants.
A naturally very athletic young man, Kelly started practicing crew or sculling in the river. At the advent of the WWI he joined the US Army as a private and started boxing there but broked his ankle before the championship fight. He left the Army at the end of the war as a lieutenant.
As a civilian, Kelly played some professional football and started his own bricklaying contracting business, which grew to be extremely successful. Full of bright ideas, he would block the chimneys of houses his company had been subcontracted with a single glass tile. The homeowners would complain of smoke to the house builders who would have to pay Kelly for his work in full before he would rectify the would send his workers to break the glass tile and rectify the problem. What a bright idea to ensure full and timely payment!
Kelly also branded his business at a time when branding was still a relatively rare concept. Two of his brothers also became notable successes: Walter, a vaudeville and silent film star who worked for MGM and Paramount Pictures, and George, a Pulitzer Prize-winning dramatist, screenwriter, and director.
In 1920, Kelly gained renown when he applied to row at the Henley Royal Regatta that takes place on the River Thames in England. He was turned down for having worked as a common labourer according to the snobbish British rules. Americans backed him up and he represented the nation at the Summer Olympics that year at Antwerp, Belgium. With something to prove, Kelly won not one Olympic gold medal but three and was later commemorated in his hometown on Philadelphia with a bronze statue. After his Olympic victory, a cocky Kelly sent his racing cap to King George V with the accompanying note, “Greetings from a bricklayerâ€, for having been snubbed at Henley.
Equally driven in love, Kelly chased and finally married an aristocratic German-descent former model and the first woman to teach women’s athletics at U Penn. Margaret belonged to a noble German family who had since fallen on hard times and immigrated to the U.S. She converted to Catholicism upon marriage and the couple had three daughters and a son, John Jr. who also became a crew champion. While Kelly was gregarious, sociable and a womaniser, Margaret was controlled, cold looking and seemingly emotionless. She pretended not to notice or comment upon her husband’s infidelities. Even with her children, she believed in tough love.
During World War II, John Kelly was appointed as National Director of Physical Fitness by President Roosevelt. Afterwards, he narrowly lost the election for Mayor of Philadelphia.
Ambitious Kelly’s favourite child was his eldest daughter, while he groomed his son to become a sculling champion like himself. Grace was the least favourite middle child. While her father and siblings were outgoing and athletic, Grace was short sighted, mousey, and not great at sports and had an annoying habit of sniffing. Her father did not expect much from her. It was not until later that she excelled at swimming and tennis as well as bloomed into her gorgeous looks.
While at a prestigious Catholic girls’ school in Philadelphia, Grace and her good looking mother and sisters modeled at local society events. At Stevens School, a socially prominent private high school, though quiet and shy by nature, she acted in drama and was predicted to be a stage and film star. By then, she had blossomed into quite a beauty. Five foot seven with porcelain skin and clear blue eyes, she had a slim, willowy figure. She started to date, and had several boyfriends including a friend of her brother who tragically died after suffering from multiple sclerosis.
Grace was outwardly polite but inwardly headstrong. Bad at math, her college application was rejected from the college of her choice. Instead, she decided to pursue her dream of becoming an actress much to the dismay of her father who had a significant standing in the community and viewed an actress being “a slim cut above streetwalker.â€
Using her Uncle George’s connections, Grace enrolled at the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York City. To appease her disapproving parents, she moved into the strict Barbizon Hotel for Women where men were neither allowed in to the girls’ rooms at all nor even admitted into the building after 10 p.m., and strict dress and behaviour rules were upheld for the female residents. To help support herself as her father had put her on a subsistence allowance to discourage her, Grace worked as a model on the side, soon earning over $400 a week. Beneath her cool, blond, angelic exterior lay the steely determination she had inherited from her father.
She had also inherited his passionate nature though from the outside she looked controlled and icy like her mother. In 1948, 18 year old Grace got embroiled romantically with her 27 year old married Jewish acting teacher Don Richardson despite facing severe parental disapproval. When Grace brought him home to meet her family, her father and brother treated him very badly and her mother snooped through his things, finding his divorce papers and lots of condoms. Her parents forbade her from seeing Richardson and forced her to return home until graduation, commuting from Philly to New York for auditions. But she continued to carry on with him on the sly.
An embittered Don Richardson said to a reporter after the affair ended, “She screwed everybody she came into contact with who was able to do anything good for her.â€
While working in summer stock, Grace fell for fellow Irish Catholic descent actor Gene Lyons who was in the process of getting an annulment. She dumped him when she realized her was a hopeless alcoholic.
Once she had left the Academy at 19, Grace started appearing on Broadway and then in sixty live TV dramas. In 1949, she met the thirty year old Shah of Iran Mohammad Reza Pahlavi at the Waldorf hotel when he was on an official visit. He accompanied her half a dozen times on high profile dates to places like the opera where they would be photographed. Smitten, the Shah presented her with three dazzling pieces of Van Cleef & Arpels jewellery, a brooch of a gold birdcage housing a diamond and sapphire bird, a diamond studded gold vanity case, and a gold, diamond and pearl bracelet. He is said to have proposed to her but was turned down because her heart was set on an acting career plus she didn’t want to be married to a conservative Muslim monarch.
Noticed in Hollywood by the matinee idol Gary Cooper who thought she was different from the other actresses at the time, he had her cast in his award winning Western High Noon (1951). In her biography True Grace: The Life and Times of an American Princess, Wendy Leigh stated that at the age 22 Grace had romances with both the film’s 50 year old star Gary Cooper as well as director Fred Zimmermann.
In fact, she fell hard for the married Cooper. Gina McKinnon in her book What Would Grace Do? speculated that “there might well have been a roll or two in the hay bales,†at the least since Grace’s sister Lizanne admitted that Grace was infatuated with Cooper.
Gary Cooper declared, “She (Grace) looked like a cold dish with a man until you got her pants down, then she’d explode.â€
Next Grace was invited to audition for director John Ford directed Mogambo (1952) opposite stars Clark Gable and Ava Gardner and she signed a seven-year contract with MGM on a salary of $850 a week. Ford was impressed with Grace’s “breeding, quality and class†that came across on screen. The movie was shot in the wilds of Kenya. Additionally, Grace also got to visit Rome with Ava where they visited a series of brothels. Apparently, Grace even picked up a bordello waiter and took him back with her to her hotel, only reemergingfrom her room three days later.
In Africa, she had an affair with Clark Gable 30 years her senior, as they mated out in the bush. Ava Gardner went on record to admit that Grace and Clark had eyes only for each other on set. Actor Donald Sinden also recalled accidentally stumbling into Gable’s tent on night and finding the two together. Though on screen she cultivated the image of being an “ice princess†on set she was clearly raunchier.
Grace enjoyed drinking, but couldn’t keep up with her hardened older lovers. After skinny-dipping with Clark Gable in Lake Victoria, the two would sit in his tent demolishing bottles of hard liquor, according to biographer Robert Lacey. Despite these shenanigans, Grace won the Golden Globe Award for Best Supporting Actress and her first Academy Award nomination for Best Supporting Actress for the successful movie.
Alfred Hitchcock who had a thing for his good looking blonde leading ladies then cast Grace in three back-to-back thrillers: Dial M for Murder and Rear Window (both 1954 releases) and To Catch a Thief (1955). Hitchcock said that he was attracted to Kelly’s “sexual elegance,†her reserved but secret, smoldering sexuality. In an interview with Francois Truffaut, Hitchcock explained how he “deliberately photographed Grace Kelly ice-cold and kept cutting to her profile, looking classical, beautiful, and very distant.†For Hitchcock the most interesting women sexually, were those with exterior reserve rather than overtly sexual women. “Sex should not be advertised,†he said. He cast Grace opposite top male stars James Stewart and Cary Grant.
Grant became another admirer claiming of all the actresses, “I much preferred Grace. She had serenity.â€
Grace’s relationship with 47 year old Ray Milland nearly cost her career. On the set of Dial M for Murder, the two stars fell hard for each other. When Milland’s wife Mal found out, she threw him out of the house. Besotted, he was willing to call it quits on his marriage of 22 years for Grace. Tabloids started reporting that Grace was a home wrecker. Gossip columnist Hedda Hopper even called her a “nymphomaniac.†The relationship was finally ended by Milland when realized how much it would cost him in a divorce both financially and career wise.
Grace had made a habit of having affairs with anyone who advanced her career. She slept her way through directors, drama coaches, actors, writers, even key grips and cameramen. But to the public she was careful to project an image of wholesomeness. She was the girl next door in whose mouth butter wouldn’t melt. Scandalous silent film star Clara Bow commented in exasperation, “Grace Kelly will get away with having many lovers. Know why? The damn public will never believe it!’
“She had more boyfriends in a month than I had in a lifetime,†mocked Zsa Zsa Gabor. “She went to bed with anyone she fancied at the time.â€
Author Gore Vidal, and ex-husband of Jane Fonda commented, “Grace almost always laid the leading man. She was notorious for that in this town.â€
Inside Hollywood Grace was seen as a threat by wives and was becoming very unpopular amongst them. The widow of director Henry Hathaway said to a reporter, “I have nothing good to say about her. She had an affair with my best friend’s husband, Ray Milland!†When asked just how many men Grace had seduced, she replied, “Everybody. Yes, she wore white gloves but she was no saint!â€
Grace also had a fondness for heavy drinking, stocking champagne in her fridge and consuming entire bottles of it. She was regularly going on and off the wagon.
On a rebound from Milland, Grace had an affair with the charming but again married William Holden while filming The Bridges at Toko-Ri (1954). Holden had fallen in love with Audrey Hepburn previously on the set of Sabrina and had been willing to divorce his wife, actress Brenda Marshall. When Audrey discovered that Holden had had a vasectomy after the birth of his second son, wanting children, she broke up with him and married Mel Ferrer. So both heartbroken stars Grace and Bill sought solace in each other’s company.
Meanwhile, Grace’s parents continued to fix her up with “appropriate, non-actor suitors.â€
On a career winning streak, Grace fought MGM to lend her to Paramount to do their emotional drama The Country Girl (1954), threatening to quit if they didn’t. She had become a box office draw by then, and the studio made an exception for her.
Her father commented as was his wont when she was nominated for an Academy Award for the role that he was shocked that Grace was proving to be the one of his children who may take care of him in his old age. Grace felt hurt with the slight.
She had been right to fight for the role. For this film, she won the Oscar for Best Actress at the Academy Awards of ’55, beating Judy Garland in A Star is Born, the hot favourite. Grace had been seeing widower Bing Crosby during this time who got suspicious and visited her hotel room at 3 a.m. “Bing Crosby arrived for a showdown with Grace,†wrote Darwin Porter in his book Hollywood Babylon Strikes Again. “Instead of that, he found a nude Marlon in her bed.†Brando had also just won an Oscar for Best Actor, though she had turned down his movie On the Waterfront. Clearly the two stars were celebrating their respective victories, but Crosby was so incensed since he had lost both the Oscar statuette and his girl to Brando that “fisticuffs†ensued. It was the end of her affair with Crosby, but Grace’s fling with Brando continued a short while longer.
According to Tony Curtis, he also hooked up with Grace, describing her in very lewd terms. She also had brief flings with married British actor David Niven, then Senator John F Kennedy, Paul Newman and Spencer Tracy.
THE COUNTRY GIRL, Grace Kelly, William Holden, 1954
“Grace’s motivations were inspired by her almost pathological need for her father’s approbation,†wrote James Spada in Grace: the Secret Lives of A Princess. “her ‘father complex’ also left her with an obsessive attraction to older, accomplished, authoritative paternal figures. But her father’s demands for demure obedience backfired and Grace rebelled against the heavy-handed moral strictures forced upon her and became sexually promiscuous. Guilt-ridden about her promiscuity (and reputation in Hollywood) by 1955 Grace “was a restless, dissatisfied and unhappy woman, desperate to win legitimacy in a good marriage.†Additionally, Grace had grown up in her siblings’ shadow and she had realized that her scandalous love life was a way of making her parents pay attention, albeit negative.
Grace was dating the nearly two decade’s older twice married French actor Jean-Pierre Aumont, trying to get over the loss of Ray Milland when she met the Russian descent French born fashion designer Oleg Cassini. Cassini met her in a restaurant in New York with Aumont. Cassini said he was an “accomplished seducer,†sixteen years older than her. He enjoyed chasing her, recalling later, “It was to be the greatest, most exhilarating campaign of my life.†He sent her a dozen red roses to her home for ten days anonymously “from the friendly florist.†On the tenth day after he had piqued her curiosity, he called her saying he was the friendly florist. Laughing, she agreed to go on a date accompanied by her sister. Grace readily confessed to Oleg that she was still in love with Ray Milland. Confident of his own abilities, Cassini predicted that they would be engaged to him within a year. Grace left for shooting in LA the next day, while Cassini was linked by gossip columnists with stunning movie stars such as Pier Angeli and Anita Ekberg. He didn’t want to appear too eager.
When she had finally broken up with Milland for good, “she sent me a postcard asking me to come to the south of France while she filmed To Catch a Thief. ‘Those who love me follow me,’ she wrote,†recounted Cassini. “Well, I let my dress collections go to hell, and I flew to Cannes. She was warm and funny and caring, also very disciplined about her work. She never stayed out past 11 p.m. Up till now our relationship had been platonic, but we had such a wonderful time that she asked me what my intentions were. I told her I wanted to marry her. We became secretly engaged.â€
Cassini said he transformed her style. When they met, Grace dressed “like a school teacher, but he encouraged her to put a little sex in her clothes. I put her in elegant, subdued dresses.†Again, Grace had something to gain from the relationship.
The sticking point was again Cassini’s his past. He was divorced, and open about having been with countless women. Margaret considered he would make a bad husband, while her father though he was too foreign who persuaded her not to marry him.
“Do you realise if my mother hadn’t been so difficult about Oleg Cassini, I probably would have married him?†Grace reportedly said.
Cassini lamented: “Her family regarded her as a prize possession… that must be handled, above all invested, wisely.†Her father was self-made and extremely ambitious for all his children.
At this time, Grace headed the American film contingent to the 1955 Cannes Film Festival where she met Prince Rainier III at a photo session for the magazine Paris Match at the Palace of Monaco as a staged publicity stunt for an article, a meeting that was to prove of momentous importance to both the driven and ambitious actress and royal. Exhausted after a hectic schedule, she nearly cancelled but was convinced when the agenda was a leisurely stroll in the palace gardens with the highlight being his menagerie of exotic animals as the couple was followed around by a journalist, photographer and royal handlers in tow recording their polite conversation. The Prince’s Palace of Monaco built as a fortress in 1191 has been occupied by the Grimaldis, who took it over a century later, for 700 years. So the mood was formal rather than personal.
At the meeting, Prince Rainier said he was charmed with Grace’s freshness, maturity, sensitivity and culture. She also thought that the most eligible bachelor in Europe she found to be “charming.â€
Cassini continued, “I thought nothing of it. She said Rainier was nice, but that was it. We came back to New York and Grace was becoming a superstar. Neither of her parents liked me. The weekend I spent in Ocean City was the worst of my life. I had my own room, but I had to walk through her parents’ bedroom to get there. She kept seeing me despite her family’s opposition, even suggesting we get married right away. She told me to find a priest who would marry us. I agreed, but then she got sick and rundown. Once she recovered, she had changed her mind. Her parents had talked her out of it. I didn’t see her again until she called to tell me she was engaged to Prince Rainier.â€
While back in the States, Grace had been playing a princess in the movie The Swan while corresponding with the real life prince. By December, Rainier followed her to the U.S. Asked by a reporter at a press conference “If you were pursuing a wife, what kind would you like?†Rainier smiled and replied: “The best!â€
Born Rainier Louis Henri Maxence Bertrand Grimaldi in 1923 at the Prince’s Palace in Monaco, to the illegitimate born Princess Charlotte, Duchess of Valentinois, only child of Prince Louis II of Monaco and a cabaret singer. Princess Charlotte was later legitimized through formal adoption and subsequently named heir presumptive to the throne of Monaco. A new French law stated that if there was no legal heir to Monaco’s throne, France would take over the country. Rainier’s father Count Pierre de Polignac was half-French, half-Mexican who upon their marriage took his wife’s surname, Grimaldi, and was made a Prince of Monaco by Prince Louis, his father-in-law to ensure his daughter’s line of succession and Monaco’s sovereignty. Their first born was a daughter, Princess Antoinette, Baroness of Massy who would try to supersede her younger brother. The couple was later divorced.
Meanwhile, it fell to her son to rehabilitate the family name and prestige. In WW II, Prince Rainier joined the French Army only as a second lieutenant, but receiving the French Croix de Guerre and becoming Chevalier in the French Legion of Honor in 1947, he retired as a colonel in 1954.
Louis II died in 1949, leaving a nearly empty treasury. Monaco had been a gambling hub for wealty European aristocrats who lived in reduced circumstances after WW II. The growing middle classes went to cheaper, newer gambling cities. Being a thoroughly modern young man, Prince Rainier decided to bring about profound changes in Monaco. First, he promoted the city state as a tax haven for the rich and famous and boosted its tourism. It attracted a lot of real estate development t for this reason.
The two controllers of Monaco’s destiny fell out when Onassis demanded a monopoly from Prince Rainier in the hotel and property development business. He wanted Monaco to remain exclusive but Rainier wanted the country to maximize its revenue. There was a power struggle between the two. Rainier outmaneuvered the billionaire after Monaco’s boycott by French President Charles de Gaulle and changed the laws to regain control of SBM and his own vision for Monaco in 1964.
As his second modernizing step, Prince Rainier suspended the principality’s autocratic and outdated Constitution in 1959 and replaced it with a new more democratic one in 1962, even though it reduced his own power as the sovereign. Now the power lay with him as well as a National Council of eighteen elected members.
In his personal life, Prince Rainier had been in a long term live in relationship with the French film actress Gisèle Pascal since meeting her as a student at Montpellier University. They lived together at Saint-Jean-Cap-Ferrat, France, and intended to marry. His sister, Princess Antoinette, wanting the throne for her son, put it out in the press that the actress was low born and barren. When doctors examined her, Gisele was deemed to indeed be infertile and so the prince broke it off with her. She subsequently married a fellow French actor and had a daughter with him so the doctors turned out to be wrong.
For Grace, marrying a prince not just in name but one who actually wielded power was a bid to finally gain her father’s approval. Even the Oscar she got for The Country Girl had failed to impress him. “If I’d met the Prince two or three years earlier perhaps I wouldn’t have married him,†she said looking back. “But we came together at the right time… I knew that I was going to do it, even if there was a chance that I was making a mistake.â€
On both sides, the marriage was a clearly thought out practical decision more than a love match. In fact, it was the Prince’s Irish-American Royal Chaplain Father Francis Tucker who took it upon himself to act as a go between and arrange the match. He had been specifically assigned by the Vatican as a personal advisor and confessor to Prince Rainier because both France and Italy wanted influence over the prince, so not wanting to offend either nation, the Vatican chose an American.
According to People magazine, Father Tucker was an “American priest who was Rainier’s closest aide and chief talent scout for eligible Catholic girls;†he encouraged the correspondence between the prince and the movie star resulting in their marriage. The Father himself wrote to Grace, thanking her “for showing the Prince what an American Catholic girl can be, and for the deep impression this has left on him.†He told her about the Prince’s serious intentions towards her. Once she assented that she too was interested, the priest whose family had roots in Philadelphia arranged the trip to the U.S. for both of them. In time for Christmas, the pair travelled by transatlantic ocean liner to New York, and then by train to Philadelphia to stay with friends of Tucker, the Austins who were family friends with the Kellys. The Kellys had the whole contingent over Christmas for a week so that the decision could be mulled over. It couldn’t have been more orchestrated.
The Times reported that the courtship contained “a good deal of rational appraisal on both sides.â€
After she submitted to an examination to prove she was capable of bearing children, the prince presented her with a 12-carat diamond engagement ring on New Year’s Eve in NYC, her favourite city. The press called it a “fairytale of modern times between the golden girl of the silver screen and her charming suitor, Prince Rainier III of Monaco.â€
“Rainier’s advisors had planned for the Minister of State to announce the engagement from the Grimaldi Palace in early January 1956, while issuing an American press release that would include a stock image of the couple. The Kelly family, however, anticipated that American reporters wouldn’t stand for such a paltry offering, and after some firm words from Grace’s father to the Prince, a compromise was reached. The Minister of State did announce the engagement but on the same day, the Kelly family was allowed to hold a morning press conference in their Philadelphia home,†added Braude.
“Grace remained poised throughout the raucous conference, attended by over 100 journalists, but her future husband was visibly upset, as reporters asked the couple how many children they would have, while photographers stood on the family piano to get a better shooting angle. At one point Rainier reportedly muttered: ‘It’s not as if I belong to MGM.’
A reporter asked Grace about her post-marriage career plans. She offered a measured response: ‘I still have a contract with MGM, and I have to do two more pictures. Of course I’m going to continue with my work—I’m never going to stop acting.’
Rainier at that point interjected: ‘I think it would be better if she did not attempt to continue in films…I have to live in Monaco, and she will live there. That wouldn’t work out…She will have enough to do as Princess.’â€
This contentious issue was left to be settled after their marriage.
From Hollywood to Monaco the news of the engagement enchanted everyone. It was quite a story and the press reported on every detail of “the wedding of the century.†There was a century old tradition of American heiresses marrying into hard up European nobility, which reached a zenith this union, but from the outside it was portrayed as a love match to play up to the romantic sensibility in the twentieth century.
Fittingly, in her last movie release before she got married, the musical comedy High Society (1956), Grace wore her own engagement ring and sang a duet with Bing Crosby, “True Love.†Not one to pass up on a leading man, Grace slept with the film’s other leading man Frank Sinatra. Even after her marriage, she reconnected with Sinatra  and shacked up with him in the South of France after fulfilling her responsibility to after producing the heir and the spare.
Meanwhile, negotiations over money took place between the Kellys and the prince. Prince Rainier wanted a $2 million dowry to help cover the cost of the wedding. “We are not impressed with royalty,†John Kelly replied. “My daughter doesn’t have to pay any man to marry her.â€
** FILE ** Prince Rainier of Monaco, top, and Grace Kelly, center, pose with their children Princess Caroline, 8, left, Prince Albert, 7, right, and Princess Stephanie on the occasion of the christening of newborn Princess Stephanie in 1965. Rainier, whose marriage to American film star Grace Kelly brought elegance and glamour to one of Europe’s oldest dynasties, died Wednesday, April 6, 2005 at the hospital treating him for heart, kidney and breathing problems. He was 81. (AP Photo/Look)
Finally, Grace consented to give up $1 million from her inheritance so that her brother and two sisters would not be shortchanged and contributed another million from her own finances. This was what was actually taking place behind closed doors as opposed to “the fairytale romance†the press reported on.
The couple wed in Spring of 1956. Grace and her entourage of 70 people sailed to Monaco from New York on the ship S.S. Constitution with 80 pieces of her personal luggage and her poodle, Oliver, in tow. A Boston Globe reporter wrote: “Never have so many women brought so much luggage to such a small country for so few days.†1,800 photographers and reporters were waiting at the port for her, as was the Prince.
There were not one but two ceremonies, a civil one including a reception attended by 3,000 citizens of Monaco and a Roman Catholic chapel wedding with a 700-person guest list that included Conrad Hilton, Cary Grant, Gloria Swanson and Ava Gardner. “The look and feel of the religious ceremony that provided the climax to this months-long story owed much to the influence of Kelly’s studio, MGM, which had dispatched a crew of experts to help stage-manage the lavish event. As one of Kelly’s bridesmaids recalled, ‘the day, like the bride-to-be herself, was a creation brought to us through the joint production efforts of enormous willpower, Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer and God.’ “
Meanwhile, behind the scenes, the bride to be later confessed to having a fling during her wedding with her bridesmaid Carolyn Reynold’s husband Malcolm.
In contrast, to reporters Princess Grace was quoted as saying, “When I married Prince Rainier, I married the man and not what he represented or what he was. I fell in love with him without giving a thought to anything else.â€
“In the outfitting of the bride and groom, aristocratic luxury mixed with Hollywood glamour. MGM lent out the use of one of its top costume designers, Helen Rose. Kelly’s ivory dress, made up of 450 yards of peau de soie, taffeta, silk net, and lace, and with its enormous train, evoked a legacy of fairy-tale princesses; yet Rose used relatively simple lines that were quite fashion-forward for a 1956 wedding dress, offering an updated version of the fairytale wedding gown. Rainier’s bombastic outfit served as counterbalance to Kelly’s modern dress. Heavily laden with medals, a sash, ostrich plumes, and a scepter, Rainier had designed the outfit himself, basing the design on uniforms worn by Napoleon’s marshals. Showing how effortlessly she could move between worlds, Kelly delivered her vows in French. Not a single crowned head attended the ceremony, a collective snubbing that underscored the dynasty’s lowly reputation among its would-be monarchical allies,†wrote Braude.
The couple spent their honeymoon on Prince Rainier’s yacht, cruising around the Mediterranean.
But in their private life, Rainier’s flings sent Grace back into the arms of Sinatra and Brando. She once confided to her hairdresser: “I know my husband has affairs with other women. That’s very frustrating to me and makes me very unhappy.â€
According to Wendy Leigh in her biography, True Grace, the 60 cigarettes plus cigar-smoking prince began cheating on as soon as became pregnant during their honeymoon. “Within months, he had taken at least three mistresses. Grace was humiliated and she was extremely unhappy. She was surrounded by decadence and Rainier’s disreputable friends.â€
Princess Caroline arrived on cue exactly nine months after the wedding. Prince Albert was born a year later in 1958 and the baby of the family, Princess Stephanie, in 1965. Grace brought an unaccustomed American informality to the royal family. “The nursery doors were open, and the children were very much a part of the fabric of the day,†said Rita Gam to People magazine. But the constraints of palace life were not always easy for Grace.
In 1962 photographer Eve Arnold who came to Monaco to work on a CBS documentary noted “I got the distinct feeling that Grace Kelly felt trapped. It wasn’t the fairy tale one had expected.â€
“But blonde, blue-eyed and with a sultry sex appeal that casting directors compared to Marlene Dietrich, Grace herself was hardly an innocent. She plunged back into an affair with Sinatra lasting several years – they even had a love-nest in Cap Ferrat. Her list of alleged lovers extended to American tennis ace Sidney Wood,†pointed out Leigh.
“Some biographers claim Rainier was violent as well as a control freak. During a tennis doubles match, he allegedly aimed a ball straight at Grace’s face. When it hit her, the friend who was his doubles partner defended him, saying he was just ‘desperate to win’.
Prince Rainier and Princess Grace in formal clothing, Jan. 6, 1955. (AP Photo)
By the late 1970s, Grace was spending part of each year on her own in Paris. She began to enjoy the company of younger men like Robert Dornhelm, an Austrian film director while Prince Rainier was focused on improving Monaco’s economy. When her daughters, especially the wild child Princess Stephanie started to rock her own scandals, Princess Grace confided to her biographer Gwen Robyns, “How can I bring up my daughters not to have affairs, when I am having affairs with married men all the time?’
Then came the tragic accident on the winding Riviera road perilously hugging the seaside cliff. Grace had told Hedda Hopper, ‘I hate to drive a car…I am not a good driver.’ In September of 1982, she and Stephanie, then 17, were returning from France and were approaching Monaco. On a hairpin curve, the Princess lost control of the car due to a mild stroke. Her Land Rover plunged down a 45-foot embankment, landing on its roof. With severe head injuries, Princess Grace slipped into a coma upon impact; she died the next day of a brain haemorrhage.
Like Princess Diana after her, all of a sudden Princess Grace’s standing in the royal family experienced a shift after her death. As condolence messages poured in from a shocked world, Prince Rainier was genuinely profoundly saddened by the loss of his Princess Consort who had stuck by him and by Monaco through all the issues of her marriage. After Princess Grace’s death, Prince Rainier refused to remarry.
That is not to say that Prince Rainier remained celibate. He had a documented long term relationship with his second cousin, Princess Ira von Fürstenberg, a former actress/jewellery designer/Fiat heiress who is also the former sister-in-law of the famous fashion designer Diane von Fürstenberg.
Eventually, the ailing His Serene Highness Prince Rainier III died in 2005 and was buried beside his wife, HSH Princess Grace, at the Saint Nicholas Cathedral, the resting place of previous sovereign princes of Monaco and the place where Prince Rainier and Princess Grace had been married in 1956.
Prince Albert II succeed his father and is now one of the wealthiest royals in the world with assets valued at more than $1 billion so Rainier succeeded in replenishing Monaco’s coffers. Prince Albert finally married former Olympic swimming champion Charlene Whittstock who famously got cold feet and disappeared the day before the wedding and they have twins, a boy and a girl. Albert also has an illegitimate girl and a boy from before his marriage.
Princess Caroline was married three times. Despite being a Roman Catholic, she was divorced from her first husband, for which the Roman Catholic Church issued a special annulment. She then married Italian Stefano Casiraghi, heir to an industrial fortune. They had three good looking children: Andrea Casiraghi married to Columbian descent billionaire socialite Tatiana Santo Domingo with whom he has a boy and a girl; Charlotte Casiraghi who has two children out of wedlock; and Pierre Casiraghi who wed the Italian aristocratic TV personality Beatrice Borromeo and they have one son so far. Tragically, Casiraghi was killed in a speedboat sporting accident aged only 30 as his wife Princess Caroline watched on helplessly. Her third marriage was with Prince Ernst August of Hanover, Duke of Brunswick, a solely honorific title with no duchy. They have one daughter. Princess Caroline, being the eldest, was always considered the sober, mature one who took over her mother’s duties after her death.
Stephanie became the lost princess after her mother’s tragic untimely death. She was profoundly affected by the accident and blamed herself for it. Out of the siblings, she has always been the most scandalous one, even shocking the liberal French. Often photographed topless on the Riviera beaches, after dating a string of actors, Stephanie was in a live in relationship with her bodyguard with whom she had two children. After him, she married a circus elephant trainer and lived with him in his caravan and then a Portuguese acrobat. She is less troubled now. Her son Louis Ducruet recently got engaged to a girl who worked at a checkout counter.
In Monaco, Princess Grace’s legacy lives on with the Princess Grace Foundation that supports young artists. When I visited Monte Carlo, there was a photographic exhibition of the Princess working as a philanthropist put up by Prince Albert at the city’s famed casino. Thus, the image and memory of Her Serene Highness Princess Grace of Monaco’s image is still very much a part of the principality thirty five years later.
And by Truth, there is no sweeter story than itâ€
—Nizami Ganjavi
Nizami penned a lyrical love story (circa 1177-1180) of the Persian Sasanian Shahnshah Khosrow II Parviz and the Princess Shirin as part of his Panj Ganj. The Zoroastrian Shahnshah’s courtship of the Armenian Christian Princess followed many twists and turn.
He endured long journeys, both of a physical and spiritual nature, before marrying
Shirin, his true love. But their story ended in tragedy
By Mahlia Lone
The romance written by Nizami Ganjavi was commissioned and dedicated to the Seljuk Sultan Toghril II, the Atabek Muhammad ibn Eldiguz Jahan Pahlavan and his brother Qizil Arslan. The Sultan did not choose the subject, just the genre. Although the story was well known in the region, its romance was heightened by Nizami. Unlike Ferdowsi who focused on the historical aspect, i.e. kingship and battles of Khosrow, Nizami decided to blur the facts a bit and expand its romantic aspect. The following is a summary of the version in Love Stories of Persian Literature, based on the translation by Nazy Kaviani:
Hormizd IV, the Sasanid King of Persian was a good monarch who cared for the welfare of the common people and maintained strict discipline in his army and court. He also did not allow the Zoroastrian priests to persecute the Christian citizens of his realm. Due to these reasons, he was not popular amongst the elite, which led to many executions and confiscations amongst those that opposed his policies.
Hormzid had another worry that made him anxious about the future of his realm. He didn’t have a son. At long last, his queen gave birth to a healthy, cherubic baby boy, Khosrow Parvez. The overjoyed King got the brightest tutors to arm his son with the best education and prepare him for his future role. By age ten, the clever boy became skilled in such manly pursuits as riding, fencing, and archery, essential for a prince in those days. Khosrow’s best friend Shapur excelled at painting and chose it as his vocation.
One night, a young Khosrow feasted and caroused in a farmer’s house, which displeased his father, Hormizd, who didn’t think it suited his dignity as the heir to the throne. A repentant Khosrow apologized to his father who readily forgave him. That night, Khosrow saw his grandfather Khosrow I Anushirvan in a dream who foretold that his grandson would have a wife named Shirin, a steed named Shabdiz (the legendary black stallion and “world’s fastest horseâ€), a musician named Barbad and a great kingdom, Persia. As it turned out that both the horse and the court musician played significant roles in the love story.
Khosrow recounted the dream to his close friend and a painter, Shapur, who told the Prince about the unmarried Armenian Queen Shamira Mahin Banu who ruled over a vast territory and had no heir other than her beautiful niece, Shirin. He described Shirin’s flawless and unmatched beauty in detail and added that she had an exceptional horse, named Shabdiz, that galloped faster than the wind. The young prince was intrigued and couldn’t stop thinking about the princess who he felt was destined for him. He sent Shapur to Armenia to throw a feeler out to Shirin from the prince’s side. Shapur assured his friend that he would convince Shirin to not take any other husband save Khosrow.
Once in Armenia, Shapur started tracking Shirin’s daily whereabouts. One day, he discovered that Shirin and her companions would be spending the day in a nearby forest. Arriving before the ladies, Shapur hung a portrait he had made of the prince from a tree and left. Knowing that they were safe from prying eyes, Shirin and her friends danced around the trees. Suddenly, Shirin found herself face to face with Khusrow’s picture that hung from a magnificent tree. She swooned at his likeness. Not only was he gorgeous, but he was dressed as a prince.
Shirin couldn’t sleep that night in her restlessness to find out whose likeness it was. She went back to the forest the next morning accompanied by her companions to find out the identity of the mysterious stranger. Shapur appeared and satisfied her curiosity. He told her that Khosrow was no ordinary prince but the heir to the Persian throne and was extremely interested in her.
Background — a Romanticised History
Khosrow II entitled Parvez (The Victorious), the last great King of the Sasanian Empire, is prominently featured in such enduring works of Persian literature as the great Abu ’l-Qasim Ferdowsi Tusi’s epic poem The Shahnameh (Book of Kings, circa 940–1020), as well as Nizami Ganjavi’s Khosrow and Shirin, a romantic and tragic retelling of it. The former is the world’s longest epic poem written by a single poet and the national epic of Greater Iran, while the latter is a fictional version of the Sasanian ruler Khosrow’s life portraying him as heroic king and star crossed lover and Shirin, his faithfulAramean queen.
The Sixth century patriarch of the Church of the East, Isho‘yahb met all three of the great rulers of his time, the Roman Emperor Heraclius, Sasanid Shahnshah Khosrow II and the second Muslim Caliph Hazrat Umar ibn al-Khattab. It was recorded that “Isho Yahb was treated respectfully throughout his life, by the king himself and his two Christian wives Shirin the Aramean and Mary the Roman.â€
Seventh-century Byzantine historiographer, the last historian of Late Antiquity, writing in the time of Emperor Heraclius (c. 630) Theophylact Simocatta argued that Shirin was Roman: “In the following year the Persian King (Khosrow II) proclaimed as Queen Seirem (Shirin) who was of Roman birth and Christian religion, and of an age blossoming for marriage, slept with her…In the third year he entreated Sergius, the most efficacious in Persia, that a child by Seirem be granted to him. Shortly afterwards this came to pass for him.â€
But the seventh century Armenian historian Sebeos contradicted Shirin’s Roman (Byzantine) ancestry: “(Xosrov), in accordance with their Magian religion, had numerous wives. He also took Christian wives, and had an extremely beautiful Christian wife from the land of Xuzhastan named Shirin, the Bambish, queen of queens (tiknats’ tikin). She constructed a monastery and a church close to the royal abode, and settled priests and deacons there allotting from the court stipends and money for clothing. She lavished gold and silver (on the monastery). Bravely, with her head held high she preached the gospel of the Kingdom, at court, and none of the grandee mages dared open his mouth to say anything—large or small—about Christians. When, however, days passed and her end approached, many of the mages who had converted to Christianity, were martyred in various places.â€
The 12th-century poet Nizami Ganjavi, the greatest romantic epic poet in Persian literature, responsible for imparting q colloquial and realistic style to the Persian epic, himself was married to a Kipchak slave girl, called Afaq, presented to him by Fakhr al-Din Bahramshah, the ruler of Darband. Afaq was Nezami’s “most beloved†wife of the three that he took over his lifetime. His only son Mohammad who he referred to as the “apple of my eyes†was from this wife. She died after Khosrow and Shirin was completed. Mohammad was seven at the time.
According to Professor of Middle Eastern and Islamic Studies at New York University, Peter Chelkowski, Nizami’s favorite pastime was reading Firdawsi’s Shahnameh. Nizami based the Shahnameh as a source for his three epics of Haft Paykar, Khosrow and Shirin and Eskandar-nameh (Alexander the Great), part of his Panj Ganj (Five Treasures). The second of his four romances Leyli and Majnun (see GT issue ) is based on a real life Arab couple.
Using his vast knowledge, Nizami was responsible not only linking Persia between Pre and Islamic times and also placed the nation in context of the Ancient World.
The princess was at the age when young people are ripe for falling in love and cajoled Shapur to tell her how she could meet the prince. Shapur told her that she would have to lose her companions to meet Khosrow between her kingdom and his. He gave her a ring Khosrow had sent her and said that if she couldn’t find Khosrow on the way, she should continue towards Madaen, the metropolis where the royal center of Ctesiphon was located. Once there, she should show the ring to the courtiers who would take her to Khosrow.
Farhad And Shirin2
Shirin did as she was told. She got on her trusty steed Shabdiz, which was so fast that nobody could catch up with her. After she had travelled for countless miles, Shirin felt hot and dusty from the hard ride. Both she and her horse were parched. When she came to a pond she dismounted and, seeing nobody around, stripped and stepped into the pond to take a bath.
Meanwhile, Khosrow was galloping fast towards the Armenia. On the way, he too chanced upon the clearing. He dismounted and, walking around, spied the moonlit image of a young, naked woman bathing in the silvery water with her long, thick, lush hair spread around her like a cape. Mesmerized by the image, he stood transfixed.
Feeling his intent gaze upon her, Shirin raised her eyes towards him. Their eyes met for an instant and they made an electric connection. Though she had seen likeness in the portrait, she didn’t recognize Khosrow due to his clever disguise. The prince felt that he was intruding and averted his gaze in respect.
Soon both resumed their journeys in opposite directions intent on their purpose.
Khosrow arrived in Armenia without further incident. The Queen welcomed him to her castle. He told her he had come to meet her niece and ask for her hand in marriage. Overjoyed at the thought of such an illustrious alliance bound in matrimony, the Queen told him that Shirin had set off for Madaen. They sent Shapur to bring her back, but before they could return, Khosrow got the sad news of his father’s demise. There had been a palace coup. The rebel leaders deposed, blinded and killed Hormizd. Appalled at the turn of events, Mahin Bano gave Khosrow a fresh Arabian horse nearly as fast as Shabdiz, named Golgoon, to ride back swiftly to Madaen.
By the time Shirin returned with Shapur, Khosrow had left to claim the throne. Back home, he was crowned Shahanshah Khosrow I only to be overthrown by the powerful and ambitious General Bahram Chobin who seized power and took the throne. The legitimate King fled to Armenia.
This time he and Shirin did finally meet. Their love affair began in earnest when Shirin overheard Barbad singing of the prince’s love for her in an adjoining tent tent to her abode. Khosrow and Shirin spent the days getting to know each other, and falling in love. Swept up in a sea of passion, Khosrow was impatient to consummate their love, but Shirin wanted to wait for their wedding night. As much as Khosrow wanted Shirin, he was now the legitimate King, and taken aback by her reluctance. So the lovers danced the dance of flirtation, two steps forward, and one step back.
Shirin remained resolute and adamant that she would not marry him unless he was not just King in name but in actuality too. Before she would consent to marry him, he had to reclaim his throne back from Bahram Chobin. She wanted him but she wanted to be married to a king more. Moreover, she probably felt that she could only respect him if he were strong and brave enough to punish his enemies. Feeling angered and rejected by Shirin, Khosrow had no choice but to leave. Shirin gave him Shabdiz and bid him a speedy and fruitful journey.
Khosrow needed help with forces and money. So he decided to solicit the help of his father’s erstwhile enemy the Caesar of the Byzantine Empire, Emperoror Maurice. He travelled straight to Constantinople and negotiated a deal with him. In exchange for returning former Byzantine territories under Persian control, Maurice agreed to supply Khosrow with additional forces on two conditions. One that Khosrow marry his eldest daughter Miriam and two that he not get remarried in her lifetime. With no other choice, Khosrow consented.
With the help of Caesar’s army, Khosrow’s forces waged a decisive battle against Bahram Chobin, defeated him and crowned himself Shahanshah of Persia. Having entered a marriage of political convenience, he continued to miss and pine for Shirin, but had a son with his new wife.
Back in Armenia, Shirin’s aunt, Mahin Bano fell ill and died, bequeathing her entire territory to Shirin before she died. Queen Shirin focused on improving the lives of her subjects and released deserving prisoners. Though beloved by her people, in her private thoughts she could neither forget Khosrow nor forgive him for his marriage to Miriam. He was always in her thoughts until one day she decided she could not bear it anymore. Entrusting her kingdom to her trusted advisers, she strode Golgoon and left Armenia for Madaen with a few companions. Upon arrival, she settled in a dark and gloomy castle, far from the royal palace.
Miriam heard about Shirin’s presence at the capital, but was so jealous that she kept Khosrow away from her. Khosrow and Shirin continued to send messages to each other through Shapur. One day Khosrow asked Shapur to tell Shirin to come to a secret meeting place. Shirin was angry at this request. She told Shapur to convey the message to Khosrow that she would not carry on in private with a married man; she wanted more.
Shirin only took milk; she was so upset that she couldn’t eat. Transporting milk to her secluded, far off castle over a rocky mountain was an arduous task for her caretakers to perform every day. She asked Shapur for a solution and he told her about his old schoolmate, an expert engineer/sculpturor named Farhad.
As a solution, Farhad devised an ingenious way of carving a canal through the mountain through which the milk would flow in a stream to where Shirin resided. When he met the Shirin to present her with the plan, he fell in love at first sight.
Farhad’s talent knew no bounds plus he wanted to impress his lady love. He cut the promised canal through sang-e-khara (solid granite) in just a month, ending in a pool by Shirin’s castle. When Shirin saw the completed canal, impressed with Farhad’s art and touched by his love and dedication for her, she removed her earrings and gave them to Farhad in gratitude as a reward and a token of her esteem. Farhad was speechless and overcome; returning the earrings, he took off into the wilderness where he pined for Shirin.
Soon tales of his love for Shirin travelled around town. Farhad, being single, was open about his feelings and would write and recite love poems he had written expressing his feelings. Word travelled to Khosrow who couldn’t brook another rival and, spurred on by jealousy, became determined to keep Shirin and her love for himself. Men thrive on competition. Khosrow had to figure out a way to get Farhad out of Shirin’s life without seeming petty or vengeful. Since he himself was married, so outwardly he couldn’t object to Shirin settling down.
The Palace Of Ardashir Constructed In AD 224, Has Three Large Domes, Which Are Amongst The Oldest Examples Of Such Large Scale Domes In The World
Farhad was not only a gifted artist and highly skilled engineer, but good looking to boot; he posed a real threat to the King. Khosrow called Farhad to his castle to try and bribe him to get him out of Shirin’s life. Nizami penned a dramatic and sensitive scene in which Khosrow and Farhad have a poetic dialogue about Shirin, by the end of which Khosrow knew Farhad would never willingly give up Shirin and winning her heart.
The Royal Standard (vexilloid) Of The Sasanian Empire
Khosrow promised Farhad that if he could cut a passage and a staircase through the mountains outside of his castle, he would let him marry Shirin. Khosrow knew that the project was so arduou, treacherous, and time-consuming that it would surely take Farhad the rest of his life to complete it. Farhad agreed to this project and started his labor of love.
Farhad diligently started work on carving the Bistoon Mountain. First he engraved a statue of Shirin on the mountainside, which he kissed several times a day to give him the impetus and inspiration to carry out his laborious project. He would climb to the mountaintop every morning without fail from wthere he would proclaim his undying love for Shirin, and then begin work. He worked day and night to complete this Herculean task.
Again the story of Farhad’s astonishing progress in what everyone had thought to be an impossible project soon reached the King’s ears. Everyone was talking about Farhad the wonderful artist/poet/consummate lover who took no rest and hardly slept intent on working a miracle in the mountains. Even Shirin went to visit Farhad, to “observe his progress on the project.†Each time she was more in awe of his dedication and felt closer to Farhad.
Shapur I
Hearing about all this, Khosrow didn’t know what to do. He envied Farhad his dedication and feared losing Shirin to Farhad as the project neared completion. He sought counsel from his advisors who told him he had to eliminate Farhad as a threat completely. Hence, a messenger was dispatched to the mountaintop to tell Farhad of Shirin’s death.Heart broken, inconsolable with grief and feeling utterly hopeless, Farhad did not want to go on living without Shirin; he threw himself off the mountain down to his death.
Shirin was devastated at the news of Farhad’s death. She mourned his death, cried inconsolably and ordered a suitable memorial monument erected at his gravesite. A remorseful Khosrow tried to console Shirin by sending her a remorseful condolence letter. As it happened, at roughly the same time, Miriam conveniently fell ill and died. Shirin replied with a condolence letter to Khosrow. (In Ferdowsi’s version, Shirin secretly poisoned Miriam and she replied to Khosrow’s letter with a sarcastic letter of condolence. The two royals seemed to be evenly matched, each doing away his/her love rival.)
You would think that with no further impediments, the story would come to a happy conclusion. Not to be, further strife was in store for the ill-starred couple. As fate would have it, before Khosrow could propose marriage to Shirin, he started having an affair with a woman called Shekar in Isfahan, which delayed the lovers’ union for another year.
When finally the errant King turned up at Shirin’s castle, he was drunk. Smarting at the slight she had received from him, Shirin allowed Khosrow into the courtyard of her castle as he was the King after all, but would not let him to come into her living quarters. She told him that she wouldn’t let a drunken man into her home, and that if Khosrow was truly interested in her, he would have to respect her as a woman of values and integrity. She told him she had waited for him all these years and deserved to be taken seriously. She held out for marriage despite her loneliness.
Khosrow returned to his palace, feeling sad and rejected. Shapur consoled him; he assured him of Shirin’s love and loyalty. He reiterated that if they truly loved each other, they were meant to be together.
Khosrow finally seriously proposed marriage to Shirin, treating her with all the respect she desired. They had a grand royal wedding; the lovers finally becoming husband and wife began their life together. Shirin was a true queen consort to Khosrow, helping him become a better king, kind and forgiving to his people.
Khosrow’s son, Shirouyeh, from his marriage to Miriam was a wayward, unruly and petulant young man. Since the age of only ten, he had harbored a crush on Shirin. Bitter and resentful, he bided his time and, as soon as he came of age, imprisoned his father, Khosrow, and crowned himself the King. Shirin stood by Khosrow and gave him hope. But this too, Shirouyeh didn’t like and murdered Khosrow while both husband and wife slept. When she woke up and saw Khosrow dead, Shirin was devastated. Shirouyeh sent a messenger to Shirin, telling her that she was allowed to mourn Khosrow for only one week and after that she would have to marry him.
Shirin lovingly and carefully prepared Khosrow’s body for his funeral. She then applied makeup and scent, dressed herself in lavish finery, dressed her hair, and put on her best jewellery and followed her husband’s coffin. Shirin appeared to have reconciled to her husband’s murder and looked like she was ready to move on. She followed Khosrow’s body as it was taken to a mausoleum for burial; she asked everyone for privacy so she could bid him good bye, undid Khosrow’s shroud and kissed his chest where the knife had made a wound. Then, she put a knife to her chest and fell heavily on Khosrow’s body, the knife plunging into her heart. Kissing his lips, holding him in her arms, she put her head on his shoulder and died.
It is interesting to note that this scene is very similar to the one in Romeo and Juliet. Surely, William Shakespeare was familiar with and inspired by Nizami’s poem to pen his own romantic tragedy.
A brief history of the Sasanian or Neo-Persian Empire
Before Islam, the last period of the Persian Empire was ruled by the imperial dynasty of the Zoroastrian practicing House of Sasan, which ruled from 224 to 651 AD.
The Sasanian Empire (official language Aramaic) was one of the world’s leading powers alongside its neighbour, the Roman-Byzantine Empire that consisted of the Western Roman Empire (official language Latin) and the Byzantine Eastern Empire (official language Greek). It was established after the fall of the Parthian Empire.
Radiate Of Valerian On A Coin At The Yorkshire Museum. Byzantine Emperor Valerian Was Defeated By Shapur I
At its largest, the Sasanian Empire included the area of Iran, Iraq, Bahrain, Kuwait, Oman, Qatar, UAE, Yemen, Syria, Palestine, Lebanon, Israel, Jordan, Armenia, Georgia, Azerbaijan, Dagestan, South Ossetia, Abkhazia, Egypt, Turkey, much of Central Asia, Afghanistan, Turkmenistan, Uzbekistan, Tajikistan and even Pakistan.
Ancient Iranian civilization peaked during Late Antiquity’s Sasanian Empire. Sasanian cultural influence permeated as far as Western Europe, Africa, China and India. It not only influenced late Ancient Roman culture as well as European and Asiatic Medieval art, but also Islamic art, architecture, music and literature that came after it.
Relief Of Shapur I, Naqsh I Rustam, Iran
 The Sasani House originated in Pars or as its now known Farz (South Iran, capital Shiraz) by the Governor of that province who had himself appointed Shahnshah.
The important rulers of this dynasty that ruled for 400 years are as following:
Shapur I The Great (240 – 270 AD) expanded his father Ardashir I’s territory and defeated the mighty Romans under Valerian the Elder (253-260 CE) and annexed multiple Roman territories. His second battle against the Romans at Barbalissos (in modern day Syria) was a resounding victory using his superior knowledge of tactics, strategic traps, and troop formations , and “destroying the entirety of 60,000 legionaries.â€
Bust Of Shapur II (r. 309 379)
The once unbeatable Roman Army was no match and was besieged at Edessa where Valerian was captured by Shapur who publicly shamed the defeated and imprisoned Emperor until his death.
Shapur’s victory over the Romans was immortalized with rock reliefs carved in Naqsh-e Rustam and Bishapur, as well as a monument inscribed in Persepolis in both Persian and Greek. He advanced into Anatolia (in modern day Turkey) and conquered Antioch but could not retain the territory and lost his harem to the Romans as revenge humiliation.
Shapur’s other achievements included the construction of the first dam bridge, founding many cities, and allowing Christians to settle lands and practice their faith freely. The Jewish community also enjoyed a fair and equitable status.
However, under pressure from Zoroastrian Magi some later Shahnshah, like Bahrams I and II, reversed Shapur’s policy of religious tolerance.
Shapur II the Great, the tenth Shahanshah (r. 309 to 379), was the longest-reigning monarch in Iranian history. He reigned since birth to his death 70 years later. His reign marked the start of the first Sasanian golden era with the expansion of the empire’s territorial realm. Though his mother and her advisors ruled in his minority, upon coming of age, Shapur II took the charge.
His small but disciplined army defeated the Arabs in the South and Central Asian tribes in the East all the way to present day Afghanistan.
Sasanians dominated the region of Turkmenistan not only militarily but also through art and culture. Shapur II also established such an effective administrative system that, despite weak and ineffective leaders that followed, the empire continued to function well as a unit.
Bahram V (r. 421–438) or Bahram-e Gur (Gur meaning onager or a wild ass. Nelieve it or not, he was nicknamed for his love of hunting wild asses) was the Shahanshah at the height of the Empire’s golden age during a time of prosperity and flourishing of the arts. Stories of his valor, hunting prowess, personal beauty, love affairs as well as important victories over the Romans, Turkic tribes, Indians and Africans were sung widely. Just like the Tudors and the Bourbons, apart from waging successful military campaigns, he indulged himself and his courtiers with elaborate hunting parties, banquets and elaborate courtly rituals. During this time, the best Sasanid literature, music and sports, such as polo, gained royal patronage.
At around this time, the Hephthalites or White Huns that consisted of Central Asian nomadic tribes started their campaign of frequent attacks on Persia inflicting plunder and mayhem. After being driven back repeatedly, the Huns annihilated the army of Peroz I (457–484) and devastated eastern Persia up till Herat. Though they exacted heavy tribute to return, the Empire became shaky and unstable.
Khosrau I (r. 531–579) also known as Anushirvan (with the immortal soul) was the most celebrated Sasanid ruler because he managed to reform the ageing governing body of Sssanids. He worked for the welfare of the people by promulgating a fairer system of taxation based on land survey and increased the national revenue. He changed the system by taking power away from great feudal lords with their own armies and transferring it to the dehqans (knights) that owed their allegiance to the central government and the bureaucracy. These small time landholders were absorbed in the Sasanid provincial administration and tax collection system. In this way, Khosrau centralised control over the army, feudal lords and bureaucracy, a move that would not happen in Europe for more than 1000 years.
Trying to restore the former glory of the Roman Empire, Emperor Justinian I negotiated the “eternal peace†treaty of 532 Khosrow I and paid 440,000 pieces of gold. However, within the decade, in 540, Khosrow broke the treaty and invaded Syria and Antioch. The Byzantines retaliated by sending ground troops into Sasanid territory by sailing across the Caspian Sea. Khosrow fought back successfully and annexed Armenia.
Thirty years later, the King of Yemen requested Khosrau’s help and military intervention to preserve his monarchy. Wily and far sighted Khosrau I sent a fleet and a small army to present day Aden which successfully took over the occupied capital of San’a’ and enthroned King Saif who allowed the Sasanids to establish a base in southern Arabia to control the sea trade with the East. Another thirty years later, the Sasanids annexed southern Arabia as a province.
In addition to expansion, Khosrau I founded new towns, rebuilt canals, beautified his capital city of Ctesiphon in modern Iraq and aided farmers increase their farm output. He built forts at frontier passes and relocated tribes to act as a buffer against against invaders. Decreeing Zoroastrianism as the official state religion, he remained tolerant of all religions, and even allowed one of his sons to convert to Christianity.
Khosrau II (r. 590–628) was his grandson. After the powerful General Bahram Chobin deposed Khosrau II’s father he declared himself Shahnshah Bahram VI. Khosrau II was forced to flee to Byzantine territory in Syria accompanied by Shirin who was not yet his wife, and beseech the Byzantine Emperor Maurice (582–602) for military assistance against Bahram, in exchange for the western Caucasus.
According to the 12th-century chronicler Michael the Syria, the alliance was bound in the marriage of Khosrau with Maurice’s eldest daughter Miriam or Maria.
The allied forces of the erstwhile rivals the Byzantines and Persians defeated Bahram at the Battle of Blarathon. When Khosrau was restored to power he handed over the hard won provinces of western Armenia and Caucasian Iberia to the Eastern Roman Emperor. Instead, Khosrau expanded the Sasanid Empire in the East, while Maurice retook control over the Balkans.
After Maurice was overthrown and killed in 602, Khosrau II took advantage of the ensuing civil war and used regicide as a pretext to systematically besiege the heavily fortified Byzantine territories in Mesopotamia and Armenia. In addition, Persian forces invaded Syria and captured Antioch in 611. After Persian generals repelled a counter-attack led in person by the new Byzantine Emperor Heraclius (r. 610–641) two years later, there was no turning back and one by one the Byzantine strongholds of Jerusalem, Alexandria in 619 and the rest of Egypt fell to the Persians.
The Sasanids had managed to restore the Neo Persian Empire to its glory and hegemony during the days of the Achaemenid dynasty. The Byzantine Empire, on the other hand, lay in tatters and was on the verge of collapse. This territorial peak translated into a blossoming of Persian art, music, and architecture. However, the Persian army was stretched, treasury empty and the population severely overtaxed.
Not one to give up, Heraclius risked all mounting a counter-offensive. He fought back in Anatolia and the Caucasus. The top three most powerful Persian generals were so busy competing against each other that Heracules took advantage of the disunity of their forces and won a series of resounding victories.
The two Emperors were locked in an iron grip struggle to the death. Khosrau allied himself with the Avars of the North Caucasus, Slavs and Central Asian tribes and launched a long term siege to the Byzantine capital of Constantinople in 626, a first by the Sasanids.
However, at home, he had lost power, prestige and the support of the Persian aristocracy. Just two years later, there was a coup. Khosrau II was overthrown, murdered and replaced by his son Kavadh II. Readily bending to the will of those that brought him to power, Kavadh promptly sued for peace by withdrawing from all occupied territories. In 629, Heraclius ceremoniously restored Christ’s True Cross to Jerusalem that had been in the possession of Khosrau’s Christian wife, Shirin. Kavadh died shortly after and civil war followed.
Maurice By Emilian Stankev. Maurice Was Khosrau II’s Father In Law, According To The Medieval Chronicler Michael The SyriaHeraclius, Emperor Of Byzantium
Five Shahnshahs over four years later, the Sasanid Empire was a shadow of its former glory. The power lay with the generals who kept control over the weakened empire.
In 632, the last Sasanian Shahanshah Yazdegerd III ascended the throne and Muslim Arab tribes started invading Persia.
The Sasanids couldn’t repel the initial Arab armies. Yazdegerd was an inexperienced boy king. The Byzantines too were under pressure from the newly united Arabs. Caliph Hazrat Abu Bakr’s commander Khalid ibn Walid and leader of the Arab army easily captured Mespotamia (Iraq) in 633.
In 637, Caliph Hazrat Umar ibn al-Khattab defeated the much larger Persian force led by General Rostam Farrokhzad and advanced on Ctesiphon, which fell after a prolonged siege. To save his life, Yazdegerd fled the capital eastward, leaving behind the Sasanid’s vast treasury. Though some courageous Sasanid governors joined together to push back the Arabs, there was no strong central authority to take charge and they too were easily defeated at the Battle of Nihaw?nd.
Derafsh Kaviani, the royal standard of the Sasanian Empire, was recovered by Zerar bin Kattab who was paid 30,000 dinars for it. After the jewels were removed, the Caliph Hazrat Umar burned the standard, signifying the end of the Sasanid Empire.
Yazdegerd was assassinated by a miller in 651, while the nobles who had accompanied him settled in Central Asia, spreading Persian culture and language there. Later their descendants returned to Persia and established the first native Iranian Islamic dynasty, the Samanid dynasty combining revived Sasanid traditions with Muslim laws.
The Muslim caliphs did not pressurize the native to convert to Islam, only be law abiding citizens and pay a jizya (tax). To be just and fair, the Caliph Hazrat Umar had a commission regularly survey the taxes and judge if they were more than the land could bear. The Zoroastrians gradually converted to Islam to gain prominent positions later under the Abbasid Caliphate.
Dr. Howard-Johnston, professor of Byzantine Studies at the University of Oxford, in his book Witnesses to a World Crisis, wrote that “The Last Great War of Antiquity†(between Rome and Persia) destroyed the two established great powers at the time of the emergence of a new religion (Islam), which led to the creation of a new world empire by Muslim warriors.
There was only one woman for Shashi Kapoor from the moment, aged only 18, he laid eyes on Jennifer Kendal to his parting breath at 79, despite being lusted after by millions of women. Theirs is a unique love story of true and complete lifelong commitment, one for the ages
By Mahlia Lone
Shashi Kapoor was born in Calcutta (now Kolkata) in 1938 and named Balbir Prithviraj Kapoor, to Prithviraj, the founder of Prithvi Theatres, and Ramsarni Kapoor. He was the youngest son, with Raj fourteen years older and Shammi seven years older than him. Shashi attended the Catholic boys school Don Bosco High School in Matunga, Mumbai. Meanwhile, he also became a child star, acting in his eldest brother Raj’s films in the late 40s under the name of Shashiraj, even playing a childhood version of Raj in Aag and Awara. In his late teens, he worked as an assistant stage manager as well as an actor for his father’s theatre group, Prithvi Theatres. When he was 18, he was loaned out to actor-manager Geoffery Kendal’s Shakespearana group in Calcutta in 1956 where he first laid his eyes on Jennifer.
Shashiraj, The Child Star
Four and a half years older than Shashi, Jennifer was born in England in 1935. For the first eight years of her life, she was raised by a relative while her parents, Geoffery and Laura, toured with Entertainments National Service Association (ENSA), a group of entertainers that sub-contracted with the military to entertain troops overseas. Geoffrey Kendal along with his troupe performed in the Far East: Hong Kong, Singapore and the backwaters of Malaya and Borneo, finally arriving in India in 1944. Jennifer resented being left behind and held it against her mother for years. Felicity, 13 years younger than Jennifer and a later a famous British TV star, was born when the couple was back in England.
The Kapoor Boys Prithviraj With Sons Raj, Shammi, Shashi & Grandson Randhir
Shashi and Jennifer’s eldest son Kunal Kapoor recounted in an interview, “My grandfather came to India during the war (World War II) with the British Army. He fell in love with the country and then returned in the 1950s.†Geoffery formed his own repertory company Shakespearana and took it on tour of India in the late 40s early 50s.
This time the couple brought their daughters with them. Because they grew up like nomads with hardly any local friends, shuttling from city to city, the two sisters were incredibly close and became each other’s confidantes despite the age gap. Between the two, Jennifer had a gentler, more compassionate spirit but held no religious conviction and would faint as on cue at church meetings her mother would attend so she would be excused.
“My wife thought I was gayâ€â€” Shashi Kapoor
Jennifer was growing up to be quite a beauty and started to play the lead in her father’s theatrical productions. “The ensemble would perform Shakespeare before royalty one day, and in rough rural villages the next where audiences included many schoolchildren,†as penned in Kendal’s life story, The Shakespeare Wallah: the Autobiography of Geoffrey Kendal, co-authored by Clare Colvin.
Jennifer Kendal Before Her Marriage
“My maternal grandfather loved India. He spent half his life in India. You should read Shakespeare Wallah, the book he wrote. You will know how my grandparents travelled the whole of India with their plays,†added Kunal.
According to the “Shakespeare-Wallahs†(as Geoffery was called), Shashi and Jennifer’s romance began in the Empire House in Kolkata. Owing to some confusion, the management company of Empire House allotted the same dates to Shakespearana and to Prithvi Theatres. It was finally decided that both the companies should perform on alternate days. While there Shashi was loaned to Geoffery for five months because the latter was short of actors to stage his plays.
Fairlawn Hotel
The fair 5’11†18-year-old Shashi spied 23-year-old blonde Jennifer backstage and it was love at first sight. In her autobiography, White Cargo, Felicity Kendal recalled, “Shashi was backstage and happened to look through the curtains; that’s when he caught a glimpse of Jennifer. There she was dressed in a black and white polka-dotted summer dress with a halter neckline—daring—and she was pretty, fanning herself with her programme. Shashi fell instantly in love.â€
Shashi worked in several shows along with Jennifer. They finally declared their love to each other when she was playing the character of Miranda in Shakespeare’s The Tempest at the Royal Opera House in Mumbai. Geoffery was not pleased. He didn’t want to lose his leading lady, so he would often insult Shashi for his accent and pick fights over Jennifer. She secretly mentored her Indian boyfriend on the finer points of English drama.
Aseem Chhabra, the author of Shashi Kapoor’s biography – Shashi Kapoor The Householder, The Star, quoted their daughter Sanjana saying , “When they (Shashi and Jennifer) were doing theatre, they were poor. They were sleep deprived and underfed and my father would tell me how they would be tormented by hunger while strolling down the streets—both my parents trying to decide if they could get half a paratha. Then, they would walk past a restaurant and there would be my grandfather, Geoffrey Kendal, having a huge meal with a beer. My father couldn’t walk in. He was his employee and he was also stealing his daughter. So there was no way he could march into the storm.†Despite belonging to different countries and different cultures, Shashi and Jennifer shared an affinity and love for the theatre, both literally had acting in their blood.
Shashi Kapoor With Wife Jennifer, Her Sister Felicity Kendal And Madhur Jaffery At The Berlin Film Festival In 1965
Good friends with Ismail Merchant, Shashi Kapoor starred in many Merchant Ivory films over the span of his career
Raj was not in on the secret love affair, but Shammi was. Geeta Bali, his wife, was the first member of the Kapoor family to meet Jennifer and gifted her dupatta as a token of her acceptance during a show in Ooty.
Shashi and Jennifer decided to marry and leave her father’s repertory company to start their own theatre acting company. “The two ran off to Singapore and Malaysia to stage a play, but the shows got cancelled and they were broke. They wanted to get married so Raj (Kapoor) Uncle sent them money for their tickets and they came to Mumbai and got married (in 1958),†Kunal recounted the tale decades later. Jennifer’s own family boycotted her wedding.
“It is not true that my maternal grandfather (Geoffrey Kendal) did not want my parents to marry,†Kunal defended. “My grandfather was concerned about losing his leading lady. My mother played all the lead roles in the Shakespeareana theatre company run by my grandfather. It would be hard to find better grandparents than my mother’s parents. They were the most amazing people.â€
Shashi said, “I was born in Kolkata: I had taken my wife, Jennifer, to the yellow coloured house in Kalighat where we used to live. I hardly remember my one-year stay in the city then. But my father would often talk about how he would cycle from Hazra Road to New Theatres. Even Raj Kapoor had spent eight to nine years here. He spoke Bangla, played football on the Maidan and was in charge of the first-aid box of injured players. I had also started doing a Bangla film called Sriparna starring Madhabi Mukherjee and Anjana Bhowmick. But the film got stuck. Manikda was a real hero for me: Yet I was petrified of him. He was so tall and had a rich baritone. Sometimes, we would meet at film festivals.
It’s been 10 years since I came to Kolkata: I love chorchori and chingri maach. The Fairlawn Hotel makes me nostalgic. Some of the old members of the staff still call me Shashi Baba. They remember the 18-year-old Shashi Kapoor who met Jennifer in Kolkata.†In fact, the newlyweds spent the initial days of their marriage in Room No 17 of Fairlawn Hotel, on 33-A Sudder Street in Calcutta, which is now known as The Shashi Kapoor Room. Fans check in as a tribute to their idol.
“I first saw her when she came to watch a Prithvi Theatres production in Kolkata. But I was too nervous to converse when we got introduced. Initially, she thought I was gay. It’s customary in India for young men to move around in groups and often hold hands as a gesture of their friendship. However, this simple gesture seems odd to the Westerners. Since she came from an English theatre background, which had a lot of gays, she thought I too had such preferences,†he chuckled.
“After the wedding, Shashi Kapoor continued working in theatre,†wrote Chhabra. “In 1959 Jennifer gave birth to their first child (Kunal) and took a hiatus from acting. Gradually Shashi felt the earning from theatre was not enough to give his family a good life. So he followed in the footsteps of his brothers and joined the Hindi film industry.†They had two more children Karan and daughter, Sanjana.
 “Nanda till date remains my most favourite heroine. She was like a fairyâ€â€” Shashi Kapoor
However, it was not as an actor but as an assistant director in the film Post Box 999, the debut film of Sunil Dutt, that Kapoor started his adult career in films. This was followed by assisting Ravindra Dave in Guest House (1959), and movies such as Dulha Dulhan and Shriman Satyawadi, where Raj Kapoor was the lead hero.
Shashi finally made his debut as a leading man in the 1961 film Dharmputra, but his early Hindi films did not fare well commercially. Meeting Ismail Merchant and James Ivory through Jennifer and having an appreciation for meaningful and sensitive cinema, he starred in their third film The Householder (1963)Â opposite his sister-in-law Felicity Kendal and followed this up with Shakespeare-Wallah (1965), acting alongside all the Kendals. He was one of the first Indian actors to do crossover films, which have since become classics.
But Indian actresses were wary of being cast opposite this struggling newbie. Then, established actress Nanda gave him a break by signing one after another eight Hindi films opposite him because she believed in his talent. Their first films as a pair were the critically acclaimed romantic film Char Diwari (1961) and Mehndi Lagi Mere Haath (1962). The “good looking, cultured Kapoor,†endeared himself to all his co-stars. And Nanda found him “culturally different†from the other actors at the time. Other romantic films they did together included Jab Jab Phool Khile (1965), Neend Hamari Khwab Tumhare (1966), Raja Saab (1969) and Rootha Na Karo (1970), etc.
In an interview in the 90s, Kapoor declared that Nanda was his favourite actress and that he regarded her as one of his mentors, “Nanda till date remains my most favourite heroine. Do you know the likes of Sridevi have blatantly imitated her Yeh Shama song sequence from Jab Jab Phool Khile in their films? She was like a fairy in an awesome film industry, which has no respect for genuine talent. Very few could match Nanda in her transparency and emotional abilities.â€
Shashi & Jennifer With Their Kids Sanjana, Kunal And Karan
Nanda too stated that Shashi Kapoor was her favorite actor. Theirs was a platonic and professional friendship that was too last the rest of their lives because he was a thorough gentleman who had a strong work ethic, never reporting late on set, nor throwing any starry tantrums. Speaking on the subject of the casting couch in the 60s, he candidly remarked, “You’ve no idea how Dharmendra and Sanjay Khan were blackmailed by senior actresses when they were newcomers. I’m very grateful to Nanda that she was extremely gracious and decent with me.â€
Shashi Kapoor said gratefully, “It is Bimalda who taught me how to face the camera and never be conscious of it. In Prem Patra (1962), he asked me to use the silent language of my eyes without speaking. My heroine Sadhana, who was initially hesitant to work with me, complimented me after the shot. Hrishikesh Mukherjee and Gulzar, in all fairness, rank nowhere compared to Bimalda.â€
“Shashi Kapoor never spoke ill about anybody even if he was hurt,†Amitabh Bachchan wrote after his friend’s death in a tribute.
Based on Noel Coward’s short story, the movie Pretty Polly: A Matter of Innocence (1967) starred popular British actress Hayley Mills opposite Shashi Kapoor and was set in Singapore. Bombay Talkie (1970) another Merchant Ivory film in which he plays against type and stars as an adulterous Indian actor opposite Jennifer who portrays a promiscuous novelist having a fling with him. Despite these international projects, at home Kapoor’s career was facing a lull.
“In the late ‘60s, he did not have any work. We saw a lot of him then,†said Kunal. “That was also the time we discovered Goa. He sold his sports car. Mum also started selling things because we didn’t have money. After Sharmilee (1971), things changed again. There have been many ups and downs, but it never bothered us. My parents were in love with each other; they took care of each other.â€
Shashi, Kunal And Jennifer. The Family Loved Relaxing On The Beach
Shashi went on to appear in 116 Hindi films, including 61 films as the solo lead hero and 55 multi star-cast films, 21 films as supporting actor and special appearances in 7 films. He was one of the most popular actor in Bollywood during the 60s, 70s and until the mid-80s and was the second highest paid after Rajesh Khanna, whom he considered a very versatile actor, and tied in the early 70s with Dev Anand and in the late 70s with Sanjeev Kumar and Dharmendra. Playing the part of the handsome, personable and affable romantic hero, Shashi Kapoor formed on screen pairs with all the top actresses of the day: Raakhee, Sharmila Tagore, Hema Malini, Zeenat Aman, Parveen Babi and Moushumi Chatterjee from the late sixties to the mid-eighties.
Family Man Shashi Kapoor With His Daughter, Sanjana
After their first movie together Sharmilee became a blockbuster, Raakhee was frequently paired with him, and they acted in hit films such as Kabhi Kabhie (1976), Baseraa (1981), and the critically acclaimed Trishna (1978) amongst others. He said he enjoyed working with her the most. He starred with Sharmila Tagore in hits like Aamne Samne (1967), Suhana Safar (1970), Aa Gale Lag Jaa (1973) that created a storm with its theme of premarital sex and pregnancy, and the critically acclaimed New Delhi Times (1985), winning him a National Film Award for Best Actor in 1986. With Zeenat Aman, he worked in hit films like Chori Mera Kaam (1975), Deewaangee (1976), Roti Kapda Aur Makan (1974), Heeralal Pannalal (1978), Bhavani Junction (1985), Satyam Shivam Sundaram (1978). In SSS, as it was known, Shashi Kapoor portrays an evolved, non-judgmental male unconcerned by his wife’s romantic past and it was thought that his relationship of two equals with Jennifer helped him understand and relate to this character. The songs of most of these films were set in stunning holiday resorts like Kashmir and Simla and the tunes are timeless. When he passed away, fans shared video clips from these songs online to relive their childhood memories of the star.
Because he was so much in love with Jennifer throughout their marriage and because he actually was a romantic gentlemanly non-sleazy guy in real life as well, there was not even a whiff of a rumor about Shashi Kapoor despite working with such beautiful and sexy women on a daily basis and going on location shoots with them. Quite remarkable an achievement!
Kapoor also made a popular pairing with Amitabh Bachchan and the two co-starred in a total of 12 films: Roti Kapda Aur Makaan (1974), Kabhi Kabhie (1976), Kaala Patthar (1979), Suhaag (1979), Namak Halaal (1982) Silsila (1981), Namak Halaal (1982), and Akayla (1991). He made a great foil for Bachchan’s “Angry Young Man†persona. The two actors are particularly famous for Deewaar (1975), a film written by Salim-Javed about two brothers on opposing sides of the law, with Shashi playing a cop and Amitabh a thug. In the climactic confrontation scene, Shashi spouts the line, “Mere paas maa hai†(I have Mother) so effectively that the phrase became a part of Indian pop culture and his style is still emulated by actors today.
Similarly, in Yash Chopra directed film Silsila the two actors effortlessly play fun-loving brothers having a blast. They had over time developed a perfect understanding of the other’s acting style and timing. Interestingly, due to his boyish looks and effervescent, youthful personality, Kapoor who was six to seven years older always played the younger brother to Bachchan in many of the bromance films they acted in.
Amitabh Bachchan has often said that the reason why he and Shashi could do so many films together was because “Shashiji was absolutely hassle-free as a co-star and was only interested in his work.â€
Shashi Kapoor was regularly cast with his real life buddy Sanjeev Kumar also in films like Mukti (1977), Muqaddar (1978), and Pakhandi (1984), etc. He was also close friends with Pran, Dharmendra, Dev Anand, Ismail Merchant and Rajesh Khanna. Though friendly with Bachchan, it was not until they were much older that Shashi and he became close.
“My father was very professional and easy to work with. He had no tantrums, no starry airs, he never misbehaved on the sets, he was punctual and everybody liked working with him,†said Kunal.
Shashi also made time for meanigngful projects, like Conrad Rooks’ directed Siddhartha (1972) based on the novel of the same name by Hermann Hesse. Set in north India, the film relates the story of the young Siddhartha born to a rich family, searching for a meaningful way of life. On his voyage of self-discovery, he goes through a cycle of asceticism, sensual pleasure and material wealth, followed by self-revulsion. Eventually he achieves oneness with a higher self and harmony within himself. Siddhartha learns that the secret of life cannot be learnt from another, but must be achieved through inner experience.
Kunal described their family life as being completely normal and non-starry. “We knew he was an actor. Everybody in my mother and my father’s family were actors. We were aware that going to public places with him in Mumbai was a problem. If we went to the zoo, it would have to be at 6:30 in the morning. And we would have to run away as soon as a crowd gathered. Dad never worked on Sundays. He spent the whole day with the family. We would have all three meals together. He never invited his friends over on Sunday. In the late 1970s and early 1980s, he used to work in many films. He used to do six shifts. We would sit for breakfast at 7.30 am. No matter what time he came in the previous night, he would be at the breakfast table at 7.30. Our father was an integral part of our life. He was not strict. Very few fathers in our culture have a close relationship with their children. Fortunately, we had a great one-to-one relationship with him. I am hands on with my kids; I have washed my son’s bottom. I have changed his nappies…that is the kind of relationship I had with my father. My father didn’t have such a relationship with his father.
My father would try and schedule his outdoor shootings to coincide with our school holidays so that we would be together. But we were not taken on the sets of the film. Nowadays, we shoot early in the morning, but in those days, the shooting would start at 9:30 am or 10 am and end by 4 pm, so there was plenty of time to be together. For five or six years we went to Kashmir every summer during the shooting, but we would do our own thing with our mother. At home in Mumbai, we would go swimming; you could say we grew up in the Breach Candy club pool (a well known club in South Mumbai). We would also go to Juhu beach and spend the whole day there.â€
Then, Shashi started getting restless. 1978 turned to be a turning point in Shashi’s career. The death of one’s parents brings home one’s own sense of mortality. After he lost his parents, Shashi felt he had to change his life; he wasn’t happy; he complained that he “didn’t quite enjoy running around trees.†Additionally, he felt that the film industry was being run by loan sharks interested in making a quick buck via commercial potboilers or “masala films†rather than meaningful and artistic cinema.
Shashi said about Jennifer, “She was my worst critic too and disliked 75 per cent of my films.†Jennifer wanted more for her husband; she wanted his artistic fulfillment and suggested he should do something he really loved.
British actress Hayley Mills (L) and co-star Shashi Kappor (C) at the lobby of Raffles Hotel, Singapore. They are in SIngapore to shoot a film “Pretty Polly”.
Both husband and wife put their heads together and came up with a well thought out three pronged plan. First, he decided to make and act in films, which he believed in. In 1978, he set up his production house Film Valas, under which he would produce thought provoking but commercially viable movies starting with Junoon.
Next, they decided it was time they returned to their first love: theatre. “My father bought the land and built Prithvi Theatres for plays (in Juhu, north-western Mumbai). He did it in memory of his father Prithviraj Kapoor and his father’s travelling theatre. My father was producing Junoon (1978) and doing six shifts a day, so my mother looked after the theatre completely,†explained Kunal. â€Now it’s being run by Sanjana.â€Â The Prithvi Theatres also functions as an acting school where Shakespeare is taught to and enjoyed by all those who wish to do so.
Sunday Was Family Day At The Kapoors
With her kids growing up, this was a new beginning for Jennifer too. She was actively involved in all stages of theatre productions, and started acting again in their home produced films. Kapoor roped in avant-garde directors like Shyam Benegal, Govind Nihalani, Aparna Sen and Girish Karnad to create such great films as Junoon (1978) and 36 Chowringee Lane (1981), in which Shashi cast Jennifer. For this film, she was nominated for the BAFTA (British Academy of Film and Television Arts) Award for Best Actress in a Leading Role. Other critically acclaimed films that he produced and starred in versatile roles include Kalyug (1981), Vijeta (1982) and Utsav (1984) based on a Sanskrit drama, in which he is virtually unrecognisable.  Shashi said, “Jennifer felt Utsav was too dark a film. My performance there, she had said, was ‘okay’. But her ‘okay’ meant good!†Her opinion was the most important to him. Although the films were well received by critics and a discerning audience, they were not big hits at the box office. The Kapoors went through a financial crunch but they were happy.
Third, Shashi made more time for British as well as American films, such as starring in another Merchant Ivory classic period movie, Heat and Dust (1982), which co-starred Jennifer and Julie Christie and was set in the Raj.
Tragedy struck the Kapoors’ happy household. “It was 1983. Cannes. Jennifer—who, until then, was thought to be suffering from amoebic dysentery—was diagnosed with cancer. Geoffrey Kendal writes in his autobiography that when he learnt of his daughter’s malady, he could not utter the word ‘cancer’ for the longest time; he called it ‘the illness’ or ‘this thing,’†wrote Chhabra. Jennifer had terminal colon cancer.
“In the meantime, Jennifer, in her own way, slowly came to terms with the diagnosis, and began informing those close to her, including friends like Anil Dharker. ‘She started telling me about how they had tried to brighten up a room with wallpaper at the Tata Memorial Hospital in Bombay,’ Anil says. ‘And I asked, well, why did you go there? And she replied, ‘Anil, don’t you see? I’ve got the Big C.’ That was it. That was how I came to know.’
“Towards the end, Jennifer’s only concern was for her children,†recalled her sister, Felicity.
After her diagnosis, Jennifer had surgery in India and seemed to be recovering. But later, during a trip to London and after more check-ups, it appeared that the cancer had spread. Jennifer spent her last months in the British capital in the hospital and at her parents’ home.â€
“My mother died when she was just 50. My dad was 46 then,†Kunal added. “Our mother’s death caused us and our father a lot of grief; we had our own way of dealing with it.â€
PKT2938 – 201761 FELICITY KENDAL 1985 Jennifer (right) & Felicity Kendal. Jennifer died last year She’s bright, beautiful, and talented. She has an adoring husband, a devoted public and a thriving career. But few who see Felicity Kendal bounce on to the stage of The Aldwych each night as Dotty in the West End hit Jumpers could guess that behind the chirpy facade lies a world of grief and loss. Last September the golden girl of British theatre lost her elder sister Jennifer – the person she has relied on since she was a small child, the person she laughed with and learned from, until she felt that they were as close as any two people could be. Jennifer was only 50 when she died of cancer.
Chhabra described Shashi’s heartbreak and subsequent life after Jennifer succumbed to cancer: “The family, as a whole, found itself teetering, without a mainstay. ‘My parents used to spend half the year in India with my sister,’ Felicity states, ‘but when she died, they felt going back was too painful, so they lost their home as well as Jennifer.’ And then, there was Shashi. After Jennifer’s demise, Dev Benegal says that he met Kunal Kapoor at a memorial at Prithvi Theatres: ‘The family had just come back from Goa and Kunal said to me, “Dad took this boat out in the middle of the sea. When he got there, that was the first time he cried. Really, he wept.â€â€™ Like Dev, I’m stunned by the rawness of that moment—of Shashi, alone in the vast open seas, sorrowing. ‘He was really shaken by her death.’
Condolences poured in and there were press reports about Jennifer, the fine actress and grand woman.
Shashi Kapoor continued to work after Jennifer Kendal Kapoor’s passing, and some of his best work emerged during a time of loss. But something inside him did break. ‘I think the death of Jennifer was a big blow to him,’ (British Playwright) Hanif Kureishi says, who worked with Shashi on Sammy and Rosie Get Laid (1987) two years after his wife’s demise. ‘It really destroyed him.’
Jennifer had been the love of Shashi’s life, his true anchor. With her death, he became rudderless. Simi Garewal tells me, ‘Jennifer occupied—or Shashi surrendered to her—a large part of his personality. And they merged. With Jennifer gone, Shashi struggled, but couldn’t find himself. That vast area of his personality that was Jennifer—now it lay empty. A void. I met him in London over dinner with Ismail Merchant and could see that he was floundering. He was different—not himself.’
In a televised interview shortly after her death,
Shashi spoke lovingly about his relationship with
Jennifer from their previous births, which will go on in
the next birth—their “Janam janam ka saath”
Anil Dharker, always a friend, bore witness to Shashi’s emotional collapse. Sometimes, the actor would depend on him—the way he must have, once, on Jennifer—to help him muddle through awkward social situations—such as, when the Ministry of Information and Broadcasting would request him to invite a foreign dignitary to dinner. ‘And then he would ring me up,’ Anil says, ‘and implore: “Look, I have this very boring dinner guest, do you mind keeping me company?†And I would do that. But when the dignitary would leave, Shashi would actually push me out.’
Then, Anil, and those close to Shashi, bore witness to the actor’s physical breakdown. Without the strict discipline Jennifer imposed on his existence, the star began indulging in his two chief weaknesses—food and drinkâ€. Chhabra narrated what Shashi’s Deewaar co-star (who later became a niece-in-law) Neetu Singh Kapoor told him about how Jennifer had taken care of Shashi’s health while she was alive. ‘I would look at his food and say, ‘What’s wrong with you, Shashi Uncle? One orange he would have and thoda sa dahi (a little bit of yogurt).’ That was his lunch. And he would say, ‘My wife will kill me if I eat anything more!’ Neetu had told the biographer. “While Jennifer Kendal Kapoor was alive, she maintained a strict watch over her husband’s diet. This is the reason why, unlike the other Kapoor men, Shashi Kapoor stayed slim for the longest time. It was also why a lot of those around Shashi would feel sorry for him.
After her death Anil remembers dropping by for lunch on occasion, and asking for a glass of beer, only to learn that Shashi had been drinking vodka since the morning. ‘His domestic staff would bring refills as soon as his glass emptied out,’ Anil says. ‘He wouldn’t even have to ask. They knew exactly how long it took him to finish his drink and they would be ready with the next. By the end of lunch, he would be quite sozzled.’
‘I tried, quite often, to talk him out of it,’ Anil continues. ‘In fact, Sanjana and Kunal would say, “Come on, do something, he listens to you!†And I would respond, “This is one area where he doesn’t listen to me at all.†Then, they would say, “Visit more often because when you are here, at least he walks around. Otherwise, he just sits.†So I did.’
As Shashi found himself caught in a loop of grief and consumption, he fell victim to that infamous Kapoor syndrome— of putting on too much weight, too soon.
Gulliver’s Travels (1996) 1Jinnah
A family friend remembered, “When I asked him, ‘Please tell me about Jennifer aunty.’ He sighed, flashed his legendary toothy smile and said, ‘See how life is static for me without her. Not only was she my inspiration but also my real mentor during good, medium and bad days. She really was the greatest influence on me. As a Hindu I believe in the immortal soul. She is always with me. I sense her presence often. And the house and everything in it is just as it was when she was alive.â€
In a televised interview shortly after her death, Shashi spoke lovingly about his relationship with Jennifer from their previous births, which will go on in the next birth— their “Janam janam ka saath.â€
Asked about remarrying, he said there was no question of it, as there was no one else like Jennifer, nor would there ever be anyone like her. She was ‘The One†for him and he recognized that the first time he laid eyes on her.
Shashi’s friends rallied around him. Rajesh Khanna gave him his comeback role as character in Alag Alag (1985). Kapoor also starred alongside Pierce Brosnan and Saeed Jaffrey in the period film The Deceivers (1988). Amitabh Bachchan and nephew Rishi Kapoor agreed to star in Kapoor’s directorial debut movie Ajooba (1991), an awful fantasy superhero dud. Kunal said, “My father directed only one film, Ajooba. The film was a big party on the sets. Everybody had a blast. I don’t think he was interested in direction. He is an actor. Likewise, he is not a businessman to produce a film. He made great films because he gave his cast and crew whatever they wanted.†The movie sank without a trace and Shashi decided he couldn’t afford to produce movies anymore.
“His health rapidly deteriorated. He was forced to leave Atlas Apartments and moved to Juhu, where he could be looked after by his son, Kunal. ‘With that, his whole life changed,’ Madhu Jain tells me. ‘He was a South Bombay person,’ and the move, she claims, added to the star’s loneliness, his growing depression. ‘I went to Juhu a few times,’ Anil adds, ‘but really, he stopped saying very much.’ Simi, with characteristic insight, tells me, ‘It’s as though Shashi had given up the inner struggle. He almost became a recluse,’†wrote Chhobra. “It was as if he had lost the will to live.â€
Shashi’s lifelong friend Ismail Merchant cast him in In Custody (1993), based on Anita Desai’s 1984 Booker Prize nominated novel that tells the story of a college professor of Hindi who interviews a great Urdu poet (Shashi Kapoor) as a metaphor for “the clash between modernization and tradition.†Kapoor won a National (Special Jury) Award for his stellar and nuanced performance. He followed up this success with playing a grand Raja in the British-American miniseries produced by Jim Henson Productions of the TV adaptation of Gulliver’s Travels (1996). The miniseries had an international ensemble cast led by Ted Danson and won 5 Emmy Awards. In Jinnah (1998), Kapoor was the narrator. His last movie was fittingly a Merchant Ivory one called Side Streets (1998) in which he co-starred with Shabana Azmi. After this, he gracefully retired from acting.
Kapoor had the spotlight on him once again at the Shashi Kapoor Film Festival held in Muscat, Oman (September 2007). At the 55th Annual Filmfare Awards in 2010, Shashi Kapoor received the Filmfare Lifetime Achievement Award. In 2011, he was honoured with the Padma Bhushan by the Government of India for his contributions to Art-Cinema. And, in 2015, he was awarded the 2014 Dadasaheb Phalke Award, becoming the third member of his family to receive the highest award in Indian Cinema after Prithviraj Kapoor and Raj Kapoor.
“Nobody in the Kapoor family except Sanjna, Kunal and I are passionate about theatre now: That may be because Mr Raj Kapoor transferred all his energy to films. Shammi Kapoor used theatre as a springboard for films. I would never have joined films had Prithvi Theatre not closed down,†said Shashi in an interview after receiving the DP Award.
Shashi remained faithful to Jennifer’s memory till his last breath.
“My father dreamt of having a Prithvi Theatre in every town: That’s why he named his company Prithvi Theatres. It would be a good idea to have a Prithvi Theatre in Kolkata. Wish I can watch some Bangla plays during this visit. I used to watch Shombhu Mitra and Utpal Dutt’s plays. We have a Little Prithvi Player where adults stage productions for children.
I don’t want to act any longer: My five grandchildren are the love of my life. The eldest one, who is a teenager, has already started eyeing girls. Is he following me? Well, my first love was Jennifer. When I was three, I wanted to marry my mother. When I was six, I wanted to marry my aunt and subsequently my cousin too!
Kareena is adorable: I watch her films but she still has to do my favourite film.â€
Kapoor’s children, for a short while, became Hindi film actors but their Anglo Saxon looks and accented Hindi prevented them from having successful careers. Kunal married director Ramesh Sippy’s daughter, Sheena and had two children together, Shaira and Zahan, before getting divorced. Nowadays, Kunal has an extremely successful ad film direction company called appropriately Adfilm-Valas that makes big budget commercials. Karan, an accomplished photographer, lives in Chelsea, London, with his British wife, Lorna, and their kids, Aliya and Zach. Sanjana married wildlife conservationist and Tiger crusader Valmik Thapar, has a son named Hamir and runs the Junoon foundation to promote arts, culture and drama.
“My father had a good family, a good life, he made good films, and he doesn’t care about anything now. He has not been well for some time; he has a lot of complications and has dialysis three times a week,†said Kunal last year. By this time, Shashi had suffered a loss of partial memory, a stroke that left him partially paralyzed, and a heart attack and had been rendered virtually immobile. He used a wheelchair for his rare excursions.
Shashi After Receiving The Padma Bhusha Award With Sanjana, Kunal And His Children, Shaira And ZahanSanjana & Valmik Thapar With Their Son Himesh
Kapoor was admitted at the Kokilaben Hospital, Versova, Mumbai, in December 2017 for a chest infection. He died at the age of 79 due to complications from advanced liver cirrhosis. Eldest surviving male relative, nephew Randhir Kapoor told waiting reporters, “Yes, he has passed away. He had kidney problem for several years. He was on dialysis for several years.â€
Shashi and Jennifer shared an indelible bond of understanding and complete commitment, even after her death after 26 years of marriage. He remained faithful to her memory till his last breath. He neither remarried nor had an affair or even an emotional friendship because the world began and ended with Jennifer for him. With his charming dimpled smile, infectious mischievous banter and romantic spirit, he made woman swoon and believe in true love. And he embodied that spirit not just on screen but in his real life as well. He was a man who so deeply loved his wife and was so committed to her that he chose to spend the rest of his life cherishing her memory. Just as she had loyal and faithful, so did he love her till his last breath.
The lyrical folk tale of Sassi Punnu does not merely tell the tragic tale of two lovers but also speaks of the lilting romance of the River Indus, the resounding echo of the arid Baluch mountains, the dry, hot, sandy air wafting in the Thar Desert and the pleasing fragrance of the city of Bhambhor as described by Shah Abdul Latif Bhittai, the 18th century Sindhi Sufi poet, scholar, mystic and saint in his poetic compilation Shah jo Risalo. The story of Sassi Punnu is the most famous of the seven tragic Sindhi romances that Shah Latif immortalized in his work. In keeping with Sufi tradition, he penned the tales not just as earthly love affairs but as examples of eternal love and divine union. Having lived during the golden age of Sindhi culture, Latif is considered to be the greatest Muslim poet of the Sindhi language. In fact, Seyyed Hossein Nasr, Professor of Islamic studies at George Washington University, called Shah Latif “(the) direct emanation of (the Persian poet) Rumi’s spirituality in South Asia”
By Mahlia Lone
As with all folk tales, there are many versions of this romance. This version has been adapted from the tale written by Shafi Aqeel in his book Pakistan kee Lok Dastanain (The Folk Tales of Pakistan) by Professor Muhammad Sheeraz Dasti, a lecturer at IIUÂ in Islamabad and the University of Colorado at Boulder.
During Raja Dilu Rai’s rule in 11th century AD in Sindh, in Brahminabad on the bank of Bhambhor Canal near Gharo district, Thatta lived a Hindu Raja called Tania with his wife Mandhar who were childless. Desperate for a son, they visited temples, presented offerings and supplicated pundits, pujaris, yogis and faqeers for their blessings. Finally, one day the couple was fortunate enough to have a baby girl. Though they had prayed for a son, they rejoiced at the birth of their beautiful baby. As per Brahmin traditions, the parents went to an astrologer to foresee their daughter’s future. The astrologer carefully studied the birth-chart, made planetary calculations, and in a portentous manner declared that their daughter would bring disgrace to their royal house by marrying a Muslim boy.
A Recent Painting Of Shah Abdul Latif Bhittai
“Sassi is the prettiest of all girls in the world. Oh Prince, she is absolutely matchless. She is a fairy from Koh Kaaf. Her eyes are deeper than oceans on the earth, her cheeks are brighter than stars in the sky, and her voice is sweeter than the cuckoos in the jungles. Whoever sees her smiling loses his heart to herâ€â€
The strict Brahmin couple was devastated. But they couldn’t kill their precious baby. For the sake of family honour and their upper caste status, they made a difficult decision. They put their baby daughter in a wooden box and, early one morning when it was still dark, floated it on to the River Indus, hoping she would be rescued by a kind soul.
By afternoon, the box floated into the dhobi ghaat (riverside laundry) of Bhambhor, a busy trading city. The laundry owner Atta was a prosperous businessman employing more than five hundred washermen serving the entire town. Atta and his wife too were childless and had made pilgrimages to the shrines of saints, dervishes and Sufis, donated charity and fed the hungry in the hopes of being blessed with a child.
The box was fished out of the river and a beautiful baby girl, sucking her right thumb, was found inside. The washerman took it to Atta. As soon as he looked inside the box, the baby smiled at him. Atta was instantaneously smitten; he picked her up, hugged her and took her home to his wife.
“Look, God has given us a daughter, bright and beautiful as the moon,†he announced happily. His wife was equally thrilled. They named their adorable newly adopted daughter, Sassi, the moon.
Sassi was raised in the lap of luxury. Atta spared no expense to bring her up. She was cosseted and petted as the only child of a prosperous dhobi. Sassi grew up to be absolutely beautiful.
Proud of his daughter who had a regal mien, the dhobi built a splendid new mansion teamed with maid servants to do her every bidding. Artisans decorated the interior with colourful tiles imported all the way from Central Asia. In Sassi’s bedroom a mural depicted the legendary Arab tale of Qais and Laila. Hence, she dreamt of love and romance whether sleeping or awake. Horticulturists and landscapers cultivated the garden with fruit trees, both indigenous and exotic as well as colourful fragrant flowers. She daily roamed her garden like the princess she was and distributed alms amongst the needy as a sweet, charitable girl. Soon Sassi’s fame spread far and wide.
Bhambhor lay on the route to various mercantile cities. Caravans from far off areas camped here to sell goods and restock. Atta owned a camping site behind his garden where he welcomed the travelers since the business they brought was welcome to the town. Occasionally, the lucky amongst them enjoyed the relaxing garden and even got to feast their eyes on the nubile Sassi. Tales of her beauty the foreign traders took back with them wherever they went.
One day, a caravan from Kech Makran camped there and some of the travelers chanced upon Sassi roaming blissfully unaware in her garden. On their return to Kech Makran, a mirasi (folk singer) related the tale of “drinking from the flood of (her) beauty.â€
“Sassi is the prettiest of all girls in the world. Oh prince, she is absolutely matchless. She is a fairy from Koh Kaaf. Her eyes are deeper than oceans on the earth, her cheeks are brighter than stars in the sky, her voice is sweeter than the cuckoos in the jungles. Whoever sees her smiling loses heart to her,†he described the teenager reverently.
All are enemies, camels, camel men and brother in laws,
Fourth enemy is wind that removed the foot prints of Punhoon,
Fifth enemy is sun which delayed its setting,
Sixth enemy is sky which did not make travel easy,
Seventh enemy is moon which did not shine longer
—Shah Abdul Latif Bhittai, as translated by Muhammad Sheeraz Dasti
Punnu became agog to see the famous beauty for himself. “Think of the best plan to reach the famous beauty of Bhambhor. Let me know of your advice by tomorrow,†he told his advisors to concoct a plan for him to be able to see the beauty for himself.
A Painting Of Sassi From A Private Collection
One advisor devised a plan that the prince could not only see but interact with the well guarded Muslim girl: “A caravan should take a variety of perfumes to Bhambhor and you should go along with it as a musk trader.â€
Punnu got permission from his father, the Raja Aari Jam, to travel incognito. He put together a caravan carrying exotic imported perfumes that would tempt a fine lady to acquire. As the caravan of the perfume sellers reached Bhambhor, the whole city was bathed in the fragrance of its wares. Even Sassi heard that a handsome trader called Punnu had arrived from Kech Makran hawking special perfumes.
All the Bhambhor residents and merchants from neighbouring areas flocked to where Punnu’s caravan had set up shop. Leaving the business of selling to the rest of the traders, Punnu kept his eyes peeled towards the entrance of the camp throughout the day waiting for a glimpse of the fair Sassi.
A Company School Watercolour Depicting Dhobis Washing At A River C.1820’s
Finally, in the afternoon, accompanied by her friends, Sassi visited the site on a shopping expedition. As soon as Punnu spotted Sassi amidst her friends, he knew she was The One. She was far more beautiful than his imagination had pictured. In her turn, Sassi as she dealt with the trader, the Prince in disguise also fell in love with him at first sight. “Sassi ran back to home, without having perfumes. Yet perfumed! Her lips dry as desert, her chest thumping as trumpet. She returned without herself and he was left without himself.â€
“Back home, Sassi discovered that Punnu was now in her veins. He was everywhere: in the air, on flowers, in the mirror, on her tongue. She could not like anything, experienced a strange restlessness in sitting, discomfort in sleeping, unease in walking. She didn’t know how to describe this self, this no self. Had no idea of how to cure herself, not sure if she really wanted to cure herself of the sweetness of pain. Finally, she sought her best friend’s council. ‘I love the young musk trader. Think of some way that he is mine—mine forever.’â€
The Ruin Of Sassi Da Kallara, Kech MakranMakran, An Arid Desert Of Sand And Rock With A Vast Wilderness Consisting Of Green AreasThar Desert
A guileless female always confides tales of her love to her best friend who tries to help her win in the game of love. Likewise Sassi confided to her best friend who went to Punnu to guage his intentions. He readily admitted that that the sole aim of his life was to attain Sassi. Then, she went to convince Sassi’s parents to marry her to the young man. “Sassi is unable to live without him. And I must tell you, Punnu isn’t an ordinary man. He is the prince of his tribe in Kech Makran, and is the handsomest of men,†argued the girl earnestly.
But Atta would have none of it. He replied, “Punnu is a traveler. We know nothing about his caste and family. How can we give our beautiful daughter’s hand to a stranger? She will marry someone from our own fraternity, a dhobi,â€
Sassi’s friend thought on her feet, “Actually, I have heard that Punnu too belongs to a tribe of dhobis, they only trade in perfumes. You can ask him to wash some clothes as a test.â€
So Atta agreed to invite him to their house. Punnu, a prince in reality, went over pretending to be a laundryman. Atta bid him to wash a sack full of clothes to test his veracity.
At the time, clothes in the Subcontinent were washed by beating them on a stone at the edge of a water body. Prince Punnu beat the clothes against rocks besides the mighty gushing Indus River, hurting his hands and tearing the clothes. When Sassi got to know that he had torn most of the clothes were torn, she told her friend to carry a message:
“Tell Punnu to fold the clothes and place a coin of gold in every torn piece. The people of my town will be happy to see gold and won’t complain to my father.â€
Punnu folded gold coins in the folds of the clothes. The townspeople demurred and Atta gave his permission reluctantly. He made Punnu promise that he would not take away his only daughter but would take up residence with them in Bhambhor after his wedding to Sassi. Punnu readily agreed.
Punnu’s brothers and friends came from Kech Makran for the wedding. Atta threw an extravagant and magnificent celebration in honour of his only daughter’s wedding.
Punnu’s Fort, Turbat, Balochistan
While they were enjoying Atta’s gracious hospitality, Punnu’s brothers urged him to return to Kech Makran where their father was waiting for him, but Punnu refused to leave his ladylove’s side. When he wouldn’t budge, they returned home without him.
Upon reaching Kech Makran, brother Chunru told this to their father Aari Jam. Punnu, being his youngest son, was the baby of the family. Their handsome prince abandoning his life in the palace for the life of a dhobi, it was unthinkable! His parents wanted their bewitched son back at all costs.
Aari sent a messenger to tell him to immediately return. The messenger tracked down Punnu washing clothes sitting at the dhobi ghaat with other dhobis. “My Lord, this job is beneath your dignity. You are our prince. Come back to home and lead a life that suits your stature,†he said.
“Go back and tell my father and brothers to forget me. I will never be able to go away from here. My home is where my Sassi lives,†the erstwhile prince replied.
The messenger explained how worried his father was, and how the Prince had lowered himself to the level of an ordinary worker by washing clothes. But when Punnu paid no heed.
A Painting ByTrilok Singh, An Artistof Chitralok Patiala, Illustrating Sassi Running Into The Dessert In Her Wedding Finery
Aari Jam was so upset when he heard his messenger’s account that he felt dizzy and fell unconscious with worry. Seeing their father sicken, Punnu’s brothers, Chunru, Hoti and Noti put their heads together.
“We must do something to save our father from this agony,†said Hoti, the eldest. “I can’t see him suffer anymore.â€
“Yes, we must bring Punnu back to Kech Makran, no matter what price we have to pay,†said Noti.
The brothers strode swift camels and rode toward Bhambhor to bring their brother back in any way possible.
Not being aware of their true design, Punnu and Sassi were thrilled that his brothers had finely accepted his marriage and were visiting them.
Nightly they laid out grand feasts and entertainment for them with mehfil (gathering) of singing, dancing and drinking. Hoti, Noti and Chunru bided their time. First they tried to convince Punnu to return by telling him how their father suffered, how sick he had become pining for him, “If you don’t come back soon, our father will no longer be alive.â€
Punnu said categorically that he would never return.
One night, Chunru, Hoti and Noti did not get drunk but let Punnu have his fill and pass out. As Sassi kept waiting for Punnu in their bedroom, she applied henna to her left hand. She eventually fell asleep with the henna stick in her hand. The stick was to be planted in soil in the morning according to the custom in those days.
As soon as Punnu passed out, his brothers picked him up and flung him across a camel’s back. They quickly and quietly left for Kech Makran without disturbing the sleeping household.
In the morning, Sassi woke up to find herself alone in bed. Punnu was nowhere to be found. “My Punnu has been abducted by his brothers. They have deceived me,†she shrieked.
Devastated at her loss, she dashed out without even putting on her shoes, wailing his name. Her parents and the servants ran after her.
“Where is my Punnu?†She kept repeating inconsolably. “I’ll find him. I will find him.â€
Threatening to kill herself if they stopped her, Sassi ran towards the jungle outside Bhambhor. Her parents and servants followed her but they lost track of her when twilight fell in the thick jungle. Sassi ran madly crossing the jungle, over the barren land, sandy dessert and craggy mountains. Her feet got cut over the thorns, branches, rocks and hot sand, but she didn’t even notice.
“Punnuuu, Punnuuu!†Her plaintive cry was heard.
Under the beating sun, Sassi’s throat became parched. Hungry, thirsty, wounded in body and spirit, she kept running till she reached the hills of Pub. Her extreme thirst could be denied no longer. She croaked “Punnu, paani, Punnu!†And collapsed on a big hot boulder. Suddenly, as if in answer to her prayer, a spring erupted right next to her. She cupped her hennaed hands and drank her fill. As a tribute, she planted the henna stick she had been carrying absentmindedly in her hand since the night before. In time, the stick flourished into a tall henna tree next to the flowing sweet water spring in Pub, in remembrance of True Love.
After a brief respite, Sassi walked another few miles before her blistered and bleeding feet became too sore and painful to walk on. She had reached the Harho mountain range where she was spotted by a shepherd from a distance. “Where is my Punnu? Have you seen my Punnu?†Sassi asked the uncivilized goatherd.
The lascivious man sought to take advantage. “You are searching for one Punnu? In this world everyone is a Punnu for you. I am Punnu for you. My father, my grandfather, my seven generations are Punnu for you. My sheep, my donkey, all the animals are Punnu for you.†He flung himself on her, desirous of raping her and fulfilling his baser animal urges.
“O merciless man, I am dying of thirst and you assault me. Fear Allah and get me something to drink,†Sassi begged him.
As the shepherd relented enough to get her some milk from his goats, Sassi beseeched Allah to order the ground to open and swallow her up. “O Almighty, the One who listens to the helpless, help me out in this moment of trouble. I am Punnu’s trust. Protect my honor from the wickedness of this shepherd. You and only You can hear me in this barren land!â€She moaned with tears streaming down her face.
Her prayer was heard.
Suddenly the ground beneath her shook and split open. The crevice widened to engulf her into its protection and closed over her again, leaving only the border of her duppatta as a trace above ground. The shepherd got so scared to witness this miracle that he fell in a sajda and begged forgiveness:
The Grand Mausoleum Of Bhittai Built By Mian Ghulam Shah Kalhoro In 1762
“O Lord, I’m sinful. I beg your forgiveness. You are the most Merciful. Have mercy on my poor soul.â€
To atone for his sin, he became the caretaker of Sassi’s grave. To mark it, he placed stones around where the spot where she had disappeared into the ground and built a small hut for himself nearby.
Meanwhile, the brothers had reached Kech Makran without incident. Punnu didn’t get a chance to escape because they had tied him to the back of a camel.
Punnu kept protesting, “I won’t go to Makran. Leave me here. I have to go back to my wife, my love. Don’t try to separate us, you can’t do that,†but they were adamant.
Though his old sick father Aari Jam felt so happy to finally see him home, Punnu didn’t care and said, “Release me. Let me go to my Sassi. She would be worried. She will die without me. I have to go to Sassi. I have to go to Sassi. Please release me.â€
After failing to convince him, Aari Jam, a wise, thoughtful man, feared Punnu might harm himself if they didn’t relent. Eventually, he sent for his elder sons and told them, “Take him back to Bhambhor and bring both Punnu and Sassi here. He can’t live without his woman, and we can’t see him in this condition.â€
Lying to Punnu that they were going to leave him to live with Sassi in Bhambhor, the brothers prepared for their journey.
Aari told them, “Bring Sassi to Kech Makran at any cost, and come back at your earliest possible. We’ll live to see the woman, who thieved a beautiful chamber of our heart.â€
“Don’t worry, father. We’ll follow your wish and wisdom,†chorused all three in unison.
Punnu was desperate to get back as soon as possible. “Had he got wings, he would have flown to her. Since the time they had separated him from his Sassi, Punnu behaved like a stranger.â€
When they reached the spot where Sassi had been “veiled under the earth,†Punnu’s sixth sense averted him. Pulling the reins of his camel, he looked around to detect her by now tattered dupatta border peeping out from the ground surrounded by stones. What was Sassi’s dupatta doing her and why did he feel her presence? He saw the shepherd squatting down on his haunches at the entrance of a nearby hut and asked him politely “Whose grave is this Sir?†He had an ominous feeling in the pit of his stomach that he already knew the answer to his own question.
The shepherd burst out crying and sobbed, “She is the devoted lover of someone called Punnu. She was running about madly, calling out his name. and took refuge here in this rock.â€
His worst fears had come true and Punnu let out an anguished yell: “Sassiii!â€
He fell down on his knees and folding his hands together in supplication offered Fateha for his beloved Sassi casting his streaming eyes upwards. “O You the Creator of love and of the lovers, O the Greatest Healer of the injured souls, send me to where Sassi is, to where Love is,†he prayed to God.
All afternoon he repeated his prayer. Finally, in answer, the ground shook again, the rock split open and Punnu hurriedly fell in calling out Sassi’s name. The rock closed behind him, reuniting the lovers that no one again could put asunder.
Punnu’s brothers stood stock still terrified. The shepherd dissolved in tears; he was now the custodian of a single grave of the two lovers, and the tale of their miraculous and divine love. The brothers realized how wrong they had been to try to come between a love sanctioned by Allah; how grave a sin they had committed in their shallow, earthly considerations. After pondering over their grave mistake, they recited a Fateha for the lovers and, with a heavy heart, departed for Kech Makran.
Sassi Punnu’s alleged grave is located near Lasbela, 45 miles away in the Pub range to the west of Karachi. Haji Muhammad, an affluent resident of the area, constructed a simple mausoleum in 1980, which is visited by those from near and far. Ruins of Punnu’s fort are likewise located in Turbat.
That rockstars have millions of groupies willing to do their bidding is a well known fact. But artists have sensitive souls, which yearn for the unattainable. This is what inspires them to reach inside themselves and create art that serves as a cathartic release for their pent up feelings. Sixties model and London It Girl Pattie Boyd was the love, muse and wife to two rock legends, George Harrison and Eric Clapton. She inspired them to write classic songs that we still listen to today. During his brief fling with her, Ronnie Woods too wrote a song about her. It wasn’t her beauty, her virtue or her intelligence that won them over and inspired them to create timeless art, it was the fact that they all wanted her and became competitive and relentless in their pursuit. The chase it seems is what really got them going because once each got her, after the initial euphoria, he lost interest and went back to the pursuit of hedonistic pleasures.
Eric Clapton had an unusual childhood. He was born in 1945 in Surrey to 16-year-old Patricia Clapton who had gotten knocked up by a Canadian soldier during the tail end of World War II. The soldier returned to Canada after the armistice without even meeting his newborn son. Clapton grew up believing that his grandparents were his real parents, and that his mother was his older sister.
When his mother got married to another Canadian soldier and moved with him to Germany, Eric stayed behind in England with his grandparents. They say that the patterns you follow in your future relationships are set in your childhood. Pining for his mother, hence, set the relationship dynamic that he would later follow in his love life.
George Harrison, A Liverpool Working Class Lad In 1961Eric Clapton In 1969 Outside Olympic Studios, London, After A Recording Session
For his thirteenth birthday, Clapton’s mother sent him an acoustic Hoyer guitar from Germany. He taught himself the instrument, practicing diligently and passionately by playing the guitar along to blues records. He would record his playing on a Grundig tape recorder and compare it to that of professional blues musicians. At the age of 16 in 1961, after finishing school, he started playing guitar in neighbourhood pubs. By 1967, Clapton was recognised as the country’s top blues guitarist.
Pattie Was A Top UK Model In 1964
George Harrison was from Liverpool like his other Beatles band mates. He was born in 1943 to a ship steward father and an Irish Catholic shop assistant mother. While pregnant with George, according to Harrison’s biographer Joshua Greene, “Every Sunday she tuned in to mystical sounds evoked by sitars and tablas (on the weekly broadcast of Radio India), hoping that the exotic music would bring peace and calm to the baby in the womb.â€
The Beatles On The Set Of A Hard Day Night With Pattie Boyd, 1964
The family was working class and lived in council housing. Pattie talked about how supportive George’s mother was to him growing up, “All she wanted for her children is that they should be happy, and she recognized that nothing made George quite as happy as making music.†In 1956, his father bought him a Dutch Egmond flat top acoustic guitar, costing only £3.10 (equivalent to £100 in today’s value terms) on which the young lad learnt to play.
In 19, the four teenagers, John Lennon, Paul McCartney, George Harrison and Stuart Sutcliffe (who died in 1962 of a brain aneurysm) formed The Beatles and played gigs in Liverpool and Hamburg clubs. After Ringo Starr joined them as drummer in 1962, they recorded their first UK hit Love Me Do. Beatlemania took off from there.
Patricia Boyd was born in1944, in Somerset. Her family moved to London when she was a teenager and she got a job working as a shampoo girl in Elizabeth Arden’s salon. A client from the fashion industry spotted her and offered her a modeling job that launched her career. She worked the model circuit of fashion weeks in London, New York, and Paris and became a highly sought after top model. Pattie graced the covers of Vogue UK and Italy and was shot by top photographers David Bailey and Terence Donovan, in addition to appearing in TV commercials.
22 Year Old George With His 21 Year Old Bride Pattie In 1966 At A Press Reception In London
In 1964, The Beatles took America by storm when they appeared on the hugely popular The Ed Sullivan Show, and attracted a record audience of 73 million. They were mobbed by hysterical girls everywhere they went. They had conquered America.
Back in London, Richard Lester was making a movie on the band titled A Hard Day’s Night. Pattie’s agent managed to get her a tiny part in it as a school girl fan. Her only dialogue in the film was: “Prisoners?†But the film changed her life. As soon as she came on set and met Harrison, there was instantaneous mutual chemistry.
Pattie recalled that he was incredibly good looking but rather shy. He spontaneously asked her, “Will you marry me? Well, if you won’t marry me, will you have dinner with me tonight?â€
“On first impressions, John seemed more cynical and brash than the others, Ringo the most endearing Paul was cute and George, with velvet-brown eyes and dark chestnut hair, was the best looking man I had ever seen. At a break for lunch I found myself sitting next to him. Being close to him was electrifying,†she said.
The Newlyweds Surrounded By Family And Friends Including The Beatles Manager Brian Epstein Who Had Accompanied Them On Their First Date
Pattie had been in a serious two year relationship with self taught experimental photographer Eric Swayne at the time and, thus, refused Harrison’s invitation. She was booked for another day’s shooting after a few days and this time she came on set having broken up with Swayne who was rather cut up about it since he had been hoping to marry her. When Harrison repeated his invitation to her, she agreed. The couple went to the prestigious Garrick Club, accompanied by the Beatles’ manager, Brian Epstein. “I was 21, he was 22. I was so happy and so much in love. I thought we would be together and happy forever,†she reminisced.
The Blissful Newlyweds Unaware Of What Life Had In Store For Them
On the arm of a Beatle, the blonde fashion model soon became an It Girl. After two years of dating, Harrison and Pattie married in 1966 with Paul McCartney as their best man.
For a while, they were blissfully happy. His love for his beautiful young wife inspired Harrison to write the song Something in 1968 for The Beatles’ Abbey Road album. In his autobiography, I, Me Mine, he wrote he worked on the melody on a piano at London’s Abbey Road Studios. It became the only song written by him to top the US Billboards Top 100 chart before the band’s break up in April 1970.
“He told me, in a matter-of-fact way, that he had written it (the song) for me. I thought it was beautiful,†wrote Pattie in her autobiography. The song had 150 different cover versions including one by Frank Sinatra who thought that it was the best love song ever written. “My favourite was the one by George Harrison, which he played to me in the kitchen at Kinfauns (their home in Esher, Surrey),†she added, while Harrison preferred James Brown’s, a copy of which he kept at home on his personal jukebox.
Paul McCartney Cosying Up To The Bride & Groom
Clapton and Harrison became close friends in the ‘60s with Eric often dropping by their Surrey home for impromptu jam sessions, music collaborations and even casually for a chat and a meal together. In this relaxed atmosphere, Clapton started to develop a crush on his friend’s wife that burgeoned into a full blown obsession.
Kinfauns, George & Pattie Home From 1964 1970. Here George Is Painting Graffiti On It Himself
“But, in fact, by then our (marital) relationship was in trouble,†recalled Pattie. By the mid-1960s, Harrison was turning increasingly towards Hinduism after experimenting with LSD. In 1966, he travelled to India with Pattie to study sitar with Ravi Shankar. There he made pilgrimages to various mandirs and met several gurus. In 1968, upon Harrison’s suggestion The Beatles travelled to Maharishi Mahesh Yogi’s ashram in Rishikesh, Dheradhun in the Himalayan foothills beside the Ganges River to study yoga and meditation. George’s love for Hinduism and meditation was propelled by his trippy LSD experiences. Harrison said, “For me, it was like a flash. The first time I had acid, it just opened up something in my head that was inside of me, and I realized a lot of things. I didn’t learn them because I already knew them, but that happened to be the key that opened the door to reveal them. From the moment I had that, I wanted to have it all the time – these thoughts about the yogis and the Himalayas, and Ravi’s music.â€
“George had become obsessive about meditation, pointed out Pattie. “He was also sometimes withdrawn and depressed. My moods started to mirror his and at times I felt almost suicidal. I don’t think I was ever in any real danger of killing myself but I got as far as working out how I would do it: put on a diaphanous Ossie Clark dress and throw myself off Beachy Head.
And there were other women, which really hurt me. George was fascinated by the god Krishna who was always surrounded by young maidens. He came back from India wanting to be some kind of Krishna figure, a spiritual being with lots of concubines. He actually said so.
No woman was out of bounds. I was friendly with a French girl who was going out with Eric Clapton. When she and Eric broke up, she came to stay with us at our house, Kinfauns, in Esher, Surrey.
She didn’t seem remotely upset about Eric and was uncomfortably close to George. Something was going on between them but when I questioned George he told me my imagination was running away with me, that I was paranoid.
I left to stay with friends and within days George phoned to say the girl had gone. I returned home but I was shocked that he could do such a thing to me. I felt unloved and miserable.â€
Eric Clapton Has Been One Of The Top Guitarists In The World For Over Half A CenturyPattie Boyd Vogue
Pattie talked about how present and future husbands became closer. “Eric and George had become close friends, writing and recording music together.
Eric’s guitar playing was held in awe by his fellow musicians. Graffiti declaring ‘Clapton is God’ had been scrawled on the London Underground, and he was an incredibly exciting performer to watch. He looked wonderful on stage, very sexy.
But when I met him he didn’t behave like a rock star – he was surprisingly shy and reticent. I was aware that Eric found me attractive and I enjoyed the attention he paid me.
Something
Something in the way she moves
Attracts me like no other lover
Something in the way she woos me
I don’t want to leave her now
You know I believe and how
Somewhere in her smile she knows
That I don’t need no other lover
Something in her style that shows me
Don’t want to leave her now
You know I believe and how
You’re asking me will my love grow
I don’t know, I don’t know
You stick around now it may show
I don’t know, I don’t know
George Harrison, The Beatles
It was hard not to be flattered when I caught him staring at me or when he chose to sit beside me. He complimented me on what I was wearing and the food I had cooked, and he said things he knew would make me laugh. Those were all things that George no longer did.â€
During the time Clapton was continuously hitting on his wife, Harrison was self involved. A hard core Hare Krishna devotee by the late ‘60s, he even became a strict vegetarian at a time when vegan, gluten free, etc diets were not the norm in mainstream western societies. In 1969, he produced the Hare Krishna Mantra as performed by members of the London Radha Krishna Temple. He described their leader A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada “my friend … my master†and “a perfect example of everything he preached.†The good looking pop star turned into a Hare Krishna devotee wearing beads and chanting.
Music wise, in 1968, Harrison came out with his debut solo album Wonderwall Music, the first of many Harrison solo records with Clapton on guitar. However, due to contractual restraints, Clapton wasn’t credited for his work on the albums.
While her husband was committed to finding himself and a meaning for his life as well as establishing himself as a solo artist, the wife, committed to her marriage, was busy rebuffing Clapton’s advances.
The It Couple In 1969Ravi Shankar & George Harrison
It’s interesting that Harrison had turned for comfort to the same music his mother had listened to soothe the fetus in her womb and Clapton had reverted to his childhood dynamic of pining for his mother married to his stepfather and unavailable to him.
Yearning for an unavailable married woman, Clapton did the next best thing by hooking up with Pattie’s teenage sister. Pattie described their meeting: “One night in December 1969, I took my 17-year-old sister Paula to see Eric play in Liverpool. Paula was very pretty and a bit of a wild child, and that night Eric fell for her. After the show we all went to a restaurant and everyone was quite drunk and raucous. When the rest of us went back to the hotel, we left Eric and Paula dancing.
The next night Eric was playing in Croydon and again Paula and I went to watch, and again there was a wild after-show party, this time at Eric’s Italianate manor house, Hurtwood Edge in Ewhurst, Surrey. Soon after, Paula moved in with Eric.â€
Not interested in cultivating a rockstar status, but wanting to be taken as a serious musician, Clapton formed Derek and the Dominos. Desperate in his love for Pattie, he wrote Layla, soulfully singing about his deep feelings and unrequited love for her on their 1970 album Layla and Other Assorted Love Songs. The song was inspired by the Persian poet Nizami Ganjavi’s The Story of Layla and Majnun, the tragic tale of a young man who fell hopelessly in love with a beautiful, unavailable woman and who went crazy because he could not marry her.
When Paula heard him working on the song in Miami, she realized it was about Pattie and that Clapton was still too hung up about her sister. Finally understanding that to him she would always be second best, Paula left Eric. Pattie said about her younger sister, “She had been seriously in love with Eric, but he destroyed her pride, her self-esteem and her confidence, which were already fragile.â€
Pattie described in depth the day Clapton made her listen to the ballad for the first time. “We met secretly at a flat in South Kensington. Eric Clapton had asked me to come because he wanted me to listen to a new number he had written. He switched on the tape machine, turned up the volume and played me the most powerful, moving song I had ever heard. It was Layla, about a man who falls hopelessly in love with a woman who loves him but is unavailable.
Chant Hare Krishna And Be Happy George Harrison
He played it to me two or three times, all the while watching my face intently for my reaction. My first thought was: ‘Oh God, everyone’s going to know this is about me.’
Eric had been making his desire for me clear for months. I felt uncomfortable that he was pushing me in a direction in which I wasn’t certain I wanted to go.
But with the realisation that I had inspired such passion and creativity, the song got the better of me. I could resist no longer.
That evening I was going to the theatre to see Oh! Calcutta! with a friend and then on to a party at the home of pop impresario Robert Stigwood. George didn’t want to go to the show or the party.
After the interval at Oh!Calcutta! I came back to find Eric in the next seat, having persuaded a stranger to swap places with him. Afterwards we went to Robert’s house separately but we were soon together. It was a great party and I felt elated by what had happened earlier in the day but also deeply guilty.
During the early hours, George appeared. He was morose and his mood was not improved by walking into a party that had been going on for several hours and where most of the guests were high on drugs.
He kept asking ‘Where’s Pattie?’ but no one seemed to know. He was about to leave when he spotted me in the garden with Eric. It was just getting light, and very misty. George came over and demanded: ‘What’s going on?’
To my horror, Eric said: ‘I have to tell you, man that I’m in love with your wife.’
I wanted to die. George was furious. He turned to me and said: ‘Well, are you going with him or coming with me?’
Clapton wasn’t satisfied with just bedding Pattie but was desperate to marry her and make her his wife. Pattie faced with the choice of her husband or her lover chose to stay in her marriage and left with George. But after this public episode, Harrison became open in the pursuit of other women.
Hurtwood Edge, Clapton Italiante House In Surrey
But while Clapton was shacked with the younger sister, he didn’t let up on his pursuit of the older sister. “In March 1970, George and I moved into a new house,†wrote Pattie. “Friar Park was a magnificent Victorian Gothic pile near Henley-on-Thames, Oxfordshire, with 25 bedrooms, a ballroom, a library, a formal garden of 12 acres and a further 20 acres of land.
One morning shortly after moving in, a letter arrived for me with the words ‘express’ and ‘urgent’ written on the envelope. Inside I found a small piece of paper. In small, immaculate writing, with no capital letters, I read:
‘dearest l,’as you have probably gathered, my own home affairs are a galloping farce, which is rapidly degenerating day by intolerable day . . . it seems like an eternity since i last saw or
spoke to you!’
(He needed to ascertain my feelings: if I still loved my husband or did I
have another lover? More crucially, did I still have feelings in my heart for him? He had to know, and urged me to write.)
Paula Boyd, Pattie Younger Sister & Clapton Live In Girlfriend
The lyrics to this haunting song are:
“What’ll you do when you get lonely
And nobody’s waiting by your side?
You’ve been running and hiding much too long.
You know it’s just your foolish pride.
Layla, you’ve got me on my knees.
Layla, I’m begging, darling please.
Layla, darling won’t you ease my worried mind.
I tried to give you consolation
When your old man had let you down.
Like a fool, I fell in love with you,
Turned my whole world upside down.
Layla, you’ve got me on my knees.
Layla, I’m begging, darling please.
Layla, darling won’t you ease my worried mind.
Let’s make the best of the situation
Before I finally go insane.
Please don’t say I’ll never find a way
And tell me all my love’s in vain.â€
Eric Clapton, Derek and the Dominos
‘please do this, whatever it may say, my mind will be at rest . . .’all my love, e.’
I assumed it was from some weirdo.
After Beseeching Her Repeatedly And Even Writing The Song Layla For Her, When Clapton Couldn’t Get Pattie To Leave Harrison For Him, He Lost Himself In A Three Year Lon 2
I got fan mail occasionally – when I wasn’t getting hate mail from George’s fans. I showed it to George and others who were at the house. They laughed and dismissed it, as I had.
That evening the phone rang. It was Eric. ‘Did you get my letter?’ he asked.
Clapton Note To Boyd
‘Letter?’ I said. ‘I don’t think so. What letter are you talking about?’
Then the penny dropped. ‘Was that from you? I had no idea you felt that way.’ It was the most passionate letter anyone had ever written to me and it put our relationship on a different footing. It made the flirtation all the more exciting and dangerous. But as far as I was concerned, it was just flirtation.
From time to time during the spring and summer of 1970, Eric and I saw each other. One day, walking down Oxford Street, he asked: ‘Do you like me, then, or are you seeing me because I’m famous?’
‘Oh, I thought you were seeing me because I’m famous,’ I said. We laughed.
He always found it difficult to talk about his feelings, instead pouring them into his music and writing.
Once we met under the clock in Guildford High Street. He had just come back from Miami and had a pair of bell-bottom trousers for me – hence the track Bell Bottom Blues. He was tanned and looked gorgeous and irresistible – but I managed to resist him.
On another occasion I drove to Ewhurst and we met in the woods nearby. Eric was wearing a wolf coat and looked very sexy. We didn’t go to his house because someone would have been there. A lot of people lived at Hurtwood Edge: his band, the Dominos, Paula and Alice Ormsby-Gore, another of Eric’s girlfriends.
The convent girl in me found the situation uncomfortable but strangely exciting, and so it was later that year after Eric had played me Layla in the South Kensington flat that I succumbed to his advances.
After George and Eric’s confrontation at Robert Stigwood’s party, I went home with my husband. Back at the house I went to bed and George disappeared into his recording studio.
The next time I saw Eric, he turned up unexpectedly at Friar Park. George was away – I don’t know whether Eric knew that in advance – and I was on my own. He said he wanted me to go away with him: he was desperately in love with me and couldn’t live without me. I had to leave George right now and be with him.
Friar Park, Harrison Victorian Mansion In Oxfordshire
‘Eric, are you mad?’ I asked. ‘I can’t possibly. I’m married to George.’
He said: ‘No, no, no. I love you. I have to have you in my life.’
‘No,’ I said.
George Harrison At His Grand Country EstateFriar Park1Harrison In The Grounds Of His Estate
He produced a small packet from his pocket and held it out towards me.
‘Well, if you’re not going to come away with me, I’m going to take this.’
‘What is it?’
‘Heroin.’
‘Don’t be so stupid.’ I tried to grab it from him but he clenched his fist and hid it in his pocket.
‘If you’re not going to come with me,’ he said, ‘that’s it. I’m off.’
And he went. I hardly saw him for three years.
He did as he threatened. He took the heroin and quickly became addicted. And he took Alice Ormsby-Gore with him.
Eric already did a lot of drugs, the ones we all used – marijuana, uppers, downers and cocaine – and he drank quite heavily too. But his dealer had been insisting recently he bought heroin when he supplied him with cocaine,†she added. “He and Alice retreated into Hurtwood Edge and pulled up the drawbridge. He didn’t leave the house, he didn’t see friends, he didn’t answer the door or the telephone, and the two of them sank into virtual oblivion.â€
Pattie didn’t see Clapton again for three years. He immersed himself in heroin, which he snorted like cocaine as he was afraid of needles, to block out his love for Pattie and intent on a self destructive binge.
Meanwhile, Pattie carried on with her domestic life. She recalled, “I turned my attention to my husband and to renovating Friar Park. For a brief period the project united us but the house was so enormous, and there were always so many people living in it, that we never had any intimacy. Most of the time, even when George was in the house, I didn’t know where he was. At meal times, too many other people were at the table for us to have any real conversation. And even though we shared a bed, he was often in his recording studio or meditating half the night in the octagonal room at the top of the house that had become his sanctuary.
I felt more and more alienated. I didn’t feel included in George’s thinking or his plans. I wasn’t his partner in anything any longer. He was surrounded by yes-men. When I challenged him about it he said: ‘Well I’d hate to be surrounded by no-men.’
I heard from Eric again in January 1971, two months after he had walked out vowing to take the heroin. He wrote to me from a cottage in Wales.
Book Copy
On the title page of a copy of Steinbeck’s Of Mice And Men, he had written a love note signed with a heart. That one short note stirred up feelings I had spent two months suppressing. I wrote and told him what he wanted to hear.
As soon as I had posted the letter I had terrible doubts and immediately wrote a postcard. It simply said:
‘Hullo, Please forgive and forget my bold suggestion.’Love L’
His reply came by return of post on the dust jacket of a book of Scottish ballads and was written in green ink.
‘it was rather significant that i received both communications on the same morning. something like watching a boomerang in flight.’
He said he understood my situation and didn’t know what to recommend.
‘i love you even though you’re chicken.’
“Nothing came of our fantasies and I didn’t see or speak to him again until August 1971.â€
The years apart proved that Clapton and Pattie shared more than a flirtation as she initially thought but a real connection. Moreover, her marriage with Harrison was allowed time to die its own death.
Ronnie And His First Wife Krissy Findlay
But even his rockstar friends were concerned about heroin’s hold on Clapton. They felt they needed to save the great musician from an early, untimely death. “George had persuaded him to come out of Hurtwood Edge briefly to perform at a charity event, Concert For Bangladesh, in New York,†she continued. “Eric was in a bad way but George thought that if he got him on stage, even propped up with drugs, his addiction would become an open secret and maybe he would open the door a little to his friends, who might be able to help….
That day he and I scarcely spoke. He was surrounded by people, then on stage, and he was very out of it; I’m not sure he really saw me. It was a shock to think that he had done this to himself because of me. At first I felt guilty, then my feelings would swing violently the other way and I was angry that he should have asked me to choose between him and my husband.
When the concert was over, Eric and Alice (his girlfriend at the time) went back to the horrors of their self-imposed prison at Hurtwood Edge. Pete Townshend of The Who was the only friend who refused to take no for an answer and went to the house so often that eventually Eric had to see him.
Pete persuaded him to perform at another charity concert, this time at Finsbury Park, North London.
The show in 1973, billed as Eric’s comeback, was a triumph. I was sitting in the audience with George, Ringo, Elton John, Joe Cocker and Jimmy Page. Eric didn’t look well – his addict’s diet of junk food and chocolate had made him put on weight.
As I heard the opening wail of Layla, the first number of the evening, then the lyrics, my blood ran cold. He might have been wrecked for the previous three years but he hadn’t forgotten how to tear at the heart-strings with his guitar.
All the emotion I had felt for him when he disappeared from my life welled up inside me.
The show reminded Eric there was an alternative to his life as an addict and eventually he agreed to accept treatment. He got off the heroin – and went straight on to alcohol.
He became a regular visitor to Friar Park and professed his love for me with increasing vigour. Letters arrived almost daily in which he pleaded with me to leave George and be with him.
Meanwhile, things between George and me were going from bad to worse.
I don’t know what his feelings were about Eric when he reappeared in our lives.
We had been so stoned on the night of Robert Stigwood’s party that he might have forgotten about the confrontation in the mist, but I don’t think so. George never spoke about it but after that night I think he felt he could be as blatant as he liked in his pursuit of other women.
In spring 1973, we were supposed to go on holiday together. The day before we were due to leave, George said he wasn’t feeling well and couldn’t go. He ended up going to Spain, supposedly to see Salvador Dali, with Ronnie Wood’s wife, Krissie.
Ronnie, then bass guitarist with The Faces, and Krissie were friends of ours who often came to stay at Friar Park. I was desperately hurt: another of my friends was sleeping with George.
Pattie & George
When I challenged him he denied it.
I went to the Bahamas instead with my sister Paula, who was battling her own heroin addiction. While there we had a call from Ronnie Wood. He was on tour and said he might come to see us for a few days. He didn’t seem upset that his wife was with George – he just thought it was funny they had gone to see Dali.
Ronnie is the most adorable man, and maybe at that moment some fun, laughter and a pair of comforting arms were what I needed.â€
Ronnie Wood, who joined The Rolling Stones as guitarist in 1975, and George Harrison had a “sort of a warped rockstar wife swap†that they later publicly joked about. Ronnie hooked up with Pattie and George with Ronnie’s wife Krissie Findley, as the two musicians collaborated on Ronnie’s solo LP, I’ve Got My Own Album to Do, in 1974. In fact, Ronnie’s song Mystifies Me while he was still a member of the band Faces, and released a year before he joined The Rolling Stones is about Pattie. It goes, “You look so fine and true/no one mystifies me like you do.â€
Ringo Starr With His Bride Maureen Cox Who Subsequently Had An Affair With George Harrison That Was The Last Straw For His Wife Pattie
To make it even more incestuous, Wood wrote in his autobiography that he had actually “pinched†Findley from Eric Clapton, and knew very well that Clapton was in love with Pattie when he hooked up with her.
Mystifies Me
Stay a while and work it out of me
We got time and we can cast it true
Just give me a sign, I’ll take your word
I’ll learn anything you want me to
That is all I’m looking to you for
All I’m asking that you simply do
Take it leave it, make things matter
Yeah take all my breath away
Take it all apart and put it back
I am always left there looking at you
You look so fine and true
no one mystifies me like you do
you look so fine and true
no one mystifies me like you do
I would not lie to you
Let me see ya, let me know your dreams
Won’t you please give me a sign?
Ronnie Woods
Faced with these unfolding events, Harrison wrote the track So Sad for his 1974 album Dark Horse about his marital problems.
Pattie said about the demise of her marriage with Harrison, “The final straw for George and me was his affair with Ringo’s wife, Maureen. She was the last person I would have expected to stab me in the back. I discovered from some photos that she had been staying in the house with George while I had visited my mother in Devon. He had given her a beautiful necklace, which she wore in front of me.
Then I found them locked in a bedroom at Friar Park. I stood outside banging on the door yelling: ‘What are you doing? Maureen’s in there, isn’t she? I know she is!’ George just laughed.
Eventually he opened the door and said: ‘Oh, she’s just a bit tired so she’s lying down.’
I went straight to the top of the house and lowered the flag bearing the om symbol that George had been flying from the roof and hoisted skull and crossbones instead. That made me feel much better.
Maureen wasn’t even prepared to be subtle. She would turn up at Friar Park at midnight and I would say: ‘What the hell are you doing here?’
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The final showdown: “Harrison handed Clapton a guitar and amp—as an 18th Century gentleman might have handed his rival a sword — and for two hours, without a word, they dueled. The air was electric and the music exciting,” Pattie remembered the climax.
Guess who won?
I’ve come to listen to George playing in the studio.’
‘Well, I’m going to bed.’
‘Ah, well, I’m going to the studio.’
The next morning, she’d still be there, and I’d say: ‘Have you thought about your children? What are you up to? I don’t like it.’
‘Tough,’ was her response.
Eric & Pattie Together At Last
Ringo didn’t have a clue what was going on until I rang him one day and said: ‘Have you ever thought about why your wife doesn’t come home at night? It’s because she’s here!’ He flew into a rage.
George continued to pretend that nothing was going on and would leave me feeling as though I was becoming paranoid.
I felt undermined and unloved and George was so terribly difficult to talk to. He had become worse in the last year, maybe because Eric kept coming around and making it obvious that he wanted to see me. George must have sensed we were having an affair but he never said so.
One evening the actor John Hurt was with us. Eric was due to come over too and George decided to have it out with him. John wanted to make himself scarce but George insisted he stay.
Pattie & Eric Together At The Funeral Of The Who Drummer, Keith Moon, In 1978John remembers George coming downstairs with two guitars and two small amplifiers, laying them down in the hall, then pacing restlessly until Eric arrived – full of brandy, as usual.
As Eric walked through the door George handed him a guitar and amp – as an 18th Century gentleman might have handed his rival a sword – and for two hours, without a word, they dueled. The air was electric and the music exciting.
At the end, nothing was said but the general feeling was that Eric had won. He hadn’t allowed himself to get riled or to go in for instrumental gymnastics as George had. Even when he was drunk, his guitar-playing was unbeatable.
That whole period was insane. Friar Park was a madhouse. Our lives were fuelled by alcohol and cocaine, and so it was with everyone who came into our sphere. We were all as drunk, stoned and single-minded as each other. Nobody seemed to have appointments, deadlines or anything pressing in their lives, no structure and no responsibilities.
Cocaine is a seductive drug because it makes you feel euphoric and good about yourself. It takes away your inhibitions and makes even the shyest, most insecure person feel confident.
And we had so much energy – everyone would talk nonsense for twice as long and drink twice as much because the cocaine made us feel sober. George used cocaine excessively and I think it changed him. I think cocaine froze George’s emotions and hardened his heart.
On New Year’s Eve in 1973, Ringo held a party at his home. George went ahead of me and when I arrived he said: ‘Let’s have a divorce this year.’
In 1974, George told Ringo that he was in love with his wife. Ringo worked himself up into a terrible state and went about saying: ‘Nothing is real, nothing is real.’
I was furious. I went straight out and dyed my hair red.
In June that year, I returned home one evening to find Eric, Pete Townshend and Graham Bell, another musician, larking around at our house.
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I made them dinner, which we ate amid forced jollity, then Eric took me aside and pleaded with me again to leave George. We were alone together for what felt like hours, and he was so passionate, desperate and compelling that I felt swamped, lost and confused.†That year as Clapton kicked his dependence on heroin, Pattie finally left Harrison and with his knowledge and consent ran into Clapton’s arms.
“I had to make a choice. Would I go to Eric, who had written the most beautiful song for me, who had been to hell and back in the last three years because of me and who had worn me down with his protestations of love?
Or would I choose George, my husband, whom I had loved but who had been cold and indifferent towards me for so long that I could barely remember the last time he’d shown me any affection or told me he loved me?
That night Eric left and went off almost immediately to America on tour. On July 3 I told George I was leaving him. It was late at night and I went into the studio and explained that we were leading a ludicrous and hateful life, and that I was going to America. When he came to bed, I could feel his sadness as he lay beside me. ‘Don’t go,’ he said.
Half of me wanted to stay and to believe him when he said he would make it better, but I was at the end of my tether.The next day, with a great sadness in my heart, I packed some things, said a tearful goodbye to Friar Park and flew to America. What I had felt for George was a great, deep love. What Eric and I had was an intoxicating, overpowering passion.
Wonderful Tonight
It’s late in the evening; she’s wondering what clothes to wear
She puts on her make-up and brushes her long blonde hair
And then she asks me, Do I look all right?
And I say, ‘Yes, you look wonderful tonight
We go to a party and everyone turns to see
This beautiful lady that’s walking around with me
And then she asks me, Do you feel all right?
And I say, “Yes, I feel wonderful tonight.’
I feel wonderful because I see
The love light in your eyes
And the wonder of it all
Is that you just don’t realize how much I love you
It’s time to go home now and I’ve got an aching head
So I give her the car keys and she helps me to bed
And then I tell her, as I turn out the light
I say, ‘My darling, you were wonderful tonight
Oh my darling, you were wonderful tonight.â€
Eric Clapton
It was so intense, so urgent, so heady, I felt almost out of control. Having made the decision to leave my marriage, I knew I had to be with him, go everywhere with him, do everything he did, keep up with him in every way. Which, on that tour of America in 1974, meant drinking.â€
She later said that she had felt “neglected†by Harrison when she left him after eight years of marriage
“It’s one of those inexplicable quirks of human nature and the attitude of society that a smooth sailing romance does not arouse so much interest as a tragic one! When a normally eligible man and woman fall for each other and get married, no one takes particular note. People would like to prove that the course of true love never runs smooth. All means, even physical violence, is resorted to in order to thwart the lovers or destroy them if they do not yield’
—S.P. Sharma,The Art of Loving.
One of the most tragic of love stories of all times is that of the seventh century Arabian overs Layla Mujnun, so close that they were two bodies but one in spirit. When Majnun suffered, Layla bore the signs
By Mahlia Lone
During the Umayyad era in the 7th century, a son was born to Shah Amri, an Arab Bedouin chieftain of the Bani Aamir tribe belonging to the northern Arabian Peninsula. The baby boy was named Qays ibn al-Mullawah ibn Muzahim and astrologers predicted that baby Qays would grow up to spend his hife wandering. How right they were.
The lovely Layla al-Aamiriya was born with a golden spoon in her mouth, a princess in all but name, belonging to an extremely wealthy family of the area. Because she was rich, beautiful, well born and well connected, she was expected to marry a veritable prince and further elevate the family’s social standing. Qays met Layla (meaning intoxicating, night or dark beauty in Arabic) at the maktab (elementary school) they both attended as children. Smitten at a young age, Qays would be moon eyed and pay more attention to Layla than to his studies. When the master would cane him, remarkably Layla would cry out and have the marks on her body instead.
France Museum A Depiction Of What They Really Looked Like
The years passed and Qays’ love deepened and Layla too reciprocated his love. Thoughts of her possessed his mind at all times. Inspired by his love for her, Qays wrote and recited numerous poems, all dedicated to Layla. Daringly, he even mentioned her name in his poems expressing how much he loved and desired his beloved. He didn’t care that his friends made fun of his besotted state. He wanted to marry her and make her his forever. Although he belonged to the same tribe as Layla, Qays did not belong to the same social class nor have near enough money, so he was hesitant. Finally, he mustered up the courage, went to her parents, and asked for Layla’s hand in marriage. But he was a humble poet and they had been dreaming of a prince. To make matters worse, the match would have caused a scandal due to existing strict Arab traditions. Her father promptly turned Qays down. The two lovers were no longer allowed to see each other.
Keshan Azerbaijani
Layla was married off to a noble and wealthy merchant called Ward Althaqafi belonging to the Thaqif tribe in Ta’if. Though older than her in age, he was described as a handsome man with a reddish complexion, which is why he was called Ward (rose in Arabic). It was a good match but the bride was not happy, in her heart she still longed for her lover.
Qays was heartbroken. He fled the tribe camp and wandered in the surrounding desert. Desolate, he shunned the world and all its worldly trapping wanting to be alone in his misery. His old parents would leave food in the wilderness for their son where he would find it. At times, people spotted him wandering in rags, reciting poetry to himself about his beloved, or writing Layla’s name on the sand with a stick. Day and night, he pined for her. All those who saw him claimed he had lost his sanity, driven crazy by his love. Hence, they nicknamed him “Majnun†and even “Majnun Layla†(driven mad by Layla).
Painting Titled, Reality Of Laila Majnu
“I pass by these walls, the walls of Layla And I kiss this wall and that wall It’s not Love of the walls that has enraptured my heart But of the One who dwells within them†—Qays ibn al-Mulawwah (Majnun)
References to Layla Majnun in pop culture:
Film
In pre-Independence India, the first Pashto-language film was an adaptation of this story.
Layla and Majnun was a Tajik Soviet film-ballet of 1960 as well as a Soviet Azerbaijani film of 1961.
Pakistani film Laila Majnu (1974) starred Waheed Murad, Rani, Shahid and Zammurd, was directed by Hassan Tariq and music was composed by Nisar Bazmi.
In Bollywood, H. S. Rawail’s Laila Majnu (1976) starred Rishi Kapoor and Ranjeeta portraying all “the intense pangs of love, the painful obstacles that lie in its path and a soul-stirring performance by its lead actors.†The film was written by Abrar Alvi, a longtime associate of Guru Dutt and its hit music was composed by Madan Mohan and Jaidev with lyrics by Sahir Ludhianvi. The actors fully overact in true Hindi film style and the music and dialogues are sentimental.
The Turks made the cinematic drama Leyla ile Mecnun in 1982.
Palestinian filmmaker Susan Youssef filmed Habibi (based on the story) in the Gaza strip in 2011.
Music
The tale and name Layla served as Eric Clapton’s inspiration for the title of the famous Derek and the Dominoes’ album Layla and Other Assorted Love Songs and its title track in 1971. The song I Am Yours is a direct quote from a passage in Layla and Majnun.
Modern World Literature
Turkish novelist and recipient of the 2006 Nobel Prize in Literature, Orhan Pamuk makes frequent reference to Layla Majnun in his novels, The Museum of Innocence and My Name is Red.
In his book, A Thousand Splendid Suns, Afghan author Khaled Hosseini often refers to the character Rasheed in Baku (Azerbaijan) represent the epic love story on blue green tiles.
Theatre
Most recently, Laila The Musical was staged by the British theatre production, Rifco Arts in a 2016 tour of England.
Time passed and one day an old man approached him and told him of his parents’ death. He had been sent by Layla because she knew of Majnun’s love for his parents, and wanted him to know about the tragic event. Maybe she was hoping he would return to civilization. But upon hearing the news, Majnun pledged to live out the rest of his days in the wilderness. Now he had nothing left to return to. Overcome with grief and the regret and guilt for having abandoned his parents to bemoan the loss of his love, he was completely shattered.
Like before, Layla could feel in her body whatever Qays felt. She too was shattered in mind, body and spirit, plus had a broken heart. Her husband took her on a long voyage to Iraq with him. Not long afterwards, in 688 AD, she fell ill and died there. When Qays’ friends came to know about Layla’s death, they went looking for him all over to give him the news. But they could not find him. Qays had felt his beloved’s soul departing. He sensed his way to her grave upon which he flung himself bereft crying inconsolably. There he was found in the wilderness near Layla’s grave. On a rock near the grave, he had carved three verses of poetry, which are the last three verses he ever wrote before he finally joined his Layla in death.
A Miniature Of Nizami’s Work. Layla And Majnun Meet For The Last Time Before Their Deaths. Both Have Fainted And Majnun’s Elderly Messenger Attempts To Revive Layla While
In an alternate version, Layla’s brother, Tabrez, would not allow her to bring a scandal upon them and shame the family name by marrying the crazy Majnun. Majnun blamed Tabrez for his proposal getting rejected and quarreled with him. Stricken with madness over the loss of Layla, Majnun murdered Tabrez. Word reached the village and he was arrested. He was sentenced to be stoned to death by the villagers. Layla could not bear it and agreed to marry another man if Majnun would be exiled instead of put to death. Her terms were accepted and she was married, but in her heart she still pined for him. Layla’s husband realized this and was infuriated. He took it as a personal insult to himself. He rode with his men into the desert to find Majnun. Upon finding him, Layla’s husband challenged him to a duel. The instant her husband’s sword pierced Majnun’s heart, Layla collapsed in her home. Layla and Majnun were buried next to each other as her husband and their fathers prayed for their afterlife. Myth has it that Layla and Majnun met again in heaven, where they loved forever. Layla Majnun did not die in vain, they died for love, and that love has immortalized them.
Muhammad Bin Sulayman Known As Fuzûlî
The story of Layla Majnun was well known in Persia as early as the 9th century. Two well known Persian poets, Rudaki and Baba Taher, both mention the lovers. Then, in the twelfth century Persian Muslim poet Nizami Ganjavi wrote five long narrative poems called Panj Ganj (The Five Treasures) of which the third was Layla Majnun. Nizami drew influence from Udhrite love poetry, characterized by erotic abandon and an unquenchable longing for the beloved. He sourced both secular and mystical references about Layla Majnun and portrayed a vivid picture of the famous lovers. His masterpiece inspired many other Persian to write their own versions of the romance. The enduring popularity of the romance influenced countless generation of Sufi writers all over the Muslim world.
This type of love is known as “virgin love†because the lovers never marry each other or consummate their passion. It is a chaste, purely emotional love. Family and society puts up so many roadblocks that they die before they can consummate, hence, the enduring popularity in the conservative Muslim world of such “pure†love stories. This literary motif is common throughout Muslim literature, and is even found in Urdu ghazals.
According to Dr. Rudolf Gelpke, “Many later poets have imitated Nizami’s work, even if they could not equal and certainly not surpass it; Persians, Turks, Indians, to name only the most important ones. The Persian scholar Hekmat has listed no less than forty Persians and thirteen Turkish versions of Layli and Majnun.â€
Vahid Dastgerdi agrees, “If one would search all existing libraries, one would probably find more than 1000 versions of Layli and Majnun.â€
Uzeyir Hajibeyov Composed The Middle East’s First Opera Based On This StoryUzeyir Hajibeyov’s Opera
The story of Layla Majnun became very popular in Azerbaijan. The Azerbaijani adaptation of the story, Dâstân-i Leylî vü Mecnûn (The Epic of Layla and Majnun) was written in the 16th century by Fuzûlî, pseudonym of the poet Muhammad bin Suleyman. In the late 19th century, Ahmed Shawqi wrote a lyrical play based on Fuzuli’s poetry, now considered one of the best in modern Arab poetry. Fuzûlî also inspired the composer Uzeyir Hajibeyov whose opera on the lovers’ tragic life became Middle East’s first opera, which premiered in Baku on 25 January 1908. A scene from Fuzuli’s poem is even depicted on the reverse of the Azerbaijani 100 and 50 manat commemorative coins minted in 1996 for the 500th anniversary of Fuzûlî’s life.
In the early 19th century, Nizami’s epic poem was translated into English by Isaac D’Israeli (the scholarly father of Prime Minister Benjamin Disreali) bringing it to a wider western audience. Lord Byron called Layla Majnun “the Romeo and Juliet of the East.â€
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In India, according to a rural legend, it is believed that Laila Majnu (South Asian spelling) were actually from Sind. They eloped from their village and found refuge just 2 km from the current Indo-Pak border in the village of Binjaur, 12 to 14 km from Anupgarh town in the Sriganganagar district in Rajasthan before they died. The graves of Laila Majnu are believed to be located. Hundreds of newlyweds and lovers regardless of their religion from India and Pakistan make a pilgrimage to the lovers’ graves. The mausoleum is revered equally by Hindus, Muslims, Sikhs and Christians signifying the secular character of love and an annual fair on June on 15th commemorates their enduring love story.
Were Robin Hood and his ladylove Maid Marian born of a folk of story or did the rebellious Medieval English couple actually exist in reality?
By Mahlia Lone
According to English legal records as early as the 13th century, Robehod or Rabunhod were common epithets for criminals. Robert was a common given name in Medieval England, and Robin (or Robyn) was a common short form of it, especially in the 13th century. Hence, medieval criminal records show a vast number of men called Robert or Robin Hood. An oral traditional of singing the outlaw Robin Hood’s praises started to flourish at this time. While the first literary reference to the “rhymes of Robin Hood†is in the alliterative allegorical narrative poem Piers Plowman, composed circa 1370s by William Langland, considered to be one of the greatest works of English literature of the Middle Ages.
A century later, in the 1400s Catholics, as all Christians were at the time, in England celebrated May Day on the religious holiday of Whitsun featuring a quasi-religious rebel who robbed and murdered government tax collectors and wealthy landowners in plays and games. Agrarian discontent lay at the foundations of the feudal system that was built on the shoulders of toiling peasants. As time went on, the characters of Maid Marian, Friar Tuck and Alan-a-Dale entered May Day rituals as well. Robin Hood was actually shown at this time participating in Mariology, the cult of Mary, the mother of Jesus. Originally Maid Marian (or the French Marion) was a shepherdess associated with the Queen or Lady of May or May Day. Keeping this in mind, “the world’s foremost authority on Robin Hood,†author Jim Lees in The Quest for Robin Hood set forth that the hypothesis that Maid Marian may originally have been the personification of the Virgin Mary and derived from the older French tradition of a shepherdess named Marion and her shepherd lover Robin in Adam de la Halle’s Le Jeu de Robin et Marion, 1283. In fact, Marian’s association with May Day celebrations lasted long after Robin Hood’s did, as pointed out by Scottish born poet Alexander Barclay in 1500, “some merry fytte of Maid Marian or else of Robin Hood.â€
As time progressed, generations of wandering minstrels in the Middle Ages spread stories far and wide in England by singing ballads about the exploits of the violent but heroic yeoman Robin Hood who lived in Sherwood Forest with his merry band of men and clashed with the Sheriff of Nottingham. The popular Hood (lum) was portrayed as a commoner who was a highly skilled archer and swordsman. Dressed in a Lincoln green doublet and hose with a jaunty feather in his cap and with his longbow strapped on his back, he was said to have robbed from the rich to give to the poor. The characters of Little John and Will Scarlet were also added to Robin’s merry crew or outlaw gang by now. The early compilation, A Lyttell Gest of Robyn Hode (written in 1450 but printed after 1492) states that Robin lived during King Edward’s reign and it shows Robin Hood accepting the King’s pardon then giving it up and returning to his outlaw life in Greenwood. Robin’s status was said to be between a knight and a peasant.
King Richard Pardons Robin And His Men
But John Major wrote an alternative version in his tome, A history of Greater Britain as well England as Scotland (1521): “At this time (the reign of Richard the Lionheart) there flourished the most famous robbers Robin Hood and Little John, who lay in wait in the woods, and robbed those that were wealthy…The feats of Robin are told in song all over Britain. He would allow no woman to suffer injustice, nor would he rob the poor, but rather enriched them from the plunder taken from abbots.â€
Major placed the Robin Hood story into the last half of the twelfth century in the more distant time when King Richard was off fighting the Third Crusade with fellow European leaders in an attempt to reconquer the Holy Land from the Muslim ruler of Syria and Egypt Salah ad-Din the Great. Though the Crusaders recaptured some territory, they failed to capture Jerusalem and on his return journey King Richard was ignominiously held for ransom by the Duke of Austria. Back in England his brother King John was his proxy ruler who to the resentment of his people levied heavy taxes to pay for the war.
Richard The LionheartKing Richard On The Third CrusadeKing John Of England
According to Dobson and Taylor in their book The Rymes of Robyn Hood: An Introduction to the English Outlaw, Major’s “exceptionally influential eulogy†of Robin presents him as a bold but moral hero, only killing in self-defense, a protector of women and the poor. He was not only a humane robber but also a “chief†or dux in Latin imparting aristocratic implications. In this way, the “renaissance Robin Hood†figure of “distressed gentleman†arose. Major established the basis for point of view, moralizing his deeds, elevating his character to the point of gentrification and, most importantly, removing any trace of the earlier hero of Catholicism, since the Anglican Church now held sway in England.
Accompanying the newly “gentrified†Robin Hood was the equally nobly born lady, Maid Marian who was surprisingly not portrayed as chaste and virginal but retained some of the aspects of her “May Day shepherdess†characteristics. In 1592, playwright, satirist and writer of witty erotic poems, Thomas Nashe recorded that her character of later May Games was played lewdly by a male actor as a parody and figure of fun.
Elizabethan playwright Anthony Munday, titled the “poet to the city†(of London), wrote two plays on the life of Robin Hood: The Downfall and The Death of Robert Earl of Huntington, mentioned in the Rose Theatre Kingston records in 1597-8 and published in 1601. Munday ennobled Hood by presenting him as the Earl of Huntingdon since tales of courtly romance and adventure were in vogue at the time. Marian was presented as the daughter of Robert Fitzwalter who fled England due to an assassination attempt on King John (legendarily attributed to King John’s attempts to seduce Matilda) and Robin’s wife who changed her given name Matilda to Marian when she joined him in Greenwood. Her cousin, Elizabeth de Staynton, was the Prioress of Kirklees Priory, near Brighouse in West Yorkshire. In later versions of Robin Hood, Maid Marian is in fact commonly named as “Marian Fitzwalter.â€
In their book Robin Hood and Other Outlaw Tales , Stephen Knight and Thomas H. Ohlgren point out in the introduction to the post-Restoration (after 1660) ballad Robin Hood and Maid Marian (Child Ballad 150, circa 17th century) that it’s the only ballad in which Maid Marian, “a bonny fine maid of a noble degree,†played a significant part. She wass portrayed excelling in beauty both Helen of Troy and Jane Shore, one of the many mistresses of King Edward IV (reign 11461-1470) of England, one of three whom he described as “the merriest, the wiliest, and the holiest harlots†in his realm in beauty.
Friar TuckClaude Rains As Prince JohnNickolas Grace As The Sheriff Of Nottingham In Robin Of Sherwood
“The events of the ballad had already been foreshadowed in Munday’s play, where Matilda Fitzwater goes to the forest, becoming Marian in the process, to meet the Earl of Huntington, alias Robin Hood. The popularity of Robin Hood ballads was so great that several of these ‘prequels’ seem to have been produced, as in Robin Hood’s Progress to Nottingham and Robin Hood and Little John.
Structurally the interesting thing about Robin Hood and Maid Marian is that it shows the only credible way to join the outlaw band is to fight a draw with the leader: this is a ‘Robin Hood meets his match’ ballad in a wider sense than usual. Foolish as commentators have found it, the notion of the hero’s fight with his lover is a potent one, whether it testifies to the woman’s possible martial skill, or the enormity of mistreating woman, or both at once. Found in the recent film Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves (1991), the motif is here taken quite seriously, down to the length of the fight and the sight of blood, however improbable it may be that Marian does not hear Robin’s voice until he asks for respite.â€
Another twist in the legend occurred when antiquarian Joseph Hunter in his 1852 pamphlet on Robin Hood identified a Robert Hood from Wakefield, Yorkshire, in the archives preserved in the Exchequer, whose story matched very closely the story of Robin in Robert Munday’s play. Hunter wrote that the real Robin Hood spent a stint at the court of Edward II (reign 1307-1327) and subsequently married a woman named Matilda, who changed her name to Marian when she joined him in exile in Barnsdale Forest (following the Battle of Boroughbridge) in 1322. She too had a cousin named Elizabeth de Staynton who was Prioress of Kirklees Priory. With so many similarities with the famous outlaw, there is a distinct possibility that these real life personages on whom the legend is based.
ADVENTURES OF ROBIN HOOD, THE, Olivia de Havilland, 1938
Robin Hood’s sweetheart in Robin Hood’s Birth, Breeding, Valor, and Marriage (Child Ballad 149), is named as “Clorinda the Queen of the Shepherdesses,†Marian’s alias in later stories. It recounted Robin Hood’s adventures hunting and a romance with Clorinda, a heroine who wasn’t able to displace Maid Marian as his sweetheart in the mind and hearts of the public. In his introduction to the ballad, American scholar and folklorist Professor Francis James Child who compiled a collection of English and Scottish ballads now known as the Child Ballads gives its first printing as 1716 in the poet Dryden’s Miscellany and points out the “freedom with which it treats tradition and common sense.†So this version was completely discarded.
In 1765, Thomas Percy, the Bishop of Dromore, published Reliques of Ancient English Poetry, including ballads from the 17th century Percy Folio manuscript, which had not previously been printed, most notably of Robin Hood and Guy of Gisborne, a late medieval ballad. In it, the fictional Sir Guy was hired to kill Robin Hood but is killed by him. In later depictions, he also became a romantic rival to Robin Hood for Maid Marian’s love.
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Then in 1795, Joseph Ritson published an enormously influential edition of the Robin Hood ballads Robin Hood: A collection of all the Ancient Poems Songs and Ballads now extant, relative to that celebrated Outlaw, including Robin Hood and the Potter ballad. Ritson’s collection became a source book for future English poets and novelists. Ritson was a staunch egalitarian and a supporter of the principles of the French Revolution and an admirer of Thomas Paine, the English-born American political activist, philosopher, political theorist, revolutionary and one of the Founding Fathers of America whose writings helped shape many of the ideas that marked the Age of Revolution. Ritson wrote that Robin Hood, “a genuinely historical, and genuinely heroic character,†stood up against tyranny in the interests of the common people.
In his preface to the collection, Ritson put together an account of Robin Hood’s life from the various sources available to him, and concluded that Robin Hood was born in 1160 and died on 18th November 1247 at the age of 87 years. His exploits took place in the reign of Richard I. He theorized that Robin was of aristocratic birth with at least “some pretension†to the title of Earl of Huntingdon, that he was born in an unidentified Nottinghamshire village of Locksley and that his original name was Robert Fitzooth. Ritson cited various sources for his methodical research.
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Dobson and Taylor credit Ritson with having “an incalculable effect in promoting the still continuing quest for the man behind the myth,†and note that his work remains an “indispensable handbook to the outlaw legend even now.†So we have Ritson to thank for the modern day story of Robin Hood as we know it.
Sir Walter Scott used his friend Ritson’s anthology collection as a source for his picture of Robin Hood in Ivanhoe, written in 1818, on which the modern legend of Robin Hood as a high-minded Saxon fighting Norman lords is based. Richard the Lionheart calls him “King of Outlaws and prince of good fellows†in it. French historian Jacques Nicolas Augustin Thierry’s Histoire de la Conquête de l’Angleterre par les Normands (1825) presented a similar figure.
20th century writer-illustrator Howard Pyle’s The Merry Adventures of Robin Hood became a popular version for children and further influenced modern accounts of Robin Hood in the U.S. and the world over. Pyle’s Robin Hood is a yeoman, not an aristocrat, who is a staunch philanthropist, a man who takes from the rich to give to the poor. His adventures are more local than national in scope. While King Richard’s participation in the Crusades is mentioned in passing, Robin takes no stand against Prince John, and plays no part in raising the ransom to free Richard.
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The 1976 British-American film Robin and Marian, starring Sean Connery and Audrey Hepburn, takes up the story after Robin has returned from service with a less than perfect and more realistic Richard the Lionheart in a foreign crusade and Marian has gone into seclusion in a nunnery. Though the film lacked punch, it attempted to flesh out the legend.
Another modern addition to the merry crew in recent times is the diversity factor. Since the 1980s, a Saracen (Muslim or Arab of Turkish extraction) has been shown among the Merry Men.
Robin Hood and Maid Marian
(An English Legend)
There was a time when Robin Hood, the famous outlaw, was not an outlaw at all but a nobleman, Lord of Locksley. He lived near Sherwood Forest, and it was in that forest where, one day, Robin went out hunting and came upon a maiden wearing a dress as green as the springtime leaves.
Robin gazed at her, entranced; her face was the loveliest he had ever seen, and he thought she must be a princess.
But the longer he looked at her, the more he could see that this woman had not even one touch of false pride, and that she held her bow and quiver as if she had been born to hunt. He watched her fierce concentration. She took aim and shot, but Robin did not see what it was she hunted. He was staring at her beautiful hair, as black as ink, and at her gaze, which was wise and open.
There, he knew at once, was the woman he would always love.
Later that day, Robin learned her name was Marian. She was the daughter of the noble Earl of Fitzwalter, who lived in a castle not far from Robin’s home. Soon he introduced himself, and before long he and Marian went out hunting together. They would walk and share stories, and naturally they fell in love. When Marian agreed to marry Robin, he thought he must be the happiest man in the world.
But before they could marry, the sheriff of Nottingham cheated Robin out of his fortune, and with his change of luck, Robin was forced to run away into the forest. From that day on, the green wood was the place he would make his home.
Robin was now poor and without any belongings, but he was wise and crafty. He swore to take revenge on all who stole and lied and cheated other folk, and he knew he could live happily in the forest, protecting those unable to protect themselves. Life would be fine, except for one thing. He could never ask Marian to live with him, for he no longer had a home to share with her.
And so, his heart breaking, he wrote to Marian and broke their engagement.
Robin’s life in the forest as an outlaw began. One by one he gathered his band of Merry Men, and with his trusted right-hand man, Little John, and his friends Will Scarlet, Much the Miller and Friar Tuck, Robin Hood became the man everyone knew about. He was generous and gentle to women and children, to all who worked hard, to worthy knights and gallant squires, to anyone who was helpless. Only those who cheated and harmed others — those who used their power to hurt the less powerful — were the targets of Robin’s wrath, and they would never forget the man once they crossed his path.
Robin Hood. Original artwork for Look and Learn (issue yet to be identified).
Time passed. Robin never spoke to anyone of Marian, but he never stopped thinking of her. Sometimes when he was alone in the forest, he imagined what it might be like to see her again, but most of the time he hoped she had found happiness and peace in her life.
But in truth Marian had never stopped thinking of Robin, and at long last she decided she must find him. Traveling alone was unsafe for any woman, and so Marian disguised herself as a young knight. She tucked her hair beneath her helmet, which hid most of her face, and with a sword for protection, she set out into the forest, determined to find her beloved.
At the same time, Robin was in the forest, but he too wore a disguise. Robin did not like to be recognized, and his costumes were so clever that sometimes even Little John did not recognize his own friend. And so on this bright, springtime day — the sort of day that made Robin sad, for it reminded him of meeting Marian in a time that seemed so long ago — he was hunting and dreaming of his long-ago love.
When Robin happened upon a young man in the forest, he disguised his voice, and called out, “Stop, you there! What is your mission here? What is your name, and where are you going?â€
Now this young man, in truth, was Marian, but Robin did not recognize her, and she did not recognize him. In fact, his voice sounded so gruff, a shiver passed down her back, and fearing that he meant to harm her, she drew her sword.
When Robin saw that, he too drew his sword. “Since you do not answer, you must be up to evil, lad.â€
The two began to fight.
Robin was taller, and stronger too, but Marian was a master with her sword. She defended herself better than nearly anyone Robin had ever fought. He was amazed at the grace with which his enemy moved, the speed and artistry the young knight employed. Under his breath, Robin whispered, “How I wish this man were part of my band of men.â€
The fight lasted for a half-hour, when finally Robin wounded Marian’s arm, and Marian’s sword found its way under the heavy hood Robin wore and scratched his cheek.
“Halt then,†Robin called, for he had begun to feel sorry for the young knight. This time, he forgot to disguise his voice, and the moment Marian heard those words, she dropped her sword. “Robin,†she gasped. “Can it be you?â€
Now Robin too recognized the voice. This was Marian, the love of his life.
Robin threw back his hood, and Marian flung down the her helmet, letting her hair fall loose. When they saw each other without their disguises, they laughed, and wept, and embraced. Marian swore she would never again let him leave her. She, too, would live in the green wood.
The two walked together toward the trysting tree, the place where Robin and his Merry Men gathered, and when Robin told the tale to his friend Little John, Little John knelt and took her hand in his.
“Lady Marian,†he said, “you shall be our queen, for Robin is our king. And now, we must celebrate!â€
And so it was that in that forest, on that lovely spring day, Robin and his sweetheart and all their friends danced and sang and celebrated love and romance.
Similarly, Maid Marian’s role as a strong female character has been picked up by modern feminist writers, such as Theresa Tomlinson in Forestwife novels (1993–2000) that are told from Marian’s point of view. She portrayed Marian as a high-born Norman girl escaping entrapment in an arranged marriage. With the aid of her nurse, she runs away to Sherwood Forest, where she becomes acquainted with Robin Hood.
And in the latest update to the story, Margot Robbie stars in Marian, a new film set in “an alternate Robin Hood universe.†Screenwriter Pete Barry depicts “Marian picking up the cause to lead her people into a pivotal war after the love of her life, Robin Hood, dies. She comes to power, charging into a battle that will not only decide the fate of the kingdom, but also see her don the mantle of the man she loved.†Sounds like a fun ride!
Little John’s Alleged Grave In St Michael’s Church Graveyard, Hathersage, DerbyshireRobin Hood
There seems to be some truth to the fact that the real Robin Hood and Maid Marian did exist. However, it is also clear that the details of the story have changed over time. Regardless, if you are interested in the legend, and happen to be in West Yorkshire, do pay a visit to the alleged grave of Robin Hood at Kirklees Priory, behind the Three Nuns pub in Mirfield. The headstone bears an inscription of the fifteenth-century ballad relating that before he died, Robin told Little John where to bury him. According to this, as an octogenarian when he became ill, Robin went with Little John to be nursed by his aunt, the Prioress. But Sir Roger de Doncaster persuaded her to murder her nephew and the Prioress slowly bled Robin to death. With the last of his strength, he blew his horn and Little John propped him up by the window placing his trusty bow and arrow in his hands. Before drawing his last breath, Robin shot an arrow and instructed Little John to bury him where the arrow landed. The inscription on the grave still hauntingly reads:
We are all familiar with the passionate but doomed 2000 year old love story of the Egyptian Queen of the Nile Cleopatra and the Roman General Marcus Antonius who committed tragic double suicide. The story has been passed down by generations of story tellers from Plutarch in Parallel Lives to early Muslim historians, and from Shakespeare in his play Antony and Cleopatra to Hollywood in one of the most expensive epic films of all times Cleopatra (1963) starring Elizabeth Taylor, Richard Burton and Rex Harrison. Here is their intensely dramatic true story based on not just a sensual love but cold, hard and pragmatic politics
By Mahlia Lone
Cleopatra VII Thea Philopator (Cleopatra the Father-Loving Goddess), born in Egypt in 69 BC, belonged to the Ptolemy dynasty founded by one of Alexander the Great’s Macedonian generals, Ptolemy I Soter, who took over the reign of Egypt after Alexander’s death in 323 BC. The dynasty of Greek-speaking rulers lasted for nearly three centuries and incestuous marriages became the rule to preserve the purity of their Macedonian bloodline. Many of Cleopatra’s ancestors married their cousins or worse, siblings. Her own parents were probably brother and sister. Despite this interbreeding, long before Cleopatra was born, the Ptolemy’s Greek blood had become mixed with Egyptian.
Her father Ptolemy XII Auletes (player of pipes) was an alcoholic music lover whose reign was marred by a great rebellion during which the royal family had to go into exile. The Ptolemy dynasty was in the last days of a long decline when she inherited the throne upon his death in 51 bc with her younger brother/husband/co-regent Ptolemy XIII (reign 51–47 BC). Ten years older than her brother/husband, eighteen year old Cleopatra became the dominant ruler of the two, embraced many of her country’s ancient customs and was the first member of the Ptolemaic rulers to learn Egyptian.
Cleopatra was renowned more for her intellect, charm, conversation and political acumen than her physical appearance. She spoke as many as a dozen languages and was educated in mathematics, philosophy, oratory and astronomy, and was a ruler “who elevated the ranks of scholars and enjoyed their company.†Muslim scholars dating from after the Arab conquest of Egypt in 640 AD recorded that Cleopatra had been a first rate scholar, scientist, chemist and gifted philosopher, in direct contrast to the history penned by her enemies, the Romans who portrayed her as a scheming seductress who used men to further her own ends.
In fact, strong evidence suggests that Cleopatra was not beautiful at all. Ancient Greek biographer Plutarch who lived just a century after her death wrote that Cleopatra’s beauty was “not altogether incomparable,†and that it was instead her mellifluous speaking voice and “irresistible charm†that made her so desirable.
Egyptian coins with her portrait from her era display a lively countenance with a sensitive mouth, firm chin, liquid eyes, broad forehead, and prominent nose. Some historians argue that Cleopatra managed her public image just as celebrities do today changing her image to suit her political need. Her manly features, father’s strong jaw and large, hooked nose on the coins were a display of strength and emphasized her inherited right to rule. At ceremonial events, she would appear dressed as the goddess Isis, showing that she too was semi-divine.
The murder of immediate family members and power plots were rife in the Ptolemaic royal house. In 50 BC, her brother/husband/co-regent Ptolemy’s name preceded Cleopatra’s and soon after he forced his sister/wife who was trying to take sole possession of the throne to flee Egypt for Syria. Not to be daunted by a younger sibling, she raised an army and in 48 BC returned to face her brother in a civil war.
The arrival of Roman Consul and General Julius Caesar brought a temporary peace between the warring siblings. Cleopatra realized that she needed Caesar’s support, if she were to regain her throne. In his turn, Caesar wanted repayment of the massive loan incurred by Cleopatra’s father, Auletes, which he had taken on to fight against rebel forces and regain his throne.
Knowing Ptolemy XIII’s forces would thwart her attempts to meet with the powerful Caesar, Cleopatra had herself famously wrapped in a carpet and smuggled into his personal quarters. Dazzled by her audaciousness and originality, the two soon struck up a bargain that was sealed in love.
The exotic Egyptian female pharaoh with her infamous femme fatale reputation, elaborate hairdo and makeup as well as fabulous pearl studded gold jewellery made the Roman women swoon and scramble to emulate her glamorous style. Cleopatra had the most powerful man in Rome wrapped around her little finger. Who wouldn’t want that? According to the historian Joann Fletcher, “so many Roman women adopted the ‘Cleopatra look’†thereby setting off a fashion trend.
Caesar and Cleopatra spent that winter holed up together in besieged Alexandria till Roman reinforcements arrived the following spring and defeated Ptolemy XIII’s forces. After his defeat, the Egyptian Pharoah drowned in the Nile. Cleopatra married her youngest brother Ptolemy XIV (later also murdered by her order) and regained the throne.
In June 47 BC, Cleopatra gave birth to Ptolemy Caesar (known as Caesarion, or Little Caesar). This was Julius Caesar’s only son, though he had been married three times, including to his current wife the honourable Calpurnia. The most powerful Roman had produced an Egyptian heir named after him. Powerful Romans sat up and took notice.
When Caesar returned to Rome, in 46 bc, he celebrated a four-day triumph, his victory over a foreign enemy, in which Arsinoe, Cleopatra’s younger sister who had sided with her brother Ptolemy was paraded in chains, a fate that she bore with such dignity that she impressed the watching Romans. Cleopatra had her killed too.
Julius came back full of plans to change Rome. He not only made plans to distribute land to about 15,000 war veterans that had aided his campaigns and were loyal to him, but also replaced the traditional Roman calendar regulated by the movement of the moon (like the Muslim calendar) with the Egyptian calendar regulated by the sun with 365.25 days, same as the modern western calendar today.
To add insult to injury, Caesar’s foreign mistress Cleopatra accompanied by their son and her latest co-regent, youngest brother and new husband Ptolemy XIV visited him in Rome in 46 BC and stayed at his private villa beyond the Tiber River. In honour of his royal mistress, Caesar erected a golden statue in Cleopatra’s likeness in the temple of Venus Genetrix, his Julian family ancestress.
Having made himself the most powerful man in Rome with the Army, Senate, Roman citizens and even foreign powers behind him, Julius Caesar had himself proclaimed dictator for a year. Afraid that he would make himself a ruler for life and then pass on his throne to his Egyptian born son, 60 Senators led by Brutus and Cassius successfully plotted and assassinated the great Caesar who thought himself untouchable in 44 BC in the Senate building on the Ides of March.
Cleopatra was in fact in Rome at the time and fearing for her and her son’s lives she disguised her group and escaped in secrecy to the safety of Alexandria. Soon after, Ptolemy XIV died prematurely under mysterious circumstances., perhaps having been killed at the order of his sister. Cleopatra now ruled with her infant son, Ptolemy XV Caesar.
Marcus Antonius was born in 83 BC, nine years after Cleopatra’s birth, to a noble Roman family. Plutarch wrote that Antony gave brilliant promise in his youth until his friendship with the wastrel Curio fell upon him like a pest. Curio himself was aimless and unrestrained in his pleasures, encouraging Antony in drinking bouts, with women, and incurring extravagant expenditures. His carousing involved Antony in a heavy debt before he turned twenty of two hundred and fifty talents (the equivalent of five million dollars today).
Deep in gambling debt and pursued by creditors, Antony fled to Greece in 58 BC and took part as a cavalry officer in military campaigns in Judea (called Syria Palaestina by the Romans), where he performed exceptionally well. He was sent to Gaul and was promoted to the personal staff of Julius Caesar. Antony played a key figure in helping bring the province under Rome’s control. Though a brilliant commander, his appetite for indolence, drink and sexual excesses marred his military discipline much to the dislike of Caesar and the other officers. The common soldiers all naturally rallied to Antony’s side though and followed his lead. As a reward for his military conquests, Antony was appointed tribune back in Rome and represented the interests of the people. His popularity with the common man helped him gain support for Caesar, whose imperiousness was being challenged in the Roman Senate.
Plutarch wrote: “What might seem to some very insupportable, his vaunting, his raillery, his drinking in public, sitting down by the men as they were taking their food, and eating, as he stood, off the common soldiers’ tables, made him the delight and pleasure of the army. In love affairs, also, he was very agreeable: he gained many friends by the assistance he gave them in theirs, and took other people’s raillery upon his own with good-humour. And his generous ways, his open and lavish hand in gifts and favours to his friends and fellow-soldiers, did a great deal for him in his first advance to power.”
With further victories under his belt, his growing popularity and his unquestionable loyalty to Caesar, Antony was appointed his second in command.
“In spite of his (Antony’s) hedonism,†Plutarch added, “After taking Rome without a fight, when Caesar turned his attention to Pompey’s forces in Spain, he left Antony in charge of the city. Though an effective military leader, Antony had little skill as a politician. He was too lazy to pay attention to the complaints of persons who were injured; he listened impatiently to petitions; and he had an ill name for familiarity with other people’s wives.†A not too competent administrator, Antony managed keep the all important supply lines open to Caesar’s forces and to send reinforcements in a timely fashion.
In 45 BC, Antony with his ear to the ground heard rumors of a plot against Caesar but was unable to warn his mentor in time. On the Ides of March (notable for the Romans as a deadline for settling debts) when Julius Caesar was stabbed to death in a very public assassination, Antony fled Rome dressed as a slave. He returned with soldiers and took charge of Caesar’s will, handed over to him by Calpurnia, gave a stirring eulogy for the fallen leader, turning the tide of popular opinion against the conspirators, and drove them from Rome.
In his will, Caesar had bequeathed his wealth and title to his nephew and teenage posthumously adopted son Gaius Octavius Thurinus (Octavian) who promptly appeared to claim his inheritance. But Antony was reluctant to hand over the reins of power to a “boy†as he often referred to him. He felt as Caesar’s second in command he was the natural successor. As Mark Antony pursued Caesar’s killers in Gaul, army legions supporting Octavian’s claim to the leadership scored a series of victories against Antony, forcing him to retreat to southern Gaul. Caesar’s assassins, Brutus and Cassis, were preparing to descend on Rome with their troops when Octavian, Antony and Marcus Aemilius Lepidus (a Roman patrician statesman and close ally of Julius) hastily called a truce and formed the Second Triumvirate, jointly defeating the traitors in the battle of Philippi in October 42 BC.
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The three victors divided Rome’s territories between them. Lepidus got Africa to rule, Octavian the west, and Antony the east. In 41 BC, Antony firmly in charge in the east summoned Cleopatra to appear before him on a charge of sedition against Rome. He planned on fining her a substantial sum in gold to help pay his army. She received several letters, both from Antony and from his friends, to summon her, but she took no account of these orders only setting sail when she was good and ready. She set out for Tarsus in Asia Minor loaded with gifts. By this time, Antony was agog with curiosity to see her. She stage managed her entrance, fashionably late of course, in such a way that Antony was instantly spell bound and smitten.
Plutarch described the scene as: “And at last, as if in mockery of them, she came sailing up the river Cydnus, in a barge with gilded stern and outspread sails of purple, while oars of silver beat time to the music of flutes and fifes and harps. She herself lay all along under a canopy of cloth of gold, dressed as Venus in a picture, and beautiful young boys, like painted Cupids, stood on each side to fan her. Her maids were dressed like sea nymphs and graces, some steering at the rudder, some working at the ropes….On her arrival, Antony sent to invite her to supper. She thought it fitter he should come to her; so, willing to show his good-humour and courtesy, he complied, and went. He found the preparations to receive him magnificent beyond expression, but nothing so admirable as the great number of lights; for on a sudden there was let down altogether so great a number of branches with lights in them so ingeniously disposed, some in squares, and some in circles, that the whole thing was a spectacle that has seldom been equaled for beauty.”
Cleopatra had promised Antony the most expensive feast he had ever attended and when Antony took in the entire splendor he said, he had seen never seen anything to equal it, but doubted that it was the world’s most expensive feast. Cleopatra, always one to create dramatic moments, took off one of her earrings with a huge dangling pearl and dropped the pearl in a gold goblet of wine. The pearl rapidly dissolved in the liquid, she downed the glass and said that now it was certainly the most lavish banquet ever. Antony was stunned.
Antony liked to think of himself as an embodiment of Dionysus (the god of wine, festivity and fertility) so when Cleopatra appeared before him dressed as Venus (the goddess of (love, beauty, desire, procreation and prosperity), they seemed to be the ideal fit for each other. Instantly forgetting his faithful wife Fulvia who in Italy was working hard to maintain her husband’s affairs against young Octavian, Antony returned to Alexandria with Cleopatra, treating her not as a “protected†ruler but as an independent sovereign.
Cleopatra needed Antony to help her maintain her crown and Egypt’s sovereignty, while Antony needed to access Egypt’s riches and resources to maintain the precarious balance of power in Rome.
Cleverly, Cleopatra studied the general’s likes and dislikes and participated in all his excesses, not leaving his side for a minute, even when he participated in military exercises she would stand by and watch. They spent a raucous winter together in 41-40 BC steeped in hedonism even by Ancient Egyptian and Roman royal standards. They formed their own bacchanalian drinking society known as the “Inimitable Livers.†The group engaged in nightly feasts and wine-binges, and its members participated in elaborate games and contests, such as wandering the streets of Alexandria in disguise and playing pranks on its residents. The citizens would recognize Cleopatra and Antony but wisely forbore any comment and patiently played along.
Plutarch described: (Antony was) “…carried away by her (Cleopatra) to Alexandria, there to keep holiday, like a boy, in play and diversion, squandering and fooling away in enjoyment that most costly of all valuables, time….She had faith in her own attractions, which, having formerly recommended her to Caesar and the young Pompey, she did not doubt might prove yet more successful with Antony. Their acquaintance was with her when a girl, young, and ignorant of the world, but she was to meet Antony in the time of life when women’s beauty is most splendid, and their intellects are in full maturity. She made great preparations for her journey, of money, gifts, and ornaments of value, such as so wealthy a kingdom might afford, but she brought with her surest hopes in her own magic arts and charms.
…she came sailing up the river Cydnus in a barge with gilded stern and outspread sails of purple, while oars of silver beat time to the music of flutes and fifes and harps. She herself lay all along, under a canopy of cloth of gold, dressed as Venus in a picture, and beautiful young boys, like painted Cupids, stood on each side to fan her. Her maids were dressed like Sea Nymphs and Graces, some steering at the rudder, some working at the ropes.
…perfumes diffused themselves from the vessel to the shore, which was covered with multitudes, part following the galley up the river on either bank, part running out of the city to see the sight. The market place was quite emptied, and Antony at last was left alone sitting upon the tribunal; while the word went .through all the multitude, that Venus was come to feast with Bacchus for the common good of Asia.
On her arrival, Antony sent to invite her to supper. She thought it fitter he should come to her; so, willing to show his good humor and courtesy, he complied, and went. He found the preparations to receive him magnificent beyond expression, but nothing so admirable as the great number of lights; for on a sudden there was let down altogether so great a number of branches with lights in them so ingeniously disposed, some in squares, and some in circles, that the whole thing was a spectacle that has seldom been equaled for beauty.
The next day, Antony invited her to supper, and was very desirous to outdo her as well in magnificence as contrivance; but he found he was altogether beaten in both, and was so well convinced of it, that he was himself the first to jest and mock at his poverty of wit, and his rustic awkwardness. She, perceiving that his raillery was broad and gross, and savored more of the soldier than the courtier, rejoined in the same taste, and fell into it at once, without any sort of reluctance or reserve.
For her actual beauty, it is said, was not in itself so remarkable that none could be compared with her, or that no one could see her without being struck by it, but the contact of her presence, if you lived with her, was irresistible; the attraction of her person, joining with the charm of her conversation, and the character that attended all she said or did, was something bewitching. It was a pleasure merely to hear the sound of her voice, with which, like an instrument of many strings, she could pass from one language to another; so that there were few of the barbarian nations that she answered by an interpreter.
Antony was so captivated by her, that while Fulvia his wife maintained his quarrels in Rome against Caesar by actual force of arms, and the Parthian troops…were assembled in Mesopotamia, and ready to enter Syria, he could yet suffer himself to be carried away by her to Alexandria, there to keep holiday, like a boy, in play and diversion, squandering and fooling away in enjoyment that most costly, as Antiphon says, of all valuables, time.
Were Antony serious or disposed to mirth, she had at any moment some new delight or charm to meet his wishes; at every turn she was upon him, and let him escape her neither by day nor by night. She played at dice with him, drank with him, hunted with him; and when he exercised in arms, she was there to see.
At night she would go rambling with him to disturb and torment people at their doors and windows, dressed like a servant woman for Antony also went in servant’s disguise, and from these expeditions he often came home very scurvily answered, and sometimes even beaten severely, though most people guessed who it was. However, the Alexandrians in general liked it all well enough, and joined good humouredly and kindly in his frolic and play, saying they were much obliged to Antony for acting his tragic parts at Rome, and keeping his comedy for them.â€
In 40 bc, Cleopatra gave birth to twins, Alexander Helios and Cleopatra Selene, fathered by the general. During her pregnancy, Antony had already left Alexandria to return to Rome to conclude a temporary settlement with Octavian. As Fulvia had passed away, he sealed the deal by marrying Octavian’s sister, Octavia. For three years, Antony tried to make his marriage and the settlement work but was finally convinced beyond a doubt that he and Octavian could never come to terms.
Discarding Octavia, he returned to waiting Cleopatra’s arms. Once again, Antony needed Cleopatra’s financial support for his Parthian campaign, while in her turn she requested the return of Egypt’s former eastern empire of Syria, Lebanon and the rich balsam groves of Jericho (Palestine).
Regardless, due to political expediency, the Triumvirate was renewed in 37 BC. Meanwhile, Antony fathered another son with Cleopatra, Ptolemy Philadelphus. The couple became bolder and made their relationship more official, participating in deification ceremonies where they took the roles of the Greco-Egyptian gods Dionysus-Osiris and Venus-Isis. More crucially, their three children along with Caesarion were shown off publicly in Alexandria as legitimate royal heirs. But in Rome laws barred the acknowledgment of marriage with outsiders or foreign heirs.
To make matters worse, the Parthian campaign was a costly failure. In 34 BC, egotistical Antony celebrated a triumphal return to Alexandria despite this. “The Donations of Alexandria†was a public ceremony held in the city’s Gymnasium in which Cleopatra and Antony were seated on grand golden thrones on a silver platform with their children perched on lower thrones beside them. They may have even gotten married in an Egyptian ceremony. Antony proclaimed Caesarion to be Caesar’s son, foolhardily proclaiming Octavian to be the illegitimate heir. Doubtless he was encouraged by the wily Cleopatra in this. She had Caesarion, represented on the temple wall at Dendera alongside her, as sharing her rule. She herself was hailed as queen of kings, Caesarion as king of kings. Alexander Helios was awarded Armenia and modern day Iraq, the infant Ptolemy the lands to the west of the Euphrates. Cleopatra Selene was bequeathed Cyrene (Libya).
Octavian watched from Rome as Antony thumbed his nose at him, parceling off Roman territories. A clever tactician, Octavian tried to turn the common man’s bias away from the more popular Antony by taking his will (or a forgery) from the temple of the Vestal Virgins and revealing to the Romans that not only had Antony bestowed Roman possessions on a foreign woman but intended to be buried beside her in Egypt. A rumour spread like wild fire that Antony had abandoned his own people and intended to transfer the capital from Rome to Alexandria. Antony was seen as a traitor duped by a scheming seductress.
William Shakespeare ‘s play ‘Antony and Cleopatra’ (Act III, Scene 11). ‘Antony: ‘Fall not a tear, I say; one of them rates. All that is won and lost: give me a kiss; Even this repays me.’ Painted by Frank Dicksee, engraved by G. Goldberg. WS:l. English poet and playwright baptised 26 April 1564 – 23 April 1616. (Photo by Culture Club/Getty Images)
Antony reacted by divorcing Octavia, a public disgrace for her brother. Meanwhile Octavian strengthened his grip on power in Rome by eliminating Lepidus from the triumvirate on a pretext of rebellion. While Antony and Cleopatra wintered in Greece in 32–31 BC, as a result of Octavian’s intense propaganda campaign, the Roman Senate deprived Antony of his prospective consulate the following year, and declared war against Cleopatra, but not Antony who still had support back home.
Much of the fighting took place in western Greece, where Antony had a large force. However, Octavian’s general Marcus Vipsanius Agrippa, who later became his brother in law as well as son in law, outmaneuvered Antony’s men in a series of brilliant naval attacks. The conflict reached its climax in the naval battle at Actium on 2nd September, 31 BC. Cleopatra personally led dozens of heavily armed Egyptian warships alongside Antony’s fleet, but they were no match for Octavian’s navy. Cleopatra and Antony’s remaining ships were forced to flee to Egypt, pursued by Agrippa.
Cleopatra retreated to her mausoleum as Antony took a last stand. It was do or die for him. Octavian’s forces had followed them to Alexandria.
While fighting a losing battle, Antony received word that Cleopatra had died. All was lost to him and he threw himself on his sword, piercing himself in the stomach. A mortally wounded Antony had himself carried to Cleopatra’s retreat and there died in her arms, after bidding her to make her peace with Octavian and save herself and her children. But Cleopatra did not want to be paraded in the streets of Rome as her sister before her had been. She knew hers would be an ignominious life of lifelong imprisonment, degradation and humiliation.
After burying Antony, Cleopatra famously committed suicide by means of an asp, a symbol of divine royalty, probably a viper or Egyptian cobra that bit her on her arm. An alternative theory is that she pricked herself with a pin dipped in snake venom that she carried on her person at all times. According to Plutarch, we shall never know for sure as the suicide occurred behind locked doors in her mausoleum. At the time of death, the legendary queen aged only 39 had ruled Egypt for 22 years and had been Antony’s partner for 11. She had her priests bury her besides her lover as per their joint wish.
Egypt was finally annexed by Rome in 30 BC. Octavian had to make do with parading the effigies of Antony and Cleopatra through the streets of Rome instead. All the honours Antony had been rewarded in his lifetime for his bravery and service to Rome were revoked and his statues were destroyed. His rival in the Senate, Cicero went so far as to decree that no one in the dead general’s family would ever bear the name Marcus Antonius again.
There was a seismic shift in the civilized world three years later when Octavian was crowned as the Roman Emperor Augustus, rendering Rome no longer a Republic. In fact, when Augustus was given the choice of naming a month in his honour, instead of choosing his birth month September, he chose the eighth month in which Cleopatra and Antony died to create a yearly reminder of their defeat.
To consolidate his position, Augustus lured teenage Caesarion back with promises of power, but had him put to death upon arrival. Augustus expertly ruled Rome as Emperor for the next four decades, becoming one of Rome’s more successful emperors. Octavia rescued Antony’s children by Cleopatra, the twins aged 10 and Ptolemy six, and brought them up in her own household in Rome. In time, Cleopatra Selene was married to King Juba of Mauretania (Algeria and Morocco) and had a son, also named Ptolemy, named for his Egyptian heritage. Cleopatra’s only known grandchild, he was killed in adulthood by order of the Roman emperor Caligula.
In Egypt, the dynastic rule ended and hieroglyphic script was slowly lost, buried under Egypt’s shifting sands of time. But, to this day, the legendary love story of Antony and Cleopatra lives on.
Many of you remember Penelope Cruz and Javier Bardem from their unforgettable movie roles—Penelope for her beauty and Javier for his formidable acting prowess. As we know, love does not always bloom at first sight. Penelope met her current husband Javier on the set of her first movie Jamon, Jamon (1992) when she was just a teenager. Fifteen years later, on the set of Vicky Christina Barcelona (2007) they reconnected and Bardem decided she’s The One for him. By then, each had the maturity to fully comprehend what it was they were looking for in a spouse. This is their story
Bardem Worked As Actor From The Age Of SixJavier Played rugby for The Junior Spanish National Team
Javier spent his childhood at theatres and on film sets, making his film debut at only six years old in Fernando Fernán Gómez’s El PÃcaro (The Scoundrel). Javier told The Guardian about his childhood in Spain, “It was a very troubled time, to the point that to have the surname Bardem in those times was not good; you were pursued and put in jail. I was too little, but I saw things. People being arrested, my mother crying because colleagues of hers and people she loved were imprisoned or disappeared. The streets were violent….My mother is an actress; my grandfather and grandmother were actors. The parents of my grandparents were actors, in a time when actors were not allowed to be buried on sacred land. Terrible. My uncle is an actor, my brother is an actor and a writer, my sister used to be an actress. My cousins are actors. I’ve seen since I was born all that you can imagine in an actor’s life. So I don’t buy anything. I don’t buy success. I don’t buy failure. I only buy commitment.â€
However, the boy was ambitious to become not an actor as you would imagine but a painter. He studied painting for four years at Madrid’s Escuela de Artes y Oficios and took on acting jobs only to pay the bills. Perhaps this was due to the fact that he was well aware of the non glamorous aspect of the showbiz world. In addition, the sporty, well built youth played rugby for the junior Spanish National Team. In time, not having enough talent or skill to make it as an artist, Javier wisely decided to pursue acting seriously. Struggling to make it, he even worked as a stripper for a day to subsidize his income between acting jobs. He nearly threw in the towel though when in 1989 after donning a Superman costume for a comedic sketch for the Spanish comedy show El DÃa Por Delante (The Day Ahead), he questioned this choice of career as well.
Penelope Studied classical Ballet for Nine Years at Spain’s National Conservatory
As it happened, the year they started filming, Javier had already started dating his English teacher Christina Pales, a relationship that was to last nearly fifteen years. He was in love and committed and he didn’t have eyes for his ambitious nubile costar. He said at the time, “I’m in love with my English teacher. We have many of our lessons in bed.â€
With Her First Serious Boyfriend (bf) Musician And Record Producer Nacho Cano
Penelope had a happy childhood and spent long hours at her grandmother’s apartment. She remembers “playing with some friends and being aware that I was acting as I was playing with them. I would think of a character and pretend to be someone else.†But, like Bardem, she initially focused on pursuing a different career and studied classical ballet for nine years at Spain’s National Conservatory. She said that ballet instilled in her discipline that helped in her future acting career.
With Ex Bf Czech Filmmaker Thomas Obermaier
Aged 10, she became interested in movies and her father bought her a Betamax VCR to watch films on, a rare thing to own in her neighborhood. After watching Spanish director Pedro Almodóvar’s film, Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down! (1990) she wanted try her hand at acting. She started doing casting calls for an agent but was rejected multiple times because the agent felt that she was too young. Cruz said in an interview, “I was very extroverted as a kid….I was studying when I was in high school at night, I was in ballet and I was doing castings. I looked for an agent and she sent me away three times because I was a little girl but I kept coming back. I’m still with her after all these years.†Finally, after she won an audition at a talent agency beating over 300 other girls, she was signed by a talent agent Katrina Bayonas at age 15 and made her acting debut at 16 on TV hosting TV channel Telecinco’s talk show for teenagers.
In The Hi Lo Country With Billy Crudup
Katrina Bayonas recalled her audition, “She was absolutely magic. It was obvious there was something very impressive about this kid…. She was very green, but there was a presence. There was just something coming from within.â€
In an interview given to the Los Angeles Daily News in 1999, Cruz said that “it was a great part, but…I wasn’t really ready for the nudity….But I have no regrets because I wanted to start working and it changed my life.â€
Charlie Rose announced on 60 Minutes that Cruz “became an overnight sensation as much for her nude scenes as for her talent.â€
With the success of this film, the director cast Javier for a third time in his next film Luna as well, while Penelope starred in the Academy-Award-winning period romance drama Belle Epoque playing a very different character that of a virginal young girl.
With Tom Cruise & Cameron Diaz
Scenes From Vanilla Sky
From 1993 to 1996, Cruz appeared in ten Spanish and Italian films. At 20, she went to live in New York to study ballet, theatre at Cristina Rota’s New York school and English between films. She said sheorized the dialogue for casting calls and learnt English “kind of late,†getting by on only saying, “How are you?†and “Thank you.â€
Bardem Collateral
Actor John Malkovich impressed by Bardem’s acting talent offered the 27-year-old Spaniard a role in his English film in 1997, but despite the lessons with his girlfriend Javier felt his English was still poor. Instead he chose to do director Ãlex de la Iglesia’s bilingual (released in Spanish and English) action crime horror film Perdita Durango (Dance with the Devil), in which Bardem and Hispanic American actress Rosie Perez play a psychotic criminal couple.
HOLLYWOOD – FEBRUARY 24: Actor Javier Bardem poses in the press room during the 80th Annual Academy Awards at the Kodak Theatre on February 24, 2008 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
When he had approximately two dozen Spanish films under his belt, Bardem finally gained widespread international recognition when he portrayed homosexual Cuban poet Reinaldo Arenas who was persecuted by Fidel Castro in Julian Schnabel’s Before Night Falls (2000). For his sensitive portrayal, his idol Al Pacino left an appreciative message on his answering machine, something he considers one of the most beautiful gifts he has ever received. Bardem received an Academy Award nomination for Best Actor, a first for a Spaniard.
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Having broken up with her Spanish long distance boyfriend, Cruz started dating Czech filmmaker Tomas Obermaier and appeared in her first American film as Billy Crudup’s down to earth Mexican girlfriend in Stephen Frears’ Western, The Hi-Lo Country (1999). She reported that she still had difficulties understanding people speaking English while filming. The movie which starred Woody Harrelson and Patricia Arquette bombed. Cruz followed this up with Almodóvar’s well received All About My Mother, playing a pregnant nun with AIDS. She went from strength to strength starring in the delightful Hollywood rom-com Woman on Top in the lead female role playing a sexy world class chef. Variety magazine ran a story saying that Penelope “burst off the screenâ€, and had a charming accent. The curvaceous and pretty actress came to be known as the “Spanish enchantress.â€
Saharaa
With Ex Bfco Star McConaughey Both Off & On The Screen
Another review in Box Office magazine stated, “Cruz is stunning in the role—innocent and vulnerable yet possessing a mature grace and determined strength, all while sizzling with unchecked sensuality.â€
In 2000, she was cast as A-lister Matt Damon’s love interest in Billy Bob Thornton’s film adaptation of the Western bestselling novel, All the Pretty Horses. Claiming that her career ambitions were responsible for her breakup with Obermaier, Penelope started seeing Damon. Though they never confirmed their onscreen romance, they both made a promotional appearance on Oprah Winfrey’s talk show together. On the show, Cruz said: “Matt’s a very special man, he’s funny and he’s one of the most generous people I’ve met in my life. He has no defects.â€
On Set Of Vicky Cristina Barcelona With Scarlett Johansson & Woody Allen
Damon blushed and replied: “That’s the most amazing thing to say.â€
When Spanish sci-fi blockbuster film Open Your Eyes (1997) was being remade by Hollywood heavy weight director Cameron Crowe as Vanilla Sky (2001) Cruz was asked to reprise her role opposite mega star Tom Cruise. The movie also starred Cameron Diaz in a supporting role who came across blond, bland and insipid next to Penelope’s more exotic dark looks. This was a huge budget movie that grossed $200 million worldwide and marked the turning point in her career. After the movie premiered, when Tom Cruise was in the midst of divorcing Nicole Kidman due to her infidelity, he took up with Penelope in a high profile relationship that lasted till 2004. We don’t know if it was a publicity stunt/cover up relationship but it managed to generate Cruz countless tabloid headlines that made her a household name Stateside, and gave him a beautiful actress on his arms while his ex-wife engaged in a series of public hookups.
With Ex Bf Orlando BloomShe Had A Summer Fling With Josh Hartnett
The same year, Cruz next starred opposite Johnny Depp in the biographical crime film Blow about the American cocaine smuggler George Jung, adapted from Bruce Porter’s 1993 book Blow: How a Small Town Boy Made $100 million with the MedellÃn Cocaine Cartel and Lost It All. It was her second big hit of the year, grossing $80 million worldwide. Her third film of 2001 was the epic World War II love saga Captain Corelli’s Mandolin starring Nicholas Cage, also an adaptation of a novel of the same name. They sweeping lyrical movie did well with women and made $62 million worldwide. Three huge movies with three huge movie stars—it was a great year for Cruz that made her an A-list star despite her heavily accented English.
Penelope Won An Academy Award For Best Supporting Actress For Vicky Christina BarcelonaMandatory Credit: Photo by GUILLAUME COLLET/SIPA/REX/Shutterstock (9044676d) Javier Bardem and Penelope Cruz ‘Loving Pablo’ photocall, 74th Venice Film Festival, Italy – 06 Sep 2017
In an ironic twist, Bardem made his Hollywood debut in a small but significant role as a crime lord who summons Tom Cruise’s (Penelope’s boyfriend at the time) hit man in the action crime thriller Collateral (2004). Then, he starred in Miloš Forman’s film Goya’s Ghosts (2006) opposite Natalie Portman, in which he played a twisted monk during the Spanish Inquisition.
The two mega successful and talented Spanish Stars fell for each other on set of Vicky Christina Barcelona. Bardem later told GQ that he initially Had reservations regarding Penelope’s on set Passion, which both drew him to her and also Made him worried for their future. He said that She shares the same fiery personality as her onscreen Character in the movie, “Oh, boy. She has That feistiness. There are those scenes where we Are arguing, she’s throwing plates and so on. I Had to wonder, ‘Do I really want this?’ She has What I call the loving blood. Passion for everything.†But Javier in the end fell for her after Deciding that Penelope’s passionate personality Is what makes her both beautiful and sexy. ‘That’s what I find attractive. There is beauty And there is being sexy. Penelope has both.’â€
In 2007, Bardem acted in two film adaptations: the violent Coen Brothers’ No Country for Old Men in which he played a sociopathic assassin and the adaptation of the romantic and soulful Colombian novel Love in the Time of Cholera by Nobel laureate Gabriel GarcÃa Márquez.
VENICE, ITALY – SEPTEMBER 06: (L-R) Penelope Cruz and Javier Bardem walk the red carpet ahead of the ‘Loving Pablo’ screening during the 74th Venice Film Festival at Sala Grande on September 6, 2017 in Venice, Italy. (Photo by Pascal Le Segretain/Getty Images)
In No Country for Old Men, his character is a sociopathic assassin. He did such a fantastic job as a cold blooded killer that he was awarded an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor, becoming the first Spaniard to win, as well as won a Golden Globe Award and Screen Actors Guild (SAG) Award, the Critics’ Choice Award and British Academy of Film and Television Arts (BAFTA) Award. This was his star making turn that not only catapulted him to the position of a globally recognizable star but the character he played also went down as one of the most vile villains in cinematic history. Because of his broken nose that was the result of a bar fight in his youth, Bardem had a face that could look very menacing. He didn’t need to shout or overact, rather underplayed his villains, so that they realistically appear like emotionless, cold psychopaths. Though after the horrible bar fight he said he struggles to watch violence play out on screen, “From that moment on, I couldn’t stand violence. I still can’t even watch it. I can’t bear it. So if I hate violence so much why did I do No Country For Old Men, right? I know, I know.â€
Bardem mixed it up by playing a love lorne character that pines all his life for his married childhood crush only to finally attain her at a ripe old age in Love in the Time of Cholera, a move that displayed his range. This too was an unforgettable film.
With so much to thank for, the couple with a conscious signed an open letter during the 2014 Israel–Gaza conflict denouncing Israel’s actions as a “genocide.†They didn’t care that their move was criticized by some in Hollywood and could potentially cost them jobs
“Pirates Of The Caribbean: On Stranger Tides” Premiere 64th Annual Cannes Film Festival
Francis Ford Coppola named Bardem as an heir to such greats as Al Pacino, Jack Nicholson and Robert De Niro, and lauded him being ambitious, hungry, unwilling to rest on his laurels and always “excited to do something good.â€
At her end, Penelope started seeing yet another costar, this time the sexy Texan at the time wild child Matthew McConaughey during the film of their box office dud Sahara, but the relationship fizzled out within a year. Next she starred in another Western, this time a female bonding summer comedy movie alongside her good friend Salma Hayek in the Bandidas (2006) in which they play “lusty dream team†of bank robbers.
With Daniel Craig In Skyfall
In fall, just in time to be nominated for the Oscars, Cruz gave a serious turn in her mentor Pedro Almodóvar’s Volver (2006). A review in The Los Angeles Times stated, “Cruz, who has remarked that in Hollywood she’s rarely allowed to be anything more than pretty, instills her with an awesome resoluteness and strength of character.†It was quite a gripping performance for which she tapped in to her working class roots. For her uninhibited fearless acting, Cruz shared a Best Actress award at the 2006 Cannes Film Festival with five of her co-stars, as well as receiving a Goya Award and European Film Award, and was nominated for the Golden Globe, SAG, BAFTA, and Academy Award for Best Actress in a leading role. She was the first Spanish actress to ever be nominated for an Academy Award for Best Actress. She also briefly dated Orlando Bloom during this year, another feather in her cap.
Penelope stars in an all star ensemble cast of agatha christie’s murder on the orient express directed by kenneth brannagh to be released in november
Woody Allen is actually indirectly responsible for finally bringing the two top Spanish stars together when he cast them in Vicky Cristina Barcelona (2008), which also starred Scarlett Johansson and Rebecca Hall. Both the Spanish stars were single simultaneously during the filming. Javier played a painter and Penelope his tempestuous ex-wife. Pe (her nickname) arrived on set after a brief summer fling with actor Josh Hartnett with whom she had vacationed win Turks and Caicos. Clearly, her Hollywood relationships were not working out and getting shorter each time. Javier had broken up his long term romance with his serious girlfriend in 2005. He probably had rebounded with hookups, but they didn’t leave a dent.
On The Set Of Everybody Knows
Cruz’s masterful and energetic performance won her a Goya Award and her first Academy Award and BAFTA Award for Best Supporting Actress. Cruz was the first Spanish actress to ever be awarded an Academy Award in that category and the sixth Hispanic person to ever receive the award.
Keeping their burgeoning relationship under the radar, the couple tied the knot in July 2010 in the Bahamas in a private ceremony. Penelope was three months pregnant at the time. Both had been raised as Roman Catholics by their respective grandmothers, so not finding any reason to wait, they probably wanted to make their relationship official as soon as they discovered the pregnancy. Bardem is an atheist now, but he probably wanted to seal the deal with his hot girlfriend and felt it was time he settled down for good. Their son Leonarodo was born in January in the new year in Los Angeles. That year Bardem was awarded Best Actor at the Cannes Film Festival for his performance in Biutiful directed by Alejandro González Iñárritu, who had written the film with Bardem in mind, quite an honour.   He became the first all Spanish-language Best Actor nominee at the 2011 Oscars and won his 5th Goya Award, which he touchingly dedicated to his wife and newborn son. However, generally the couple maintains a low public profile, seldom discussing their personal lives.
Completely unlike his onscreen persona, Bardem is a gentle, one-woman man who likes intense, lasting monogamous relationships. A telling example of how different he is in real life to the randy thugs he usually plays, he doesn’t even know how to drive a car in real life whereas in films he is seen racing cars at breakneck speeds in car chase scenes. In his downtime, Bardem unwinds by listening to heavy metal, his favourite band being AC/DC, while Pe devotes her time to philanthropic pursuits and advocates breastfeeding.
The biggest hit of Penelope’s career to date grossing more than a billion dollars she filmed when she was pregnant. This summer blockbuster is Rob Marshall’s Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides, the fourth installment in the film series, starring Johnny Depp. Cruz was the only actress considered for the role, as she fit Marshall’s description. He invited her for the role as they wrapped the production of Nine, a musical with an ensemble all female cast, which she dominated with her superbly sensual dancing.
The actress spent two months working out and learning fencing for her role in the pirate flick. During filming, she discovered she was pregnant with her first born. The costume department obligingly redesigned her wardrobe to be more elastic, and the producers got her sister Mónica Cruz to double for her in risky scenes. That year, Penelope got her star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, becoming the first Spanish actress to receive the honour.
Bardem also turned in a remarkable villainous portrayal of defaced rogue agent Raoul Silva ranked among the greatest villains in the James Bond series in the Daniel Craig starrer Skyfall (2012). He too received his Hollywood Walk of Fame star.
Both such bankable stars with worldwide fame, Academy and other prestigious industry awards and tens of millions of Euros in their bank accounts, they were soon to be blessed with a baby girl named Luna born in Madrid in 2013, completing their family.
In the next installment of Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Men Tell No Tales (2017), it was Bardem’s turn to star as the main antagonist. This year, he also has the recently released Darren Aronofsky horror film Mother! with Jennifer Lawrence, Michelle Pfeiffer, and Ed Harris that is not doing too well either commercially or critically.
Yet another recent release is the Spanish film Loving Pablo in which the two spouses play the corpulent Columbian drug lord Pablo Escobar and his journalist mistress Virginia Vallejo. In an interview, Javier revealed they were careful not to bring the dark subject material home with them after a day on set: “One of the joys, and the fun of what we do, is to create. We were very careful (during shooting) to make sure we kept that joy and that we keep being able to create and use our imagination.’
A critic wrote in The Guardian, “the heat really rises when their fiery attitudes mix and threaten to combust; though the script is in (Colombian accented) English for what Bardem has confirmed were wrangling-a-budget reasons, their spats spark with such passion that a viewer can nearly hear the Spanish behind it.â€
The couple is currently busy having a blast creating what is expected to be another film masterpiece by Oscar winning Iranian director Asghar Farhadi called Everybody Knows. Bardem commented on Farhadi in a recent interview: “He sees everything. He may not understand a word, but he knows what you’re saying. He only wants honesty to its deepest level so you are really obliged to take the mask off and go there completely naked. I believe in giving it all, but the hands have to be sensitive, caring, nice — that’s why you give it to him. You trust him. And, he’s super funny.â€
Before the War of Independence in 1857, after which India became part of the British Empire, many British men working for the East India Company, who had come to India to make their fortune, got married to local women and settled down to raise families. William Dalrymple documents this lesser known fact in his entertaining history book The White Mughals; he tells the tale of the romance between James Achilles Kirkpatrick, the British Resident at the court of the Nizam of Hyderabad and his Muslim wife Khair-u-Nissa Begum for whom he converted to Islam and with whom he had two children. Because he had “gone native,†the British mistrusted him and thought he was a double agent
By Mahlia Lone
James Achilles Kirkpatrick was a bit of a hybrid Brit, born at Fort St. George, Madras in 1764 but sent back to Britain where he attended Eton College. To make his name and his fortune, the ambitious young man returned as a “cocky young imperialist intending to conquer India†by working for the British East India Company and became a Lieutenant Colonel in the Company’s Army. His colourful and unusual story is told by William Dalrymple in his entertaining history book The White Mughals, which many of you may have read.
To understand the context of the story, it’s important to look at the geopolitical situation of the time.
Panoramic view of the Chaumohalla Palace at Hyderabad, photographed by Deen Dayal in the 1880s
Nizam-ul-Mulk Nawab Mir Nizam Ali Khan Siddiqi Bayafandi Bahadur Asaf Jah II reigned Hyderabad from 1762 to 1803; he belonged to the Asaf Jah dynasty founded by Mir Qamar-ud-Din Siddiq, a Mughal appointed Viceroy of the Deccan. When Mughal control collapsed after Shehnshah Aurungzeb’s death in 1707, Asaf Jah declared himself independent and in control of Hyderabad in 1724.
Following the decline of the great Mughal Empire, the Hindu Maratha Empire rose in the Deccan. Maratha warrior Baji Rao I expanded his empire by defeating the Mughals in Delhi and Asaf Jah’s forces in Hyderabad. The Nizam lost all the major battles that he fought against the fierce Marathas. After the conquest of Deccan by Bajirao I and the imposition of chauth (tribute tax) by him on Hyderabad, the Nizam essentially became a tributary of the Marathas.
Chowmahalla Palace
The East India Company meanwhile was fighting against Hyder Ali and later his son Tipu Sultan in Mysore who were supported by the French. Four Anglo-Mysore Wars were fought to establish the Company’s control over this region.
The grand interior
During the First Anglo-Mysore War (1767–69) the British convinced the Nizam to attack Hyder Ali, but the Nizam changed sides at the last moment and supported the Sultan. When Hyder Ali attacked Madras, the British convinced the Nizam to sign a new treaty with them in 1768 to maintain the balance of power: the British, Marathas and Hyderabadis on one side and Mysore on the other.
Nawab Mir Nizam Ali Khan Asaf Jah II, the Nizam of Hyderabad
James was initially appointed as the translator at the Nizam’s court during his elder brother William Kirkpatrick’s tenure as the Company’s Resident (ambassador) in Hyderabad. In 1795, savvy and skilled at diplomacy, at only 33 years of age, he replaced his brother as the Resident. Said to be a good looking and charming young diplomat, he was responsible as the East India Company’s Resident in Hyderabad for nurturing relations with the State’s rulers and keep them on the side of the British.
Taking his diplomatic tasks very seriously, he fluently conversed in Persian, Hindustani, Tamil and Telegu and immersed himself in Hyderabadi Indo-Persian culture.
One his first tasks was to build a stately Residency at Hyderabad. The Palladian style house was designed by Lt Samuel Russell of the Madras Engineers, the son of the Royal Academician John Russell.
The plan was submitted for approval to the Nizam since he would be granting the 60 acres land plus paying for the construction. Not used to western scale plans, the Nizam at first refused to sanction such a huge building. It seemed to him that the Resident was trying to appropriate a vast area of the Nizamate under the pretext of building a house. Wily Kirkpatrick cleverly had the identical plan redrawn on a much smaller scale as a tiny as a postage stamp, and the Nizam fell for the deception. The finished house bore a resemblance to Gov General Wellesley’s then newly finished Government House in Calcutta. The architecture and scale of the house impressed the viewer with the power and control of the East India Company in India.
The British Residency at Hyderabad engraving by William Miller
In 1799, James was depicted in “Hindostanny dress,†draped with long ropes of pearls, and with khussas on his feet. James smoked hukkahs, chewed paan, attended mujras and even had a zenana, living the life of a veritable White Mughal. He fathered many children with various local women that he kept there, just like the Hyderabadi elite. “Thanks partly to these women,†wrote a contemporary Hyderabadi historian, “he was always very cheerful.â€
Living like a Hyderabadi out of choice, Kirkpatrick related to them and understood their point of view, which he would present to his superiors. The Nizam awarded him with titles like Mutamin ul Mulk (Safeguard of the kingdom), Hushmat Jung (Valiant in battle) and Nawab Fakhr-ud-Dowlah Bahadur (Governor, pride of the state, and hero).
James Kirkpatrick in a Mughal angarkha
In 1798, Lord Richard Wellesley, Earl of Mornington, later Marquess Wellesley, had been appointed as Governor-General of India. After Great Britain lost her American colonies, the British government under Prime Minister William Pitt the Younger, Earl of Chatham, turned its attention fully towards India with the ostensible aim of limiting the East India Company’s corruption but actually with the conscious design of extending British power by acquiring a great empire in India.
Britain’s main rival was France. Mornington came to India with the express design of annihilating French influence in the Subcontinent. Soon after his landing, he learned of the alliance between Tipu Sultan and the French Republic that was seen as a direct threat to British interests in India. Mornington immediately ordered preparations for war and disbanded the Nizam’s French troops. This time the Nizam would have no choice but to stick to his alliance with the British. “Wellesley was an imperialist determined to reduce the Nizam to subservience,†wrote one historian.
During the Fourth and final Anglo-Mysore War, Mysore was attacked on all sides. Tipu Sultan’s forces were outnumbered by 4:1 and the Army chose as his adversary, Mornington’s younger brother, Colonel Arthur Wellesley who later became Field Marshal, 1st Duke of Wellington, responsible for defeating Napoleon. The war concluded with the death of Tipu Sultan and his kingdom being carved up by the three allies. This was the geopolitical situation at the time, precarious with alliances betrayed, espionage, and backdoor diplomacy.
After his experience in the Deccan, Colonel Arthur Wellesley warned authorities in Calcutta that Kirkpatrick seemed to be so solidly “under the influence†of the Hyderabadis that “it was to be expected that he would attend more to the objects of the Nizam’s court than those of his own government.†The Company officers took heed of the victor of the hour who had succeeded in finally taming “The Tiger of Mysore,†and started to keep a closer eye on Kirkpatrick.
Hyder Ali, a steel engraving from the 1790’s
While all this mayhem was going on and the fate of nations being decided, James had other matters on his mind when in 1800 he met the fourteen year old granddaughter of the Vizier of Hyderabad, Nawab Mahmood Ali Khan. Though Khair-un-Nissa (the incomparably beautiful) was kept in strict purdah (veil) during the betrothal ceremonies for her elder sister, she saw Kirkpatrick in the court and fell in love. She somehow managed to leave the confines of the zenana (ladies’ quarter) one evening, presented herself before Kirkpatrick and pleaded her love. In a letter to his elder brother William, Military Secretary to the Governor General at Calcutta, James Kirkpatrick justified h
A rendition of the Anglo-Mysore War
imself: “I, who was but ill-qualified for this task, attempted to argue this romantic creature out of a passion which I could not, I confess, help feeling myself something more than pity for. She declared to me again and again that her affections had been irretrievably fixed on me for a series of time, hat her fate was linked to mine.â€
Tipu Sultan
Not only did Khair-u-Nissa belong to the ruling family, but she was also a Sayyida, a descendant of the Prophet, and of Persian descent. If he wanted to be with her, he would have to marry her and for that he would have to first convert and become a Shia Muslim.
Kirkpatrick met all the conditions plus the Nizam made him his adopted son. The couple was duly married in a nikkah ceremony. Kirkpatrick was elevated to the ranks of Hyderabadi nobility. The couple became known in Hyderabadi circles as Sahib Begum and Sahib Allum (The Little Lord of the World, and the Lady of High Lineage).
Governor General of India, Lord Richard Wellesley, Earl of Mornington
James built a separate zenana in the Residency compound for Khair-u-Nissa who still observed purdah. The couple lived “in an enchanted world of scented gardens (scent was believed to be the ‘food of the soul’), luscious fruits, cooing pigeons (the sound of which was thought to stimulate the mind), sparkling jewels, veils fluttering in the balmy evening breeze,†wrote Kate Chisholm poetically in The Telegraph.
Field Marshall Arthur Wellesley, 1st Duke of Wellington
Living in his own world, immune to the changing world around him, James nearly completely eschewed wearing English clothes for all but the most formal of occasions, and now “habitually swanned around the British Residency in what one surprised visitor had described as ‘a Musselman’s dress of the finest texture.’†Another noted that he had hennaed his hands and even had Indian “mustachios.â€
Khair became renowned for her fair complexioned, delicate featured beauty. Her portrait was said at the time to do no justice to her good looks.
William Dalrymple
The good looking couple had two children: a son, Mir Ghulam Ali Sahib Allum, and a daughter, Noor-un-Nissa Sahib Begum. The leading artist of the British community in India, George Chinnery, painted a portrait of the siblings in Madras in 1805 that is regarded as one of the masterpieces of British paintings in India.
Shortly after the marriage in as early 1801, a major scandal broke out in Calcutta over the nature of Kirkpatrick’s role at the Hyderabad court. His reputation had become iffy of late but it was not unheard of British officers to dress and even live like the natives. However, in James’ case his loyalty was questioned.
Rumours started to float about Kirkpatrick’s interracial liaison. There was a steady stream of reports that he had “connected himself with a female†of one of Hyderabad’s leading noble families. The girl had become pregnant and given birth to his child. The girl’s grandfather was understandably livid and had ‘expressed an indignation approaching to frenzy at the indignity offered to the honour of his family by such proceedings, and had declared his intention of proceeding to the Mecca Masjid (the principal mosque of the city)†where he threatened to raise the Muslims of the Deccan against the British. Worse, Kirkpatrick had formally married the girl, by converting not just in name but in deed and had become a practising Shi’a Muslim.
Governor General Wellesley was not kindly disposed to Kirkpatrick’s relationship with the Nizam. Wellesley was responsible for welding British India into an integral entity and the process necessarily involved gaining ascendancy and control over the Indian Kingdoms, or Princely States as the British had begun to dismissively referring to them. Wellesley, having decided to dismiss Kirkpatrick, summoned him to Calcutta.
The authorities in Bengal started questioning Kirkpatrick to determine whether his political loyalties could still be depended on or had he in fact become a double-agent.
Upon questioning, James at first denied his marriage with Khair un-Nissa, but upon the Company’s further investigation into the matter he confessed that he had married her in an Islamic ceremony. He was summarily dismissed and as a punishment for his religious conversion it was decided that his two Anglo-Indian children would be taken away from the parents and sent to Britain to be raised as Christians.
The same year, following the British victory in the Second Anglo-Maratha War, the Nizam of Hyderabad had come under the protection of the British East India Company. Though he was the premier Prince of India, Hyderabad being the largest and most prosperous state of all princely states, the Nizam’s kingdom was now a protectorate. Moreover, Hyderabadi citizens were 85 per cent Hindu so their ruler could easily be replaced. The Nizam was shrewd enough to keep quiet about Kirkpatrick’s fate.
A tearful Khair-un-Nissa had secured a settlement of £10,000 each on five year old William and three year old Kitty, a substantial sum at the time. When they were taken from their parents, the children spoke little or no English only Urdu, the language of their mother.
James, perhaps already perhaps terminally ill, died of a fever in 1805 in Calcutta shortly after his kids were shipped off. “He had lasted longer than the proverbial two monsoons allowed to the British in the India of those days but still died young, aged 41,†wrote Sudarshan in a blog.
Khair-u-Nissa heard of his death 18 days later. In his will, Kirkpatrick stated: “the excellent and respectable Mother of my two children for whom I feel unbounded love and affection and esteem.â€
Dalrymple describes George Chinnery’s painting of the Anglo-Indian Kirpatrick siblings: “Two of them in their Hyderabadi court dress, standing at the top of a flight of steps…. Sahib Allum – an exceptionally beautiful, poised, dark-eyed child – wears a scarlet jama trimmed with gilt brocade, and a matching gilt cummerbund; he has a glittering topi on his head and crescent-toed slippers. Round his neck hangs a string of enormous pearls. His little sister, who is standing one step from Sahib Alum, and has her arm around her big brother’s shoulders, is discernibly fairer-skinned, and below her topi is a hint of the red hair that would be much admired in the years to come. Yet while Sahib Alum looks directly at the viewer with an almost precocious confidence and assurance, Sahib Begum looks down with an expression of infinite sadness and vulnerability on her face, her little eyes dark and swollen with crying.â€
The two children were transported under the care of a Mrs Ure and a retinue of “black†servants. Their baggage included shawls, jewellery and valuables worth £2000 and Captain George Elers, a fellow passenger, bribed the customs officials at Portsmouth twenty guineas to clear their baggage unopened.
Without her children and her husband, Khair-un-Nissa turned for protection to Kirkpatrick’s assistant Henry Russell who replaced him as the Resident in Hyderabad. After spending a few years with the widow, Russell tired of her and married a younger half-Portuguese heiress he had met in Madras. Hyderabad aristocracy hadn’t approved of Khair-un-Nissa’s suspected liaison and banished to the coastal town of Masulipatam for a while. She died heartbroken at the young age of 27 in 1813.
Our story doesn’t end there. We follow the children to England where they had been sent to live with their grandfather Colonel James Kirkpatrick at his London residence and country estate in Keston, Kent. Upon arriving in London, they were baptised at St. Mary’s Church, Marylebone Road, and christened as William George Kirkpatrick and Katherine Aurora “Kitty†Kirkpatrick. Henceforth, they became Evangelical Christians and never again saw India or any members of their maternal family.
Calcutta harbour
Tragically, William fell into a copper of boiling water seven years later. His burns were so bad that doctors had to amputate his arm and he became a recluse. He graduated from Oxford in 1820, married and had three daughters, before dying in 1828 aged only 27.
Kitty’s story is more interesting. She was educated privately with the aid of a governess, like most girls of her social class, and brought up to be a typical Christian Victorian lady. After the death of her brother, grandfather and other close relations, Kitty became an heiress with £50,000, a huge sum in those days. Like most mixed race children and with such good looking parents, Kitty was extremely fetching.
After the death of her grandfather, Kirkpatrick lived with several of her aunts and married cousins all of whom were well connected. She lived in the homes of Clementina, Lady Louis, the wife of a naval hero and baronet; Julia, the wife of Edward Strachey (grandfather of the writer Sir Lytton Strachey) and Barbara Isabella, the wife of an M.P.
St. Mary’s Church, Marylebone Road in London where the Anglo-Indian Kirkpatrick children were baptised
In 1822, while staying with her Strachey cousins at Shooters’ Hill, near London, she fell in with the children’s Scottish tutor, Thomas Carlyle who went on to become a famous philosopher, satirical writer, social commentator, author and historian. After Kitty travelled with the family to Paris in 1824, Carlyle seems to have fallen head over heels in love on the trip.
Watercolour sketch of Thomas Carlyle
The romance was encouraged by Kitty’s cousin Julia Carlyle but the rest of the family didn’t think the impoverished writer was a suitable match for the wealthy, beautiful and well-connected girl despite her mixed blood. At that time, if an Anglo-Indian was fair and looked English, they didn’t have a problem being accepted. Those that were born darker, however, were left behind in India.
Bitter after being rejected, Carlyle later immortalized Kitty in his 1836 novel Sartor Resartus (The Tailor Retailored), posthumously published in 1887, as the Calypso-like Rose Goddess Blumine. In Greek mythology, Calypso is a nymph who lived on the island of Ogygia where she kept Odysseus captive for several years to make him her immortal husband.
Carlyle immortalised Kitty as “fairest of Orient Light bringers,†“many-tinted, radiant aurora,†and “a strangley complexioned young lady with soft brown eyes and floods of bronze-red hair, really a pretty looking and amiable, though most foreign bit of magnificence …. that answers to the name of ‘Dear Kitty’.†He described her as lovely but suspicious due to her mixed-race ancestry:
It was a blessing in disguise for Kitty that she didn’t marry Carlyle because he developed ulcers and became a cranky, argumentative, and angry man . His cantankerous personality was reflected in his prose. In 1826, he married fellow irascible intellectual Jane Baillie Welsh.
In 1829, the famous beauty and considerable heiress, Kitty married James Winslowe Phillipps, a dashing army officer in the 7th Hussars Regiment. They were well matched. Phillipps, a member of the Kennaway family of the west country, too had Indian connections.
The Kennaway Baronetcy of Hyderabad was created in 1791 for John Kennaway, British Resident at the Court of Nizam Ali Khan, Asaf Jah II, Nizam of Hyderabad, in recognition of his services in the negotiation of the 1790 alliance between the Nizam and the East India Company against Tipu Sultan.
Kitty’s father in law had thus been the British Resident at the Nizam of Hyderabad’s court before her uncle and father, although his stint was vastly more successful than theirs.
With so much in common, their union was a happy one and blessed with seven children. The four who survived to adulthood were Mary Augusta, John James, Emily Georgina, and Bertha Elizabeth.
Kitty wrote in a letter to her grandmother Sharaf-u-Nissa in Hyderabad:
“My dear Grandmother, I received many years ago, your kind letter of condolence with me on the death of my beloved brother. I was very grateful to you for it, tho’ by my not answering it, I am afraid that you may have thought that I little regarded it. But indeed I did, & the more so, because I felt that you too mourned for him I loved so well & that you too were connected with him by the binding of blood ties.
Two years after his death I was married to a nephew of Sir John Kennaway’s. My husband is of my age & is Captain in the English army.
I have 4 children living, my eldest daughter is 11 years old. She is exactly like my husband. I have a boy of 8 years & a half, then another girl of 7 and a half who is exactly like my mother’s picture & one darling infant of 19 months. I have had 7 living children – 1 sweet boy and two sweet girls are gone, but I am blest in those that survive. My boy is so striking an image of my father that a picture that was drawn of my father as a little boy is always taken for my boy. They have a good intellect & are blest with fair skin. I live in a nice pretty house in the midst of a garden on the seacoast. My dear husband is very kind to me & I love him greatly.
I always think of you and remember you and my dear mother. I often dream that I am with you in India and that I see you both in the room you used to sit in. No day of my life has ever passed without my thinking of my dear mother. I can remember the verandah and the place where the tailors worked and a place on the housetop where my mother used to let me sit down and slide.
When I dream of my mother I am in such joy to have found her again that I awake, or else am pained in finding that she cannot understand the English I speak. I can well recollect her cries when we left her and I can now see the place where we sat when we parted, and her tearing her long hair – what worlds would I give to possess one lock of that beautiful and much loved hair! How dreadful to think that so many, many years have passed when it would have done my heart such good to think that you loved me & when I longed to write to you& tell you these feelings that I was never able to express, a letter which I am sure would have been detained& now how wonderful it is that after 35 years that I am able for the first time to hear that you think of me. And love me, and have perhaps wondered why I did not write to you, and that you have thought of me cold and insensible to such near dear ties; I thank God that he has opened for me a way of making the feelings of my heart known to you.
Will this reach you & will you care for the letter of your grand child? My own heart tells me you will. May God bless you my own dear Grandmother.â€
And in other she wrote:
“I often think of you and remember you and my dear mother. I often dream that I am with you in India and that I see you both in the room you used to sit in. No day of my life has ever passed without my thinking of my dear mother. I can remember the verandah and the place where the tailors worked and a place on the house top where my mother used to let me sit down and slide. When I dream of my mother I am in such joy to have found her again that I awake, or else am pained in finding that she cannot understand the English I speak. I can well recollect her cries when we left her and I can now see the place where she sat when we parted, and her tearing her long hair. What worlds would I give to possess one lock of that beautiful and much loved hair! How dreadful to think that so many, many years have passed when it would have done my heart such good to think that you loved me & when I longed to write to you & tell you these feelings that I was never able to express, a letter which I was sure would have been detained & now how wonderful it is that after 35 years I am able for the first time to hear that you think of me, and love me, and have perhaps wondered why I did not write to you, and that you have thought me cold and insensible to such near dear ties.â€
A portrait of the beautiful heiress Katherine Kirkpatrick, ca. 1830
Back in India, the Third Anglo-Maratha War (1817–1818) and the final and decisive conflict between the British East India Company (EIC) and the Maratha Empire had left the Company in control of most of India. The British government’s aim of fully colonizing India was coming to fruition. They were now nearly fully in charge. Only Maharaja Ranjit Singh still held out in the Punjab.
With the rise of the Victorian Evangelical movement in the 1830s and 40s not only mixed race unions but also intermingling of Indian and British ideas, religions and ways of life became increasingly frowned upon.
Mixed race unions were on the decline. Wills left by East India Company officers show that while one-in-three wills between 1780 and 1785 were made in favour of an Indian wife and Anglo-Indian children, these shrunk to one-in-four between 1805 and 1810, one-in-six by 1830, and all but disappeared by the middle of the century.
After the War of Independence, the British executed the entire top rank of the Mughal elite and fully imposed the British way of life on India as a means of stamping out Indian national identity.
For these reasons, Kitty too had been forbidden by her grandfather from maintaining any contact with her family in India. Decades after leaving India, in 1830 with the help of her father’s former assistant and mother’s reputed lover, Henry Russell, Kitty began a correspondence with her maternal grandmother Sharaf-u-Nissa in Hyderabad. Although they never met in person, they wrote each other emotional letters for six years till the old lady’s death. Although Kitty was only a toddler when she left India, she has still retained vivid memories of her childhood.
In 1846, Kitty, now Mrs Phillips, made a chance visit to Swallowfield, the home of Sir Henry Russell and and spotted the Chinnery portrait of her and her brother. The painting had come into his possession and, at his retirement, he had brought it back with him and hung in his country home, Swallowfield, in Berkshire. Moved at the memory of her brother (who had died in 1828) and of her grand, but barely remembered, mansion in Hyderabad, Kitty started bawling inconsolably. This moved Sir Henry to bequeath the painting to her after his death.
Till the end, Kitty had a special place in Carlyle’s heart who wrote of her in his Reminisces published in 1881, “ Amiable, affectionate, graceful, might be called attractive (not slim enough for ‘pretty’, not tall enough for ‘beautiful’); had something low-voiced, languidly harmonious, placid, sensuous, loved perfumes & c; a half-Begum in short; interesting specimen of the Semi-Oriental Englishwoman. Still lives, near Exeter (the prize of some idle ex-Captain of Sepoys), with many children, whom she looks after with a passionate interestâ€.
Kitty went on to live a happy, full life and died at her home, the Villa Sorrento, in the charming seaside town of Torquay, Devon, in 1889, having outlived her husband by 20 years.
Four years after her death in 1893, Sir Edward Strachey, the son of Kitty’s cousin Julia, wrote an article in Blackwood’s Magazine under the exotic title, The Romantic Marriage of James Achilles Kirkpatrick Sometime British Resident at the Court of Hyderabad. He recounted the romantic, but ultimately tragic story of James Kirkpatrick and Khair-u-Nissa.
Strachey described her, “She (Kitty) was ten years my elder, but I remember her from girlhood to old age as the most fascinating of women.â€
Telling her story, Strachey added poignantly, “in after years the daughter told her own children how long she and her brother had pined for the father and mother they remembered, and longed to get away from the cold of England to Hyderabad, and were sad at hearing that they were not to go there again, which was all they could understand of their father’s deathâ€.
The sensational story created a stir in the late-Victorian era, a time when the British Empire with its clear demarcation between the white master and brown colonist was at its height and Indian born and bred Englishman Rudyard Kipling wrote, “Oh, East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet.â€
According to Dalrymple, “James was among the last of the English officials in India who found it possible to truly cross cultures.â€
Suleyman was the only son of Sultan Selim I the Resolute responsible for increasing the Ottoman Empire in size by 70 per cent during his reign (1512-1520) by conquering the Mamluk Sultanate of Egypt and the Middle Eastern heartlands. Selim I became the guardian of the pilgrimage routes to Mecca and Medina and is generally remembered as the first legitimate Ottoman Caliph. Sixteenth-century Italian historian Paolo Giovio who compiled a book on Turkish history wrote it was inconceivable to expect that “the dauntless lion would leave his throne to mansuetto angelo (a timid lamb).â€
Another European historian of the Ottoman rulers called Selim and Suleiman: “Patris fortis filius fortior,†(a courageous father of an even more courageous son).
In September 1520, twenty-six years old Suleyman’s carefree life as governor in the Manisa province came suddenly to an end when he was called back to Constantinople after the accidental death of the Sultan; he succeeded his father and subsequently established the classical Ottoman state and society; he made important new conquests in the East and West, including Belgrade, Rhodes and much of Hungary all the way up to Vienna; he overhauled the legal system; he also patronised artists and writers at his court so the arts and culture scene flourished. Thus, with his reign began the golden age of Ottoman history.
Sixteenth century Venetian chronicler, Marino Sanuto in Tome XXXV of his historical chronicles quoted a report of the Venetian ambassador: “His not being prone, in contrast to his father and many other Sultans, to pederasty (homosexuality) made his majestic dignity and nobility of character shine even brighter.†Rather in his case, it turned out to be the love of a fair Ukrainian slave girl that was to enslave this Sultan for life.
Hafsa Valide SultanSultan Selim I the ResoluteExpansion of Ottoman Empire by Sultan Suleyman the Magnificent (r. 1520-1566)Ottoman dignitaries on horseback during a marchBattle Of Mohács Depiction
Intelligent, benevolent and erudite but also a sound military tactician, Suleyman, in contrast to his father who expanded his Empire to include other Muslim realms, began his rule with campaigns against the Christian kingdoms in Central Europe and the Mediterranean, starting with Belgrade in 1521 that led to a large-scale advance north of the Danube. The Island of Rhodes ruled by the Knights of St. John was conquered in 1522. In 1526, Suleyman defeated the combined Hungarian-Croatian-Czech forces and took over Hungary. Hungarian King Louis II drowned ignominiously in a bog during the battle. A Turkish historian wrote at the time that “there has never been a battle like this since ancient times.†Turkish soldiers piled 2,000 heads of their enemies (eight heads belonging to bishops) in a heap close to the Sultan’s tent as a tribute to the victor. Suleyman drove the Habsburgs from all of Hungary and besieged Vienna in 1529, but could not sustain the siege. Facing problems with supply, transport, and military organization, the Sultan wisely realized he had reached the limit of possible Ottoman expansion in the West.
Though Ukraine was never conquered by the Ottomans, it became a steady source of white slaves for the Ottoman Empire. Back then just as now, Ukrainian women were highly prized for their fair skin and delicate bone structure. Muslims, it was argued, were barred by the Quran for capturing fellow Muslims as slaves, but non Muslims were fair game. The Crimean Tartars flourished in this lucrative trade of supplying white Christian slaves. Mykhailo Lytvyn, a Ukrainian diplomat in the service of the Lithuanian government, wrote in his memoirs (1548–1551) that the krymchaky (Crimean Tartars) engaged only in two trades: cattle-breeding and capturing Ukrainians to be sold to the Ottomans as slaves. “The ships that often come to their ports from across the sea, bring weapons, clothes and horses, which are exchanged for slaves who are loaded onto these ships. And all the Ottoman bazaars are full of these slaves who are sold and bought to be used in the households, to be resold, to be given as presents….There was one Jew, amazed at the great numbers of these slaves to be seen at the slave markets who asked whether there were any people left in the land where these slaves are brought from.â€
Holy Roman Empire’s Charles V Versus Ottoman Empire’s Suleyman I
From among the countless virgins captured during military raids and auctioned at the slave markets, the rare gem of a girl was handpicked for the Sultan’s harem. One such was the adolescent daughter of a Ruthnian (Russian) Orthodox priest. According to the Polish poet Samuel Twardowski who visited Turkey in the sixteenth century, Roxolana, the girl from Roxolania or Ruthenia, was born in the town of Rohatyn, 68 km southeast of Lviv, a major city of the Ruthenian Voivodeship in the Crown of the Kingdom of Poland (today in western Ukraine). Reportedly named either Aleksandra or Anastasia Lisowska, she was captured by Crimean Tatars during a regular raid who transported her to the Crimean city of Kaffa, a major centre of the slave trade. Then the little slave girl was shipped to Constantinople, where she was selected by Valide Sultan Hasfa Sultan as a gift for her son Süleyman and taken to his harem in the old palace in Beyazit, 2 kilometers away from Topkapi.
The heir apparent’s room
Imperial RoomStained glass window
The Sultan’s harem was strictly cloistered, guarded by eunuchs and ruled by harem hierarchy and full to the brim with nubile beauties that had “dark burning eyes like black olives, big sensuous lips, and ample, zaftig, curvaceous and voluptuous figures.†The newly acquired slave girls were first taken to the hamam where they were inspected for diseases and flaws, and then deloused, scrubbed, polished, massaged, oiled and clothed. Then, their extensive grooming and training process started. Looks were not enough to ensure success at the harem as there were countless virginal beauties on display. Under the supervision of the kagia-kadin, the top female attendant in charge of the harem, the virgins were trained in housekeeping, gardening, sewing, embroidering, dancing, singing, playing musical instruments, manipulating puppets, reciting fairy tales; they were also taught the basics of Islam, literature and philosophy; last but not least, they were given pointers on the essential the art of erotic love. The trainees had to pass through several stages in mastering these skills before they could take part in the final selection: the adjemi (novice), jariye, shagird, gedikli and usta. At this final stage, the Sultan’s mother, the Valide Sultan would carefully pick only the best to offer up to her son at the Topkapi Palace.
Unlike the West where royals married into other royal houses to make strategic alliances, Ottoman Sultans used slaves for procreation so that there would not be any other family to gain prominence or aspire for power in the empire. Moreover, the established imperial harem principle of “one concubine mother — one son†was designed to prevent both the mother’s undue influence over the Sultan and the feuds of the blood brothers for the throne. Once the Sultan’s son reached maturity at 16-17, he was sent to a far off province as governor with his mother and could only return on his ascension to the throne after the death of his father. There was no formally designated heir. Once the new Sultan’s ceremony of girding the sword had taken place, his half brothers were killed. This seemingly cold system ensured the longevity and stability of the Ottoman realm.
Concubines from the imperial harem not chosen for the Sultan were given as gifts to his favourites or high ranking government officials. Some got married to these men and became the head of their own household. Those that had been “promoted†to the imperial harem were given separate rooms and servants. The haseki lucky enough to bear the Sultan sons were clothed expensively in silks, brocades and furs, allowed to publicly kiss the Sultan’s as a mark of high status and received the title bash-kadin. The girls in the harem were ranked as Gözde (the Favourite), Ikbal (the Fortunate), Kad?n (the Woman/Wife) and Valide Sultan (Queen mother). As can be expected, there was intense rivalry between the women of the harem. Additionally, there were strict rules to be followed. For example, if a harem wife was walking from one part of the seraglio to another, heard the click of the Sultan’s silver-studded shoes, she would have to quickly get out of the way and hide as unsanctioned meetings with the Sultan were considered a gross violation of the harem rules and offense to the Sultan. Offenses or violations of the harem hierarchy were punished severely, even by death.
Portrait of Hurrem Sultan titled Rossa Solymanni Vxor, c. 18th century (Topkapi Palace Museum)
Modern reproductions of Hurrem Sultan’s jewelleryRoxolena & the Sultan (1780) by Anton Hickel
After being educated and trained according to palace etiquette, Roxolana was renamed Hürrem, meaning the cheerful or joyful one in Middle Persian, due to her smiling face and good-humored personality. Süleyman met fifteen year old Hürrem the same year that he succeeded to the throne and hit it off with her nearly immediately. She was pretty, but not beautiful and on the short side. “Giovane ma non bella†(young but not beautiful) , “graceful and short of stature,†a Venetian ambassador was told in 1526.
Since her arrival, she had voraciously gathered as much knowledge as she could in Ottoman language, mathematics, astronomy, geography, diplomacy, literature, and history. She was even interested in alchemy. During recent excavations in the Edirne Palace, some of her tools for the preparation of perfumes were discovered. Additionally, the Ottoman Empire’s economy was largely based on textile production and trade of carpets, silks and cottons mainly with Europe to which women confined to their homes contributed by spinning cloth and embroidering. The finest, most intricate embroidery in the empire came from the imperial harem and other harems of high officials. Hurrem’s embroideries, or partly done under her supervision, that was gifted in 1547 to Tahmasp I, the Shah of Iran, and in 1549 to King Sigismund II Augustus have survived to this day and can be viewed at the Topkapi Palace.
La Sultana Rossa (c. 1550s) by TitianHurrem Sultan holding court in the haremLetter from Hürrem to Sigismond Auguste complimenting him upon his acsension to the Polish throne (1549)
The clever girl with the strong survival instinct transformed herself into a fit companion for the Sultan. It only took a few months from the day that she first met Sultan Suleyman to the moment when she became the most important consort in the harem. This strengthened her position in the Palace so much that she initiated a new order in the harem.
The next year she gave birth to their first son, Sehzade Mehmed. As per tradition, the harem girls who became mothers to Shehzade (a sultan’s son) were given the title haseki (mother of a prince), meaning has gelin (the royal bride). Hürrem too was now called Hürrem Haseki. Loath to part from her, Hürrem was exempted from the rule of one haseki one son and was allowed to give birth to more than one son. Soon after their only daughter Mihrimah Sultan, Sehzade Abdullah, Sultan Selim II and Sehzade Bayezid followed in quick succession. Their last child Sehzade Cihangir was born later and had a hunchback. Mehmed became Süleyman’s favourite child but he died at a young age after contracting an infectious disease. In his memory, Süleyman built the Sehzade Mosque in Istanbul.
One day Suleiman’s jealous former favourite, Mahidevran, also called Gülbahar (Rose of Spring) got into a fight with her chief rival Hürrem and beat her badly. To punish her, Suleiman banished Mahidevran to the provincial capital of Manisa with their son and the heir apparent, Mustafa. Officially, it was not called and exile but was portrayed as the traditional training of heir apparent, Sancak Beyli?i. After this, Hürrem became Suleiman’s unrivalled favourite haseki.
Hurrem was hardly the odd Slav out at court. Due to the expansion, an ever increasing number of Slavs had become integrated into Ottoman life not just as part of the Janissaries (armed forces) and harems but even the ruling elite. Serbian language could be heard spoken from bazaars to the Sultan’s court and was used in official documents in addition to Turkish. The Polish traveler Strijkowskij wrote that when he was in Istanbul he heard with his own ears kobzari (bards) singing songs in Serbian in the streets and in the taverns about victories of valiant Muslims over the Christians.
GulbaharSehzade Mustafa, her son with Suleyman and the heir apparent who was later assassinated
Giovio wrote: “At the court (of Suleyman The Magnificent) several languages are spoken. Turkish is the language of the ruler; Arabic is the language of the Muslim Law, Koran; Slavic (Sclavonica) is mostly used by the Janissaries, and Greek is the language of the populace of the capital and other cities of Greece.â€
Bassano, an Italian visitor to Suleyman’s court, claimed that “he (the Sultan) respected and highly valued his wife (Roxolana) and understood her native language to some extent.†One of the Sultan’s viziers was Rustem Pasha, a Croat.
Oleksiy Pyvovarenko, head of the Lviv Club of Socionics in his article about the psychological portrait of the couple Suleyman-Roxolana, wrote that they were “duals,†two persons who ideally matched each other in character. The Sultan became faithful to Hurrem whose main asset was her mind. She was able both to entertain the Sultan with clever and witty talk and give good and sound advice. Due to her excellent education, she also became Suleiman’s chief adviser on matters of state and had a considerable influence upon foreign affairs and international politics. For example, she took care of maintaining the peaceful relations between the Ottoman Empire and Polish state with a Polish-Ottoman alliance. Two of her letters to King Sigismund II Augustus of Poland have been preserved and survive to this day. According to Crimean historians, she also intervened to control Crimean Tatar slave-raiding.
Suleyman & Hurrem’s daughter Mihrimah SultanTheir Croat born son in law, Grand Vizier Rustem Pasha
During their 200 year long dynasty, on the rare occasion the Sultan married, his legal wife would belong to a foreign royal house or a distinguished Ottoman family. Suleiman was about to break with that tradition, carefully manipulated by Hurrem who did not outright ask him to marry her. In 1533, she confessed to him her growing love for Islam and how badly she wanted to convert to the true faith. He was thrilled and readily consented. After converting to Islam, Hurrem did not allow the Sultan to come to her bed, citing that now it was against the teachings of the Quran. After three days of being kept at a distance, the Sultan capitulated and married his concubine in a magnificent formal ceremony. She received the title Haseki Sultan (Empress) becoming the first consort to hold this title. An Ottoman Sultan had married a haseki for the first time in history. The title of Haseki Sultan was used for the next century and reflected the great power of imperial consorts (most of them former slaves) in the Ottoman court, elevating their status higher than Ottoman princesses. In this case, Süleyman not only broke the old custom, but created a new tradition. With Hurrem’s new title came a stipend of 2,000 aspers a day, making her one of the highest paid hasekis. Sultan started to be viewed by his people as being dominated and controlled by his foreign wife.
A fawning love letter penned
by Hurrem for her Sultan:
After I put my head on the ground and kiss the soil that your blessed feet step upon, my nation’s sun and wealth my sultan, if you ask about me, your servant who has caught fire from the zeal of missing you, I am like the one whose liver (in this case, meaning heart) has been broiled; whose chest has been ruined; whose eyes are filled with tears, who cannot distinguish anymore between night and day; who has fallen into the sea of yearning; desperate, mad with your love; in a worse situation than Ferhat and Majnun, this passionate love of yours, your slave, is burning because I have been separated from you. Like a nightingale, whose sighs and cries for help do not cease, I am in such a state due to being away from you. I would pray to Allah to not afflict this pain even upon your enemies. My dearest sultan! As it has been one-and-a-half months since I last heard from you, Allah knows that I have been crying night and day waiting for you to come back home. While I was crying without knowing what to do, the one and only Allah allowed me to receive good news from you. Once I heard the news, Allah knows, I came to life once more since I had died while waiting for you. My dearest sultan! If you ask about Istanbul, the city still suffers from the plague; however, it is not like the previous one. God willing, it will go away as soon as you return to the city. Our ancestors said that the plague goes away once the trees shed their leaves in autumn. My dearest Sultan! I am begging Allah for you to send me your blessed letters. Believe me when I say this: if I cannot hear a word from you for more than two weeks, the world collapses. There will be rumors about your well-being around the city. Please do not think that I want to hear from you just for my own sake.â€
After becoming the legal wife of the Sultan, Hurrem Sultan was exempted from harem rules. She became the first woman to remain in the Sultan’s court for the duration of her life. In the Ottoman imperial family tradition, a sultan’s consort only remained in the harem until her son the Sehzade came of age and following the practice of Sanjak Beyligi, both mother and son would leave for a faraway province. The Sultan kept Hürrem close to him at Topkapi Palace, even after three of their sons were sent off.
“The current wife of the Turkish Sultan who loves her dearly is a woman who was captured somewhere in our lands,†wrote Mykhailo Lytvyn, ambassador of the Grand Duchy of Lithuania to the Crimean Khanate.
The complex of Haseki Hurrem Kulliyesi, the first in the Ottoman Empire named after a woman, designed by Mimar Sinan Aga (1539), also included darussifah (hospital), imaret (soup kitchen), mosque and hamamThe Haseki Hürrem Sultan Hamam
The Venetian ambassador, Navagero, also reported in 1533, “There has never been a woman in the Ottoman palace that had more power than she.â€
When Hafsa Valide, Süleyman’s mother and the daughter of the Khan of Crimea died, Hürrem became the sole female power in the Topkapi Palace.
Traditionally, to avoid rebellions and civil unrest, it was the prevailing Ottoman custom called kardes katliami that when a new Sultan gained the throne, all of his brothers were killed in order to ensure the stability of the empire. This is why one haseki was only allowed to bear one son. Mahidevran’s son Mustafa was the eldest of the Sultan’s sons and preceded Hürrem’s children in the order of succession. To avoid the eventual execution of her sons, Hürrem used her considerable influence on the Sultan to eliminate those in power, like Süleyman’s Grand Vizier Pargali Ibrahim Pasha who supported Sehrezade Mustafa’s accession to the throne; she flexed her muscle to push for his 1936 execution after he had made some tactical blunders. Later, 1544 onwards, the post of Grand Vizier was held by Suleyman and Hurrem’s wily Croatian born son in law Rustem Pasha who was in cahoots with his mother in law.
Mausoleum of Sultan Suleyman in the Süleymaniye Complex
Iznik tiles decorating Hurrem’s tombInside Hurrem Sultan’s mausoleumSelim IISelim The Sot
When the Sultan left for military campaigns through which he annexed Persia, Mesopotamia, Central Asia, Yemen and Abyssinia (in total he spent 10 years out of 46 year reign away from court on military campaigns) Hurrem Sultan was left in charge by him to oversee palace order, head state affairs, deal with foreign emissaries and even be his eyes and ears gathering intelligence for him. She apprised the Sultan of the latest news through her constant stream of neat, grammatical letters, interspersed with sentimental poems. One such read: “My lord, Your absence has kindled a fire in me that cannot be put out. Take pity of my suffering soul and write a letter to me as soon as You can so that I could find at least some consolation in it. My lord, I hope that when You read these words, Your wish to write to us will be fortified and You will express all Your longing to see us again. When I read Your letter, Your son Mehmed and Your daughter Mihrimah were close by my side and tears were rolling down their to the Sultan.â€
The Sultan replied:“At last we shall unite in souls, in thoughts, in imagination, in will, in heart, in everything that I have left of mine in you, and have taken of you with me, o my only love!â€
In the public realm, Suleyman won the title of Muhtesem (The Magnificent) for his military exploits and political success. He was also referred to as Suleyman Kanuni (the Lawgiver) as he had all the archaic laws of the empire updated and reorganized and was compared to the Biblical King Solomon because of “his wisdom and the splendour of his court.†In addition, Suleyman became known as “the creative conquerer†who wielded a pen as well as a sword. His reign became known as the Ottoman Golden Age. Culture and the arts flourished. The architect Sinan, the poet, thinker and writer, Fuzuli, the mathematician, painter and cartographer, Matrakci Nasuh, and the innovative illuminator Karamemi all lived and worked under his patronage.
The book of Suleyman’s poems Muhibbi Divani written in Talik inscription by the calligrapher Mehmed el-Serif and illuminated by Karamemi
When Hurrem was fifty and well past her prime, the Venetian ambassador Navagero wrote: “His Majesty the Sultan loves Roxolana so much that never has in the Ottoman dynasty been a woman who would enjoy a greater respect. They say that she has a very nice and modest appearance, and that she knows the nature of the great ruler very well.†Though the Europeans were very impressed by the slave girl turned Empress because she favoured them; however, the Turks felt otherwise about Hurrem.
Handsome and brave Sehzade Mustafa had grown extremely popular amongst the common people due to the generosity he lavished upon them and amongst the soldiers that he led valiantly in many successful campaigns. He reminded the people of his grandfather Selim I and was generally expected to succeed Süleyman even though there was no formal succession system in the Ottoman Empire. As Süleyman ruled for 46 years, the younger generation wanted Sehzade Mustafa to take the throne instead of his elderly father, but Hurrem knew this meant the death of her sons.
In 1533, during Suleiman’s Persian campaign, the Sultan halted his army in Eregli on the Black Sea where his Grand Vizier and son in law/husband to his daughter Mihrimah, Rüstem Pasha invited Mustafa to join his father’s army. Duplicitously, Rustem convinced Suleyman that Mustafa was coming to kill him. Not realizing he was being double crossed, Mustafa assembled his army to join his father’s. Suleyman thought he was revolting and ordered the execution of his son. When Mustafa entered his father’s tent to meet with him, Suleyman’s guards attacked the Sehrzade and after a long struggle strangled him using a bow-string.
Angered at their warrior leader’s senseless murder, Mustafa’s Janissaries and Anatolian soldiers railed against Suleiman’s peremptory decision. Suleiman dismissed Rüstem from his position as Grand Vizier and sent him back to the capital, but even there the people blamed Hürrem, Rüstem and Mihrimah for their cunning plot and the Sultan for being duped by them. That year—1553, Constantinople was filled with tension and fear. Topkapi Palace was attacked by thousands of angry protestors crying out against the foreign “witch.†To appease them, Suleiman ordered that Mustafa be given a state funeral with a full week of lying in state at Hagia Sophia for the people to pay their respects. Mustafa was laid to rest in a large mausoleum in Bursa. After the death of her son, Gulbahar lost her high status and moved to Bursa. It is said that Cihangir, Hürrem’s youngest hunchback son died of grief a few months after the news of his half-brother’s horrific murder that lay at his mother’s door.
My resident of solitude, my everything, my beloved,
my shining moon
My friend, my privacy, my everything, my shah of beautiful, my sultan
My life, my existence, my lifetime, my wine of youngness, my heaven
My spring, my joy, my day, my beloved, my laughing rose.
My plant, my sugar, my treasure, my delicate in world
My saint, my Joseph, my everything, my Khan of my
heart´s Egypt.
My Istanbul, My Karaman,
my land of Rum
My Bedehsan, my Kipchak,
my Bagdad, my Horosan
My long-haired, my bow like eyebrow, my eye full of discord,
my patient
My blood is on your hands if I die, mercy o my non-Muslim
I am a flatterer near your door,
I always praise you
Heart is full of sorrow, eye is full of tears, I am Muhibbi and I am happy.
Mustafa’s execution had caused great unrest in Anatolia, especially in Amasya, Manisa and Konya where he been a just governor. The people remembered him as Sultan Mustafa, even though his life had been cut short before his ascension to the throne, and his legend grew to become a part of Anatolian Turkish literature. The poet Taslicali Yahya composed a haunting elegy for Mustafa that read:
“The slander and the secret grudge of the liars shed tears from our eyes; ignited the fire of separation
He never murdered anybody, but his life was drowned in the flood of calamity, his comrades were disbanded
I wish I had never seen this event. What a shame: my eyes didn’t approve this treatment to himâ€
Rustem Pasha strove to get Yahya executed as punishment. The Sultan prohibited his execution but instead deprived him of his offices and banished the poet to the Balkans. In 1574-75, while in Bosnia, Yahya met Mustafa Âlî, a well known Ottoman historian and bureaucrat who referred to him as “a poet too talented to be supported by jealous politicians and subsequently condemned to exile in the border provinces.â€
Both Hurrem and her son in law the Grand Vizier Rustem Pasha made a deadly team successful in cut throat court politics and intrigues. They were the outsiders not only surviving, but flourishing at the Ottoman court. Suleyman himself lived to regret both the executions that of his Grand Vizier and of his son and heir. European historians argue that Mustafa did not deserve the throne. Although he was courageous, he lacked two important qualities for a ruler, patience and cautiousness. After Mustafa’s death Selim, his son from Hurrem, became the heir apparent. Though obedient to his father, he was unpopular for being cruel and an alcoholic. Süleyman and Hürrem did not hesitate to execute their own son Sehzade Beyazid and grandsons in 1561 when they revolted over the issue of succession, such was their tenacious grip on power and control.
Given the grisly backdrop of the bloodshed, in 1554, Dominico Trevisano wrote about the Sultan and Hurrem’s continued love affair: “His Majesty the Sultan loves her (Roxolana) so much that, as they say, he has refused to be with any other woman but her; none of his predecessors had ever done that and such a thing is unheard of among the Turks who have a custom of sleeping with many wives.â€
Because of her inordinate amount of power and influence from which even Suleiman’s own children from other women were not safe, her meteoric and unprecedented rise and her unassailable position for forty years, Hurrem Sultan was widely believed to be a witch who had put a hypnotic spell on the Sultan using voodoo incantations and potions. At the time, this was not a farfetched theory. Only a century later, Louis IV’s mistress Madame de Montespan would be disgraced and banished for visiting the witch La Voisin to perform rituals by killing babies to make love potions used on the French King. Similarly, the Austrian ambassador Busbek wrote in 1554 that he was told of women in the capital who supplied Hurrem Sultan with bones from the skulls of hyenas which were believed to be a very strong aphrodisiac. After investigating the claims, he wrote, “But none of them agreed to sell these bones to me saying they were meant exclusively for Hurrem Sultan who, they said, made the Sultan continuously attached to her by making love potions and other magic means.†It was a wide-spread popular belief that Suleyman was so obedient to his wife and putty in her hands because of the magic spell that she put on him. She, people said, was behind the Sultan’s decisions to execute Ibrahim, his closest friend and vizier, and Mustafa, his first-born son and heir to the throne. Her children had directly benefitted from these heinous crimes.
One day, Hürrem became suddenly very ill and perhaps deciding to atone for her sins, curry favour with Allah and win people’s approbation, she dedicated herself to charitable works. Inspired by the Caliph Harun al-Rashid’s consort Zubaida, she commissioned many public works including two domed mosques built in Istanbul’s Haseki neighborhood along with fountains and madrasahs, a poorhouse and the Haseki Hospital for women near the women’s slave market of Avret Pazary that is remarkably still functional. She also commissioned a bath, the Haseki Hürrem Sultan Hamam, to serve the community of worshipers in the nearby Hagia Sophia and Suleyman’s mosque. This Hamam also continues to function today. In 1552, she went on to establish the Hasseki Sultan Imaret in Jerusalem a public soup kitchen to feed 500 needy twice a day. Ironically, the money to build the mosques had come from the customary tithes that the Christian pilgrims had to pay for visiting the holy sites in Jerusalem. Suleyman imposed fees on the use of mosques as well, when the need for extra money arose usually to fund a military campaign.
Hürrem died in 1558 and was buried in a purpose built domed mausoleum türbe built by Mimar Sinan Aga the Grand Architect and decorated with exquisite Iznik tiles depicting the Garden of Paradise in memory of her joyful nature in the courtyard of the Süleymaniye Mosque. It is said that Suleyman was so sad that he did not regain happiness for the rest of his life and pined away for his wife. Eight years later in 1566 the aged Sultan too died while besieging the fortress of Szigetvar in Hungary and was laid to rest in a somber mausoleum adjacent to that of his beloved.
Their remaining son ascended the throne as Selim II and ruled the Ottoman Empire until his death on December 15, 1574. One of his first acts was to save Mahidevran from penury and put her on a lavish salary. Despite all of Hurrem’s machinations, her son did not make a good ruler, in fact he became the first sultan who took no interest in military matters. Instead he lived a debauched life steeped in alcohol and orgies, earning him the sobriquet Selim The Sot (the drunkard). He left all state matters in the hands of his Grand Vizier Mehmed Sokollu, a Bosnian native.
Hurrem Sultan, the slave girl who became “The Wife of the Sultan of the World†caught European imagination and inspired many paintings, musical works (including Joseph Haydn’s Symphony No. 63), an opera by Denys Sichynsky, a ballet, plays, and several novels mainly in Ukrainian, but also in English, French, and German. In 2007, the Muslims in Mariupol, a port city in Ukraine, opened a mosque to honor Roxelana. In the vastly successful Turkish TV series Muhtesem Yüzyil (Mera Sultan), Hürrem Sultan is played by Turkish actress Meryem Uzerli.
Suleyman’s faithful love and ardor for Hürrem is best illustrated by the love poems he sent to her when he was away on campaigns. The book of Suleyman’s poems Muhibbi Divani written in Talik inscription by the calligrapher Mehmed el-Serif and illuminated with beautiful and evocative illustrations by Karamemi is a testament to his love for her. Suleyman’s love poems to his wife were signed Muhibbi (lover or sweetheart) and include the following:
Throne of my lonely niche, my wealth, my love, my moonlight.
My most sincere friend, my confidant, my very existence, my Sultan, my one and only love.
The most beautiful among the beautiful…
My springtime, my merry faced love, my daytime, my sweetheart, laughing leaf…
My plants, my sweet, my rose, the one only who does not distress me in this world…
My Istanbul, my Caraman, the earth of my Anatolia
My Badakhshan, my Baghdad and Khorasan
My woman of the beautiful hair, my love of the slanted brow, my love of eyes full of mischief…
I’ll sing your praises always
I, lover of the tormented heart, Muhibbi of the eyes full of tears, I am happy.
And so the powerful Sultan Suleyman The Magnificent broke with the old Ottoman tradition and created a new one of being monogamous till the end of his days to a slave girl that he willingly made his legal wife and consort.
As our story opens, Queen Victoria is 68, has been a widow for 26 years and has even buried her attendant/companion Mr. Brown four years earlier; she’s getting ready to celebrate her Golden Jubilee on the throne of great britain. to help entertain the Princes from the colony that was, in the phrase coined by PM Benjamin Disraeli, “the Jewel in the Crown” of the british empire–India, The Queen has asked for Indian servants be brought to her court for a year to wait at the royal table and help entertain her princely guests
Queen Victoria at her desk, assisted by her servant Abdul Karim, the ‘Munshi’. Date: c. 1885
Queen Victoria’s unusual relationship with her Munshi who started out as a server, Abdul Karim, has been chronicled in Stephen Frear’s upcoming film Victoria and Abdul, to be released in September, starring the redoubtable Dame Judi Dench and Indian actor Ali Fazal. The movie is based on London-based journalist and author Shrabani Basu’s 2010 book by the same name in which she painstakingly researched over four years the friendship between the most unlikely of companions, the aged Queen and Empress with her young, Indian Muslim clerk. Though much of the correspondence between the Queen and Abdul Karim was destroyed after her death by her son and heir King Edward VII who resented and mistrusted their friendship, Basu said she traced back the story meticulously through several sources including the diary kept by the Queen’s physician Sir James Reid, letters between the Queen and the Viceroys of India, letters between the Royal Household and the Viceroys, newspaper reports and other sources. After the hard copy was published, Abdul Karim’s descendants who had migrated to Karachi during Partition, came forward with the 13 volumes of the Hindustani Journals, a daily account through which the Queen practiced her Urdu, as well as their ancestor’s personal diary of his time in England. These had been carefully hidden by his family, as the diaries corroborated the story and provided intimate details into Karim’s life at the royal court consorting with the Queen in a private sphere.
At her wedding to Prince Albert of Saxe-Coburg & GothaYoung Victoria
“At a time when the British Empire was at its height, a young Muslim occupied a central position of influence over its sovereign,†Basu said in an interview. The Queen used Abdul Karim’s briefings on political developments in India to order her Viceroys, much to their chagrin, on measures to reduce communal tensions and to favour Muslims in a Hindu majority country. Abdul taught the Queen Urdu, Hindi and even cooked curry for her, which she found so flavousome that it became a part of the Sunday luncheon menu. Quickly Karim became so close to the matronly Queen and gained such a high position that she gave him and his wife three residences on royal palace estates in Britain and 141 acres in Agra where he built his house Karim Lodge; he was allowed to carry a sword and wear his medals in court, and was permitted to bring family members from India to England. “The queen’s Munshi was named in court circulars, given the best positions at operas and banquets, allowed to play billiards in all the royal palaces and had a private horse carriage and footman….Mr. Karim’s father even got away with being the first person to smoke a hookah in Windsor Castle, despite the queen’s aversion to smoking.â€
The royal couple & brood of nine children
Albert was moral, prudent, practical and hard woking, whereas Victoria who had been “the best catch in Europe†was emotionally needy, obsessive in her love and prone to tantrums. The Prince Consort knew how to calmly and masterfully handle his wilful, strong headed bride who he taught to follow his lead rather than the other way round. Victoria had a very high libido
How did a young man with limited education and from an ordinary Indian background gain the royal ear of the Empress?
The year was 1887. Courtiers and government officials were getting ready to celebrate Queen Victoria’s Golden Jubilee Celebration. It had been exactly 30 years since India had been officially handed over from the East India Company to the Crown after the 1857 war. At the time, Great Britain was the most powerful country on earth. More than a quarter of the world’s population, a portion of every continent, was under its dominion. India was considered to be the Jewel in the Crown among all of Great Britain’s colonies. Queen Victoria was also the longest serving monarch in British history. The nation was ready to celebrate its imperial, bureaucratic (since it took considerable organisational skill to keep the Empire together) and technological achievements. A large number of Indian Princes were expected to grace the occasion to pay homage to their Empress in person. Therefore, it was decided that two servants be brought from India to serve the Indian Princes.
“When Prince Albert died, Victoria famously said that he was her husband, close friend, father and mother. I think it’s likely that Abdul Karim fulfilled a similar roleâ€
—Shrabani Basu
One of them was a 24 year old clerk at the Agra Jail named Abdul Karim. The young man originally hailed from Jhansi where his father, Haji Mohammed Waziruddin, was a hakim stationed with the Central India Horse, a British cavalry regiment. The boy had been taught Persian and Urdu privately, and as a teenager travelled across North India into Afghanistan with his father as part of the march to Kandahar, which ended the Second Anglo-Afghan War in 1880. After the war, Abdul’s father transferred to a civilian position as an apothecary or assistant at the Central Jail Hospital in Agra and Abdul also started working there in a junior clerical position. Waziruddin arranged a marriage between Abdul and the sister of a clolleague.
Queen Victoria with her equerry/companion John Brown
Agra Central Jail Superintendent John Tyler organized a trip of prisoners that had been trained to weave carpets to demonstrate their skill at an exhibition in England where he also presented the Queen with two gold bangles. Pleased, she asked Tyler to recruit two Indian attendants who would be employed for a year during the Golden Jubilee celebrations. Abdul Karim and Mohammed Buksh were given rudimentary English lessons, quickly trained to wait tables, given a course in etiquette and sent to Britain by mail steamer.
Glas Allt Shiel on the banks of Loch Muick at Balmoral estate, built on the orders of Queen Victoria as a remote getaway for her & Mr. Brown
The first time Abdul served the Queen was at breakfast in Fromore House, Windsor Castle in the summer of 1887. The young man displayed the right mix of deference and confidence by kneeling and kissing her feet but gazing steadily back at her. He wrote in his diary that night, “I was somewhat nervous at the approach of the Great Empress… I presented nazars (gifts) by exposing, in the palms of my hands, a gold mohar (coin) which Her Majesty touched and remitted as is the Indian custom.†This gold sovereign had been expressly given him by the Viceroy to present to her Majesty as a tribute from India.
Queen Victoria being served by Abdul Karim & Mohammed Buksh
The Queen in her turn described Karim in her diary that night, “The other, much younger, is much lighter (than Buksh), tall, and with a fine, serious countenance. His father is a native doctor at Agra. They both kissed my feet.â€Â She was much more taken by the tall, fair and grave young man than the older, darker and plain looking Buksh who never progressed from waiting tables and remained a khidmatgar or servant, until his death at Windsor in 1899.
The Queen’s official portrait for the Golden JubileeVisiting European Heads of State at Queen Victoria’s Golden Jubilee, 1887
Five days later, the Queen noted their progress, “The Indians always wait now and do so, so well and quietly.†In another entry she wrote, “I am learning a few words of Hindustani to speak to my servants. It is a great interest to me for both the language and the people, I have naturally never come into real contact with before.†Next she wrote that she had some “excellent curry†made by one of the servants. In no time, Abdul became relaxed and comfortable in the Queen’s presence. She was interested in India but could not visit due to her age. He told her stories about life in his home country, the customs and cuisine and even started to teach her Urdu and Hindi, which she used to great effect during an audience in December to greet the Maharani Chimnabai of Baroda.
Hafiz Mohammed Abdul KarimA painting of the Thanksgiving Service at the Golden Jubilee
Having taken a great liking to Abdul, Queen Vic ordered that he was to be given English lessons and even instructed him herself. In less than a year after his arrival, he had “learnt English wonderfully†according to Victoria. He complained to her that though he had been a clerk in India, he was now being treated like a servant in England, which was beneath him. Worried that he may return, she promoted him to the position of Munshi, as the Queen’s teacher and personal clerk. In her journal, the Queen admitted that she elevated his status so that he would stay on in England. “I particularly wish to retain his services as he helps me in studying Hindustani, which interests me very much, & he is very intelligent & useful.â€
Golden Jubilee Service at Westminster Abbey, 21st June 1887
According to Abdul Karim’s biographer Sushila Anand, the Queen’s letters testify that “her discussions with the Munshi were wide-ranging—philosophical, political and practical. Both head and heart were engaged. There is no doubt that the Queen found in Abdul Karim a connection with a world that was fascinatingly alien, and a confidant who would not feed her the official line.â€
Abdul was in charge of the other Indian servants. “I am so very fond of him†wrote the Queen in her journal. “He is so good & gentle & understanding all I want & is a real comfort to me.†She wrote of her admiration for him, “her personal Indian clerk & Munshi, who is an excellent, clever, truly pious & very refined gentle man, who says, ‘God ordered it’ … God’s Orders is what they implicitly obey! Such faith as theirs & such conscientiousness set us a great example.â€
So struck was she by him that at Balmoral Castle, the Queen’s Scottish estate, Victoria allocated Abdul the room previously occupied by John Brown, her personal attendant and probably her lover who had died in 1883. She wrote how happy he was with his elevation in status, “he (Abdul) is very friendly and cheerful with the Queen’s maids and laughs and even jokes now—and invited them to come and see all his fine things offering them fruit cake to eat.â€
In 1888, Karim was given four months’ leave to return to India and visit his father. From there, Abdul wrote to his sovereign that his father who was due to retire wanted a pension and that his former employer, John Tyler, also wanted a promotion. As a result, Victoria wrote to the Viceroy of India, Lord Lansdowne, that both of Abdul’s demands be met. But the Viceroy felt the two applicants were not worthy and was reluctant to do so.
Unusually for her time, Queen Victoria was neither racially prejudiced nor concerned with the class divide
The members of the Royal Household also were not pleased at the privileged position that the upstart Indian now occupied. The Royal Household is responsible for taking care of the needs of the sovereign and his relations, and the position holders are carefully vetted from aristocratic families. Many of the posts are hereditary. Hence, the members of the Queen’s Household felt they only needed to accord respect to Indian Princes and Nawabs, and considered ordinary Indian citizens beneath their dignity to associate with. Partially this was due to racism, partly it was due to a class divide that even existed between Indians themselves at the time. Abdul demanded to be treated as an equal and not as a servant. He gave the Queen the impression that his father was a surgeon general in the British Indian Army and not merely an assistant/hakim at the Agra Central Jail Hospital.
Windsor CastleOsborne House, the Queen’s holiday home Isle Of Wight where she spent most of her timeDarbar room at Osborne House, which was built by Indian craftsmen to receive Indian Princes
When Albert Edward, Prince of Wales (later Edward VII), hosted an entertainment for the Queen at his home in Sandringham in 1889, Abdul was given a seat with the servants, but feeling insulted, he retired to his room. To placate him, the Queen insisted that he be seated among the Household. Similarly, when the Queen attended the Braemar Games in 1890, her son Prince Arthur, Duke of Connaught and Strathearn, admonished the Queen’s private secretary Sir Henry Ponsonby after he saw the Munshi among the gentry. Ponsonby suggested that it was “by the Queen’s order†and that the Duke should approach the Queen about it. “This entirely shut him up,†noted Ponsonby.
English society was based on hereditary rights, snobbery and rigid class divide at the time so their attitude was hardly surprising. What was refreshing was the Queen’s attitude. Just as years before she had taken Mr. Brown, a Scottish commoner, as her companion, she had also taken Abdul under her wing despite the colour of his skin, his social standing or his religion; she was quite progressive in that regard.
Sandringham Castle
Victoria’s biographer Carolly Erickson wrote: â€The rapid advancement and personal arrogance of the Munshi would inevitably have led to his unpopularity, but the fact of his race made all emotions run hotter against him. Racism was a scourge of the age; it went hand in hand with belief in the appropriateness of Britain’s global dominion. For a dark-skinned Indian to be put very nearly on a level with the queen’s white servants was all but intolerable, for him to eat at the same table as them, to share in their daily lives was viewed as an outrage. Yet the queen was determined to impose harmony on her household. Race hatred was intolerable to her, and the ‘dear good Munshi’ deserving of nothing but respect.
When complaints were brought to her, Victoria refused to believe any negative comments about Karim. She dismissed concerns about his behaviour, deemed high-handed by Household and staff, as ‘very wrong.’ In 1889, Karim’s brother-in-law, Hourmet Ali, sold one of Victoria’s brooches to a jeweller in Windsor. She accepted Karim’s explanation that Ali had found the brooch and that it was customary in India to keep anything that one found, whereas the rest of the Household thought Ali had stolen it. Next month, Karim was assigned the room previously occupied by Dr (later Sir) James Reid, Victoria’s physician, and given the use of a private sitting room.â€
The Queen, influenced by her Munshi, continued to write to Lord Lansdowne with directions on how to govern. She expressed reservations on the introduction of elected councils in India on the basis that Muslims would not win many seats because they were in the minority, and urged that Hindu feasts be rescheduled so as not to conflict with Muslim ones. Though he didn’t reschedule any religious feasts for fear of it being “potentially divisive,†the Viceroy finally relinquished and appointed the irascible Tyler as Acting Inspector General of Prisons in 1889.
To make matter worse, to the Household’s consternation, during Victoria’s stay at Balmoral in September 1889, she and Abdul stayed alone for one night in seclusion at the remote cottage Glassalt Shiel at Loch Muick. She had had this cottage built as a private retreat for her and Mr. Brown. After his death, she had sworn never to stay there again, but she made an exception for Abdul. Whether the septuagenarian monarch and her young Munshi actually consummated their relationship is anyone’s guess. But Basu conjectures that “When Prince Albert died, Victoria famously said that he was her husband, close friend, father and mother. I think it’s likely that Abdul Karim fulfilled a similar role.â€
When in 1890 Abdul fell ill with an inflamed boil on his neck, the Queen got her personal physician Reid to treat him. Reid performed an operation to open and drain the swelling; he wrote on 1st March 1890 that the Queen was “visiting Abdul twice daily, in his room taking Hindustani lessons, signing her boxes, examining his neck, smoothing his pillows, etc.â€
Basu said that in the Hindustani Journal volumes, “Initially his (Karim’s) English was weak and she would correct him, and her Urdu was faulty. By the end of the 13th journal, his English had improved and she was writing half a page in fluent Urdu.
The little details…provided the insights into their life. The Queen would often go to the Munshi’s house for tea and take the royalty of Europe to visit. When the Munshi’s cat had kittens, she noted that she was going to see them. It was the ordinary things they shared….The Queen never missed a lesson, whether she was in her palaces or travelling. She would take her lessons on the ship or in the summerhouse in Balmoral. If Karim was ill, she would go to his house, prop him up on pillows, and take her lesson.
Their relationship worked at various levels — he was her closest friend, her confidant. He was also like a son to her. At the same time, the physical aspect was important. Queen Victoria liked a strong young man standing by her side and taking care of her. She had liked John Brown and Abdul Karim later filled that space. She wrote to him every day, sometimes several times a day. She ended her letters with crosses (kisses).â€
Basu added that although Abdul “asked for a pension for his father. The rest — land, titles — was freely bestowed on him by the Queen. He was allowed to spend a large sum in renovating his house, was given his own carriage and servants, land in Agra and titles.â€
Banerjee in his review of Basu’s book wrote, “Karim acquired the accessories and privileges, which went with his position. He had his own carriage and his own separate houses in the Royal Palaces of Windsor in England, Balmoral in Scotland and Osborne House in the Isle of Wight. Karim now moved among the higher circles as the Queen’s ‘Secretary.’ He was awarded various honours, including the CVO which could be given by the Queen at her personal discretion. She could not promote Karim to what he really aspired to — the knighthood — because that was in the hands of the Prime Minister and his advisors.
Karim’s rapid rise to favour led to jealousy among the other Indian servants and, more seriously, among the members of the Queen’s Household, who described him as repulsive and disagreeable. Racial feelings crept in, and members of the Household started to talk about the prevalence of the ‘black brigade’ in the Palace. The Queen was outraged and forbade all such talk and propaganda. Much to the displeasure of the Household, the Queen did not recognize any class or racial barriers between herself and her Indian servants. As she got to know them, especially Karim, the Queen developed a great affection for India and the Indian people. It is the special merit of Basu’s book that it illustrates and documents this fact in the Queen’s life very convincingly. Victoria deeply regretted the fact that, because of old age, she could not visit India. She had become familiar with the Indian princes and several of them paid visits to her regularly, and she decided to build an Indian extension to Osborne House, called the Durbar Room, where she could receive them with appropriate ceremony. She appointed an Indian architect Bhai Ram Singh who drew out the plans for it. When completed, it became a magnificent addition to the Palace, with its glittering Banquet Room, a Billiards Room and the Queen’s own India Room. It was decorated with arts and crafts from India and its walls and corridors displayed rich and colourful portraits of Indian princes. Several Indian princes visited her there.
The Munshi Abdul Karim painted for Queen Victoria by Laurits Regner Tuxen, 1887
On a personal level, Karim brought his retired father from India. He had worked as an ‘assistant’ in Indian hospitals and desired to visit hospitals in Edinburgh. He was duly taken round. Karim grew bold, and after his next visit to India he brought back with him his wife and her mother. (He had another wife but probably the Queen never knew about her; neither of his wives gave him any offspring.) The Queen welcomed Karim’s relatives and ordered that they all be comfortably housed within the Palace premises. She also made sure that money would be paid for their extra expenses. She visited Karim’s wife in his quarters frequently and ensured that she and her mother were well looked after. She gradually developed an affectionate bond with Karim and his family. Sometimes she signed her letters to Karim as ‘Your loving Mother VRI.’â€
Julia Baird in Victoria the Queen: An Intimate Biography of the Woman Who Ruled an Empire argued the flip side, writing that the opportunistic Munshi “inveigled his way into Victoria’s affections as her servant and then as a clerk. Her family disliked and distrusted him.â€
At Balmoral, 1897
In 1890, the Queen had Abdul’s portrait painted by the Austrian artist Heinrich von Angeli. According to the Queen, it was von Angeli who was keen to paint Karim as he had never painted an Indian before and “was so struck with his handsome face and colouring.†In her turn, she gave Abdul a photo of herself signed in Urdu. The same year, she wrote to Lansdowne, and the Secretary of State for India Lord Cross for “a grant of land for her really exemplary and excellent young Munshi, Hafiz Abdul Karim.â€Â The ageing Queen did not trust her son, the Prince of Wales to look after him after her death, so wanted to secure his future in her lifetime. Lansdowne replied that grants of land were given only to soldiers with long and meritorious service to the Crown. However, to please his recalcitrant sovereign, the Viceroy agreed to find a Rs. 600 annual grant for the Munshi, the same amount that an old soldier could expect after performing exceptionally. Lord Lansdowne telegraphed the Queen: “quite recently one of the men who at the peril of his life, and under a withering fire helped to blow up the Kashmiri Gate of Delhi in the Mutiny, received, on his retirement from the service, a grant of land yielding only Rs 250 for life. Abdul Karim, at the age of 26, had received a perpetual grant of land representing an income of more than double that amount in recognition of his services as a member of your Majesty’s Household.â€
Due to Abdul Karim’s influence, Queen Victoria favoured Musims over Hindus
When Lansdowne visited Agra, he arranged for Karim to be seated with the viceregal staff during a durbar; he also met both the Munshi and Waziruddin privately, and Lady Lansdowne met his wife and mother-in-law.
The next year, Waziruddin visited Britain and stayed at both Balmoral and Windsor Castles. He retired in 1893 and in the New Year Honours 1894 he was rewarded, on express command of the Queen, with the title of Khan Bahadur, which Lansdowne drily noted was “one which under ordinary circumstances the Doctor (could) not have ventured to expect.â€
Hotel Excelsior, Regina Palace at Cimiez near Nice, South of France where the Queen took an annual holiday in March
In the summer of 1892, Abdul returned to India on six months leave and, on his return, brought back his wife and mother-in-law with him. Both women travelled while observing strict purdah. Queen Victoria wrote upon meeting them, “the two Indian ladies … who are, I believe, the first Mohammedan purdah ladies who ever came over … keep their custom of complete seclusion and of being entirely covered when they go out, except for the holes for their eyes.â€Â She regularly visited the women, bringing with her such high profile female guests as the Empress of Russia and the Princess of Wales.
Queen Victoria proceeds down Pall Mall during the Diamond Jubilee celebrationsAbdul looking rather grand at his desk in Windsor Castle
Marie Mallet, the Queen’s maid-in-waiting and wife of senior civil servant Bernard Mallet, wrote, â€I have just been to see the Munshi’s wife (by Royal Command). She is fat and not uncomely, a delicate shade of chocolate and gorgeously attired, rings on her fingers, rings on her nose, a pocket mirror set in turquoises on her thumb and every feasible part of her person hung with chains and bracelets and ear-rings, a rose-pink veil on her head bordered with heavy gold and splendid silk and satin swathings round her person. She speaks English in a limited manner.â€
Abdul and his wife had no children. The Queen had kindly asked a lady doctor to examine her and see if she could be helped, but there was nothing to be done.
Christmas of 1892 was spent as was her wont at Osborne House. Every year, the Munshi participated in the tableaux arranged as a private entertainment for the royal family, and every year the character he played became increasingly more important in reflection to his standing much to the envy of those around him. So indispensable did the monarch find her Munshi and so ingrained had he become that his name appeared in the Court Circular among those of officials accompanying the Queen on her annual March holiday to the French Riviera.
When Victoria insisted that Abdul would accompany her to the Riviera in 1893, “she had a revolt on her hands. The Queen’s Household informed her that they would refuse to take meals with him. When the Queen made clear her disapproval of their attitude, they relented,†wrote Baird.
Courtier Henry Posonby, her private secretary, wrote, “Things have come to such a pass that the police have been consulted…But it is of no use, for the Queen says that it is ‘race prejudice’ and that we are all jealous of the poor Munshi.â€
Abdul as Queen Victoria’s Indian Secretary was privy to state affairsQueen Victoria by Bassano
The Queen’s Household officers, her family members (especially her son the Prince of Wales), and politicians got dragged into the controversy over her favourable treatment of Abdul. His enemies claimed he inflated his family background and even stole from Victoria. She defended him furiously, often accusing those who criticized him of racism.
“I am so very fond of him,†she wrote. “He is so good and gentle and understanding….and is a real comfort to me.â€
“Karim himself continued to get special favours from the Queen: he now travelled in style in his own carriage, accompanied by a footman; and when she travelled to Europe, he was given a spacious room all to himself on the same floor as the Queen. Despite the welcome that her foreign hosts gave to her and her entourage, they sometimes flinched at the latter. At home, all this aroused envy and anger not only among her own Household but also among the other Indian servants who all lived at a much lower level. That a servant belonging to the subject race, of low origin and with practically no education should have been elevated among the members of the Household was regarded as highly suspicious and unjust. But the Queen remained supremely untouched and continued to bestow generous favours to him, wrote Bannerjee.
When the Munshi was presented to King Umberto I of Italy, according to a contemporary newspaper account, “the King did not understand why this magnificent and imposing Hindoo should have been formally presented to him. The popular idea in Italy is that the Munshi is a captive Indian prince, who is taken about by the Queen as an outward and visible sign of Her Majesty’s supremacy in the East.â€
Abdul’s opponents in the Household accused him of having published an advertisement in the Florence Gazette stating that “(h)e is belonging to a good and highly respectful family.†Abdul refused to travel with the other Indians and took over the maid’s bathroom for his exclusive use. On a visit to Coburg, he even refused to attend the marriage of Victoria’s granddaughter Princess Victoria Melita of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha, because her father, Victoria’s son Alfred, Duke of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha, had assigned him a seat in the gallery with the servants.
The Queen vociferously defended Abdul. She wrote to her private secretary Sir Henry Ponsonby: “to make out that the poor good Munshi is so low is really outrageous & in a country like England quite out of place … She has known 2 Archbishops who were sons respectively of a Butcher & a Grocer … Abdul’s father saw good & honourable service as a Dr & he (Karim) feels cut to the heart at being thus spoken of.†But this was not entirely true and she had been purposely deceived by Abdul about his family’s social standing back in India.
After Lord Lansdowne’s term of office ended in 1894, he was replaced by Lord Elgin as Viceroy. Ponsonby’s son Frederick was Elgin’s aide-de-camp in India before being appointed an equerry to Queen Victoria back in Britain. Victoria asked Frederick to visit Waziruddin, the “surgeon-general†at Agra. On his return to London, Frederick informed the Queen that Waziruddin “was not the surgeon-general but only the apothecary at the jail.†She “stoutly denied†this and insisted that Frederick “must have seen the wrong man.†When the honest young man did not agree with her statement, to “mark her displeasure,†the Queen withheld her dinner invitation to him for a year. Frederick wrote to Elgin that Abdul was deeply unpopular in the Household, and that he occupied “very much the same position as John Brown used to.â€
Her family and the senior members of government were very concerned about the state of affairs. Her children, Princesses Louise and Beatrice, Prince Henry of Battenberg, as well as Prime Minister Lord Rosebery, and Secretary of State for India Henry Fowler raised concerns about the Munshi with the Queen. She “refused to listen to what they had to say but was very angry, so as you see the Munshi is a sort of pet, like a dog or cat which the Queen will not willingly give up,†one wrote. Elgin was warned by both Ponsonby and the India Office that the Queen gave his letters to the Munshi to read and that he should not reveal any state secrets in them. Victoria’s advisors were mistrustful of Abdul’s association with Rafiuddin Ahmed, an Indian political activist in London who was connected to the Muslim League. They suspected that Ahmed got Abdul to reveal confidential information that he passed onto the Amir of Afghanistan, Abdur Rahman Khan. There was, however, no basis to their fears.
After the 1895 UK general election, Lord Salisbury and Lord George Hamilton replaced them as the new PM and Secretary of State for India. Lord Hamilton considered Abdul not out rightly duplicitous but “a stupid man, and on that account he may become a tool in the hands of other men.â€Â When Abdul returned to India next year on six months’ leave, Hamilton and Elgin placed him under “unobtrusive†surveillance in fear of the wrath of the Queen, but they could not find any wrongdoing on the Munshi’s part. This time on his return to England, he brought his young nephew, Mohammed Abdul Rashid with him.
The next milestone in Queen Vic’s life occurred with her Diamond Jubilee, the 60th anniversary of her accession to the throne when she became the country’s longest serving monarch. Colonial Secretary Joseph Chamberlain proposed that the Diamond Jubilee should also be the Festival of the British Empire.
Union Jacks, festoons of flowers and rainbows of bunting were strung up in London streets. “The streets, the windows, the roofs of the houses, were one mass of beaming faces, and the cheers never ceased,†the Queen recorded in her journal that night.
Abdul Karim & his nephew Abdul Rashid whose descendants now live in Karachi
It is reported that “thousands of Britons slept in the parks outside the Palace walls in their eagerness to watch the grand royal procession to St. Paul’s Cathedral the next morning. Vendors hawked souvenir jubilee flags, mugs and programs. A human fence of soldiers, their bayonets protruding like pickets, walled off the route of the six-mile procession. Before the 17-carriage convoy carrying the royal family and leaders of Britain’s dominions departed Buckingham Palace, Queen Victoria, with a touch of a button, sent an electronic message to her vast Empire. Her telegraph message would have been tailor-made for today’s Twitter sphere: ‘From my heart I thank my beloved people. May God bless them. V.R. & I.’ At 11:15 a.m., cannon fired in Hyde Park to announce the monarch’s departure from the palace. Eight cream horses pulled the queen in an open carriage….The procession, which included representatives of all Empire nations, swept by many of London’s world famous landmarks, such as Trafalgar Square, the National Gallery, London Bridge and Big Ben. The queen’s subjects, many of whom had never known another monarch, cheered her along the entire route and broke into spontaneous verses of ‘God Save the Queen.’ Deeply touched by the outpouring of affection, Victoria occasionally wiped tears from her eyes before arriving at St. Paul’s Cathedral for a Thanksgiving service.
Funeral procession of Queen Victoria on 22nd January 1901
Since painful arthritis impeded the 78-year-old queen’s ability to climb the cathedral steps, the decision had been made in advance to hold the service outside at the foot of St. Paul’s west steps. Crowds packed specially erected bleachers on surrounding rooftops. The steps of St. Paul’s were so crowded that choir members were forced to stand on the massive pedestals flanking the cathedral’s entrance. The queen, shading herself with a parasol, remained in her coach for the 20-minute ceremony. Following the brisk service, the procession drove off as the Archbishop of Canterbury shouted out, ‘Three cheers for the Queen!’
When darkness fell, a series of bonfires were set simultaneously on hills throughout Victoria’s kingdom to light up the British night. The cheering and singing continued well into the night, no doubt aided by pubs remaining open until the special time of 2:30 a.m.â€
Queen Victoria called it “a never to be forgotten day,†in her diary. “No one ever I believe, has met with such an ovation as was given to me, passing through those six miles of streets. The crowds were quite indescribable and their enthusiasm truly marvelous and deeply touching. The cheering was quite deafening, and every face seemed to be filled with real joy. I was much moved and gratified.â€
In preparation for her next trip to the South of France in 1897, members of the Household again insisted that the unpopular Abdul not be part of the royal party or they would collectively resign. Harriet Phipps, one of the Queen’s maids of honour, informed her of the decision. In a ferocious fit of fury, the Queen swept off all the objects of her desk and immediately the tremulous Household backed down. The Queen accused the members of the Household to be motivated by “race prejudice†and jealousy. The carefree holiday spirit was replaced with tension, simmering rage and resentment. Ponsonby wrote contemptuously that “(the Munshi) happens to be a thoroughly stupid and uneducated man, and his one idea in life seems to be to do nothing and to eat as much as he can.â€
Reid advised the Queen that her attachment to Karim was leading even her near and dear to question her sanity; the doctor was treating Abdul for gonorrhea at this time. Karim had a penchant for hosting mujra parties at his Agra estate where he liked to act nawabi.
Hamilton asked Elgin to investigate Abdul’s family and friends back in India in an effort to find dirt on him and discredit him. Elgin replied that they were “Respectable and trustworthy…but position of family humble.â€Â Hamilton concluded that “the Munshi has done nothing to my knowledge which is reprehensible or deserving of official stricture … enquiries wd not is right, unless they were in connection with some definite statement or accusation.â€Â Hosting drunken private parties was hardly a crime. Hamilton added that the Brits had wanted “to put him (the Munshi) more into his humble place, so his influence will not be the same in the futureâ€.
Realising that her time was limited and the Munshi’s English enemies countless, the Queen wrote to Abdul, “I have in my Testamentary arrangements secured your comfort, and have constantly thought of you well. The long letter I enclose which was written nearly a month ago is entirely and solely my own idea, not a human being will ever know of it or what you answer me. If you can’t read it I will help you and then burn it at once.â€
The Queen told Reid she worried that all this strife had damaged Abdul’s health but he replied skeptically he doubted it “judging from his robust appearance and undiminished stoutness.â€
With the ascension of Edward VII, thus began the Edwardian AgeQueen Victoria dliligently at work with her beloved Munshi at her side in 1893
The Queen admonished the doctor, “I thought you stood between me and them, but now I feel that you chime in with the rest.â€
Lord Salisbury told Reid that the Queen enjoyed all this drama because it was “the only form of excitement she can have.â€
Yet again, in 1899, members of the Household asked that Abdul not be one of the royal party on the Queen’s annual holiday to Cimiez, near Nice. This time she left him behind at Windsor, but when the party had settled into the Excelsior Regina hotel, she wired him to join them.
The wily Abdul had amassed a substantial amount of personal wealth by now and purchased yet more land adjacent to his earlier grant in Agra. Reid wrote in his diary that he had remonstrated with Abdul over his dubious financial dealings: “You have told the Queen that in India no receipts are given for money, and therefore you ought not to give any to Sir F Edwards (Keeper of the Privy Purse). This is a lie and means that you wish to cheat the Queen.â€Â However, Victoria dismissed the accusations and dismissed them as “shameful.â€
Still not content, the Munshi requested the Queen for the title of Nawab, and to appoint him a Knight Commander of the Order of the Indian Empire (KCIE). Elgin was horrified at the political ramifications of such a move in India. He suggested instead that she make him a Member of the Royal Victorian Order (MVO), which was in her personal gift.
Abdul returned to India in late1899 for a year during which time his father Waziruddin, described by the new Viceroy Lord Curzon as “a courtly old gentleman†died. When the Munshi finally returned to Britain, he found the Queen remarkably aged and frail. Within three months she too was dead. After her death, her son, Edward VII, immediately dismissed the Munshi and his relations from court. As per the Queen’s instructions before her death, however, the Munshi was the last to view her body before her casket was closed, and he was allowed to be part of her funeral procession.
All of the correspondence between Victoria and Abdul that could be found was burned by the new King’s orders and all the Indians at court were put on a ship back to India.â€Suddenly, the colourful turbans and the smell of curry disappeared from the royal scene. And the special connection Victoria had developed with India was severed,†wrote Banerjee.
Lady Curzon wrote in 1901,†Charlotte Knollys told me that the Munshi bogie which had frightened all the Household at Windsor for many years had proved a ridiculous farce, as the poor man had not only given up all his letters but even the photos signed by Queen and had returned to India like a whipped hound. All the Indian servants have gone back so now there is no Oriental picture & queerness at Court.â€
George, Prince of Wales, on his visit to India, wrote to the King from Agra in 1906, “In the evening we saw the Munshi. He has not grown more beautiful and is getting fat. I must say he was most civil and humble and really pleased to see us. He wore his C.V.O. which I had no idea he had got. I am told he lives quietly here and gives no trouble at all.â€
Abdul died soon after at his home, Karim Lodge, Agra in 1909. As per the instructions of Edward VII, the Commissioner of Agra W. H. Cobb went to Karim Lodge expressly to check if any correspondence between the Munshi and the Queen or her Household was left in the house. Abdul’s two wives hid the journals and diaries, but the rest of the mementoes and letters were confiscated and sent to the King.
Historians agree with that “no political papers of any kind are ever in the Munshi’s hands, even in her presence. He only helps her to read words which she cannot read or merely ordinary submissions on warrants for signature. He does not read English fluently enough to be able to read anything of importance.†The general consensus after Abdul’s death was that it was unlikely that he influenced the British government’s Indian policy or provided secrets to Muslim activists.
Abdul Karim remained steadfast in his loyalty and devotion to his Queen till the very end.
Talk about a perfect life—Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively are blond, beautiful, famous and successful movie stars, with two lovely daughters and a picture perfect house. They live an idyllic life full of sweetness, sunshine and smiles. Everything is a choice and, according to Ryan, this is a life that Blake has created for her family. Let’s see how she is achieving her dream
With her momWith her parents, Ernie & Elaine Lively
During the summer between Blake’s junior and senior years at Burbank High School, her brother Eric asked his agent to send Blake on auditions, which is how she was cast in the coming of age movie The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants (2005) alongside Amber Tamblyn, Alexis Bledel and America Ferrera. Blake caught the eye in the film and was nominated for a Teen Choice Award for Choice Movie Breakout – Female. Back in school, she became the senior class president, a cheerleader, and a member of the championship choir.
It was when she was cast as the poor little rich girl Serena van der Woodsen in the hit teen series Gossip Girl based on the bestseller book series by Cecily von Ziegesar that Lively became a household name the world over. The mega successful show ran from 2007 till 2012. During the summer hiatus of 2008, Blake reprised her role in The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 2 and by this time she had become fast friends with the actresses.
Blake was a cheerleader and senior class president in Burbank HIgh School
“I don’t want to date someone just to date someone,†Lively said in an interview for Cosmopolitan magazine that year. “I want to be with a guy who’s going to better my quality of life, better me.†She outed her relationship with her GG costar Penn Badgley at the 2008 Met Gala and continued seeing him for the next three years.
Very close to her family, Blake said that on holidays, like Christmas Day, all the siblings would stay in bed together. “Somehow we just spend seven hours a day all together just chatting and it’s really nice to have that time, because it’s rare that we get together for such a nice chunk of time. We never leave the house. We’re together all day whether we’re making gingerbread houses, or baking cookies, or sitting around and watching movies all piled up.â€
Inordinately fond of food and cooking, Blake called Martha Stewart her “idol†as well as being a fan of Nigella Lawson, a TV chef. Lively spent evenings working as a pastry chef at the renowned Per Se in New York City and took cookery classes wherever she travelled as a way of immersing herself in the local culture, including a tailor-made workshop at Le Cordon Bleu in Paris. Her ambition was to become a restaurateur and also “hoped one day to have an interior decorating company,†due to her love of “antiques, colours and textures and layering things.†Even though her GG role that she became synonymous with was of a spoilt rich girl, she was actually much more family oriented and more interested in perfecting her domestic arts rather than painting the town red like other celebrities her age. After GG ended, Blake was cast in the superhero movie Green Lantern starring Hollywood heartthrob Ryan Reynolds.
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Ryan Rodney Reynolds was born in 1976, in Vancouver, British Columbia the youngest of four brothers to James Chester “Jim†Reynolds, a food wholesaler, and Tammy, a sales assistant. The handsome blond actor is of Irish descent and was raised a Roman Catholic. His older brother became police officers, while Ryan began his showbiz career with a stint in 1991 in the Canadian teen soap Hillside. He graduated from Kitsilano Secondary School in 1994, but dropped out of Kwantlen Polytechnic University in 1996 and moved to Hollywood. His breakout role was in the hit show Sabrina the Teenage Witch with teen queen Melissa Joan Hart.
Reynolds’ next big role came in the sitcom Two Guys, a Girl and a Pizza Place (1998-2001). He had a relationship with the show’s star Traylor Howard for two years even though she was a decade older than him; then he moved on to Kristen Johnston, also a TV star nearly a decade older; till he finally started dating Rachael Leigh Cook, an actress closer to his own age.
“I’ve had four boyfriends in my whole life. I’ve never been with anyone that’s not a boyfriend. If I spend time with a man, it’s because there’s somebody that I know well who has been a friend for a whileâ€
—Blake lively
In 2008, Ryan married sex symbol Scarlett Johanssen, his girlfriend for a year, but the marriage only lasted for three years with Scarlett calling it quits citing her monogamy issues and hinting at his insecurity with her success. In the meantime, Reynolds had a big summer hit in The Proposal (2009) opposite established box office star Sandra Bullock. Not only did he effortlessly hold his own against the senior actress, but their on screen chemistry was hot, and the two ended up having a fling after his marriage had irrrvocably broken down.
Ryan was born and raised in Vancouver, Canada
When the movie’s stars Lively and Reynolds made their debut as Green Lantern costars at 2010 Comic-Con at the San Diego Convention Center, he was still married to Scarlett, and she was still dating Badgley, but they had clearly established a good rapport with each other. With Green Lantern Reynolds was expected to become an A-list leading man but when the $200 million superhero movie hit theatres, it was a disappointment for critics and audiences alike. It just barely broke even. By the end of the year, the two stars were both single. During next year’s WonderCon press conference the two stars were seen giggling and enjoying each other’s company, but they were only friends at this time. Ryan told Details, “I’m very happy not to be in a relationship right now. That’s okay. I didn’t plan on it, that’s for sure . . . but that’s okay. I’ve been in relationships pretty much since high school….Some people look at that as a good thing. I think wiser people might see that as a house of cards….Anyone that gets divorced goes through a lot of pain, but you come out of it….I’m not out of it yet. At all.â€
Men usually seek solace when experiencing pain in the arms of the next willing woman and Reynolds followed up his fling with Sandra with two more flings that year, one with German model Agnes Fischer and the next South African glamazon star Charlize Theron as salve to his ego and pain.
Meanwhile, Lively was concentrating on her career and snagged a lucrative and high profile campaign as the face of the new Gucci fragrance, Gucci Premiere. And she was the arm candy of none other than Leonardo DiCaprio who squired her around the South of France during the summer of 2011. But he is not one to settle down or even stay with any one woman for long, regardless of how good looking or sweet she may be.
Back Stateside, Reynolds and Lively started spending more time together. He later reminisced on Entertainment Weekly’s SiriusXM show, “We were buddies then. I remember it was funny because for about a year after Green Lantern had come and gone and all that stuff we were both single,†he said. “We went on a double date. She was on a date with another guy and I was on a date with another girl. That was the most awkward date for their respective probably because we were just like fireworks coming across (laughing). It was weird at first but we were buddies for a long time. I think it’s the best way to have a relationship is to start as friends.â€
Speaking about the same date to Entertainment Weekly, Blake said: “That date went well for him. I don’t know about fireworks for me. No, we were such good friends for so long and we both got to know each other as friends so when we were both single, we were still trying to find each other’s perfect date—‘Oh, who would be good for you?’
First day on the set of Green Lantern, Blake arrived with a batch of freshly baked cupcakes that Ryan devoured
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We’d sit around being like, ‘Oh jeez, do you know anyone?’ And it didn’t click for, I mean, a good year and a half. Like, ‘Oh hey, wait, hold on. We could date!’â€
Lively paid him a visit him on the set of his movie R.I.P.D., a 3D supernatural action comedy film starring Jeff Bridges, in Boston on his birthday in October with a big bouquet of balloons tied to her dog Baxter as a cute surprise. Soon they became inseparable; the new couple spent the Christmas holidays with Reynolds’ family in Vancouver where they were spotted holding hands while walking through the Granville Island Public Market. In January 2012, they were seen going for an incognito stroll in New Orleans, La. In the summer, they were back in British Columbia, visiting the Ferry Terminal in Nanaimo.
Reynold’s back to back flings after his marraige disentigrated
“They are very much in love,†a source close to the couple reportedly told press. “They rarely travel without one another.â€
“I’ve been with very few people. If I’m not with somebody who really excites or inspires me, then I’d rather be by myself,†Lively told Marie Claire. “To be around me, you must love food or I’m the most obnoxious person you’ve ever met. I’m in a big cooking phase. That’s all I’ll talk about.â€
Perhaps in anticipation of putting down roots, Lively sold her West Village apartment and bought a $2.3 million country style house in Bedford, in upstate NY with 1.7 acres of garden, a wood panelled living room, formal dining room, library and sun porch. “They keep to themselves,†said a neighbor. “They frequent the Bedford Hardware store for home improvement goods, buy groceries and go to restaurants in the area, but aren’t very talkative to the locals. They eat out a lot, and are polite, but don’t make friends with people there. The pair just want to be left alone in their home.â€
Blake sneaking out of Ryan’s Boston apartment once early morning in fall 2011
Following a romantic trip to Venice, the couple tied the knot in a super secret ceremony at Boone Hall Plantation in Mount Pleasant, South Carolina (where The Notebook was filmed) on Sept. 9th 2012 after only a year of dating They had not even announced their engagement before getting married. The bride, 25, wore a silk tulle Marchesa ball gown with rose gold embroidery and crystals while the bridegroom, 36, was in a Burberry suit. Only 35 guests were in attendance including her Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants costars — America Ferrera, Amber Tamblyn and Alexis Bledel. The ceremony was held in a rustic barn and the reception was held in a white tent at the plantation, while Blake’s good friend, British singer Florence Welch serenaded the newlyweds with three songs and Bette Midler performed as well. Blake’s elder half-sister, also an actress, Robyn Lively recreated her Teen Witch dance from the late ‘80s film classic that she had appeard in. No one, not even the performers or any guests were allowed to bring in phones and everyone was sworn to utter secrecy. Even after the wedding, no pictures were released except for those of certain details, like the bouquet, cake and dessert table, which were published in Martha Steward Living magazine. The vanilla-and-sour-cream wedding cake with peach-apricot preserves and Earl Grey-milk chocolate butter cream was made by Maggie Austin Cake in Alexandria, Virginia. Among the deserts were s’mores, espresso beans, blueberry cheesecake tartlets and lemon meringue tartlets, as well as fruit jellies and mini strawberry cupcakes.
Their super secret wedding at the Boone Hall Plantation in Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
The morning after, the couple were pictured sharing a kiss in Charleston as the bride displayed her stunning pink diamond engagement ring designed by celebrity jeweller Lorraine Schwartz, featuring a large center stone supported by a band of small diamonds. “Ryan chose Lorraine Schwartz to help him find a flawless, light pink oval diamond. They worked together to design a custom setting in rose gold and pave diamonds with a nod to deco,†a spokesperson for the jeweller said. The bride’s rose gold wedding ring, also by Schwartz, has a series of delicate diamonds to complements the engagement sparkler.
Lively settled down to domesticity well, preferring to cook at home rather than head out to expensive restaurants. “I use a lot of fresh ingredients, which really does make a huge difference. It’s easier to be healthy when eating things that are fresh, because they are often fruits and vegetables,†she said while filming a segment making Puff Pastry for Vogue.com. Her go-to recipes are sausage and brie puff pastry and rotisserie chicken.
“Right now, I’m so peaceful. I’ve never been happier in my life. He treats me like a queen,†announced newly wed Blake
Even Martha Steward called her “a groovy cook.â€
The newlyweds took a romantic trip to Paris that winter. An eyewitness told Us magazine “They were kissing the entire time. The locals said hello, but they were only interested in each other.â€
Always known for her unerring fashion sense, Blake’s sartorial style climbed a notch even higher after her wedding. She said, “It’s (fashion) such a passion of mine. That’s the reason I don’t have a stylist, not because I think I can do it better than any of these people, but because I just love it so much that it would be like handing over something.â€
As the face of Gucci Première
Lively’s career chart continued to progress and, in 2013, the blond actress scored her first major makeup campaign as the new face of L’Oreal, The next year she launched a lifestyle digital magazine and e-commerce website with artisanal hand-made one-of-a-kind items that she personally selected called Preserve. The products she was hawking were too expensive for the average consumer. The site never really took off and sensibly she shut it down after only a year, claiming that she had launched it before it was ready and she would redo it and relaunch it later.
Lively’s failed e-commerce website PreserveThe Age of Adaline
Lively returned to her lucrative film career and started filming for the The Age of Adaline with Harrison Ford in a cameo role. She plays a woman who “stops aging after recovering from a near-fatal accident,†but the film was only a modest success.
The Reynolds made a string of glamorous, high profile appearances that garnered them much publicity. First stop was at the 2014 Met Gala. However, the genetically blessed married couple skipped the after parties to eat hot fudge sundaes with peanut butter sauce at NYC hot spot Serendipity despite being all glammed up. Right after they graced the red carpet of the 67th Cannes Film Festival to attend the screening of Canadian independent film Captives, starring Ryan Reynolds
Ryan declared on The Late Show With David Letterman, “I’m not one for vomiting declarations of sentiment out across the airwaves, but when we had that baby, I fell more in love with my wife than I’d ever been in my entire life. I couldn’t even believe it….I used to say to (Blake), ‘I would take a bullet for you. I could never love anything as much as I love you.’ And the second I looked in that baby’s eyes, I knew in that exact moment that if we were ever under attack, I would use my wife as a human shield to protect that baby.â€
NEW YORK, NY – OCTOBER 20: Actress Blake Lively (L) and Ryan Reynolds attend Angel Ball 2014 hosted by Gabrielle’s Angel Foundation at Cipriani Wall Street on October 20, 2014 in New York City. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images for Gabrielle’s Angel Foundation)
Lively shared her marital bliss with Marie Claire , “We’ve never gone a week without seeing each other. He’s my best, best friend. If I could spit out a litter of kids, I would.â€
And she did, having her first, a daughter who looks just like her who they named James, on Dec 16th 2014. The wary couple kept the birth under wraps for weeks before any public announcement was made.
A striking resemblance— Blake (left) & daughter James (right)
On Valentine’s Day 2015, Ryan said, “One of the most common things in the world is making out, having a couple of drinks, and then doing it, and then having a baby. I was perfectly sober for this one though. I gotta say,†he joked. “It’s amazing. I just always marvel how common it is and yet how profound it is. And I always laugh because you know celebrities you always cringe when they talk about their kids. Like ‘my child is the only one that has ever exited a womb out, ever. Amid his laughter he continued, “Well, a lot of people have done this, so you always want to temper it with a little of self-effacement. But I love it. I truly worship that kid. It’s terrible. She has me so far wrapped around her finger it’s dumb. She says ‘dada’ and I will walk through a cement wall to get to her.â€
“I was recently asked how my style has changed since I got married, as if I was living under some sort of dictatorship. I’m very lucky to be with someone who has better taste than me. We influence each other in different waysâ€
CANNES, FRANCE – MAY 14: Blake Lively attends “The BFG (Le Bon Gros Geant – Le BGG)” premiere during the 69th annual Cannes Film Festival at the Palais des Festivals on May 14, 2016 in Cannes, France. (Photo by Pascal Le Segretain/Getty Images)
Still a working actress, Blake accepted the challenge of filming the movie The Shallows mostly in a bikini after the birth. Lively had been known for her incredible 5’10†tall and curvaceous but slim body before pregnancy. To get fit for her upcoming role, Blake hired a personal trainer who made her exercise for 90 minutes each day. Her circuit training regime included squats, lunges, push-ups and planking. The exercise did more for her than lose the baby weight she’d gained. She said, “I worked out with an amazing trainer Don Saladino. He kicked my butt. It was also eight months after having a baby so my body was already completely different than what it normally was. Not just aesthetically but also your muscles are different, your body, everything is just shifted and changed.â€
Then speaking about the actual intense filming, she told E! News: “It was really crazy. But it was also nice to have that motivation because I wouldn’t have done that. I wouldn’t have gotten in that kind of shape. It was like training for a marathon, but a marathon is one day. This was six weeks straight, six-day weeks, no lunch breaks, thirteen-hour days, four-foot waves at all times. By the time I was done with the movie…I had muscles that I had never had before.†In the film, Lively has absolutely flat abs and there is not an inch of fat or loose skin anywhere.
Then in 2016, Reynolds finally hit the big time when Deadpool, the eighth installment of the X-Men film series, was released having been in inception since 2004. After a new type of viral marketing campaign, the film earned over $783 million dollars, becoming the overall highest-grossing R-rated film as well as the highest grossing X-Men film to date. Script writer Rhett Reese described Reynolds’ role being instrumental in ensuring the success of the movie by being “the keeper of the Deadpool flame for many years … if we ever do something that is off the Deadpool path, or if it doesn’t feel like Deadpool, he catches it.†His tenacity paid off and finally Ryan had a superhero franchise of his own, with a sequel announced after the movie’s mega success.
“Everything we do in life we do together. I get to share my life with the person he’s become, and we get to grow from thereâ€
—blake
Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively arrive for the State Dinner in honor of Prime Minister Trudeau and Mrs. Sophie Trudeau of Canada at the White House
The same year, Blake gave birth to their second daughter Ines. After having a second child, Ryan admitted that parenting gives him anxiety, because he now finds he is constantly in a rush and has to cram things into short bursts of time, “I think you’re just more desperate in everything you do, ‘cause you’re like, ‘I’ve got 10 minutes to do this, and then I gotta get home. There’s just no time anymore, so you’re hardened by it. Anxiety, I think, that’s probably it.†He said that earlier he didn’t think he would make a good dad because of his not having had a good relationship with his own father, but Blake assured him he would and patiently schooled him in becoming a hands on dad, changing diapers and cleaning spit up.
On December 15th 2016, Reynolds received a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, at 6801 Hollywood Boulevard. His beautiful wife, toddler daughter and new baby were all there with him to share in his honour. In another landmark, Blake took Ryan to Japanese restaurant O Ya in NYC to celebrate his 40th birthday. Blake, in a rare public declaration paid tribute to her husband, posting on Insta, “We fell in love at your restaurant in Boston. We stay in love at your restaurant in NY. Thank you for the BEST food and memories!†In the photo, Reynolds holds a picture of the two, making the same pose, in a shot taken five years prior to this.
Lively celebrated Ryan’s 40th birthday in the Japanese restaurant OYa, NYC. They had gone to OYa, Boston, for their first date five years earlier
During this year’s Met Gala, Humans of New York shared Ryan Reynolds’ heartfelt message about his other half on. Ryan was quoted gushing about some of Blake’s best qualities, “She always responds with empathy. She meets anger with empathy. She meets hate with empathy. She’ll take the time to imagine what happened to a person when they were five or six years old.†He added that she had made him a more empathetic person by helping him strengthen his relationship with his dad. “I had a very fractured relationship with my father. Before he died, she made me remember things I didn’t want to remember. She made me remember the good times.â€
BEVERLY HILLS, CA – JANUARY 08: 74th ANNUAL GOLDEN GLOBE AWARDS — Pictured: (l-r) Actor Ryan Reynolds and actress Blake Lively arrive to the 74th Annual Golden Globe Awards held at the Beverly Hilton Hotel on January 8, 2017. (Photo by Neilson Barnard/NBCUniversal/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD, LOS ANGELES, CA, USA – DECEMBER 15: Actor Ryan Reynolds and wife/actress Blake Lively and daughter James Reynolds and newly born daughter attend a ceremony honoring Ryan Reynolds with a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame – Dedication of the 2,596th star on the Walk of Fame in the category of Motion Pictures on December 15, 2015 in Hollywood, Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Xavier Collin/Image Press/Splash News)
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While Blake told USA Today: “We’ve both given up projects that we really love because we can’t keep our family together. People often think their career is something they have to chase and maintain, but for us, we said, ‘Let’s always chase and maintain our personal life.’ This is a career that’s like the stock market: You’ve got to stay hot while you’re hot. But your family, that’s the real thing that gives you security and success and happiness.†And that is the secret to her success.
This mega successful power couple of the music industry has collaborated on numerous hit albums, three kids and has had their share of public drama. Despite Beyonce’s determination to keep her personal life away from scrutiny and micromanaging the couple’s public image, the façade of their perfect marriage shattered when her sister Solange was caught on camera kicking Jay Z’s ass in an elevator of The Standard hotel following the 2014 Met Gala’s after party in New York City. Cheating rumors have dogged Jay Z for years and now there was proof that where there was smoke there was fire. Though the family hushed up the story at the time, Beyonce hit back with her bestselling album Lemonade two years later in which she powerfully addresses her marital issues. This is how you deal with your problems in a controlled, systematic, well thought out and intelligent manner
Shawn Carter was born in Brooklyn in 1969 where he was raised in a housing project alongside his three siblings. His parents’ taste in music had a profound influence on the little boy who grew up listening to their record collection of soul artists such as Marvin Gaye and Donny Hathaway. He said, “I grew up around music, listening to all types of people… I’m into music that has soul in it, whether it be rap, R&B, pop music, whatever, as long as I can feel their soul through the wax.†Their father abandoned the family early on, and their mother, Gloria Carter raised her kids single handedly. Just prior to his death in 2003 Jay Z’s father finally reconciled with his superstar son.
Shawn had a tough street childhood. According to his lyrics in 1982, at the age of 12, he shot his older brother in the shoulder for stealing his jewellery. At the same time as AZ, another future rapper, he attended the troubled Eli Whitney High School, a vocational school in Brooklyn, until it was shut down due to too much student violence in the halls. He then attended the George Westinghouse Career and Technical Education High School with future rappers The Notorious B.I.G. and Busta Rhymes, followed by a brief period at Trenton Central High School in New Jersey, but he did not manage to graduate high school. By his own admission, during this period he sold crack cocaine and was shot at three times.
According to his mother, Shawn used to wake up his siblings at night banging out drum patterns on the kitchen table, so she saved up and bought him a boom box for his birthday, further fueling his interest in music. This was the time that hip hop was growing as a music movement. Young Shawn too started free styling and writing lyrics and became known as Jazzy around the neighborhood, which he changed to Jay-Z in homage to his mentor rapper/producer Jaz-O.
Jay Z’s mother raised her kids single handely living in a housing project in a tough Brooklyn neighbourhood
In the early 1990s, Jay-Z got caught up in several battles with the popular rapper LL Cool J, already a success having released four albums, the fourth becoming a double platinum, and even having won a Grammy. The rap culture was rife with open gun violence and demanded that rappers have authentic “street cred.â€Â Finally, Jay-Z started to gain some recognition touring with established rapper and MC Big Daddy Kane. Kane said Jay-Z “wasn’t a hypeman, he basically made cameo appearances on stage. When I would leave the stage to go change outfits, I would bring out Jay-Z and Positive K and let them freestyle until I came back to the stage.â€
Jay-Z’s first official rap single was called In My Lifetime, which he produced himself and paid for the music video. Not offered a single record deal, determined Jay-Z sold CDs out of his car and with business partners, Damon Dash and Kareem Biggs, created Roc-A-Fella Records as an independent record label in 1995 that released Jay’s 1996 debut album Reasonable Doubt. It had beats from acclaimed producers such as DJ Premier and Super DJ Clark Kent and an appearance by The Notorious B.I.G.. The album that no big label had been willing to produce reached number 23, reached platinum status and was No. 248 on the Billboard 200 in Rolling Stone’s 500 Greatest Albums of All Time. The trio never looked back and they were on their way to becoming mega successful entrepreneurs.
This time with a distribution deal with Def Jam in 1997, Jay Z released his follow-up In My Lifetime, Vol. 1. produced by Sean “Puff Daddy†Combs. Jay-Z later said that this album was made during one of the worst periods of his life, after the drive-by shooting death of his close friend The Notorious B.I.G. who is considered to be not only one of the most influential rappers of all time known for his dark autobiographical lyrics, but was also the central figure of the East Coast hip hop scene as opposed to the West Coast that became popular first. Jay-Z too recounted true stories of his difficult upbringing and the album earned platinum status.
The Knowles
In 1998, Jay-Z released Vol. 2… Hard Knock Life with the hit track Hard Knock Life (Ghetto Anthem) that had more flow and wordplay, and mined beats from popular producers like  Swizz Beatz, an in-house producer for Timbaland. In 2000, Jay Z released the more soulful album The Dynasty: Roc La Familia, which helped introduce newcomers including Kanye West. The Blueprint with Eminem as a guest rapper, which Jay had written in just two days and quickly released after the 9/11 attack, debuted at number one on the Billboard 200 and reached 2x platinum status.
In 1999, both Jay-Z and Damond Dash romantically pursued the talented and popular R&B singer/actress Aaliyah who Dash won over before her tragic and untimely death in a plane crash in the Bahamas after filming a music video. This love dynamic the two business partners were to repeat years later. Though Dash was said to be engaged to Aaliyah, it was Jay Z who wrote the song Miss You after her death.
The business partners also launched Rocawear, a company that would go on to have an annual $700 million turnover. A budding fashion designer of a Bengali Indian father and Dutch mother, Californian Rachel Roy joined the startup as an intern. She would work her way up the ladder and would play a big part in both men’s lives.
In October 2001, Jay Z pleaded guilty to stabbing record producer Lance Rivera at the Kit Kat Klub in New York City in 1999 and was sentenced to three years probation for the second degree felony. This was the time when he met an eighteen year old singing sensation Beyonce, a part of the best selling girl group off all time, Destiny’s Child, who would curb his wild ways.
In 1995, Mathew Knowles resigned from his job to manage the girls’ group full time. The family income was reduced by half, and they had to downsize. The girls’ group continued performing as an opening act for other R&B girls’ groups and kept auditioning before record labels hoping to get a break. During this tough financial time, Tina separated from Mathew but he still didn’t give up on his golden songstress daughter.
Michelle Williams, Beyonce & Kelly Rowland made up the hit girls’ group Destiny’s Child
Finally, in 1996 the group got a contract with Columbia Records under the new name Destiny’s Child based upon a biblical passage and the following year released their debut song Killing Time on the soundtrack to the 1997 Will Smith sci-fi blockbuster, Men in Black; they had finally hit the big time. The group’s self-titled debut album had the its first major hit No, No, No; its multi-platinum second album The Writing’s on the Wall (1999) had the group’s first number-one single, Jumpin’ Jumpin’ as well as Say My Name, which won two R&B awards at the 43rd Annual Grammys. The Writing’s on the Wall sold more than eight million copies worldwide, making the teenage girls household names.
In 2000, the song Independent Women Part I was featured on the soundtrack of the hit movie Charlie’s Angels and topped the U.S. Billboard Hot 100 chart for eleven consecutive weeks. The group’s third album Survivor was released just a year later, debuting at number one on the U.S. Billboard 200. Beyonce’s curves became synonymous with the track Bootylicious and the title track Survivor won a Grammy Award in the R&B category. After releasing their holiday album 8 Days of Christmas in fall 2001, the hard working group announced a hiatus to pursue their solo careers.
The ever enterprising Jay-Z after visiting the South of France opened the upscale 40/40 Club in NYC in 2003, the first in a chain of sports bars known for their live music, celebrity patrons, and sports memorabilia. Great at marketing, he cleverly mentioned the bar in his song Dirt Off Your Shoulder: “Now you chillin’ with a boss, bitch of course SC on the sleeve/at the 40/40 club ESPN on the screen.â€
At the opening of the sports bar, he announced his eighth album, The Black Album featuring producers such as Kanye West, Timbaland and Eminem among many others. He has such clout and such a successful track record that all the bright stars of the industry want to work with him. Jay brags about his hot girlfriend Beyonce on the track, Public Service Announcement, rapping “I got the hottest chick in the game wearing my chain.â€
“I was 18 when we first met, 19 when we started dating. There was no rush. No one expected me to run off and get married. We were friends first, for a year and a half, before we went on any date, (we were) on the phone for a year and a half. And that foundation is so important in a relationship. And just to have someone that you just like, is so important. And someone that is honest.” –Beyonce
Jay-Z also collaborated with R. Kelly, ex-husband of the late Aaliyah, on a collaborative studio album, The Best of Both Worlds. At the end of the year, Jay held a charity concert—billed as a “retirement partyâ€â€”at NYC’s Madison Square Garden, the footage of which was later used in his rockumentay/hip hop film Fade to Black. Missy Elliott, Mary J. Blige, Foxy Brown, Pharrell Williams, R. Kelly and Beyonce were just some of the big names that headlined the show. He also invited the mothers of The Notorious B.I.G. and Tupac Shakur in memory of his dead friends.
Beyonce, right, is joined by boyfriend Jay-Z as they perform during the 6th annual BET Awards on Tuesday, June 27, 2006, in Los Angeles. (AP Photo/Chris Carlson)
Making their first public appearance as a couple at the 2004 MTV Video Music Awards in colour coordinated outfits
As President of Def Jam, Jay-Z signed the phenomenally talented new artist Rihanna to an astonishing six-record recording deal in 2005. The record company executives literally wouldn’t let the Barbadian teenager leave the building till she had signed on the dotted line lest she sign with a rival company. Jay and Rihanna began a close working relationship and a year into it, rumors that the two were hooking up were rife. We still don’t know how much truth there is to the rumours, however, as neither addressed them.
In 2006, when Jay-Z released his comeback album Kingdom Come, featuring the song Lost One, the track’s somber lyrics fuelled speculation that the pair’s relationship was on the rocks. He raps: “I don’t think it’s meant to be, B/But she loves her work more than she does me/And honestly, at 23/ I would probably love my work more than I did she.†These lines are about trying to have a real, serious relationship with another ambitious and super busy high profile professional. This song was in complete contrast to his earlier songs like Big Pimpin’, where women exist almost completely as predators or objects. It’s about respecting the woman you are with and a real relationship of equals. The duo was listed as the most powerful couple for TIME magazine’s 100 most influential people of 2006.
It was speculated that Beyonce’s song Ring That Alarm was about Jay-Z cheating on her with Rihanna
On April 4th (4/4, their favourite number and both their birthdays) 2008, Jay and Bey married at a private ceremony at the bride groom’s massive Tribeca apartment in NYC. A source told the press: “Jay wanted it to be a really private affair – close friends and family.†The bride wore a dress designed by her mother, Tina, and instead of wedding rings, the couple opted for matching tattoos of the Roman numeral four (IV) on their ring fingers as a permanent mark of their commitment to one another. The Carters went to a super exclusive resort in the Maldives for their honeymoon.
Photo tweeted by the Obama 2012 Campaign showing President Barack Obama greeting Jay-Z and Beyonce during a campaign fundraiser at the 40/40 Club in New York Tuesday, Sept. 19, 2012. The caption read” A couple supporters in a New York state of mind last night.”
The Carters are great supporters/friends of the Obamas and Beyonce sang at both of the ex-President’s inaugurals
In an interview for Essence magazine later that year, Bey was unusually candid about her private life, explaining that it was a joint decision to keep quiet about their relationship, “We decide everything. My word is my word. What Jay and I have is real. It’s not about interviews or getting the right photo op. It’s real.†She also said that their wedding was “small, intimate, and drama-free.â€
Beyonce publicly revealed their marriage in a video montage at the listening party for her third studio album, I Am… Sasha Fierce, in Manhattan’s Sony Club six months later. Sasha Fierce is Beyonce’s powerful alter ego. The album featured the number-one songs Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It), a favourite of ex-President Barack Obama’s who is also a big fan of her husband’s work, as well as Halo, the longest-running Hot 100 single in her career. With these songs, she attained more top ten singles on the list than any other woman during the 2000s. She also starred as a blues singer in the 2008 musical biopic Cadillac Records. Jay Z too became the first hip hop artist to headline UK’s Glastonbury Festival. In January 2009, Forbes ranked them as Hollywood’s top earning couple, with a combined total of $162 million. They also made it to the top of the list the following year, with a combined total of $122 million between June 2008 and June 2009.
LOS ANGELES, CA – AUGUST 28: Singer Beyonce arrives at the 2011 MTV Video Music Awards at Nokia Theatre L.A. LIVE on August 28, 2011 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jason Merritt/Getty Images)
In late 2013, Beyonce released a visual albgy gown to the MTV Video Music Awards in 2um and a string of video features where she spoke candidly about home life for the very first time: “Nothing feels like my child singing ‘mummy.’ No, nothing feels like when I look my husband in the eyes, nothings feels like when I’m respected, when I get on the stage and I see I’m changing people’s lives.”
Beyonce didn’t share when exactly she had a miscarriage in the early stages of her pregnancy, just that she did. “I flew back to New York to get my check up—and no heartbeat,†she recalled sadly in the HBO documentary Life Is But a Dream. ‘Literally the week before I went to the doctor, everything was fine, but there was no heartbeat.â€
NEW YORK, NY – MAY 04: Beyonce and Jay Z attend the “China: Through The Looking Glass” Costume Institute Benefit Gala at the Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 4, 2015 in New York City. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images)
Beyonce makes quite a fashionable entrance at the Met Gala 2015 after the debacle at the previous year’s party
Luckily she became pregnant again in 2011 and this time she would bear the baby full term. After cautiously keeping the pregnancy a secret, she decided not to say anything but let the image do the talking by wearing a red clingy gown to the MTV Video Music Awards in 2011, rubbing her pregnant belly during a performance of Love On Top and saying “Tonight I want you to stand up on your feet, I want you to feel the love that’s growing inside of me,†the mosttweeted moment of the year. and unbuttoning her blazer at the end and proudly rubbing her stomach.
Solange kicking and punching Jay Z in The Standard hotel elevator when the 2014 Met Gala post party went viral after it was leaked to TMZ
Jay Z holding his cheek after the incident
A source revealed to a reporter, “Rachel used to be an intern at Rocawear back in the day. It was alleged that Jay and Dash would pass girls around that office. Jay’s partying shot when the music label split was, ‘and I had your wife'”
Later she said: “I didn’t want a crazy picture or gossip story to break the news, so I decided to say nothing and proudly show my baby bump.â€
Indian-Dutch Californian fashion designer Rachel Roy
In an interview she said, “being pregnant was very much like falling in love. You are so open. You are so overjoyed. There’s no words that can express having a baby growing inside of you, so of course you want to scream it out and tell everyone. ‘I felt the baby kick for the first time. Kicked five times.â€
Following the baby news the pair gradually grew more and more comfortable with PDAs (public displays of affection). They were even spotted on double dates with fellow high-profile pals Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow.
Always the hard working, thorough professional, she dropped another number one album with the popular tracks: Run the World (Girls) and Best Thing I Never Had.
Beyonce’s visual album Lemonade was a huge critical and commercial success
Rita Ora posted a picture of herself wearing a bra with lemons on it and a necklace with the inital J, but then denied being the other woman after getting trolled by Beyonce fans called Bey-hive
With their marriage going well, the couple celebrated their four-year wedding anniversary by renewing their vows in front of a star-studded group of friends and family, which reportedly included Oprah Winfrey, in early 2012. A few days later, Jay Z was spotted leaving jewellers Jacob. And Co. sporting a new gold ring on his ring finger.
Bey sported a t-shirt with Aaliyah (Dash’s late ex-fiancee) on it to get back at Rachel
Beyonce went on a sell-out Mrs. Carter World Tour around the globe, and shared with her fans an intimate look at family life with candid behind-the-scenes pictures of the couple kissing and holding each other.
When Jay received the Grammy for Holy Grail, his Justin Timberlake collaboration, he pointed to Bey and said, “I want to thank God, I mean a little for this award, but mostly for that and all the universes for conspiring and putting that beautiful light of a young woman in my life. And I want to tell Blue that look, Daddy got a gold sippy cup for you!â€
Comparing his hard life growing up without a father to how he was planning to bring her up, he said on MTV,“I was going to have to go through some things, and they were preparing me. She has to love herself, she has to know who she is, she has to be respectful and be a moral person.â€
In addition to his record company, Jay Z has many other investments and sources of income. He is the co-brand director for Budweiser Select, advising on strategic marketing programs for media and high profile events as well as creative ad development He has been a part-owner of the Brooklyn Nets NBA team. He has launched his own sports agency, Roc Nation Sports, his own Life + Times website, real estate development company, J Hotels, which owns a $66 million mid-block parcel in Chelsea, NYC, as a potential site for a 12 storey hotel and/or art gallery, has invested $200 million in Armand de Brignac champagne owned Sovereign Brands, a New York-based wine and spirits company, and even has his own brand of Cuban cigars. In an interview, he said, “my brands are an extension of me. They’re close to me. It’s not like running GM (General Motors) where there’s no emotional attachment.â€
Jay and Bey overtook supermodel Gisele Bundchen and pro quarterback footballer Tom Brady as Forbes magazine’s highest-paid celebrity couple in 2012, with an estimated total income of $78 million combined.
Beyonce sat down for a long interview with Oprah, in which she opened up about her marriage. “I would not be the woman I am if I did not go home to that man. It gives me such a foundation.†She also described her earlier miscarriage as being “one of the hardest things I’ve been through.â€
But soon all was to be revealed. By April 2014, the uber successful music couple had sold a combined 300 million records together, but all was not well at home. At the Met Gala 2014 after party in The Standard Hotel, Jay Z was seen bumping into Rachel Roy by Solange Knowles. Rachel had also climbed the career ladder and had been made creative director of women’s and children’s lines at Rocawear clothing in 2001. Four years later, Rachel married Dash, amid rumours she had already enjoyed a brief fling with Jay Z, which is alleged to have cemented their closeness over the years.
Pregnant with twins
Rachel’s blossoming relationship with Kim Kardashian, whose soon to be husband Kanye West was close friends with Jay Z, was another link between them. By this time, Rachel had gotten divorced from Dash and was close to Jay after two decades of association. This was a relationship that Bey didn’t trust or like. Solange and Rachel even exchanged words at the party after the latter had spoken to Jay. Solange, Jay and Beyonce were leaving the party when in the elevator the camera recorded a heated exchange in which Solange actually physically attacked her brother in law who to his credit did not defend himself. In the full three-minute video, a bodyguard has to physically restrain Solange as she tries to repeatedly punch and kick Jay Z. The recording was leaked to TMZ and went viral.
In the morning the Knowles-Carter family tried to whitewash the story by issuing a statement: “As a result of the public release of the elevator security footage from Monday, May 5th, there has been a great deal of speculation about what triggered the unfortunate incident. But the most important thing is that our family has worked through it. Jay and Solange each assume their share of responsibility for what has occurred. They both acknowledge their role in this private matter that has played out in the public. They both have apologized to each other and we have moved forward as a united family. The reports of Solange being intoxicated or displaying erratic behavior throughout that evening are simply false. At the end of the day, families have problems and we’re no different. We love each other and above all we are family. We’ve put this behind us and hope everyone else will do the same.â€
Jay, Barack and Bruce at the Songwriters Hall of Fame Induction Ceremony 2017
The sisters also posted a series of happy pictures of them together on Instagram before 7 a.m. New York time the day after the footage was leaked.
Bey and Jay’s absence at Kim and Kanye’s wedding that year was conspicuous. They were on holiday at the time in Europe and could easily have made it. Perhaps it was due to Rachel Roy’s attendance at the wedding that kept them at bay. Beyonce has remained cold to Kim despite the fact that their husbands were friends, and Kanye had even caused embarrassment to himself when he disrupted Taylor Swift’s speech at the 2009 VMAs and insisted that Beyonce deserved have rightfully won the award. Kim has also repeatedly made overtures towards Beyonce but only to be repeatedly publically rebuffed.
Rumours continue to dog Bey and Jay with claims that they were planning a trial separation but did not want to go ahead with a divorce due to their complicated financial and work entanglements. A source told The New York Post’s Page Six: “They are trying to figure out a way to split without divorcing. This is a huge concert tour and they’ve already gotten most of the money from the promoters up front. There are no (wedding) rings (currently on their fingers), if you haven’t noticed.â€
The Carters are a family of five now after the birth of twins
In one song, named Sorry, Beyonce sings the following lines discussing the break-down of a relationship and the presence of another woman: “So what are you gonna say at my funeral now that you’ve killed me?/Here lies the body of the love of my life/whose heart I broke without a gun to my head./He better call Becky with the good hair.â€
Nivrutti Munim was born in Bombay in 1955 the youngest of nine sisters and one brother in a Gujarati Jain family residing in Bhuleshwar, an older South Mumbai neighbourhood where most of the Gujarati community resided. Inspired by her elder sister Bhawna, a model, Nivrutti adopted the Anglicised name Tina and entered the beauty pageant circuit. Fair, pretty and slim, she was crowned Femina Teen Princess India 1975 and subsequently represented India at the International Teen Contest in Aruba 1978; she became the 2nd runner up and won the Miss Photogenic and Miss Bikini awards.
After appearing in a toothpaste commercial, Tina caught the eye of producer/director/star Dev Anand who cast her as his leading lady in Des Pardes (1978), which became a big hit. He cast her in two more films with him in the lead, Lootmaar and Man Pasand, which also became blockbusters quickly making her a household name. The press linked her with the elderly lothario who had launched her into films and whose production house she was signed to, a claim she denied later. Tina had been childhood friends with bad boy star kid Sanjay Dutt and they became sweethearts. When Sunil Dutt launched his son in Rocky (1981) and Tina was cast as the movie’s leading lady, she not only left Dev Anand’s “camp†but also turned down two other romantic films that went on to become big grossers: Rajendra Kumar’s film Love Story introducing his son Kumar Gaurav and Ek Duje Ke Liye starring South Indian popular actor Kamal Haasan. Tina dimmed her light to play the supportive girlfriend, but Sanjay was heavily into alcohol and drugs. Despite several interventions by friends and family, Sanjay was badly addicted and eventually the two broke up.
Des Pardes with elederly lothario Dev Anand who launched her in her film career
Tina’s rapid climb to success via the men in her life
With boyfriend Sanjay Dutt, her co-star in Rocky
Tina was paired with the superstar Rajesh Khanna in a total of 11 films of which 8 were released and became huge hits including Souten and Bewafai. In their personal life too, the pair clicked. After his divorce from Dimple Kapadia, Khanna took up with Tina in 1980. She moved in to his palatial house Aashirwaad on Carter Road, but he never sealed the deal by marrying her. Towards the end of this scandalous, by the standards of the time, live in relationship, she attended a Gujarati wedding wearing a black sari. Traditional Gujarati wedding colours are red and gold, and she was the only one dressed minimally. A Gujarati industrialist’s son couldn’t help but notice the stylish Bollywood star, and thought himself how pretty and different she was. This young man was Anil Dhirubhai Ambani who would go on to transform her life.
Tina played the heroine in 11 Rajesh Khanna starrers as well moved in with him in his house after his divorce from Dimple Kapadia
Sex symbol
Three years younger than Tina, Anil was the son of one of India’s leading industrialists Dhirubhai Ambani of Reliance Group. He had gotten his Masters degree from the Wharton School of Finance at the University of Pennsylvania and had brought his modern ideas back with him with which he was modernizing his father’s business. A few months later, Anil ran into Tina in Philadelphia and was formally introduced to her. He asked her out, but being a star often propositioned by random men she was standoffish. Besides she was still living with Rajesh, who was not marrying her. In 1986, after she broke up with her older lover, Tina was again introduced to Anil by her nephew who insisted she meet this eligible Gujarati boy. She agreed to meet him reluctcantly, but kept dilly dallying. When she finally capitulated and met him, she was struck by how straight forward and genuine he was, saying simply to her, “You are pretty.â€
The Gujarati business tycoon Dhirubhai Ambani with Mukesh & Anil Ambani
CAPTION CORRECTION- CORRECTING NAMES AND ADDS IDENTIFICATION Vice Chairman and Managing Director Mukesh Ambani (L-standing), Managing Director Anil Ambani (R-standing) and Chairman Dhirubhai Ambani (seated) of the Reliance Group pose for a photograph at their residence in Bombay November 3, 2000. Few analysts find it strange that two brothers run the $13.2 billion petrochem-to-telecoms giant Reliance Group, the countrys‘ largest by sales, assets and profits. Picture taken November 3, 2000. REUTERS/Jayanta Saha TO ACCOMPANY FEATURE INDIA-BUSINESS-FAMILIES
Kokilaben & Dhirubhai Ambani
On the talk show, Rendezvous with Simi Garewal, Tina recounted their first date, “The first time I met him, I was quite struck by his simplicity. I found him very upfront and genuine….He was unlike the other men I had met, because most of the guys I met were from films. Also, we spoke the same language, not literally, but we were brought up in a similar manner.â€
Anil agreed on the show about their affinity to each other, “When you meet someone from the film fraternity, you have certain notions about them. I have known many people from that industry, but she is just different. The attraction came about only after I met her.â€
Anil knew that he had found The One, while Tina realized that he was the kind of marriage material guy she needed to settle down with. But it was not to be that easy. They dated only a few months before the budding romance was splashed all over the tabloids and the conservative Ambanis were not amused. Their son wanted to marry a scandalous actress who had openly been living with a man. Anil’s parents asked him to end this relationship, which could have no future. The dutiful son promptly complied by breaking up with Tina after explaining the situation to her. Tina’s film career was already at its tail end. After yet another failed romance, disheartened, she decided in 1987 to leave for Los Angeles to qualify as an interior designer.
Extremely lavish but traditional Gujarati wedding
The two had no contact for the next four years, even though Anil said of his feelings at this time, “There was a lot of pain. A feeling of great loss!â€
Then one day after a big earthquake hit the Los Angeles area, Anil called up Tina to check if she was safe. She greeted him warmly and said she was fine. Anil abruptly disconnected the call. After he hung up, Tina was flabbergasted that he called her out of the blue and then hung up so quickly. She recalled, “That was the time I was so upset and crying away. And, I asked myself why this guy called me, came into my life, and revived all the feelings? Obviously he cared that’s why he wanted to know whether I am OK or not. But, he did not even complete the conversation. The least he could do is complete the conversation.†It was an emotional blow for her. For the first time, she realised that Anil really cared for her.
On their first date, Anil said simply to Tina, “you are pretty”
Anil explained his side, “There was no conversation to be held. It would have been a sob-sob conversation, because when you are talking to someone you love so much after three to four years, you get into it.â€
Though he could have had his pick of girls, Anil all this time kept trying to convince his parents to let him marry Tina. She in her turn had kept her head down and did not make any waves. Finally, seeing their son’s loyalty and commitment to Tina, they caved. With his parents blessing, Anil again called her up, and asked her when she would return to Bombay. Still smarting from his abrupt call two years prior, she brushed him off saying “soon†but not thinking anything of it she kept postponing her plans. After six weeks of this cat and mouse game, Anil told her that if she did not come this time, he would not call her again. Hearing the seriousness in his voice, she said, “That was when I realised that something is going on and I shouldn’t miss this. Now, I should go back, and that following week, I came back.â€
The very next day, Anil picked her up and immediately took her to his home to meet his parents. He recalled, “Even before she came back to India, I had very clearly laid out a plan. This is the day she will meet my parents, this is the day will get engaged, this is the day we will get married and this would be the location.â€
Anil Ambani with sons, Anmol & Anshul
When Anil left Tina with his family, his older brother, Mukesh Ambani, casually asked Tina how she felt about getting married the next month. She said that she was shocked when she realised that once the parental consent was given how quickly they were to be married. After this, Anil only had her family to contend with.
Anil said, “I went to her house in Khar. Tina’s sister and brother-in-law were there. They both were quite shocked to see me because they didn’t know what was going on (in Mumbai). Her brother-in-law went inside to tell her mother. She was shocked to see me. I said that you love your daughter, Tina, very much, and she said, ‘yes, absolutely.’ I said that ‘if that is the case, then you can keep her here otherwise, I very much want to marry her.’â€
The billionaire brothers with their wives, Nita & Tina
Tina & Anil with the Spielbergs at the Golden Globes 2013 representing their co-production Lincoln
When Tina’s mother figured out that the son of India’s richest man was asking for her daughter’s hand in marriage, she was overjoyed and took his hand in gratitude. Anil and Tina got married only six weeks later in February 1991 in a lavish but traditional Gujarati wedding. Tina wore a red Gujarati bridal sari with heavy gold Gujarati jewellery. Anil wore a cream coloured sherwani with gold embroidery and a Maharaja’s multi strand pearl necklace.
Tina, after leading an independent life, moved in with her in laws. When the former sex symbol was asked how she felt about staying in a joint family system, she said, “I have all the freedom that I want. If at all there is a restriction, it has been put by me. I believe that in our culture and our society, it’s not only the guy you are getting married to, the family is also apart of the marriage. I was brought up like this, so this hasn’t been difficult for me.â€
The couple has two sons, Jai Anmol Ambani and Jai Anshul Ambani, who Tina said have been brought up in as simple a manner as possible and don’t make many public appearances.
Sibling Rivalry
Mukesh Dhirubhai Ambani
Net worth: $31.3 Billion (as of March 2017)
Chairman & MD, Reliance Industries,
inherited their father’s core
businesses, which he made even more profitable
Reliance Group
Reliance Industries,
Reliance Petroleum (RPL)
Indian Petrochemicals Corporation Ltd (IPCL)
Reliance Industrial Infrastructure Ltd (RIIL)
Anil Dhirubhai Ambani
Net worth:$2.9 billion (as of March 2017)
Chairman, Anil Dhirubhai Ambani Group (ADAG)
inherited the newer companies, which suffered losses
Reliance Communications (RCOM)
Reliance Capital (RCL)
Reliance Energy (REL) Reliance Natural Resources
Ltd (RNRL)
Reliance Broadcast Network
Ltd (RBNL)
After the death of Dhirubhai, Mukesh and Anil fell out over their vast inheritance, but finally their mother mediated and divided up the family’s businesses and assets. Mukesh Ambani is India’s first trillionaire in INR or worth more than $33 billion and lives with his wife and three kids in India’s most expensive private residence Antilia, a billion dollar high rise, while Anil, a low single digit billionaire, owns Telecom, Entertainment, Financial Services, Power and Infrastructure companies. His notable deals include launching India’s largest IPO of Reliance Power in 2008, which was subscribed in less than 60-seconds on offer, fastest in the history of Indian capital markets till date. In 2008, he also signed a joint venture worth US$1.2 billion with Steven Spielberg’s production company DreamWorks. He is also building a multi story residence called Abode, ironically on Nargis Dutt Road, Pali Hill, Bandra, which will cost even more than his brother’s home. Both the brothers have been awarded many outstanding business awards by prestigious institutions the world over.
Tina at 62 has lost her former slim figure and has also had a nose job
While her husband is hard at work wheeling and dealing, Tina spends her free time promoting worthy charitable foundations including Harmony Foundation – For Senior citizens, Harmony Art Foundation – For Promotion of Art, Kokilaben Dhirubhai Ambani Hospital & Medical Research Institute – Mumbai, and Kokilaben Dhirubhai Ambani Nursing College (KDA-NC) – Mumbai.
She sums up her wedded bliss, “Lots of happiness, two beautiful children, a wonderful marriage.â€
Recently during Emmanuel Macron’s race in the French Presidential elections that he won, everyone was agog with curiosity about his teenage romance with his high school teacher, a married mother of three, nearly 25 years his senior, and their subsequent marriage decades later. Instead of keeping Brigitte in the background, the youthful 39 year old French President confidently flaunts his youthful looking 65 year old wife everywhere and has proclaimed that anyone who doesn’t understand their union is a “misogynist and homophobe.” Let’s take a closer look at this unusual marriage
French centrist presidential candidate Emmanuel Macron and his wife Brigitte hug as he addresses his supporters at his election day headquarters in Paris , Sunday April 23, 2017. Macron and far-right populist Marine Le Pen advanced Sunday to a runoff in France’s presidential election, remaking the country’s political system and setting up a showdown over its participation in the European Union. (AP Photo/Christophe Ena)
Brigitte Marie-Claude Trogneux came from a well off family of generational chocolatiers. Their multi million dollar successful enterprise Chocolaterie Trogneux with a turnover of €4 million was founded in 1872 in Amiens is famous for its delicious macaroons.. The family business is now run by Brigitte’s nephew and has been renamed Jean Trogneux.
Macron was an unusual teenage boy with dishevelled hair and an innocent, penetrating look who enjoyed reading and was wise beyond his years. He lived in his own world of “texts and words.†Emmanuel was breezing through “La Pro†(as the school is known) and did not seem interested in girls. His parents remembered only one girlfriend who visited their home just once. “She was the same age, she was sweet; she was the daughter of a local doctor and a friend of ours. It lasted a few months,†his father said.
Trogneaux family chocolaterie in Amiens
The French joke that they’ve had the macarons d’Amiens for generations, and now they have the Macron d’Amiens
Brigitte added that when she arrived at La Providence, “all the teachers were buzzing about Emmanuel.†Her daughter, Laurence, also told her that Macron, her classmate, was “that amazing guy†who “knows everything about everything.†When he joined her drama club, Brigitte found herself drawn to his “exceptional intelligence, a way of thinking that I had never ever seen before.†She was 40 and having a mid life crisis of sorts married to a banker specializing in international finance who often travelled away for work. Theirs was an average, comfortable, middle-class life and she must have been yearning for attention, even from a nubile young boy. It’s interesting to note that Brigitte hardly mentions her ex-husband and brushes that part of her life under the carpet. Known for her quick wit and sharp tongue, she is ready to retort if anyone hints at any impropriety on her part.
Le Figaro journalist Anne Fulda meticulously researched and chronicled the love affair in her new book Emmanuel Macron: a Perfect Young Man, The teacher and her pet student would have long discussions and, impressed by his writing, she would read out his work to the class. “She used to recite his work all the time. She was totally captivated by his writing skills,†a former classmate told Le Parisien newspaper.
They became even closer when they co-authored a play. Brigitte confided in a friend years later: “The writing became an excuse. I felt that we had always known each other.â€The night the play was staged, the teacher gave her pupil a kiss on the cheek, sparking the love affair. Macron has described it as “a love often clandestine, often hidden, misunderstood by many before imposing itself.â€
Madame Auziere reportedly started meeting her star pupil for trysts at homes belonging to her family, though they both deny that the relationship became physical till he was 18, the legal consensual age between teacher and student in France. Mr. Macron’s parents became troubled by the rumors flying around about their son’s infatuation with a woman twice his age. The Macrons had been under the impression that their son was dating Mme Auziere’s daughter, until a family friend let the cat out of the bag. When one of Emmanuel’s friends, at whose grandmother’s home near Chantilly where he was supposedly studying for his baccalaureate exams, called to organise the coming weekend, Francoise realised that “Manu†who called her every day to tell her about her son’s day was not actually in Chantilly. She smelled something fishy.
Dinner with the King of Spain, summer of 2015
French presidential election candidate for the En Marche ! movement Emmanuel Macron (R) and his wife Brigitte pose for the photograph, on April 22, 2017, in Le Touquet, northern France, on the eve of the first round of presidential election. France is on edge on the eve of its most unpredictable presidential election in decades, which will happen under heightened security after the jihadist killing of a policeman. / AFP PHOTO / PHILIPPE HUGUEN (Photo credit should read PHILIPPE HUGUEN/AFP/Getty Images)
Jean-Michel said he “almost fell off his chair†when he discovered their son was instead in a relationship with the mother not the daughter. “When Emmanuel met Brigitte, we certainly did not say ‘How wonderful!’â€At the end of the week, his father went to the station to collect his son on his supposed return from a week’s revision with friends. At home, his parent confronted him.
“What mattered to me was not the fact he was having a relationship with Brigitte but that he was alive and that there weren’t any problems,†his mother said later.
But that is not how Emmanuel’s father remembered it. He said it was mainly his now ex-wife who was “wound-up… I figured, ‘he would get over it.’ I wasn’t worried, but Emmanuel still had to finish his schooling and not let it all go to waste.â€
Françoise told Fulda: “We just couldn’t believe it. What is clear is that when Emmanuel met Brigitte, we couldn’t just say ‘That’s great.’â€
Their three story villa in Touquet, northern France
So they staged an intervention to ask Mme Auziere to back off from the affair. Francoise pleaded with her, “Don’t you see? You’ve had your life. But he won’t have children with you.†In response, the errant teacher started to cry. Even when they asked her not to see their son until he had become an adult, she replied that she could not “promise anythingâ€.
PARIS, FRANCE – APRIL 17: French presidential candidate Emmanuel Macron gestures as he delivers a speech during a campaign rally at Bercy Arena on April 17, 2017 in Paris, France. (Photo by Antoine Gyori/Corbis via Getty Images)
Macron believes in a secular state and defended the right of French Muslim women to wear the veil. Hence, the Grand Mosque of Paris urged the country’s Muslims to vote en masse for Macron as President
Macron promised Brigitte that he would come back to find her, “I will come back and marry you.† She took him at his word. He continued to make clandestine trips back to his hometown to visit her in secret and when he was 18 and graduated from school, she followed him to Paris. According to what they have said to the press leading up to the election, Macron had only been in touch with Brigitte through letters and proposed marriage when her turned 18, the legal age when she could no longer be jailed for being in a sexual relationship with her minor student.
Brigitte Trogneux, wife of French presidential election candidate Emmanuel Macron, head of the political movement En Marche !, or Onwards !, casts her ballot in the second round of 2017 French presidential election, at a polling station in Le Touquet, France, May 7, 2017. REUTERS/Eric Feferberg/Pool
Upon his return to Amiens after finishing school, he told his mother: “I still love Brigitte, if you understand that then all the better, because if not I am going not going to stop.†With no choice in the matter, Macron’s parents reluctantly accepted.
“I had to fight in order to live both my private and my professional life as I wish,†Macron says. “I had to fight, and it wasn’t the easiest or the most obvious, or the most automatic thing to do, nor did it correspond to established norms.â€
“Strength of conviction was required,†he said. “They thought on several occasions that it was going to stop and naturally did everything to encourage that. In fact, I don’t know how I myself would have reacted. It is very hard. An experience like that makes you think…You have to learn to fight for things, to bear the burden and have a life, which does not in any way correspond to other peoples’ lives. That was what we went through for 15 years. We managed to achieve the situation we’re in today, because we knew it was what we wanted. It didn’t just happen all by itself.â€
In 2006, Brigitte finally divorced her long suffering husband and married Macron 18 months later. She was 54 and he 29. They got married in Touquet, northern France, in their country home where the couple often escapes to when not on duty in Paris. His best man was Henry Hermand (1924–2016), the same businessman who loaned €550,000 to Macron to buy his first apartment in Paris when he was Inspector of Finances in the Ministry of Economy
During a BMFTV interview this April, Macron emphatically stated that he and his wife decided not to have any children. “We have chosen not to have children. A choice that was not selfish for me. It is a choice that has been assumed, which I had to make very young given the age difference. I did not need my biological children and grandchildren to give them as much love as I gave them.†The couple has seven grandchildren from Brigitte’s three offspring.
As Minister of Economy from 2004 to 2008, Macron focused on helping to improve French economic growth. In 2008, he paid €50,000 to buy himself out of his government contract and instead started to work as a highly paid investment banker at Rothschild & Cie Banque. In 2012, he was given a senior role in President Hollande’s staff, and in 2014, he was appointed as the Minister of Economy and Finance in the second Valls Cabinet, pushing through business-friendly reforms. At the Ministry, his wife remained a discreet presence during high level meetings. “She spends a lot of time here because her view matters to me, because she brings a different atmosphere that is important. My life is here, you cannot work well if you are not happy,†Macron said after he resigned from the Hollande government in 2016.
The next year, Macron declared that he had quit the Socialist Party years ago and was an independent. He formally founded an independent, liberal and progressive political party, En Marche!, in Amiens in 2016 and resigned from the government. In his speech announcing his candidacy, Macron called for a “democratic revolution†and promised to “unblock France.†Pro EU and a safe alternative to the “neo Fascist†Marie Le Pen, Macron gained many supporters from the Socialist Party, centrist and centre-right politicians. A New York Times article described Macron as “ardently pro-Europe and who has proudly embraced an unpopular European Union.†Many foreign politicians such as European Commission President Jean-Claude Juncker, German Chancellor Angela Merkel and former US President Barack Obama publicly supported him as a Presidential hopeful, as did the French minorities.
French President Emmanuel Macron kisses his mother Francoise Nogues as his father Jean Michel Macron looks on
With Brigitte’s mother
Macron’s mother
said that she sees Brigitte “more as a
friend than a
daughter-in-law.”
Brigitte Macron was actively involved in her husband’s campaign as was her youngest daughter. A top adviser even told an interviewer that “her presence is essential for himâ€.
“She spends all her time beside him, she reads and listens to everything that is said about him. He asks her questions and takes her advice,†the Paris Match magazine reported.
In an interview for Le Petit Journal, when asked why her husband was “so good at politics,â€Â she retorted, “He is good at everything. Not just politics, you’re being quite restrictive. I’m yet to find an area where he isn’t good.â€
Macron boldly told supporters that upon his winning the French presidency, “If I’m elected — no, sorry, when we are elected — she will be there, with a role and place that she always had with me, she will not be hidden.â€
Macron formally became President on 14th May 2017, the youngest person to ever be elected as President of France as well as the youngest French head of state since Napoleon. That is not surprising because in France though a politician must not be financially corrupt, his sexual and personal life doesn’t concern the public. In the past while in office, outgoing President Francois Hollande was caught having an affair with Julie Gayet, an actress nearly two decades his junior; former President Nicholas Sarkozy left his wife for the actress/musician/model Carla Bruni and even Jacques Chirac was nicknamed “five minutes, shower included†for his matter of fact, business-like approach to extramarital dalliance.
In a country like the U.S. however, this would never have happened as the laws there are much strictly enforced where teacher student impropriety and underage sexual relations is concerned. Though the age difference between the Macron is about the same as that between Donald and Melania Trump, even the Donald would not have gotten away it had he seduced a fifteen year old Melania.
Macron’s unconventional marriage has also led some to speculate that he’s secretly gay. As recently as February, he lightly dismissed rumors that he was having an affair with Radio France CEO Mathieu Gallet: “If you’re told I lead a double life with Mr. Gallet it’s because my hologram has escaped.
The Macron’s unconventional marriage seems to work for them better than many more traditional set ups. The moral of the story to take away from this may be: don’t judge a book by its cover; or get them while they are young and make them dependant on you—it all depends on your perspective. Either way, taking up with an underage student regardless of the level of your connection is still morally reprehensible in my opinion.
Serena Jameka Williams was born in 1981 in a small Michigan town to Richard Williams and Oracene Price. Both her parents were divorced and had children from their first marriages. Her mother had three older daughters from a previous union while her father had six children from his ex-wife. The couple got married in 1979 after Venus was born and then had their youngest child Serena. The family moved to Compton, a rough, gang infested, primarily black, LA neigbourhood where Richard started taking tennis lessons from a coach fondly called Old Whiskey. He got so taken up by the game that one day, after watching women’s professional tennis being played on TV, he decided that his two toddler daughters would also become tennis professionals. He methodically wrote up a 78-page plan, and started giving lessons to Venus and Serena when they were only four and three respectively at public tennis courts. He now advises that six is the right age for a child to start receiving tennis lessons. To ensure that the girls had sufficient time to dedicate to the sport, he home-schooled them. Both he and their mother coached the girls in addition to another Compton tennis coach also called Richard Williams who went on to found The Venus and Serena Williams Tennis/Tutorial Academy in Compton. When local professional tennis player Tony Chesta spotted Venus playing when she was nine, he was very impressed with her talent. Richard knew the girls needed access to better facilities.
Step 2 was the Williams’ family relocating to West Palm Beach, Florida when the girls were ten and nine so that they could attend the famed tennis academy of Rick Macci. Macci is a United States Professional Tennis Association (USPTA) Master Professional, and seven-time national coach of the year who has in his illustrious career trained a few number one ranked players, namely Andy Roddick, Jennifer Capriati, Maria Sharapova, besides the Williams sister of course. To have him agree to coach a youngster means that child shows exceptional skill and promise. He agreed to give both Venus and Serena additional coaching at his academy. At times, Macci and Williams did not see eye to eye, but the former empathized with their father understanding that he “treated his daughters like kids and allowed them to be little girls.â€
But then, Williams stopped sending his daughters to national junior tennis tournaments after only a year when Serena turned 10 for two main reasons: firstly, he wanted them not to neglect their studies and, secondly, he had heard white parents talk about his daughters in a derogatory, racist manner during tournaments. Even though, at that time, Venus held a an astonishing 63–0 record on the United States Tennis Association junior tour and was ranked No. 1 among the under-12 players in Southern California, and Serena held a 46–3 record and was ranked number one among under-10 players in Florida. Then, in 1995 when Serena was in the ninth grade, their father pulled his girls completely out of Macci’s academy and took over all their coaching. When asked later why this happened and whether having followed the normal path of playing regularly on the junior circuit they would have become even better, Serena replied, “Everyone does different things. I think for Venus and I, we just attempted a different road, and it worked for us.â€
With their father
The Williams family
Much discipline, sacrifice and work ethic later, the two sisters dominated the tennis world. Everyone has seen the Williams sisters’ powerful style of playing tennis, their bodies so strong and well built, they look almost super human. You can clearly hear the tennis ball as it’s whacked powerfully by the racket and the sinews of their long limbs glisten with perspiration in the sun. It is an indeed an impressive sight. Both the sisters are not only tennis champs but credited with ushering in a new era of power and athleticism on the women’s professional tennis tour. The Women’s Tennis Association (WTA) has ranked Serena world number one in singles on seven occasions from 2002 to 2017. On her sixth time, she held the ranking for 186 consecutive weeks, tying the record set by Steffi Graff for the most consecutive weeks as world number one by a female tennis player. In total, Serena has been world number one for 318 weeks, which ranks her 3rd in the Open Era among female tennis players. Venus’ seven Grand Slam singles titles ties her twelfth on the all-time list, more than any other active female player except Serena.
With their mother
Some commentators and sports writers regard Serena as the greatest female tennis player of all time, having set many records. Her total of 23 Grand Slam singles titles marks the record for the most Major wins by a tennis player in the Open Era, and second on the all-time list. In fact, Serena is the only tennis player in history (man or woman) to have won singles titles at least six times in three of the four Grand Slam tournaments, and the only player ever to have won two of the four Majors seven times each (seven Wimbledon titles and seven Australian Open titles). She is also the only tennis player to have won 10 Grand Slam singles titles in two separate decades. Impressively, she holds an all-time record for the most singles matches won at the Grand Slams (man or woman) with 316 matches.
The two sisters also make a formidable team playing doubles, having won 14 Grand Slam doubles titles together; the pair is unbeaten in Grand Slam doubles finals. As a team, the Williams sisters have the third most women’s doubles grand slam titles. Both have won four Olympic gold medals each, one in women’s singles and three in women’s doubles, an all-time record that they share.
Celebrating her wins
The Williams sisters are hardly one dimensional, even authoring a book alongside writer Hilary Beard titled Venus & Serena: Serving From The Hip: 10 Rules For Living, Loving and Winning, which was published in 2005.  While elder sister Venus is worth $75 million and is dating a Cuban model, younger sister Serena is worth a whopping $150 million. Venus’ career has experienced setbacks due to injuries, but Serena is still going strong as the world’s highest paid female athlete in 2016, earning $28.9 million in prize money and endorsements. She is the three times winner of the prestigious Laureus Sportswoman of the Year award and was named Sportsperson of the Year by Sports Illustrated magazine in 2015. The two invested some of their millions into becoming minority owners of the Miami Dolphins in 2009 after purchasing a small stake in the team, becoming the first African-American women to hold any amount of ownership in an NFL franchise. Their home in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida, is an hour’s drive from the Dolphins’ stadium.
Both the sisters love fashion and flaunt their unique sense of style on and off the court. Venus even got an associate degree in fashion design from the Art Institute of Fort Lauderdale. They have always bucked the trend of tennis whites by dressing in colourful and creative attire and have worn their hair long and flowing. Serena has even worn a black lycra catsuit at the US Open, while another time she wore a denim skirt and knee-high boots, which tournament officials made her replace for tennis shoes during matches. For one Wimbledon match, Serena turned up in a white trench coat despite the sunny weather. They two have also graced the runway for charity fundraising fashion shows. Serena has her own line of designer apparel Aneres (Serena backwards).
Besides these accomplishments, Serena has released her first solo autobiography entitled On the Line, following the 2009 US Open. And that’s not all, she is fluent in French, giving her on-court interviews at the French Open in French and knows some Spanish and Italian as well. In 2015, she became the first black female athlete to grace the cover of American Vogue. Close friends with Beyonce, she danced in her music video for her track Sorry on the hit album Lemonade after the director told her, “We would love for you to be in this particular song. It’s about strength and it’s about courage and that’s what we see you as.â€
Serena’s personal life during her many career successes has been patchy with a string of broken romances. She dated many A-list stars from the world of film, music and sports. Her first high-profile relationship was in 2002 with football star Keyshawn Johnson, a decade her senior. The footballer was playing for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers at the time and had recently split with his first wife. Serena is notoriously reticent about her personal life and never confirmed her relationship. The two sports stars gave each other stability with Serena winning four straight Grand Slams for the first time in her career between 2002 and 2003 and Johnson leading the Buccaneers to a Super Bowl victory while they were dating. However, for some reason they called it quits.
In 2004, Serena dated movie director Brett Ratner for a period of two years. He was 12 years older than her and at the peak of his career at the time due to the success of the first two Rush Hour films. During their relationship, he directed the biggest grosser of his career X-Men: The Last Stand, which made $500 million worldwide, while Serena won just one Grand Slam in those two years. Then, she moved on with actor Jackie Long in 2007 who reportedly dumped the tennis star badly. She later blogged about the experience describing how he “disappeared for a week†before calling to break up with her just as she was falling in love with him. Next came the rapper Common with whom Serena spent two years. She was briefly linked to Amar’e Stoudemire, the New York Knicks power forward. Bulgarian tennis player and heartthrob Grigor Dimitrov was her next boyfriend, who left Serena for Maria Sharapova. Smarting from this, she fell in the arms of her tennis coach Patrick Mouratoglou. Though the romantic relationship fizzled out, Mouratoglou has continued to be her coach and is credited with her incredible success over the past five years. In 2015, rumors flew thick and fast that Serena was dating musician Drake. This is around the time she met Alexis.
The two sisters are very keen on fashion
Alexis Kerry Ohanian, born in 1983, is two years younger than the tennis star. He was born in Brooklyn, New York, to Chris Ohanian, an Armenian-American whose grandparents came to the US as refugees fleeing the Armenian genocide, and German-born Anke, an au pair girl visiting NYC when she met Chris and overstayed her visa. After President Trump took over the White House, Alexis tweeted, “My father’s family were refugees & my mom was an undocumented immigrant. Without them, there’s no me & no @Reddit.â€
Alexis attended Howard High School in a small Maryland town where he gave the student address for his graduating class in 2001. After graduating from the University of Virginia in 2005 with degrees in commerce and history, Alexis and his college buddy Steve Huffman, a computer science major, pitched the idea of My Mobile Menureddit.com to Y Combinator that gives seed money to tech startups, many of which have gone on to become giants in the industry. Though the venture capital company passed on the idea, the two friends managed to impress the executives enough to encourage them to come up with a better idea that they could fund. The 22 year old fresh college grads came up with reddit.com, potentially the “front page of the Internet.†It was to go on to become huge!
Sinewy muscles
On a lighter note
Taking her bow after a successful fashion show at NY Fashion Week 2016
With pro footballer Keyshawn Johnson in 2002 at a Super Bowl after party in 2003, during her first Serena SlamÂ
An enterprising young man, in 2007, after he had sold Reddit, Ouhanian didn’t merely retire with his millions in the bank but started the social enterprise Breadpig an “uncorporation†that produces “geeky merchandise†and donates the proceeds to charity. He also launched the travel search website Hipmunk with Huffman in 2010 for which they now act as advisers. In addition, Alexis Ohanian launched his company Das Kapital Capital in 2010, which focuses on startup investing, advising and consulting. Like Serena, he also published a book titled Without Their Permission: How the 21st Century Will Be Made, Not Managed in 2013, which ranked fourth on the Wall Street Journal’s best sellers list in the Hardcover Business category and which he promoted thorough an intense five-month, 150-stop and 75-university tour. The same year, Ouhanian was featured as one of the “champions of innovation†in the 20th Anniversary issue of Wired. Ohanian served as a partner at the same firm that had first funded him Y Combinator and was named its “Ambassador to the East,†meeting with East Coast applicants, mentors and NYC founders. Forbes included him in the “30 Under 30†list as an important figure in the technology industry for two years running—2012 and 2013.
Known for his skill and expertise for spotting smart start up ideas, Ohanian was named in Crain’s “40 Under 40†list for business in 2015. Last year, he left Y Combinator with another partner there Gerry Tan to launch the third Initialized Capital, an early stage seed fund with over $160 million under management. Ouhanian was that year named one of Fast Company’s “Most Creative People in Business.†Quite an achievement oriented young man of only 33.
With New York Knicks star Amar’e Stoudemire in 2010
Grigor Dimitrov who left Serena for tennis rival Maria SharapovaÂ
With rumoured boyfriend in 2015 Drake
With coach & ex-bf Patrick Mouratoglou
The two powerhouses, Serena and Alexis first met each other by chance in Rome in May 2015, when she was there playing the clay court tournament ahead of the French Open. They kept their burgeoning relationship underground as is her wont. Though Drake was actually at Wimbledon in July cheering Serena on and celebrating her Wimbledon win with her, at the same time Alexis posted a picture of his laptop on Instagram, showing that he had woken up early to also cheer Serena on from afar. We don’t know if there was any overlapping, if Serena was keeping her options open or if Drake was just a friend. Regardless, Us Weekly tabloid reported in October that Serena took Aexis to her workout at the Los Angeles School of Gymnastics, where he called her “babe†and they “held hands.†He must be quite a confident young man to workout alongside a Williams sister. Perhaps she put him through his paces to see if he could keep up with her, as others clearly couldn’t.
In November of 2015, the undercover duo happened to get caught on surveillance camera having dinner in San Francisco (where he now resides) as a man knicked her phone off their table during the date. Superhero style she gave chase, managed to retrieve it and calmly resumed her dinner.
Alexis Ohanian made it big at only 22
“The Mayor of the Internet”
Over the past year, Alexis has regularly posted about being a Serena Williams’ fan cheering her on both on and off the court, but no one caught on. Last May, he posted her photo winning a tournament in Rome with the caption, “A year ago today, I became a tennis fan. One of the best decisions I ever made.†Two months later, he again posted about her historic win at the All England Club, writing: “Our queen stopped by center court today. So proud of you, @serenawilliams. 22 looks good on you. #Wimbledon.’â€Not only did he support her after her loss at the US Open, afterwards he sat front row at her fashion show and posted he photo taking a bow on the runway with the caption, “‘Congrats on a great show @serenawilliams – so proud of you. Well on your way to dominating another industry. #NYFW #blurry.†Little did anyone realize that he was more than just a fan of the tennis superstar. What a supportive and kind boyfriend! Who wouldn’t want such a man in their life?!
A friend of Serena revealed to the press once the news finally got out that “They’ve never seen Serena this happy before with a man. It sounds cheesy, but it was love at first sight. They laugh non-stop and that really fuels their relationship. They are on the same page in life and are excited to start something great with each other.â€
First date caught on camera
Celebrating Halloween 2016 together
They got engaged in Rome
Alexis it seems is quite the romantic. Last December, he flew Serena to Rome where they sat at the same table where they had first shared a meal together and popped the question. Later she told Gayle King at a TED business conference about what she felt at hearing his proposal, “I never felt pressure to get married, and I can’t say I’m the marrying type. I love my life. I love my freedom. I hear that kind of changes. I love my career, and I didn’t want anything to interfere with that. … When he proposed, I was almost angry. Not almost, I was angry because it was right in the middle of my training season and I thought, ‘I have to win the Australian Open.’ … I really wanted to pass Steffi Graf’s record.â€
Revealing V-daygift from her fiance this year, a game
Serena and Alexis announced the news of their engagement where else but on their social media accounts. Accompanying a picture of them in Rome grinning with sheer joy as they hugged and she showed off a dazzling diamond engagement ring.
Serena posted a poem she wrote on Reddit, what else?
“I came home
A little late
Someone had a bag packed for me.
And a carriage awaited
Destination: Rome.
To escort me to my very own ‘charming’
Back to where our stars first collided.
And now it was full circle
At the same table we first met by chance.
This time he made it not by chance
But by choice.
‘Down on one knee
He said 4 words /And I said yes.’â€
Alexis too shared his happy news on his Facebook page posting, “She said yes.â€
After the engagement, the couple came out in the open. They rang in the New Year together in Auckland, New Zealand and were spotted boarding a helicopter to fly to Waiheke Island for a quick romantic getaway. She was in the tiniest Daisy Duke shorts, highlighting her muscular thighs. Even though Alexis is very tall, Serena is no shorty standing at 5’9†and visually they go together as well.
Serena posted her for Valentine’s gift from him, a $60 NES Classic Mini, which is a reimagining of the 8-bit video game console from 1983.“When you date a ‘techie’ you get these gifts,†she wrote and said she loved it. Even though, according to Forbes, her net worth was estimated at $150 million in 2016 and Ohanian’s at $4.5 million, approximately just 3 percent of hers, she demonstrated that it’s the thought that matters where gifts are concerned. The gift was probably an inside joke between the couple that finally he can beat her at a game because he could never beat her at tennis, and she appreciated his sense of spirit and humour.
When King remarked that she hadn’t expected Serena to end up “with a geek.†She joked back, “You can tell he’s into technology.â€
Showing off her figure in a yellow bathing suit on Snapchat in a video where her baby bump was clearly visible, Serena accidentally leaked out news of her 20 week pregnancy on April 20th, a post she quickly deleted but by then the news had gone viral. Therefore, her representative had to confirm the pregnancy.
US Open Tennis representative posted congratulations: “Serena Williams will have a new pride and joy to hug and call her own soon! Congratulations on the exciting baby announcement!â€
Happily ever after in an Instagram photo
Serena then shared a tribute to her unborn baby on her Instagram page, writing she “couldn’t wait to meet them. I can’t wait for you to join the players box next year. But most importantly, I am so happy to share being number one in the world with you…. once again today. On @alexisohanian bday from the world’s oldest number one to the world’s youngest number one. Your Mommy.†Clearly the driven athlete is planning to resume tennis after the birth and she’s already 35. That is quite the drive and ambition.
Currently, Serena is pondering over whether she should relocate to San Francisco where Alexis currently resides, “That’s the question of the hour. I couldn’t be stuck in a more beautiful place,†she answered a question posed by Vogue’s Andrew Leon Talley at the Met Gala.
Looks like the statuesque, super high achieving couple has as good a chance of making it together as anyone else and we wish them all the luck!
Most Bollywood fans know Preity Zinta, the dimpled actress whose high energy, bubbly persona shot her to fame. Part owner of the IPL cricket team Kings XI Punjab, Preity’s romance with Ness Wadia, heir of Bombay Dyeing and great grandson of Mohammad Ali Jinnah, kept her in the limelight after her star wattage dimmed. But who she ultimately tied the knot with is a lesser known fact. She settled down with a blond Californian executive Gene Goodenough who helped her get over her breakup. This is their story
Preity Zinta & Her Goodenough Husband
By Mahlia Lone
Preity Zinta was born into a Rajput Hindu family in Rohr, Shimla, Himachal Pradesh in 1975. Her father, Durganand Zinta, was an officer in the Indian Army and she grew up “an army brat†by her own admission, a tomboy in the company of two brothers. Their father set an example of discipline and punctuality that he expected the children to follow. The family’s fortunes took a turn for the worse when Durganand died in a car accident. He was behind the wheel, while his wife Nilprabha was in the passenger’s seat. She was severely injured and became bedridden for two years. Preity was only 13 years old when the accident took place and she said that both her and her brothers, Deepankar and Manish, a year older and a year younger, had to grow up almost overnight, leaving their carefree childhood days behind them. Nowadays Deepankar too is a commissioned officer in the Indian Army, while Manish lives in California.
A plump Preity with her friends
Preity became a boarder at the all girls’ Convent of Jesus and Mary boarding school in Shimla. Though she missed her family, she said that she had the “perfect set of friends.†She was a good student, who enjoyed literature, particularly the works of William Shakespeare and poetry, as well as playing basketball. At 18, she graduated from The Lawrence School and enrolled at St. Bede’s College where she first she earned a graduate honours degree in English, and then a post graduate programme in criminal psychology.
With her mother
With her father
A chance meeting with an ad director who asked Preity to audition on the spot at a friend’s birthday party in 1996 led to her first television commercial for Perk chocolates. Soon, she also appeared in an ad for Liril soap in which she is drenched under a waterfall. In 1997, Preity Zinta accompanied a friend to an audition where she met the director Shekhar Kapur. He asked her to audition too. Upon seeing that she was a natural actress, he offered her a role in Tara Rum Pum Pum opposite Hrithik Roshan. After its filming was cancelled, the former recommended her to director Mani Ratnam for his film Dil Se (1998) a Shahrukh Khan and Manisha Koirala starrer. Although Preity only had a small supporting role in the movie, her perky persona made her instantly famous and earned her a nomination for the Filmfare Award for Best Supporting Actress. That year, she won the Filmfare Award for Best Female Debut for her performance in both Dil Se and her first leading role in the action drama Soldier.
With her brothers
Preity recalled that her friends teased her when she joined Bollywood that she too would “wear white saris and dance in the rain,†so she was determined to play different parts. Apart from a number of romcoms that she has appeared in, she has also chosen to play unconventional characters. On such was in the drama Kya Kehna (2000), which addressed the topic of single parenthood and teenage pregnancy. Her portrayal of a teen single mother who fights social prejudice earned her several award nominations, including her first nomination for Best Actress at the Filmfare Awards.
At this time, she was living with model Marc Robinson. The relationship only lasted a year or two and after their breakup she said she has “very, very fond memories of the times we were together and I’d like to keep it to that.â€
in an ad for Liril soap
During the filming of Dil Chahta Hai, she was rumored to be having an affair with Aamir Khan
After her breakup, during the filming of Dil Chahta Hai (2001) rumors were rife that Aamir Khan and Preity were having it off, but she denied the affair.
According to film critic Sukanya Verma, Preity’s “energetic nature extends from her real-life into her appearances in films and is an integral part of her technique. What can you say about an actress who giggles non-stop in a tone that is anything but prim and propah? She is carefree. She is animated. She talks non-stop. She laughs all the time. She has a chilled out sense of humour. And a tomboyish streak tooâ€
According to film critic Sukanya Verma, Preity’s “energetic nature extends from her real-life into her appearances in films and is an integral part of her technique. What can you say about an actress who giggles non-stop in a tone that is anything but prim and proper? She is carefree. She is animated. She talks non-stop. She laughs all the time. She has a chilled out sense of humour. And a tomboyish streak too. Preity Zinta is all that and more. All this greatly contributes to her style of acting.†Perhaps this friendliness off camera led her into trouble—we can only speculate.
In Chori Chori Chupke Chupke with Rani Mukherjee & Salman Khan
Abbas-Mustan’s romantic drama Chori Chori Chupke Chupke (2001) was the first film to deal with the topic of surrogate childbirth. Initially, Preity was reluctant to play the role of a prostitute hired as a surrogate mother, but the director convinced her. To prepare for it, she visited Mumbai’s red-light areas to study the slang and mannerisms of the working girls. For her convincing portrayal, she received a second Best Supporting Actress nomination at the Filmfare Awards. Rakesh Roshan’s science-fiction Koi…Mil Gaya (2003), about a developmentally disabled young man played by Hrithik Roshan who came in contact with an alien followed. Preity plays his love interest. Not only did it garner her another Filmfare Best Actress nomination in addition to winning the Filmfare Award for Best Movie, but it also became her highest-grossing film, with a domestic total equivalent to $10 million.
Bharat Shah being led out of court in police custody
 In 2003, the national spotlight was on the sensational Bharat Shah case that highlighted Bollywood’s links to the Indian mafia. Police had recorded 32 telephone conversations between producer Nasim Rizvi, financier Bharat Shah and Pakistan-based Mumbai underworld boss Chhota Shakeel during late 2000. Unlike the great Khan actors, Shah Rukh and Salman, producer-director Rakesh Roshan, directors Sanjay Gupta and others who all retracted their statements under pressure, Preity Zinta defiantly stuck to her statement of receiving threatening calls from the underworld while she was shooting for the film Chori Chori Chupke Chupke in 2000. She told the sessions court in Mumbai that she received a call from a man who said, “Main bhai ka aadmi Razak bol raha hoon aur mujhe 50 lakh chahiye.†Preity was threatened that there would be consequences if she did not pay up.
Producer Nazim Rizvi
 “I was very scared and upset and confided in Nazim Rizvi, the producer of the film. He told me not to worry and that everything would be alright. He gave me his cell phone number and told me to call him if I have any further problem,†she said in court.
Preity became the first recipient of Godfrey’s Mind of Steel Award at the annual Red and White Bravery Awards due to her testimony in the sensational Bharat Shah case
After her testimony that convicted both Bharat Shah and Nazim Rizvi, Preity was given witness protection for two months and Indian citizens lauded her bravery because most of the men had backed down from taking on the wrath of the underworld that she a single woman had so courageously done. For this, she became the first recipient of Godfrey’s Mind of Steel Award at the annual Red and White Bravery Awards. Upon receiving the award, she said, “To be brave is not to be fearless. It is when you fear and you get over it, then you can be called brave. I am human. It is not that I fear nothing. But getting over a fear is a continuous process and I have been successful so far.â€
Preity Zinta with ex-boyfriend model Marc Robinson with whom she lived for a year or two and from whom she separated on good terms
The Don, Chhota Shakeel
After the case was won thanks to her testimony, Preity starred in Yash Chopra’s cross border romance Veer-Zaara (2004) as a dupatta clad traditional Pakistani woman opposite Shahrukh Khan playing an Indian officer. She polished up her Urdu for this and was so convincing in the role that later was cast in another movie as a Pakistani. She received her fourth Filmfare Best Actress nomination. Fresh from this success, Preity starred in another Yash Raj Film, Siddharth Anand’s dramedy Salaam Namaste opposite Saif Ali Khan. The movie is about a modern Indian couple who live together and their unexpected pregnancy. The New York Times review stated, “She is cheerleader-homecoming queen-fraternity sweetheart pretty, so even when her characters are being unkind it’s hard not to like her.â€
With Danish actor Lars on their romantic Hawaiian vacay
In 2004, Preity was rumoured to be dating Lars Kjeldsen, an actor from Denmark who starred in Rang Rasiya (2008), after their pictures from a Hawaii holiday surfaced. Lars later got married to another B’wood actress Suchitra Pillai.
Preity’s career at this time was at its zenith, but with younger actresses on the horizon, her star was soon on its way down with two of her big commercial films flopping badly. Then in late 2004, Preity suffered two near death experiences: first when there was an explosion at a Temptation concert headlined by Shah Rukh Khan in Colombo, Sri Lanka. To offset her near miss, her personal life was looking bright with a burgeoning relationship with industrialist and bachelor about town Ness Wadia. In fact, in an interview, she said that she was friends with Ness and after the explosion upon her return to Mumbai, she rushed to visit him at home, tell him the story and be comforted by him. They grew closer and she went for a holiday with him and other friends to Phuket to recover from the shock of the bomb explosion. As luck would have it, the devastating tsunami occurred in Thailand while they were holidaying there. Preity was sleeping in her water villa. Ness rushed to wake her up and take her to safety. He saved her life and she turned to him for security.
The press changed her go-to epithet from “bubbly” actress to “the only man in Bollywood,” both of which she disliked
Her work reflected this change in her. Having had an epiphany or wanting to reinvent herself, Preity changed tracks and started working in art, neo-realistic films, also known as parallel cinema. In her first English film, Rituparno Ghosh’s The Last Lear, she plays a struggling film actress opposite Amitabh Bachchan. At the film’s premiere during the 2007 Toronto International Film Festival, Preity said, “I did think with art films that they don’t pay you, they don’t feed you, but I was wrong, and I’m so happy to be here.â€
Then came an out of the blue allegation, which she dismissed nonchalantly. When filmmaker Shekhar Kapur’s wife Suchitra Krishnamoorthy ended her marriage in 2007, she alleged that her husband had been cheating on her with Preity, but the actress dismissed it as being “a figment of her imagination….It is unfortunate that I am bearing the brunt of someone else’s paranoia. She’s clearly unstable and I wish her a speedy recovery.â€
CANNES, FRANCE – MAY 16: (L-R) Pietry Zinta and Afef Jnifen attend the Chopard and Valentino Party Dinner at Nikki Beach during the 60th International Cannes Film Festival on May 16, 2007 in Cannes, France. (Photo by Eric Ryan/Getty Images) *** Local Caption *** Afef Jnifen;Pietry Zinta
For her next project, she chose Deepa Mehta’s Canadian film Heaven on Earth (2008), a mystical drama in Punjabi based on the true story of an Indian woman who has an arranged marriage to a non-resident Indian (NRI) man from Canada, migrates to Toronto and becomes a victim of severe domestic abuse. Preity had wanted to work with Mehta in a role that would be “a new kind of acting challenge.â€Â To prepare, she conducted extensive research on domestic violence as well as learning Punjabi in only fifty days. She recalled, “I never knew a character would affect me so deeply. I’ve become completely withdrawn and introspective… I can’t snap out of the character.â€Â She also called it her most challenging project because it helped her “shed everything that Preity Zinta was about.â€Â The film was screened at several international film festivals, earning her a Silver Hugo Award for Best Actress at the 2008 Chicago International Film Festival for “her strong yet subtle performance as a woman struggling to keep her dreams despite brutal realities.â€
Along with Ness and another mutual industrialist friend Mohit Burman, Preity acquired ownership rights in 2008 for the Mohali-based Twenty20 cricket team of the Indian Premier League (IPL) for $76 million. They named the team Kings XI Punjab. Until 2009 when Shilpa Shetty too bought a team with her husband, Preity was the only woman to own an IPL team even in partnership and the youngest owner. She took a two year hiatus from films to focus on her new business, getting involved with launching ticket sales and promoting the team. She said, “My involvement with the team is total. I am extremely passionate about our team and I do believe that I am the team’s good luck factor, so I want to be there for everything.â€
Explosion at the Temptations concert in Colombo
Yuvraj Singh, Preity Zinta at IPL match Victory Celebration in Henry Tham on May 21st 2008 shown to user
Preity and Ness’ high profile relationship became the regular topic of press speculation. By 2009 their relationship was truly on the rocks. Apparently Ness wasn’t committing, nor was he willing to let go. Rumors of an engagement were rife, but the easy on the eye couple broke up with Preity taking the initiative to call it quits. They had been together five years, she was in her 30s and it’s natural for a woman to want the solid commitment of marriage.
Amitabh Bachchan, described her as being “frank and painfully honest,” and said that she had “drive and guts in a world that can be most cruel to a single girl”
To help her get over her heartbreak after such a serious relationship, Preity was rumored to have had a couple of flings, the first with the tall, well built Punjabi cricketer Yuvraj Singh who was close at hand as the captain of King’s XI Punjab. It was short lived and the two dismissed the rumours saying they were “just friends.†Next up was Vikram Chatwal, a hotelier, married man and notorious womanizer. In 2009, news about Preity’s fling with Chatwal spread like wildfire. They were spotted together at several occasions and a source was quoted saying that they had become quite close and the two got along like a house on fire. However, it too turned out to be just a rebound fling.
With ex-boyfriend Ness Wadia
Preity often went to spend time with her younger brother and his children in LA and there she met 6’1†185 lbs grey eyed blond Californian executive Gene Goodenough who she said she “hit it off with immediately.†Gene has an MBA from the Esade Business and Law School in Spain, and another masters’ degree in management from the University of Southern California (USC) Marshall School of Business, LA, and works as a financial consultant. He is currently at NLine Energy Inc., a renewable energy development company in LA as the Senior Vice President in their product & finance department. Earlier he worked as tje Assistant Vice President in Bank of America and as the Vice President/director of product management at Interthinx. Gene was extremely different from the type of men she had dated so far.
“I met him in Santa Monica in Los Angeles. Then we dated for five years,†she shared with her fans on social media much later. When they first started dating, her close friends did not think the relationship had a future; they weren’t even sure if the two were even remotely serious. For reasons better known to herself, Preity kept this relationship under the radar from the social/Bollywood crowd. She would travel to LA for the ostensible reason of meeting her family and meet up with Goodenough as well.
In Mumbai, Preity turned back to mainstream Bollywood films, which had made her rich and famous. Not having had a lead in a big movie since the flop Jhoom Barabar Jhoom (2007), she decided that she would put her money where her mouth is and produce her own comeback vehicle Ishkq in Paris. After being initially set for a release in fall 2012, the film was postponed multiple times before finally being released in the summer of 2013. But it bombed. She had sunk a lot of money into this project and apparently creditors came a calling.
Meanwhile her relationship with her American beau progressed steadily. Not many know that Gene was bedrock of support in helping her get over her ex-boyfriend Ness. He happened to be at her side when Ness allegedly pulled her hand, molested and abused her at Wankhede Stadium summer of 2014 during an IPL match in which their team was playing. Reportedly, her chivalrous American boyfriend was the one to stop her Indian ex at the time and shield Preity. She lodged an FIR against Mr. Wadia. Goodenough was initially reluctant to get involved in legal battles in India and left for the U.S. Not one to give up so easily, Preity flew to LA to convince him and he agreed to be the key eyewitness from her side.
Shekar Kapur & ex-wife Suchitra who claimed the director was having an affair with Preity, an allegation the actress dismissed
Ness Wadia gave his side of the story to The Times of India. He said that he was “shocked and dismayed†and that “the allegations are totally false and baseless. It is disgusting that she would stoop to this level.â€
Sources close to both claimed that Preity Zinta was “upset as Wadia was seeing someone…Zinta could not digest the fact that her former boyfriend, who is still her business partner, was involved in another relationship.â€
B-175, MOHALI – 230518 – MAY 23, 2008 – Mohali: Kings XI Punjab owner Preity Zinta hugs skipper Yuvraj Singh after their team’s victory over Deccan Chargers in the IPL T20 match at PCA Stadium in Mohali on Friday. PTI Photo by Atul Yadav
Wadia agreed that he indeed had started seeing someone two months prior to the incident and they got close when the IPL was being played in the UAE.  He said that his mother (who had not wanted him to marry the actress) had to undergo serious discomfort when attending a Kings XI Punjab match resulting in an argument between the two. This was a clear case of he said/she said with emotions high on each side.
In Heaven on Earth
Author and columnist Shobhaa De, while commending her for lodging a molestation complaint against Ness Wadia, pointed out that Preity’s repeated quest for justice would eventually play against her: “India is not terribly kind to strong-willed, outspoken women who are dubbed ‘trouble makers’ if they dare to raise their voices, especially against men. Zinta is such a woman.â€
Though at the beginning of her career, Preity was described by journalists as having a bubbly, outgoing persona, an image she disliked, by this time, the journalists dubbed her “The only man in Bollywood†a label she was also unhappy with.
Preity didn’t let other people’s opinion of her get her down, but persevered and got her life back on track. Her finances bounced back in due course thanks to her team ownership. She is currently worth a healthy $30 million. On February 28, 2016, Preity Zinta quietly got married to her longtime-beau Goodenough that she had been seeing for 6 years now. The couple tied the knot in a traditional Hindu Rajput wedding ceremony near Mulholland Drive, Beverly Hills, LA complete with a pandit conducting all the rituals, including pheras in an outdoor red and gold mandap with the glittering LA skyline as the backdrop. Preity’s mother oversaw the entire arrangement,” a source revealed. The bride and groom were clad in super traditional Indian wedding attire. Though Preity claims to be agnostic, telling The Times of India reporter that “I believe in good deeds, in karma, I don’t believe in going to temples. For me, religion is very personal. It’s all about having faith … We have heard and read that all religions are equal. Now I increasingly believe this.†But all little girls plan their weddings in their head and even though Preity’s bride groom turned out to be a blond American executive and not an Indian industrialist was no reason for her to alter her dream wedding.
The wedding was so hush hush that only her close friends Sussanne Khan and Surily Goel apart from family were invited. She announced her wedding to her fans via Facebook, “I was holding onto the ‘Miss Tag’ rather seriously till now, until I met someone ‘Goodenough’ to give it up for. So now I join the married club, folks. Thank you all for your good wishes and for all your love. Love you all.†The proceeds from her wedding pictures were donated to the Preity Zinta Foundation, a charitable organization. The couple held a grand reception in Mumbai on Fri, 13th May, 2016 where all the who’s who of Bollywood were invited and turned up. The bride chose to wear another custom made Manish Malhotra red gown.
Just prior to the reception, Preity was spotted at the Mumbai airport, along with her husband, greeting her in-laws. She was keen to show off her country to them, took them to Taj Mahal, Agra. After the reception, she whisked off Gene and his parents to a five star luxury spa in Rishikesh, Uttaranchal, a Himalayan paradise famed for its yoga and Ayurvedic practices.
Happy and content in her new life, Preity has also patched up with her business partner and ex Ness Wadia. They were seen together when their team beat Royal Challengers Bangalore in Indore. The two came face to face during the match and much to everyone’s surprise they were more than cordial with each other, celebrating their team’s victory together. Clearly they have both moved on.
Preity, though a famous, rich and glamorous actress, waited till 41 before tying the knot proving the adage that sometimes you gotta kiss a lot of frogs before finding your prince.
Will Meghan Markle be the first, gasp, mixed race/divorced/actress daughter in law of the British royal family?
By Mahlia Lone
The whole world knows who Prince Harry is, how he grew up and what he does now. The younger royal Prince has had two serious girlfriends, South African businessman’s lawyer daughter Chelsy Davy who he dated for seven years and aristocratic theater ingenue Cressida Bonas who he dated for two, both part of the jet set aristocratic circles that he moves around in. He has also had his share of partying and acting rebellious with the tabloids calling him a “wild child.†In 2012, he was photographed in the nude playing strip poker with scantily clad young women in Vegas. These days he has sobered up and is rumoured to have shacked up in his apartment in London’s Kensington Palace with his new girlfriend Meghan Markle, a little known TV actress till she started dating the Prince. It’s been reported that they are on the cusp of a royal engagement. Let’s steal a march on the others and find out more about her.
Born Rachel Meghan Markle in 1981 in the Valley in Los Angeles, the American actress, now aged 35, is three years older than Prince Harry. Her Dutch/Irish descent father, Thomas W. Markle Sr. is an Emmy Award winning director of lighting who worked for years on the long running successful sitcom Married…with Children. He grew up comfortably off in Long Island, near NYC. Her African-American mother Doria Radlan, who holds a Master’s degree in social work and works as a yoga instructor and social worker, came from a working class background. Her immediate ancestors included a presser at a laundry, a janitor and a cook, all residing in Chattanooga, Tennessee. She divorced Thomas in 2003 when Meghan was six years old and Doria relocated with her daughter to Crenshaw, a rough, gang infested neighborhood in LA to be near her sister. Because of where they lived, Meghan was educated at private schools, which the majority of Americans don’t do. She first attended the Little Red Schoolhouse elementary and then the all-girls, Roman Catholic Immaculate Heart High School. Outspoken on women’s rights, at only 11, she wrote a letter to then First Lady Hillary Clinton complaining that a soap advertisement showed women belonging in the kitchen. Due to her letter, the soap’s manufacturer had to change the advertisement, so early on she learned that standing up for her beliefs gets results. She has also spoken out on racism and talked about growing up mixed race. Meghan graduated from Northwestern University in Illinois with a double major in theater and international relations.
The Royal Family at Trooping the Colour 2016
From 2002 to 2014, Meghan had small roles in one episode each of a daytime soap opera, several TV series and a couple of TV movies. To make money between jobs during her early acting days, she worked as a calligraphist. Money was tight and her mother declared bankruptcy, owing more than $50,000 on her credit cards. Meghan meanwhile managed to get small roles in five feature films. Since 2004, she was in a long term relationship with TV producer Trevor Engelson. They got married in 2011, the same year she was cast as paralegal on the popular legal drama Suits, but the marriage only lasted two years. With the security of her recurring role on the hit show, she passed up on receiving spousal support after her divorce and started dating Canadian restaurateur Cory Vitiello, whom she promptly dumped upon meeting Prince Harry.
Prince Charles & PrincessDiana dropping PrinceHarry to his first day atEton with Prince William
With girlfriend of 7 years Chelsy Davy
With ex-girlfriend Cressida Bonas
Playing strip poker in Las Vegas
Last year, Meghan’s father declared bankruptcy owing $30,000 and relocated to Mexico. She has two half siblings from her father. Eldest sister Samantha, who used to work as a small time model, is a mother of three and suffers from Multiple Sclerosis. She says that she helped bring up Meghan till she was the age of 12. Samantha feels bitter because when she was diagnosed in 2008, and needed help from her younger sister Meghan, the latter cut contact with her and refused to help her out financially despite being able to afford it. Meghan’s half brother Thomas Jr. has a drinking problem and was recently charged with holding a gun to his girlfriend’s head during a fight. His son also named Thomas runs a pizza joint.
As a young girl in Crenshaw she enjoyed practising calligraphy
Her half sister Samantha, a mother of three & MS patient
Meghan has a lifestyle blog The Tig and frequently posts pictures of herself practicing yoga. She volunteered as a counselor for the international charity One Young World and spoke at its annual summit in Dublin in 2014 on gender equality and modern-day slavery. In 2016, she became the Global Ambassador for World Vision Canada, traveling to Rwanda for the Clean Water Campaign.
At the all-girls, Roman Catholic Immaculate Heart High School
With yoga teacher mother Doria
The Prince first met the actress as recently as May of last year in Toronto where Meghan has been living to film Suits. The Prince was in town promoting the Invictus Games, a sporting event created by the Prince in which wounded, sick and injured servicemen take part in Paralympic-style games and sports. They were introduced by the fashion designer wife, Misha Nonoo, of one of his Etonian friends Alexander Gilkes, who have since separated. New York-based Misha and Meghan had previously holidayed in Spain together in a group. Harry’s cousin Princess Eugenie is also a mutual friend of Misha’s since Prince Andrew’s daughter worked for Alexander’s up-market Paddle8 Auction firm in NYC. Harry is very close to Eugenie, who also remains friendly with his last serious girlfriend, Cressida Bonas. The royals’ set it seems is as interconnected as social circles are in Pakistan.
Half brother Thomas Jr.’s mugshot
Wedding to TV producer Trevor Engelson
With ex-boyfriend restaurateur Cory Vitiello
Harry and Meghan apparently bonded as both had taken trips to Africa in a bid to improve lives there. Prince Harry spent a part of his gap year in Lesotho where he set up charities benefiting kids, while Meghan is the face of the Canadian charity World Vision in Rwanda. After hitting it off, the two holed up in secret at her Toronto apartment. When the Prince returned to London in June, they kept up by texting each other daily. Meghan started following his private Instagram account and herself fueled dating rumors when she posted a picture of her on Insta wearing an identical African bracelet to his. Then she posted a picture of two bananas spooning with the caption “Sleep tight!†The Prince was also following the actress from his Instagram account. She followed him to London where they went out on a couple of dates to Soho House, where he was surrounded by his friends.
Harry also reportedly introduced Meghan to his father Prince Charles, who himself had set royal precedent by marrying a divorcee, Camilla Parker Bowles, now Duchess of Cornwall. Everyone wanted to know more about the little known actress. The press scrambled for details. A source revealed to reporters, “Harry loves that she is so into philanthropy. One of the first things they spoke about were her dogs rescued from an animal shelter. He loves that she’s so caring.â€
But then all sorts of stories about her family came to light. In October, Prince Harry canceled a trip last moment planned to visit her in Toronto.
The cast of Suits
To capitalize on her growing stardom, Meghan launched her line of lower priced women’s fashion workwear, not exceeding $70 for a garment, for Fall/Winter 2016, in collaboration with the Canadian clothing company Reitmans. Canadian newspaper the Vancouver Sun published an interview with Meghan promoting her collection, in which she said, “I was not a girl who grew up buying $100 candles. I was the girl who ran out of gas on her way to an audition. I’m deeply and passionately involved in the design process. I’m a brash American.†Though she made no direct mention of Harry, she let drop the cryptic remark, “My cup runneth over and I’m the luckiest girl in the world!â€
Meanwhile, haunted by the memory of Diana, Princess of Wales being hounded by paparazzi to her tragic death, soon after Prince Harry owned up to his relationship by having his communications secretary issue a statement for the press to stop harassing Meghan and her family.
Again a source close to the Prince told a reporter, “He’s happier than he’s been for many years. He’s in a very relaxed period of his life and Meghan has come along at the right time.â€
In mid-November, Meghan was seen grocery shopping at Whole Foods near Kensington Palace, dressed casually in a black jacket and black Hunter Wellington boots, as British as you can get. She was trailed returning to the Prince’s digs.
These days news travels at lightning speed. In late November, during an official visit to Antigua, Prime Minister Gaston Browne could not refrain from teasing Harry, “I believe we are expecting a new Princess soon. I want you to know that you are very welcome to come on your honeymoon here … there will be nowhere in the world as special to spend your honeymoon, when that day arrives,†quickly plugging his country as a desirable holiday spot. Harry “clearly embarrassed, went bright red†at the remark. Prince William was reportedly not happy that Harry had gone so public with the relationship.
Certainly no shrinking violet, in response Meghan was photographed at a flower shop in Toronto, wearing a 14K gold Maya Brenner Asymmetrical Letter necklace with the initials “M†and “H.†It was a trinket that spoke its own tale loud and clear.
Soon Prince William’s staff issued a press release on his behalf, addressed to the Telegraph, refuting reports that William was unhappy that his younger brother had made his relationship public. It stated: “The Duke of Cambridge absolutely understands the situation concerning privacy and supports the need for Prince Harry to support those closest to him.â€
Diana on a Red Cross trip to Africa
Prince Harry in Lesotho
Meghan in Rwanda
In December, Google confirmed that Meghan became the most-searched actress of 2016, with Brad Pitt becoming the most searched actor after his divorce.
After concluding his two-week tour of the Caribbean, Prince Harry took a 1,700 mile detour to see Meghan in Toronto before returning to London and more royal engagements where she soon followed him.
Back in London, Meghan and Harry were first spied out shopping for a Christmas tree at Pines and Needles in Battersea. The shopkeeper said, “They came in at about 8.30 p.m. last night. Prince Harry was with Meghan and hilariously the staff only recognized Meghan at first – they were so excited to have the girl from Suits there. It wasn’t particularly cold but they were gloved and hatted out.†After picking out 6-feet tall lush Fir, Harry and Meghan loaded it in their car before heading back to Kensington Palace.
A couple of days later, they were publicly holding hands while strolling together after catching The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime at the Gielgud Theatre in the West End. They were wearing his-and-hers beanies and admiring the Christmas lights along Piccadilly.
After spending NYE together in London, Meghan and Harry took their first official vacation together, jetting off to the Norwegian fjords. There they stayed with a close friend of Harry’s, expedition guide and polar consultant Inge Solheim at his luxury property in Tromsø. The couple stayed in a cabin, whale-watched, took a lake trip and looked at the Northern Lights. Harry had reportedly “put a lot of thought into it and wanted to make it as romantic and special as possible.â€
Eagle eyed fans spotted the two sporting similar African bracelets
The relationship had grown serious overnight and in mid January this year, Harry invited Meghan to stay with him at Kensington Palace where Harry lives near the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, plus the junior royals. Harry took her over to apartment 1A where she met Kate. Not only did Meghan give Kate a belated birthday gift, she also played with Princess Charlotte. A source told the Sunday Express, “William and Kate really liked her and she fitted in straight away.â€
Meghan was photographed buying flowers in Kensington High Street wearing Harry’s favourite brown baseball camp.
In late January, while Harry was busy attending events in support of Heads Together (his charity with Prince William and Kate) in London, Meghan carried out her duties as a World Vision ambassador on a visit to India where she learned about various issues affecting women and young girls in slum communities, including education and health care. She mirrored his philanthropic activity with one of her own.
Prinyanka Chopra, a close friend of Meghan’s, answered a reporter at this year’s Golden Globes, “I’m just happy for Meg. And I hope whatever she does, wherever she goes in life, she’s always happy”
By February, sources said the actress has “virtually moved in†with Harry at his cottage in Kensington Palace.
Kensington Palace
Northern Lights of Norway
An anonymous friend said, “I know that sounds a bit crazily soon, but he’s head over heels and they can’t bear to be apart.â€
Just before Valentine’s Day, the couple was seen holding hands after a dinner at the exclusive Soho House. She was photographed wearing a ring with an “H†initial. Keen to spot another sign, press speculated that it’s a promise ring from the Prince, implying an early engagement. V Day itself they spent cosily together in his cottage at the Palace.
Forced to briefly return to Toronto to film Suits, a show she has now refused to be in next season so she’s able to be with Harry full time, Meghan was invited by the Prince to join him at his best friend’s wedding in Jamaica in March. There, the pair was spotted leaving the church before heading to the reception at a nearby hotel.
A plot twist occurred when, seeing that she is in dire need of money while her half sister is lording it with the royals, Meghan’s half sister Samantha is seeking revenge and has threatened to write a tell-all book titled The Diary of Princess Pushy’s Sister. In her interviews, Samantha called Meghan “a social climber who grew up following the royal family and having a thing for ginger haired men.†She added, “The royal family would be appalled by what she’s done to her own family. The truth would kill her relationship with Prince Harry. Her behaviour is certainly not fitting of a Royal Family member.†She claims that the actress is “narcissistic and selfish,†as well as shallow, hypocritical and calculating. Their family, however, said that Samantha is envious of Meghan’s good fortune. When they were living together as a family apparently the former used to tell visitors that her stepmother Doria was the maid since she is black.
At a wedding in Jamaica this March
In the April issue of Vanity Fair, Meghan takes centre stage in a glossy photo shoot on the Ottawa River, celebrating the 1,300 “exceptional young global leaders of tomorrow†who attended the One Young World Summit in Ottawa last September. On one side of her stands the former President of Ireland Mary Robinson, Pakistani writer Fatima Bhutto, and Saudi women’s rights activist Loujain al-Hathloul. British actress Emma Watson, American singer/actress Cher (aged 71), and Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, all of whom spoke at the 2016 Summit, are also featured in the photo shoot by American photographer Jason Schmidt. I wonder, had it not been for her association for Prince Harry, whether Ms Markle would have been chosen for such a prominent position. As it is, the story about the upcoming shoot went viral due to her newly found fame.
Chances are very good that Ms Markle will marry the younger Prince; in fact bookies have significantly reduced the odds on their getting engaged this year. Meghan seems a determined woman who knows what she wants and how to get it, is supremely confident despite her family background and knows how to expertly work social media and the PR machine in her favour. Doubtlessly, she’s not letting this Prince go, and there’s another royal wedding on the horizon.
As we were going to press, Meghan Markle announced that she is shutting down her lifestyle blog The Tig after three years. She gave no reason, but it’s widely speculated that she has done so as her engagement to Prince Harry is imminent.
I first saw Salma Hayek on the big screen in Robert Rodriguez’s Desperado in 1995 starring opposite Spanish heart-throb Antonio Banderas and was blown away by how smoking hot the leading couple was. Their heavily accented English, their tanned good looks, her overtly feminine curves, his Old World machismo—this film made breakout stars of all three, the actress, the actor and the director. It was a precursor to the growing significance and relevance of Spanish-speaking stars in American mainstream movies. While promoting the film, Ms. Hayek appeared on the Tonight Show with Jay Leno and said that she had given up a career as a top Mexican soap opera star to make it in Hollywood and recounted how she had driven herself over all the way from Mexico City to Los Angeles and roughed it out there. She appeared peppy, confident, ambitious, exotic and had oodles of star quality and sex appeal. Her self belief paid off. Not only did she make it in Hollywood, but also married one of the richest, most well respected men in France.
Gene Wilder’s Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory (1971) inspired young Salma to become an actress. Lagging behind in her school work, naughty little Salma at age 12 was sent to the Academy of the Sacred Heart in New Orleans, Grand Coteau, Louisiana, where she was diagnosed with dyslexia, a reading disability, and ADHD, an inability to focus for very long. She also routinely pulled pranks on the poor nuns. One time she set their clocks back three hours, disrupting their routine and was subsequently expelled. However, she was good at languages and grew up speaking fluent Spanish, Portuguese, Arabic and English. After school, Salma attended Mexico City’s Universidad Iberoamericana to study International Relations and Drama.
In Teresa, a Mexican telenovela
After graduation, Salma landed the title role in the successful telenovela Teresa (1989) at the age of 23, making her a household name in Mexico. She said she could have comfortably rested on her laurels and been happy being a star in her home country but she had set her sights on Hollywood. So, in 1991, she got in her car and drove to Hollywood where she started taking Stella Adler’s acting class. Though a petite 5.2†curvacious bombshell, she spoke with a heavy accent and was typecast as a mistress, maid or stripper/prostitute in bit roles.
Looking back, Salma said, “I, a rich girl from Mexico, came to Hollywood with my designer clothes. And one day, when I was starving in an apartment in Los Angeles, I looked at my Chanel blouses and said, ‘If only I could pay the rent with one of these.’†Feeling under pressure and unappreciated by white filmmakers, Hayek vented her frustrations in a humorous manner on comedian Paul Rodriguez’s late-night Spanish-language talk show in 1992, which filmmaker Robert Rodriguez and his producer wife Elizabeth Avellan happened to be watching. They had been looking for a Latina actress for their upcoming film Desperado and were immediately struck by this not only obviously good looking but also intelligent and opinionated young woman. Their instincts were spot on! The movie made $25 million and went on to become a cult classic. In 1994, Salma returned to Mexico to star in the film El Callejón de los Milagros (Miracle Alley), which won more awards than any other movie in the history of Mexican cinema. Rodriguez then cast her in Quentin Tarantino scripted From Dusk Till Dawn (1996) opposite George Clooney in a vampy role. In this cult classic, Hayek does a memorable sexy table top dance holding a snake, which got a lot of male pulses quickening. She made some mildly successful but forgettable romcoms in the next few years and her star graph kept steadily rising.
With her mother Diana
With Antonio Banderas in Desperado
Her snake dance in From Dusk Till Dawn
Once Upon a Time in Mexico
In Wild Wild West with Will Smith & Kevin Kline
In Bandidas with best friend Penelope Cruz
With the suave Pierce Brosnan in After the Sunset
With Colin Farrell in the mediocre tear jerker Ask the Dust
The growing distance she felt from Catholicism was highlighted by her next choice of film Dogma (1999), starring Matt Damon and Ben Affleck, which portrays the Roman Catholic Church in an irreverent manner. She also starred in the summer blockbuster action comedy Wild Wild West opposite Will Smith. The same year her newly formed production company Ventanarosa produced the 1999 Mexican feature film No One Writes to the Colonel (1999) that was shown at the Cannes Film Festival and was selected as Mexico’s official Oscar entry for best foreign film.
 “I wish I knew (when I was younger) that I was going to fall crazy in love with the perfect man. I was so worried, and I dated some people I shouldn’t have dated. You get desperate, and you start seeing wonderful things in, like, the wrong guys. I also found some pretty good guysâ€
With Edward Atterton
With Oscar de la Hoya
With Edward Norton
With Colin Farrell
Salma at this time was a serial monogamist and looking for “The One!†She admitted in an interview for Allure magazine that she dated people she shouldn’t have because she was “desperate†to find her perfect soul mate. She revealed that when she was younger she was in a hurry to find the person with whom she was going to spend the rest of her life, and because of that desire, she found herself overlooking her previous partners’ shortcomings. “I wish I knew (when I was younger) that I was going to fall crazy in love with the perfect man. I was so worried, and I dated some people I shouldn’t have dated. You get desperate, and you start seeing wonderful things in, like, the wrong guys. I also found some pretty good guys.
But I wish I could say to myself: ‘Hey, chill out. You’re going to get a great husband that’s going to adore you.’ I would have saved myself a lot of personal drama.â€
She especially had a soft spot for actors during this phase: she dated English actor Edward Atterton from 1997 to 1999, followed by a brief liaison with Mexican-American boxer Oscar de la Hoya. Then came a serious relationship with American character actor Edward Norton from 1999 to 2003. Good looking actor Josh Lucas applied the salve to her heartbreak in 2003 for a year. In 2004, Irish Lothario Colin Farrell and Salma had a fling during the filming of their below average movie “Ask the Dust†(2006).
She said how she felt about men, “What worries me the most is that most men are so weak. Because of that they act like they don’t care and like machos – because they are too fragile inside. They’re scared of confrontation and afraid of so many things. And because of this they build up their life so they have to deal with their feelings as little as possible. I find feminine men unbelievably sexy. But most men are completely incapable of getting in touch with their feminine side. What am I supposed to talk about with a man who doesn’t know what it’s like to be a woman?â€
Francios Henri Pinault, one of France’s richest and most influential men
So Salma concentrated on her work and poured her passion into her labour of love, the film she co-produced about the life of the legendary Mexican painter Frida Kahlo, whom Salma had been admiring her entire life and whose story she wanted to bring to the big screen ever since her arrival in Hollywood. Frida (2002) has great performances from Salma in the leading role and Alfred Molina as Kahlo’s cheating husband. The cast included many of her friends who wanted to support her, including Antonio Banderas, Ashley Judd, Valeria Golino and Edward Norton. Salma famously sports Frida’s real life one eyebrow for the film. The biographical movie is coloured with the same colour palette that Frida Kahlo used in her paintings and was nominated for six Oscars, including best actress for Hayek, who became the second Latin actress to be nominated in the category. It won the Academy Awards for make-up and original score by Elliot Goldenthal. Salma also won credibility as a serious actress and successful producer.
The next year, she reprised her role in the final of Rodriguez’s Desperado trilogy Once Upon a Time in Mexico (2003) alongside her buddy Antonio Banderas. Incidentally, Salma is also godmother to Rodriguez’s children.
Then 2006, fresh from her fling with Colin Farrell, Salma started dating divorced French businessman Francois Henri Pinault.
She revealed in an interview, “What works in a relationship of very public people is not making the relationship public–keeping it as personal as it can be. It’s the only way it is real. I am suspicious of those who have to let the world know how much they love each other. It’s a little sad when you have to brag about how much you love someone. That kind of declaration doesn’t always reflect the moment of truth between two people who care deeply for each other. When that truth is there, you don’t need others to know it. And when somebody truly loves you, you don’t even need him or her to be affectionate. Affection is fantastic, but it doesn’t necessarily mean there’s love – and the public display of affection is often just a show. When you open a door for others to have an opinion on your relationship, it can be dangerous. Find what you need, not what everyone else wants for you. Women have been taught that in order to have a place in the world, an identity, they must marry and have children. If that’s the life you truly want, great. But for many women, marriage is only about needing the world to know that someone desires them enough to say, ‘Here’s a contract to prove that I love you and will commit to you for the rest of my life.’ For these women, no contract equals no validation – and, thus, no reason for existing.†Salma, as it turns out, was far more traditional than she realized.
“I don’t get out of bed for less than $10,000 a day,†said Linda Evangelist in her heyday
The Hollywood mansion FHP bought in daughter Valentina’s name to woo Salma back
FHP, as he is nicknamed, was born in 1962 in Rennes, Brittany, France, in the lap of luxury. His father François Pinault founded Kering, a luxury, sports and lifestyle empire estimated at $16.9 billion in March 2017, according to Bloomberg that includes Gucci, Yves St. Laurent, Alexander McQueen, Balenciaga, Bottega Veneta, and many other high end brands.
Newly divorced and surrounded by tall, skinny, gorgeous models, FHP started casually seeing supermodel Linda Evangelista, who had famously said earlier that she doesn’t get out of bed for less than $10,000 a day. The forty year old model’s career lifespan was at its sell-by date, and she was looking around to settle down and have children by this time. Though FHP later said he only spent seven days out of her four months with her from September 2005 to January 2006, she got pregnant. He bolted. At first, he denied the baby was his. Much later did he admit he had asked her to abort as he was not interested in raising the baby with her. With her biological clock ticking, Linda said she would raise the baby on her own. Augustin James Evangelista was born in October 2006. The father did not recognize him, give him his name, nor did he support him financially or in any other way.
Wedding festivities in Venice
Former French President Jacques Chirac & François Pinault arrive at the weddingÂ
Anna Wintour in Chanel
Ashley Judd
Salma’s ex Ed Norton & girlfriend Shauna Robertson
Salma didn’t merely buy a designer handbag or dress, those she gets for free. She married the man who owns the company,by showing him she doesn’t need his money
The reason FHP was desperate to distance himself from Linda and his son is because it turned out that there was some overlap–he had started seeing Salma at around the same time. She, he was serious about. According to Pinault, it was not until April 2006 that he started dating the fiery actress. The following March, she too was pregnant. However, in her case he was thrilled with the news and immediately popped the question and they got engaged. “It sounds trite to go after men who are nice but when you’ve been hurt a lot it becomes appealing,†Salma said.
While going through a difficult pregnancy, Salma finalized negotiations with MGM on behalf her Latin-themed film production company Ventanarosa of which she is CEO, and the following month, she also signed a two-year deal with ABC for Ventanarosa to develop projects for the network.
Linda with son Augustus Evangelista
The power couple at the Metropolitan Museum of Art Costume Institute gala benefi
Pinault was also busy safeguarding his interests. He later admitted that he had asked his former girlfriend Linda to delay the process of legally recognising Augustin as his son because Salma was going through a difficult pregnancy. “We were told the baby (Valentina) had Down syndrome until late May 2007,†Pinault said, adding that Salma at 41, almost lost their daughter in a miscarriage that was successfully prevented. Linda was considerate and agreed to delay the process and he was grateful, the New York Post reported when the whole story came out five years later. Salma gave birth to Valentina Paloma Pinault in September 2007 in Cedars-Sinai Medical Center, Los Angeles.
We don’t know when exactly Salma found out about his son from Linda that was born the year before her own and if that played any factor in their breakup a year later in July 2008. Salma returned to Hollywood where she was the executive producer of the successful sitcom Ugly Betty that ran from 2006 to 2010. Th endless reruns of the show can be watched here, and it’s based on the hit Colombian telenovela Yo Soy Betty La Fea, the right for which had been officially acquired. Ugly Betty won a Golden Globe Award for Best Comedy Series in 2007.
Back in Hollywood after yet another unsuccessful romance, Salma reportedly had a rebound hookup with the ever willing bad boy Colin Farrell.
“I keep waiting to meet a man who has more balls than I do,†she said resignedly in an interview.
She told Allure magazine, “I wish I knew (when I was younger) that I was going to fall crazy in love with the perfect man. I’ve never been apart from my daughter for more than two weeks. And same with François. We don’t separate for long periods of time. Never. I always miss him when we’re not together.â€
The story went on, “(Salma) is so enamored with her family that she actually considered giving up her acting career after giving birth to Valentina. However, when she broached the subject with François, he insisted that she go back to work, telling her: ‘We’re not putting up with some lazy girl in the house. That’s not who I married.’
In St Barts
The blended family on holiday
With daughter Valentina
But Salma explained that his seemingly harsh reaction was actually out of love and respect for her passions. ‘He said something so beautiful,’ she said of François, adding that he told her: ‘I don’t want to be deprived of your work. I want to watch it, too. And the world has not seen the best of you yet. So you cannot stop until some of that is put out.’
When he first proposed, she told him that she wanted to remain somewhat financially independent, despite his massive wealth.
‘And he goes, “I know. That’s why I want to marry you,†she recalled. ‘Maybe that’s also part of what works great in my marriage. I still have my independence. But he likes it… And I get a lot of respect from him.â€
When FHP first proposed, salma told him that she wanted to remain somewhat financially independent despite his massive wealth. “And he goes, ‘I know. That’s why I want to marry you,’†she recalled. “Maybe that’s also part of what works great in my marriage. I still have my independence. But he likes it… And I get a lot of respect from him”
In 2011, she launched her own line of affordable cosmetics, skincare, and hair care products called Nuance by Salma Hayek to be sold at the drugstore chain CVS in North America.
In late June 2011, just two years into the Pinault’s wedded bliss, all hell broke loose when Linda Evangelista filed court papers that revealed to the world that her son, Augustin James Evangelista, had been fathered by Pinault. In the filing, it was stated that the child “was born out of wedlock to (petitioner) Linda Evangelista, and that (Pinault) acknowledged (her) allegation.
A source told PEOPLE magazine that “This is no Schwarzenegger case. No one was married. There was no infidelity.â€
Linda, who is worth $8 million and owns a penthouse in Chelsea, West Side of Manhattan as well as an apartment near her son’s school on the Upper East Side sued Pinault for child-support in the Manhattan Family Court in August shortly after her breakup with another billionaire, Hard Rock Cafe co-founder Peter Morton.
“She willingly paid all the expenses herself at first from her roughly $1.8 million-a-year income, but a big contract with L’Oreal ended in the last year or so, and she now needs Pinault to chip in,†her lawyer, William Beslow, said during the trial.
‘I need to protect him (Augie),†she told Love magazine. She wanted $46,000 per month in child support till the child turns 21. It was reported that if granted, this amount “would probably be the largest support order in the history of the family court.†According to Bloomberg Businessweek, Pinault’s annual salary in 2010 was $5.4 million. In New York, where the court papers were filed, the law requires a father to pay 17 per cent of what he earns in child support, meaning Pinault owed her $920,000 for that year.
A heavily-publicized child support trial began the next year. Evangelista’s attorney claimed that Pinault had never supported the child, while she had spent over a million dollars taking care of Augie that included armed security guards and round the clock nannies. The surprise settlement, revealed by a source to The New York Post, came three days into the court scrap that revealed some of the uglier truths about the former couple’s four-month relationship. Evangelista’s lawyer William Beslow argued that Augie deserved a lifestyle similar to that of Pinault’s four-year-old daughter with Hayek and that he spent $50,000 a month just on the taxes, upkeep and loan payments for the Hollywood house he had bought for Valentina. Taking the witness stand, Pinault admitted he could not remember what he had bought his son or how much he had spent on him. He said, “I bought him a present for Christmas. I bought it online. It was a piano thing. I also bought him a present for his birthday and ,†but could not remember what he had actually bought him.
“You’ve got to take who you are and love who you are and do the best you can with what you’ve got. That goes for the figure, and it goes for everything else. You’ve got to have a sense of humor about who you are and give yourself a break. You’ve got to be kind to yourself. And it’s not easy, you know?”
Pinault criticized Linda saying the $46,000 a month is in fact for ‘mom support.’
“Most of the expenses do not relate to Augie but they relate to Ms. Evangelista,†Pinault’s lawyer, David Aronson said in his opening statement. “It is the classic case of someone trying to bootstrap herself to something that is alimony. Is Mr. Pinault a comfortable man of substantial means? Yes. But in the four years preceding 2011, her average income was $1.8 million. These
people have more money than a lot of people, but our position is that what we understand is being asked for is just ridiculous.â€
In a surprise twist, just before Linda was to present her personal testimony in the court, Pinault called her up on the phone and settled out-of-court with her for an undisclosed amount close to the sum she had asked for. Salma probably had encouraged him, so that her husband would be prevented from suffering any more public embarrassment.
Loving couple in Paris
In a rare holiday snap that she herself put on Instagram
Salma said to an InStyle magazine reporter after the trial ended, “You’ve got to take who you are and love who you are and do the best you can with what you’ve got. That goes for the figure, and it goes for everything else. You’ve got to have a sense of humor about who you are and give yourself a break. You’ve got to be kind to yourself. And it’s not easy, you know?â€
She believes the secret to her decade long marriage is cutting out extra social engagements and putting each other first she told reporters at a Harper’s Bazaar event. “I married the right guy. That is probably the most important thing. We support each other in everything we do. We want the other one to strive. Makes you happy when the other one strives. And you know what, we don’t have a very strong social life, because we really like to spend time together. So we do spend a lot of quality time together.†She added that balancing motherhood and career isn’t always the biggest challenge for her, but she does find that balancing motherhood and marriage a greater task. “Sometimes the hardest things to balance are motherhood with marriage,†she said, adding that husbands can be a little overwhelming. “They take over, oh my God, they take over everything. You just have to remind yourself that you have that other big kid too to look after. He looks like he’s self-sufficient, but they need the tender loving care too. You have to keep reminding yourself.†Her biggest trick to maintaining balance is to make sure she doesn’t spend too much time away from family. “When it comes to my career, what I do is I only do roles that are shot in a way that I’m never more than two weeks away from my family.â€
Gifted actors whose passionate but tragic romance was cut short by death
By Mahlia Lone
Everyone knows that Meryl Streep is the best actress of her generation and that she has been nominated for arecord breaking 20 Academy Awards for acting and has won three so far. Gifted with an uncanny ability to mimic accents and with an inherent capability to transform herself into any character, there is another factor that has raised her acting ability above that of her peers. Actors generally tap into the pain in their personal lives to add depth to a dramatic role. Because she lived through a great tragic romance early on in her life before she hit it big as an actress, she was able to bring this combination of vulnerability, fragility, acute sadness and fortitude not only to her next role in Kramer vs. Kramer but also to many others in her career, like The French Lieutenant’s Woman, Sophie’s Choice, Out of Africa, The Bridges of Madison County, etc. This is the story not of her happy marriage, but her earlier tragic romance that changed her forever and contributed to making her the exceptional actress we all adore
The first born of artist Mary Wolf Wilkinson and pharmaceutical executive Harry William Streep Jr., Meryl was named Mary Louise Streep at birth. She was born in New Jersey in 1949 and was followed by two brothers. Her father had German Swiss ancestry, while her mother belonged to a family of 17th-century English-Irish immigrants who were amongst the first to settle and purchase land in Pennsylvania and Rhode Island. Her direct maternal ancestor Lawrence Wilkinson was one of the first Europeans settlers in Rhode Island. Another ancestor, William Penn was the founder of Pennsylvania. In the U.S. such families of early settlers are looked upon highly and considered “old, landed gentry.â€
Mary Louise, a popular but shy girl, appeared in school plays and was the cheerleader at Bernards High School. Meryl recalled her mother encouraging and motivating her by saying, “You’re capable. You’re so great. You can do whatever you put your mind to. If you’re lazy, you’re not going to get it done. But if you put your mind to it, you can do anything.â€
An intelligent, driven girl, she attended the prestigious Vassar College where she appeared in the college production of Miss Julie. Her drama professor Clinton J Atkinson said, “I don’t think anyone ever taught Meryl acting. She really taught herself.†She quickly became known for her ability to mimic accents and to effortlessly memorize her lines, a big requirement for an actor. After earning her BA degree cum laude (with honours) in 1971, she started her MFA from the Yale School of Drama.
Meryl Streep was a high school cheerleader
here, she appeared in over a dozen plays in diverse roles varying from Helena in Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream to an 80-year-old woman in a wheelchair in a comedy. Her first professional job after receiving her degree from Yale in 1975 was at the Eugene O’Neill Theater Center’s National Playwrights Conference during which she acted in an incredible five plays in just six weeks. Armed with a sound background in theatre, Meryl moved to New York City and was cast in Measure for Measure opposite John Cazale, fourteen years her senior and already a respected theatre and film actor.
John Cazale was born and bred in Massachusetts. He had Irish ancestry from his mother’s side and Italian from his father’s. Cazale had also studied drama at Oberlin College and Boston University, after which he moved to New York City and became friends with another aspiring actor, Al Pacino, with whom he lived in a communal house.
Cazale possessed unusual looks – a slim frame, high forehead, prominent nose and sad eyes. Pacino reminisced, “When I first saw John, I instantly thought he was so interesting. Everybody was always around him because he had a very congenial way of expressing himself.â€
THE GODFATHER, JOHN CAZALE, 1972
Young John Cazale
Of the six movies Cazale starred in (including through archive footage in Godfather Part III) all were nominated for Best Picture by the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences, and three won, a unique feat on his part
The two friends were cast in Israel Horovitz’s play, The Indian Wants the Bronx, for which they both won Obie Awards, given to off-Broadway productions, for the1967-1968 season. Cazale also played the lead in Horovitz’s Line. In this, he was noticed by a casting director who suggested him to director Francis Ford Coppola for his epic gangster movie Godfather (1972). Cazale plays the feeble-minded older brother Fredo to Pacino’s Michael Carleone. The film later became a cult classic and broke box office records making the newcomer famous overnight.
Al Pacino,Marlon Brando, James Caan, , & John Cazale in The Godfather (1972)
The Godfather Part II
Pleased with the success, Coppola cast Cazale opposite Gene Hackman in his psychological mystery thriller The Conversation, which won the Palm d’Or at the ’74 Cannes Film Festival.
Next, Cazale reprised his role as Fredo Corleone in The Godfather Part II (1974). Film critic Bruce Fretts wrote in Entertainment Weekly, “Cazale’s devastatingly raw turn intensifies the impact of the drama’s emotional climax.â€
With Al Pacino in Dog Day Afternoon
With Gene Hackman in The Conversation
Dominic Chianese who plays Ola in the second installment of the trilogy spoke about the depth with which he inhabited a role: “John could open up his heart, so it could be hurt. That’s a talent few actors have.â€
Cazale again starred alongside Pacino in Sidney Lumet’s 1975 crime drama Dog Day Afternoon, for which he was nominated for a Golden Globe award. Lumet said, “One of the things that I love about the casting of John Cazale was that he had a tremendous sadness about him. I don’t know where it came from; I don’t believe in invading the privacy of the actors that I work with, or getting into their heads. But, my God — it’s there — every shot of him. And not just in this movie, but in Godfather II also.â€
“He wasn’t like anybody I’d ever met. It was the specificity of him, and his sort of humanity and his curiosity about people, his compassion,†remembered Meryl later.
Though not a huge star, Cazale was considered “a rare talent, in demand among the great directors of the era.†He was known among directors as “20 Questions,†because he wanted a detailed back story of the character he would be portraying.
“Time moved differently for John Cazale. Everything went slower. He wasn’t dim, not by a long shot. But he was meticulous, sometimes maddeningly so.†Pacino described having dinner with Cazale, “I mean, you’d be done — washed, finished and in bed –before he got halfway through his meal. Then the cigar would come out (Cuban of course). He’d look at it, light it, taste it. Then finally smoke it.â€
In Shakespeare’s Measure for Measure, Central Park, 1976
At the 75th birthday party for the legendary Lee Strasberg, the father of method acting in America and director of the Actors Studio
Meryl Streep in NYC’s Theater District,1978
Cazale introduced his best buddy Pacino to his new girlfriend whom he raved about. However, Pacino thought his friend was simply infatuated, “I didn’t go see (the play) but I met her with him and she seemed alright, a bit shy.â€
According to film critic Bruce Fretts, Cazale “was the walking embodiment of the aphorism, ‘acting is reacting,’ providing the perfect counterbalance to his recurring co-stars, the more emotionally volatile Al Pacino and Robert De Niro.†Cazale was the perfect foil to his fellow actors and brought out the best in them
Cazale was also described as “shy and emotionally sensitive†by those who knew him well. Though he was famous, money was still tight. Cazale would take Meryl to dinner in Little Italy, where restaurant owners that were fans of The Godfather franchise wouldn’t dream of accepting payment from Fredo Corleone.
“They were great to look at, because they were kind of funny-looking, both of them,†said the playwright Israel Horovitz. “They were lovely in their way, but it was a really quirky couple. They were head-turners, but not because, ‘Wow, is she a beauty!’ â€
“The romance moved as fast as John moved slow.†Soon Meryl moved in to Cazale’s loft on Franklin Street, Tribeca. He promised to marry her as soon as he got his first big break. “They were the envy of the New York theater world,†writes Schulman. Both were naturally gifted actors with legendary director Joe Papp as their patron. All was well until one day in May 1977, Cazale, who was starring in Agamemnon, had been feeling ill enough to miss performances. Papp got him an emergency appointment with his own Upper East Side doctor. The doctor called in Meryl, Cazale, Joe and Gail Papp after the tests results came in. Cazale had terminal metastasized lung cancer. Gail Papp recalled, feeling “like you’ve been struck dead on the spot.â€
“John fell silent. For a moment, so did Meryl. But she was never one to give up, and certainly not one to succumb to despair….She looked up and said, ‘So, where should we go to dinner?’â€
John Cazale, Robert De Niro and John Savage in The Deer Hunter
John Cazale, Meryl Streep and Robert De Niro in The Deer Hunter
While Cazale had to immediately quit the play, Meryl, the consummate professional, who was starring in the musical Happy End showed no sign of anxiety or grief. The show must always go on. Cazale visited her at the theater still smoking his cigars. She didn’t nag or criticize him, but simply made her dressing room off-limits to smokers. The most subtle of hints!
Riding the subway
“She had a kind of tough love,†actor Christopher Lloyd said, “and didn’t let him malinger.†The two lovers tried to keep the severity of his condition between them. Even Cazale’s brother, Stephen, didn’t realize how sick his brother was until one day after the three of them had been lunching in Chinatown, Cazale spat up blood on the sidewalk. Al Pacino took him to radiation treatments and would sit patiently in the waiting room and Cazale would insist he’d get better.
The Gummers
Though mortally ill, Cazale took a role in Vietnam War drama The Deer Hunter, opposite Robert De Niro. Finding out about the extent of his illness, neither the filmmakers nor the production company, EMI, wanted to cast Cazale. It was risky bringing an actor on board who could die on them during filming, his insurance cost would be too high and the film would look dated with a dead star. “I was told that unless I got rid of John, (they) would shut down the picture,†director Michael Cimino said later. “It was awful. I spent hours on the phone, yelling and screaming and fighting.â€
In the end, De Niro himself covered the cost of Cazale’s insurance, which the actor has never confirmed or denied. “He was sicker than we thought, but I wanted him to be in it,†De Niro later said.
Meryl also took a role in the film just to be close to her dying boyfriend, though she didn’t think highly of the role of the token “girl†in the movie. Her character was “essentially a man’s view of a woman. She’s extremely passive, she’s very quiet, she’s someone who’s constantly vulnerable,†Meryl said.
They filmed Cazale’s scenes first while he still had the strength and somehow with the actors and director rallying behind him, they managed to get through his part of the shoot. As the shoot wrapped up and the film went into post production, Meryl had no choice but to accept the lead role of a German woman married to a Jewish artist in Nazi era Germany in the nine-hour TV miniseries Holocaust to help pay Cazale’s mounting medical bills. All she really wanted to do was be by his side. But the filming was in Austria and Germany, and Cazale was too weak to leave NYC. Streep never complained, outwardly she was all “cheery professionalism,†but inwardly she quietly agonized. “The material was unrelentingly noble but grim,†she later said. They shot on location at an actual concentration camp, which she found even more disturbing and depressing. The shoot went over schedule and she spent 2½ months in Austria, longer than she’d been told. She felt like that each day they were separated was another day lost forever. “I was going crazy. John was sick, and I wanted to be with him.â€
“She was very anxious to do her very last scene and then zip back out,†director Marvin Chomsky said. “I mean, I don’t even think we had a moment to say goodbye.â€
When Meryl returned to New York, Cazale was even worse than she had expected. For the next five months, Meryl focused on taking care of Cazale and accompanying him to chemotherapy treatments, morphing from lover to nurse. “Meryl stayed by his side every single moment,†The Deer Hunter director Cimino said. “By her devotion to John, I knew she had great courage.â€
During his final days, Meryl stood by his bedside in their Manhattan apartment constantly, performing comedic routines and reading from the newspaper putting on different accents. “She took care of him like there was nobody else on earth,†Joe Papp said of Streep’s commitment to Cazale. “She never betrayed him in his presence or out of his presence, never betrayed any notion that he would not survive. He knew he was dying, the way a dying man knows it. She gave him tremendous hope.†His cancer had spread to the bones, a very painful stage, and he was increasingly weak. She went with him to every doctor’s appointment, every radiation treatment and never betrayed a lack of hope. “She was always a strong-willed, persistent, hopeful person, and I think she just applied all her spirit and strength to taking care of him. She wasn’t one to create drama around it or draw attention to herself. She just bore down and did what needed to be done.†Everyone was astounded by the strength of character, devotion and fortitude such a young woman showed.
“I was so close that I didn’t really notice the deterioration,†Meryl later said that being alone with him helped her cope with what was to be the final parting.
Meryl wrote to her Yale drama teacher Bobby Lewis, of her true emotional state, “My beau is terribly ill and sometimes, as now, in the hospital, he has very wonderful care and I try not to stand around wringing my hands, but I am worried all the time and pretending to be cheery all the time, which is more exhausting mentally physically emotionally than any work I’ve ever done.â€
In early March 1978, Cazale was admitted to Memorial Sloan Kettering. Meryl kept vigil at his bedside. “When I saw that girl there with him like that I thought, ‘There’s nothing like that,’†Al Pacino recalled. “As great as she is in all her work, that’s what I think of when I think of her.â€
A few days later, one night, his doctor told her softly, “He’s gone.â€
“Meryl wasn’t ready to hear it, much less believe it. What happened next, by some accounts, was the culmination of all the tenacious hope Meryl had kept alive for the past 10 months. She pounded on his chest, sobbing, and for a brief, alarming moment, John opened his eyes. ‘It’s all right, Meryl,’ he said weakly. ‘It’s all right.’ Then he closed his eyes and died. Streep’s first call was to Cazale’s brother, Stephen. She sobbed throughout. ‘I tried,’ she told him.â€
Actor James Woods, who was in The Holocaust with Meryl, recounted “Cazale was lucky enough to have as the last vision of his life, Meryl’s lovely face.â€
Oscar winning actress Meryl Streep is pictured during a photo session in New York in 1983. Standard rates do not apply : fees must be agreed before use. *** Local Caption *** 00/00/1983. Meryl Streep
John Cazale was buried at the Holy Cross Cemetery in his hometown in Massachusetts. The Deer Hunter hadn’t even premiered yet, a film he had fought so hard to work in despite his prognosis.
Pacino sighed, “All I wanted to do was work with John for the rest of my life. He was my acting partner.â€
The Boston Globe ran a story about his legend: “Why was Cazale so influential? In part, it was because of his commitment to the craft of acting.†Meryl was quoted saying he was “monomaniacal†where his craft was concerned and this “challenged his co-stars to take their own game up a notch.†Cazale appeared in archive footage in The Godfather Part III (1990), 12 years after his death. The Godfather Part III was also nominated for Best Picture, so every feature film in which he has starred in has been nominated for the Academy Award for Best Picture, quite a unique achievement. His image was also used posthumously in the Godfather video game. Broadway’s McGinn/Cazale Theatre was named after him and he was celebrated in the documentary film, I Knew It Was You, directed by Richard Shepard, which premiered at the 2009 Sundance Film Festival.
After his death, a grieving Meryl went to stay with a friend in Canada not able to bear the apartment she had shared with him. When she returned, she had to vacate the apartment, so her brother arrived to help her move with his friend sculptor Don Gummer, also a Yale alumni, who gallantly offered his own Soho apartment to stay in while he was travelling. They started corresponding through letters and she realized he wanted to be more than her friend. “Meryl was shattered by John Cazale’s death and I did what I could to help and pretty quickly I realised I was falling in love with her,†Gummer confessed later.
1978 was an eventful year for her career wise as well. Despite not liking her role, the subsequent success of The Deer Hunter not only exposed Streep to a wider audience but also earned her a nomination for the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress. She won the Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Miniseries or a Movie for her performance in Holocaust, which 109 million viewers had watched, bringing her greater visibility.
Despite the awards success, she was still not enthusiastic towards her film career and preferred theatre. Hoping to divert herself from the grief of Cazale’s death, she wanted to keep busy. She performed the role of Katherine in Shakespeare’s The Taming of the Shrew for Shakespeare in the Park, bringing greater insight and a different interpretation to the role. She argued that Kate was not an independent woman broken by a man but one who learns the deep satisfaction of giving herself over to love. “What I’m saying is, ‘I’ll do anything for this man. Look, would there be any hang-up if this were a mother talking about her son? Service is the only thing that’s important about love. Everybody is worried about ‘losing yourself’ — all this narcissism. Duty. We can’t stand that idea now either….But duty might be a suit of armor you put on to fight for your love,†she told a reporter.
Just six months after Cazale’s death, Don and Meryl were married in the garden of her parents’ home in September 1978. Her friends, family and even her mother were concerned that the relationship was of a rebound nature coming so soon after Cazale’s death. But Meryl was adamant saying, “I haven’t got over John’s death, but I’ve got to go on living and Don has showed me how to do that.†Her instincts were spot on.
Streep was cast in her breakout role Kramer vs. Kramer (1979) at the same time. “Imagine losing the love of your life, then finding your husband and starring in your first big movie role all at the same time. It’s just crazy,†writes Schulman.
“The death is still very much with me. It has forced me to confront my own mortality, and once you do that, you look at things differently,†Meryl said. And she had become profoundly different as global audiences were about to find out.
At the audition, the film’s male lead Dustin Hoffman said he realized that Meryl Streep was perfect for the role of Joanna because he knew she had lost John Cazale only months earlier, and clearly she was still shaken to the core. Here was an actress who could draw on a fresh pain, who was herself in the thick of emotional turmoil. It was Meryl’s weakness not her strength that convinced him.
The film’s director Robert Benton recalled, “She said a few things, not much. And she just listened. She was polite and nice, but it was—she was just barely there. There was a fragile quality she had that made us think that this was Joanna, without making her neurotic. Meryl’s Joanna wasn’t neurotic, but she was vulnerable, frail.â€
Streep, however, has a totally different version of events, and told Ms. magazine that she impressed the directors by telling them exactly how to fix the script. Joanna is an unhappily married woman who abandons her husband and child. Meryl thought that the script portrayed the female character as “too evil†and insisted that it was not a true representation of the real women who faced marriage breakdowns and child custody battles. She did extensive research for the role by observing mothers and children interact in the Upper East Side parks since she hadn’t had any children of her own by then. The filmmakers agreed to the script revisions suggested by her and Benton even allowed her to pen her own dialogue in two key scenes, despite Hoffman’s reported objections.
Filming with Hoffman, himself in the midst of separating from his first wife Anne Byrne—a case of life imitating art—posed a challenge for Meryl due to his intense method acting techniques. Schulman elaborates: “On the second day, they continued shooting the opening scene, when Ted follows the hysterical Joanna into the hallway. They shot the bulk of it in the morning and, after lunch, set up for some reaction shots. Dustin and Meryl took their positions on the other side of the apartment door. Then something happened that shocked not just Meryl but everyone on set. Right before their entrance, Dustin slapped her hard across the cheek, leaving a red mark. Always a professional, Streep continued on with the scene without making a commotion, but Hoffman wasn’t done. In a later scene where Joanna tells Ted she’s leaving him, Hoffman took to extreme measures to get the emotion he wanted from Streep. Improvising his lines, Dustin delivered a slap of a different sort: outside the elevator, he started taunting Meryl about John Cazale, jabbing her with remarks about his cancer and his death. ‘He was goading her and provoking her,’ producer Richard Fischoff recalled, ‘using stuff that he knew about her personal life and about John to get the response that he thought she should be giving in the performance.’ Hoffman brought up Cazale’s death again in a courtroom scene and made Streep’s eyes tear up when he whispered her late boyfriend’s name in her ear.â€
Dustin Hoffman & Meryl Streep in Kramer vs. Kramer
Mery Streep & Dustin Hoffman both won Oscars for Kramer vs. Kramer
The stars meet Queen Elizabeth II in a special royal screening of the film in London in 1980
By the time shooting wrapped up, Hoffman admitted, “She’s extraordinarily hardworking, to the extent that she’s obsessive. I think that she thinks about nothing else but what she’s doing.†But the lead pair’s relationship had become so tense and strained during filming that producers feared the movie would be a disaster. As it turns out it was a resounding success, raking in more than $106 million at the box office, even beating out Star Trek. Film critic Stephen Farber raved that Joanna displayed Meryl’s “own emotional intensity†and that she was one of the “rare performers who can imbue the most routine moments with a hint of mystery.†Kramer vs. Kramer got nine Academy Award nominations and won Best Picture, Best Director, Best Adapted Screenplay, Best Actor for Hoffman and Best Supporting Actress for Streep, which she famously left in the ladies room after giving her speech. A star was born, but at quite a personal cost.
With Jeremy Irons in The French Lieutenant’s Woman
In Sophie’s Choice
Accepting her second Oscar for Sophie’s Choice in 1983
With Robert Redford in Out of Africa
In the next decade, Meryl Streep’s career went from strength to strength. She was featured on the cover of Newsweek with the headline “A Star for the 80s.†In the story within a story drama of The French Lieutenant’s Woman (1981) in which she is paired with English actor Jeremy Irons, she puts on a cut glass English accent. She was awarded a BAFTA Award for Best Actress in a Leading Role for her effort. In Sophie’s Choice (1982), she portrays a Polish Jew at a death camp faced with the unimaginable dilemma of choosing which of her two children lives, only to ultimately lose both. William Styron had written the novel with Ursula Andress in mind for the role of Sophie, but Meryl was determined to play the part. She filmed the harrowing “choice†scene when her character is ordered by an SS guard at Auschwitz to choose which one of her two children would be gassed and which would proceed to the labor camp in one take and refused to do it again, finding it extremely painful and emotionally exhausting. Emma Brockes wrote in The Guardian, “It’s classic Streep, the kind of scene that makes your scalp tighten, but defter in a way is her handling of smaller, harder-to-grasp emotions.†Doubtlessly, she knew how to make hard choices and the feeling of helplessness and acute loss. She won her second Oscar for this tragedy. This was voted the third greatest movie performance of all time by Premiere magazine.
With Clint Eastwood in The Bridges of Madison County
Roger Ebert critiqued, “There is hardly an emotion that Streep doesn’t touch in this movie, and yet we’re never aware of her straining. This is one of the most astonishing and yet one of the most unaffected and natural performances I can imagine.â€
Meryl’s next big release was yet another tragedy, Out of Africa (1985). In the film, she stars as the Danish writer Karen Blixen opposite Robert Redford’s Denys Finch Hatton. Director Sydney Pollack was initially dubious thinking she wasn’t sexy enough, and had wanted the much prettier but banal Jane Seymour to play the part. Pollack said Meryl impressed him not with her beauty but with her strength of character and forthrightness: “She was so direct, so honest, so without bullshit. There was no shielding between her and me.†The two reportedly often clashed during the 101-day shoot in Kenya. Meryl had spent much time listening to tapes of Blixen and began speaking in an old-fashioned and aristocratic fashion, which Pollack thought was too affected. However, she was right yet again. The film was not only a box office winner but won the Oscar for the Best Picture as well.
Her third Oscar win for The Iron Lady in 2012
In her acceptance speech when she won her third Oscar for playing Margaret Thatcher in The Iron Lady, Meryl honoured her husband, “First I’m going to thank Don…And I want him to know that everything I value most in our lives you’ve given meâ€
Critic Stanley Kaufmann wrote, “Meryl Streep’s performance in Out of Africa is at the highest level of acting in film today.†The scene where she had to calmly and in a dignified manner meet a line of servants in the intense African heat was filmed in one long take. After giving her take, to everyone’s surprise she tore off her dress to reveal an enormous insect that had been crawling around inside, such was her dedication, commitment and focus. Her salary went up to $4 million per film after Out of Africa’s critical and commercial success.
Actress Meryl Streep uses her iPhone to get a photo of her and Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton following the State Department Dinner for the Kennedy Center Honors gala Saturday, Dec. 1, 2012 at the State Department in Washington. (AP Photo/Kevin Wolf)
With Hillary Clinton, a personal friend
A feminist, staunch Democrat and vocal Trump critic
Her next most successful film was the romance The Bridges of Madison County (1995) directed by and starring Clint Eastwood, who adapted the film from Robert James Waller’s novel. It tells the story of a photographer working for the National Geographic, who has a love affair with a middle-aged Italian farm wife in Iowa. Her strong yet subtle performance was “crucial to transforming what could have been a weak soap opera into a vibrant work of historical fiction implicitly critiquing postwar America’s stifling culture of domesticity,†according to author Karina Longworth. She considers it to have been the role in which Streep became “arguably the first middle-aged actress to be taken seriously by Hollywood as a romantic heroine.†The reason the film touched a chord in middle aged women everywhere is because her character sacrifices her happiness ultimately, but allows herself the luxury of just a single night. You see her tussling with herself over this and you really empathise with her character and the bravery and stoicism she shows. Again, she had delved in her repertoire of personal feelings.
Streep has taken to playing countlesscomedic and a few musical roles in her later career. Perhaps this is due to the fact that she is so happy and secure in her personal life. Despite her “high level of stardom†for decades, Longworth reiterates that Meryl has managed to maintain a relatively normal and stable personal life, being married for nearly 40 years now.
Don has made a name for himself in art circles and they have four creative children: musician Henry (born 1979), actresses Mamie (born 1983) and Grace (born 1986), and model Louisa (born 1991). Their family home is in Connecticut where their vast property even has a 47 acre lake. However, they try to maintain a down to earth manner.
In every role she plays, Meryl Streep honours John Cazale’s memory by emulating his ability to inhabit a role and letting the pain of her loss elevate her performances. She admitted how Cazale’s death profoundly transformed her and will remain a part of her, “I didn’t get over it. I don’t want to get over it. No matter what you do, the pain is always there in some recess of your mind, and it affects everything that happens afterwards. I think you can assimilate the pain and go on without making an obsession of it.â€
Accepting the Cecil B. DeMille Award at this year’s Golden Globes, Meryl honoured her recently deceased friend the Star Wars actress Carrie Fisher in her acceptance speech by echoing her words, ‘’Take Your Broken Heart, Make It Into Art’’ just as she has done herself.
To be a supportive partner, or worse a second fiddle, is not something most men can sustain given the size and fragility of their egos, especially if the wife happens to be as big a star as Cate Blanchett. For two decades now theatre director, playwright and screenwriter, Andrew Upton has successfully remained in his wife’s shadow without any resentment on his part, making this one of the most solid of any showbiz marriages
With skin as fine as porcelain, an aristocratic carriage combined with self deprecating wit, uber stylish, impossibly intelligent and talented, Cate Blanchett effortlessly counts as the actress’ of her generation. At the same time, she’s the mother to four children and has been married to Andrew Upton since 1997. This is their story.
Born Catherine Elise Blanchett in 1969 in Melbourne, Cate is the middle of three children of a U.S Naval officer and a teacher, who met when his ship broke down while berthed in the city. Texan Robert DeWitt Blanchett Jr. fell in love with June Gamble, quit the Navy and settled down in Australia, working as an advertising executive. Tragically, he died of a heart attack when Cate was only 10. After the death of her husband, June gave up her job as a teacher and got her property developer certification to earn more money and be able to afford her children’s private school fees.
“She was very resilient,†Blanchett said in an interview to Xan Brooks of The Guardian, “and my grandmother lived with us so I grew up in a matriarchal household. As a child, you incorporate those losses, those hurdles, those moments of grief or challenge or whatever it is. We all have them. My life has been relatively privileged, but I think perhaps I developed enormous empathetic connection with my mother because I could see the hurdles – financial and emotional – that she had to get over. But she was determined that we would have a good education, for which I’m incredibly grateful. Not that I did massively well at school, but I had a lot of fantastic experiences there.â€
“Part extrovert, part wallflower†during childhood by her own admission, Cate liked to dress as a boy at the Ivanhoe Girls’ Grammar School and went through goth and punk phases during her teenage years, even shaving her head. “It was deeply uncool to be white, particularly in Australia,†she told a journalist at The Huffington Post. “I was 10 or 11, and I was desperate to have a tan. I would put baby oil on my skin then go out on a tin roof. I would think it was a great day if I came down looking the color of beetroot. One day my mother came up, took the baby oil away, said come down and gave me a talk. She was a big Oil of Olay, moisturise your neck, moisturise your hands type of woman. She said, ‘don’t do it.’ So I became a goth instead. That was the downside of her advice, but I had to find some kind of expression for it.â€
As a tomboyish little girl
Cate was a student at NIDA, Sydney
Andrew and Cate got married in their twenties
At the Methodist Ladies’ College, Melbourne, she channeled her creativity into the performing arts, quickly developing a passion. “Our school plays were all devised by the students, and if we were doing Macbeth, then the girls took turns in playing Macbeth as well as Lady Macbeth because they wanted us to have that Shakespearean experience.â€
Dropping out of the University of Melbourne after only a year to travel abroad, Cate was by chance offered an extra’s role of an American cheerleader in a boxing movie, Kaboria, while in Egypt, but she said she got so bored on the set that she quit despite needing the money to pay rent and wanting the free falafel that they were serving on set.
Upon her return to Australia, she moved to Sydney and enrolled in the National Institute of Dramatic Art (NIDA) from which she graduated in 1992. “Acting had become like this terrible addiction. I felt I needed to give it five years and see where it took me,†she told Brooks. She played the difficult role of Clytemnestra in the classical Greek tragedy Sophocles’ Electra while still a student at NIDA and her performance became one of the most acclaimed at the institute. Right after graduation, she starred opposite the thespian Geoffrey Rush in David Mamet’s play Oleanna for the Sydney Theatre Company for which in 1993 she won the Best Actress award. She also received the Sydney Theatre Critics’ Best Newcomer Award for her performance in Timothy Daly’s Kafka Dances, making her the first actor to win both categories in the same year. Then, she played another challenging role successfully that of Ophelia in a production of Hamlet. Soon she started accepting roles in TV shows. On the set of one TV show in her mid twenties, she met Andrew Upton, three years her senior.
Andrew had grown up in Sydney, the son of a doctor and a nurse and after seeing Harold Pinter’s Betrayal on a school trip at 16 he wrote his first play. “It was called The Plumber, a Pinteresque title, without any of the skill, depth or capacity… I knew I didn’t want to act – I tried it at school and it just wasn’t my bag,†he recounted in an interview for the Independent. At university in Sydney, he joined the drama society, before he formally started studying directing and playwriting in Melbourne. Hitting a “brick wall†career-wise with theatre, he went into film to earn a living, spending a decade working as an assistant editor for films such as the charming children’s film Babe as well as TV shows. He met Cate while working on Thank God He Met Lizzie in 1996 – “I’d already met her socially because the theatre world is fairly small but then the relationship developed.â€
Her metamorphosis from a young, romantic Princess to the Virgin Queen is a work of art
“We didn’t like each other for a long time – about 17 years!†Cate said on The Ellen Degeneres Show. “We knew each other socially and we didn’t really get on.†But then one night they bonded over a poker game. When Ellen asked if alcohol had been involved, Cate said, “There wasn’t actually alcohol – oh no, there was alcohol involved—alcohol and gambling. And then we got tattooed.†And that’s how they initially bonded. After just three days of intense dating, Cate knew Andrew was the one – and she realized this while in bed with him. “We were in bed, as you are after three days, and he said, ‘Cate,’ and I thought, ‘S— he’s gonna ask me to marry him and I’m gonna have to say yes.†Luckily, it was a false alarm. “And then he said, ‘No, I’m hungry, do you want to go get something to eat?’†recalled Cate, laughing. But fast-forward less than a month and Upton was ready to put a ring on it. “Then he asked me after about 21 days and I said yes,†revealed Blanchett. It all happened due to her cooking skills, or lack thereof. “I cooked him the worst meal. I somehow decided that to stuff a trout with walnuts and goat’s cheese would be a good idea,†she said. “He ate it and then he asked me to marry him, so clearly he was, I don’t know, hallucinating. He realized I couldn’t cook.†So it was after those three days – and that horrible meal – that sealed the deal. “You give them food poisoning,†she joked. “They’re delirious, and then you’ve got them!â€
With Matt Damon in the gorgeous The Talented Mr. Ripley
If her cooking couldn’t warn him off, neither could her choice of underwear, she modestly claimed, “People would be horrified if they could see my underwear drawer. I swear to God, the only reason I take jobs and do photo shoots is so I can get more underpants,†she told Jodi Gugliemi at PEOPLE magazine, laughing. “I still have underpants my mother made me in high school. I just – something about going to the lingerie section, I don’t know what – I get overwhelmed, I never know what to buy. So I have the most embarrassing, embarrassing underwear.â€
They developed an instant connection, and married soon afterwards in 1997. “I think marriage is all about timing. Getting married is insanity; I mean, it’s a risk – who knows if you’re going to be together forever? But you both say, ‘We’re going to take this chance, in the same spirit. Getting married is insanity!â€
At the time of her wedding, Cate was also making her feature film debut first with a supporting role as an Australian nurse captured by the Japanese Army during World War II in Bruce Beresford’s film Paradise Road, co-starring Glenn Close and Frances McDormand, and then in the lead in the romantic drama Oscar and Lucinda (1997), opposite the hunky Ralph Fiennes, fresh from his success with The English Patient. I remember watching her in these movies, she effortlessly held her own acting-wise and had the screen presence of a bona fide star, so her name and face stayed with me. Her next movie role made her an international breakout star.
Her first high-profile international role was in Shekhar Kapur directed Elizabeth (1998), portraying the Virgin Queen in a powerful performance that showed how the young Queen transitioned from being a girl to a formidable monarch. Her metamorphosis was so masterful that it earned her a Golden Globe Award, British Academy Award (BAFTA), and Screen Actors Guild (SAG) and Academy Award nomination for Best Actress. “I was shocked,†she recalled in an interview. “You know, I called my agent after making Elizabeth and said, ‘I think I’ve ended my career before it’s even begun.’ So yeah, I was completely shocked by how that film was received.â€
Back in Australia, Cate and Andrew formed their own film production company, Dirty Films, the first project of which was the short film Bangers (1999), part of Stories of Lost Souls, a compilation of thematically-related short stories, which he wrote and directed, she starred in and they jointly produced. She also appeared in the comedy Pushing Tin (1999), co-starring Billy Bob Thornton and Angelina Jolie in which film critics remarked that Cate stole the show, but the other two stars hooking up grabbed the headlines. She was a part of the ensemble star cast for Anthony Minghella’s gorgeous remake The Talented Mr. Ripley (1999), starring Jude Law Matt Damon, Gwyneth Paltrow and Philip Seymour Hoffman. Then, Cate scored a recurring role in a blockbuster fantasy trilogy, Peter Jackson’s Oscar-winning, The Lord of the Rings. The trilogy holds the record as the highest-grossing film trilogy of all time and Cate got a chance to really expand her fan base. In the middle of all this filmmaking, Superwoman Cate gave birth to the couple’s first baby, Dashiell John in 2001 followed by Roman Robert in 2004.
Playing Galadriel in The Lord of the Rings trilogy
In 2005, she won her first Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for her terrific portrayal of Katharine Hepburn in Martin Scorsese’s The Aviator opposite Leonardo DiCaprio’s Howard Hughes, giving her the distinction of becoming the first actor to get an Academy Award for playing an Oscar-winning actor. To support her country’s film industry, she loaned her Oscar statue to The Australian Centre for the Moving Image. That year, talented Cate also won the Australian Film Institute Best Actress Award for playing a very different role, that of a former heroin addict, in the Australian film Little Fish, which was co-produced by Dirty Films and nominated for 13 Australian Film Institute awards. In 2006, she starred opposite Brad Pitt in the multi-lingual, multi-narrative ensemble drama Babel, directed by the Mexican director Alejandro González Iñárritu that received seven Academy Award nominations, the Steven Soderbergh-directed World War II drama The Good German opposite George Clooney, and the psychological thriller Notes on a Scandal with Dame Judi Dench for which Cate Blanchett received her third Academy Award nomination for her performance.
As Blanche Dubois in A Streetcar Named Desire
Tobey Maguire, George Clooney & Cate Blanchett in The Good German
With Dame Judi Dench in Notes on a Scandal
Film Title: I’m Not There
Playing Bob Dylan in I’m Not There
A bankrupt, alcoholic, bipolar WASP in Blue Jasmine
In Benjamin Button
With Rooney Mara in Carol As Lady Tremine in Cinderella
In her speech at the 2006 Women in Hollywood event, presenting Cate with the Icon Award, Judi Dench, herself an awe inspiring actress, said of her co-star, “When we came to work, I realized of course that Cate has a fierce intelligence, an unbelievable integrity. Her powers of concentration are phenomenal. Above all, she has a great sense of humour which I think is the most important thing to have and she is a phenomenal family person. The fact that she is working on something with an incredible intensity and at the same time can completely switch off and become a member of an incredibly close family with her children and her husband. When I saw her playing Elizabeth, it was one of those rare moments that I forgot I was watching an actress and I believed I was watching a real person who had actually lived and existed in history. I think Cate is the most extraordinary actress and I’m thrilled we did this movie together.†High praise indeed!
Meanwhile, Upton had started to earn a name for himself adapting classics for the stage, such as Maxim Gorky’s The Philistines for London’s Royal National Theatre. After living in the seaside town of Brighton, England for a decade while she established her international film career, the couple decided to return to their native Australia in 2006. Cate said that they wanted a permanent home for their boys, be closer to their family, and contribute to the Australian theatrical community. Perhaps having devoted a decade pursuing her dreams, it was time that the couple focused on furthering Upton’s theatrical career. They chose the upscale Sydney suburb of Hunters Hill where they bought a mansion, which underwent extensive renovations to be made more eco-friendly in line with their ecological beliefs. But Upton’s original play Riflemind, staged at the Sydney Theatre Company, about an ageing rock star planning a comeback tour closed quickly due to a poor response.
In 2007, Blanchett was named as one of Time magazine’s 100 Most Influential People in the world and one of the most successful actresses by Forbes magazine. That year she was on top of her game appearing in two remarkably different roles: reprising her role as Queen Elizabeth I in the sequel Elizabeth: The Golden Age, as well as portraying one of six incarnations of Bob Dylan in Todd Haynes’ experimental film I’m Not There, for which she won the Volpi Cup Best Actress Award at the Venice Film Festival, the Independent Spirit and Golden Globe Best Supporting Actress Award for her portrayal of Jude Quinn. At the 80th Academy Awards, she received two Academy Award nominations – Best Actress for Elizabeth: the Golden Age and Best Supporting Actress for I’m Not There – becoming the eleventh actor to receive two acting nominations in the same year, and the first female actor to receive another nomination for the reprisal of a role. Famous film critic Roger Ebert said, “That Blanchett could appear in the same Toronto International Film Festival playing Elizabeth and Bob Dylan, both splendidly, is a wonder of actingâ€.
Living the normal life–at an amusement park with her boys
She next gave a villainous turn in Steven Spielberg’s Indiana Jones and the Kingdom of the Crystal Skull, becoming Spielberg’s favorite villain from the entire series, and played a ballerina in David Fincher’s Oscar-nominated The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, appearing opposite Brad Pitt for a second time. In 2008, she received her star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame.
In 2008, the couple took over as joint artistic directors of the Sydney Theatre Company (STC). While Cate took time off to give birth that year to their third son Ignatius Martin, Upton’s theatrical career flourished as a playwright, adapting Hedda Gabler, The Cherry Orchard, Cyrano de Bergerac, Don Juan, The Maids and Children of the Sun, etc. for the STC. He spoke about their decision to head the company, “We both trained in Australia and we know everyone, it’s a very small world. When you grow up in a country you’ve kind of got an investment in it. Without wanting to sound like a terrible politician, the most important thing that we do is our family. We’ve always worked together in a way. You have your odd, ‘no, no, no, we have to do this,’ but in the end you can say: ‘Oh, all right, I’ll fight for that next year, then.’ That collaborative approach is a really important part of theatre – it’s compromise that adds, not detracts.â€
Andrew Upton frankly and humorously discussed living in his wife’s shadow with Alice Jones for The Independent, calling himself “the hand,†so frequently does he find himself perfectly cropped out of red carpet photographs of him with his wife. Being married to an Oscar-winning film star, one of the finest actress’ of her generation and one of the most beautiful women in the world, he has become an expert in taking a back seat. “They (magazine editors) just look and think, ‘he’s not interesting, cut him out.’ You can almost see the scissors,†he roared with laughter.
“To be fair to those ruthless magazine editors, they do make an odd couple: she, ethereal, statuesque, a cool Armani muse, he, a puckish bundle of energy with thinning hair and tired blue eyes. But in real life there’s no separating the couple,†conjectured Jones.
“I’ve never had that level of success,†he admitted. “Having looked through the prism of Cate, you can see across to the people whom that sort of stuff happens to….I’m never followed but Cate is. Her public identity is associated with her work, which I think is good, right and proper because she’s bloody good at it. When her work is coming into focus, people want to see a photo of her carrying shopping bags. I can understand it – people are interested and I’m glad they’re interested otherwise they wouldn’t come to see it.â€
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DEAUVILLE, FRANCE – AUGUST 31: Cate Blanchett arrives at the premiere of the movie ‘Blue Jasmine’ during the 39th Deauville American film festival on August 31, 2013 in Deauville, France. (Photo by Francois Durand/Getty Images)
Cate admitted that it was not always easy working together in such a high-profile way as well as raising a family, it’s all about communication. “We would divvy it up in a fluid way that perhaps only a married couple could. We’ve always talked. He’s the first person I met who I could deeply talk about work with, and I think we’ve kept each other healthy in that way because you can go a bit bonkers. And I’m bonkers enough! We’ve never been competitors, and we’ve never shied away from robust argument.â€
She told Brooks that she knew the move was a gamble for her as it risked closing the door at her back. “When I stepped away to run the theatre company, a lot of people said, ‘This is a mistake. You realise you have a certain shelf life and you’re throwing that away.’ But I think it’s made me a better actor. If it hasn’t, I’m a fucking idiot.â€
Proud of what they achieved at the STC, putting on 16-19 shows a year over four stages, making the organisation environmentally sustainable, and touring productions internationally, she said, “It was a lot of work, but it was in partnership. And it meant that I absented myself from filmmaking for six years. There were a lot of people who I could tell were thinking, ‘You’re in your late 30s, and the film industry’s not going to be your friend forever. Is this really the time?’ They thought I was having some sort of early midlife crisis, but Andrew and I knew the wealth of talent in Australia, and it’s our creative wellspring. So to return to that community and to be inside it was game-changing for us.â€
“It’s been an enormous challenge and enormously gratifying,†she added. “Andrew and I wanted to travel less and the opportunity of living and working in Sydney was irresistible, especially when it came to being able to give our children roots. I also felt drawn to the stimulating kind of environment that the theatre offers in a way that is completely different from film. To direct a company has its own challenges, and there’s nothing like the terror and thrill that comes from performing live in front of an audience. So it’s been a marvellous experience for both of us.â€
Blanchett took to the stage in a magnificent performance as Blanche DuBois in Tennessee Williams’ A Streetcar Named Desire. Though it has been played numerous times by countless fine theatre actress’ Cate completely made the role her own and played it like it had never been played before. She got rave reviews for her portrayal. The New York Times critic Ben Brantley wrote, “DuBois has been pulled gently and firmly down to earth by Ms. Blanchett. What she brings to the character is life itself, a primal survival instinct … All the baggage that any ‘Streetcar’ usually travels with has been jettisoned. Ms. (Tracey) Ullmann and Ms. Blanchett have performed the play as if it had never been staged before, with the result that, as a friend of mine put it, ‘you feel like you’re hearing words you thought you knew pronounced correctly for the first time.’â€
John Lahr raved in The New Yorker, “Blanchett, with her alert mind, her informed heart, and her lithe, patrician silhouette, gets it right from the first beat … Blanchett doesn’t make the usual mistake of foreshadowing Blanche’s end at the play’s beginning; she allows Blanche a slow, fascinating decline … I don’t expect to see a better performance of this role in my lifetime.â€
The great Meryl Streep said, “That performance was as naked, as raw and extraordinary and astonishing and surprising and scary as anything I’ve ever seen … She took the layers of a person and just peeled them away. I thought I’d seen that play, I thought I knew all the lines by heart, because I’ve seen it so many times, but I’d never seen the play until I saw that performance.â€
Cate won the Sydney Theatre Award for Best Actress in a Leading Role and the Helen Hayes Awards, for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Non-Resident Production award, and the production won for Outstanding Non-Resident Production.She then played Yelena in Upton’s adaptation of Anton Chekhov’s Uncle Vanya, which traveled to the Kennedy Center and the New York City Center as part of the Lincoln Center Festival. Again, critics were most impressed. The New York Times’ Ben Brantley wrote, “I consider the three hours I spent on Saturday night watching (the characters) complain about how bored they are among the happiest of my theatre going life … This Uncle Vanya gets under your skin like no other I have seen … (Blanchett) confirms her status as one of the best and bravest actresses on the planet.†Again, Blanchett received the Helen Hayes Award for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Non-Resident Production, and the Helpmann Award for Best Actress. Clearly the husband wife team was most successful.
Cate told Anita Singh in an interview for The Telegraph about their partnership, saying Andrew allows her unfettered access to his email account and that she runs her household as a “well-oiled machine†by reading all the messages addressed to her husband as “he hates emails,†leaving all his correspondence to her. “We work together and it’s a way of synchronising our lives. I can see what he’s up to – it’s not that I don’t trust him.â€
She also takes charge of organising her children’s lives. “I’ve got a whole system going. I know what has to be done by the end of the evening, and what has to be done by the end of the morning. Three lunch boxes, three school bags, three sets of school uniform. Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but I have to write everything down,†Blanchett said. She has a rule that she will never be away from the children for more than six days; she said there are times when she dislikes the acting profession but “it’s a vocation, something I feel compelled to do. The work is not simple, but I do love it.â€
Friends and colleagues said the couple never seem to have any drama, and they work together constantly, especially when they took over the STC.
Lady of the manor
The family’s primary residence is currently Highwell House, East Sussex that was once owned by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
Blanchett stepped down from her full-time role at the theatre in 2013, but continued to star in a few STC productions, while Upton carried on as artistic director for another two years. Her film work was still limited. “What prevents me from picking and choosing is my geographical location and my desire not to have someone else raise my children.â€
Sheryl Garratt wrote in The Telegraph that Blanchett, who is forthright, funny, exceedingly good company and astonishingly beautiful, reckons “the children keep her honest. They force you to be economical. To choose your roles wisely and then shrug them off as soon as you’re done.†People always ask how she is able to juggle her roles as an actor and parent. “Now, I might be wrong, but I don’t think they put the same question to male actors, do they?†How she has changed since she first got married, “I think Andrew would say I’ve got better at my job that I’ve learned to get out of my own way a bit more. I think perhaps he would say I’m a little less socially awkward. I hope so anyway. I used to be very socially awkward. Walk into a room. Not know what to say. But you do carry that fear with you. When I was getting ready to leave (the company, I did think, ‘Well, I’m in my 40s, I don’t know if I’ve even got a film career to go back to.’ And then Blue Jasmine landed in my lap.â€
Her role as the brittle Park Avenue princess fallen on hard times in Blue Jasmine won her a second Oscar. But the experience of shooting it was no bed of roses. She described Woody Allen’s directing style as one of “benign neglect. The first day was brutal. He came up to me and said, ‘This is awful and you’re awful.’ As if he were talking about someone else, some other actress, and that maybe I could go and have a word with her. And then three weeks later it turned out that he didn’t like the costumes, he didn’t like the locations, he didn’t like the scene. He said, ‘You’ve got to help me rescue this movie.’â€
She did such a wonderful job that some critics called it the best role of her career, better even than as Elizabeth I. The performance earned her more than 40 industry and critics awards, including the Critics’ Choice Award, Santa Barbara International Film Festival Outstanding Performance of the Year Award, Australian Academy Award (AACTA), SAG award, Golden Globe, BAFTA, Independent Film Spirit Award and the Academy Award for Best Actress. She, thus, became the first Australian to win more than one acting Oscar.
The couple fulfilled their dream when they adopted daughter Edith Vivian Patricia in 2015 because Cate said that she and her husband had wanted to adopt ever since the birth of their first child. Despite their high profile status and wealth, Australian adoption authorities still carried rigorous background checks into their lives before confirming the adoption and handing over the baby girl. Soon after, they sold their Sydney mansion for $20 million in 2015 to a Chinese buyer and moved back to England where Andrew and Cate purchased a seven bedroom, five reception room historic $6.25 million English manor, Highwell House, in East Sussex. Originally built in 1890, the home had fallen into disrepair, but had been extensively renovated and restored by its previous owner to its previous grandeur with bespoke materials and hand crafted finishes. Another celebrity owner in the past had been author of the Sherlock Holmes series Sir Arthur Conan Doyle. Variety magazine reported that around the same time the couple also purchased a five-bedroom house in Sydney once owned by drag queen Dame Edna from its last owner for approximately $8 million. Not a bad life!
Late last year, paparazzi clicked photos of Andrew “getting very close†with 27 year old Love Child star Harriet Dyer
To pay for it all, Cate then played Cinderella’s evil stepmother in Disney’s Cinderella in a fun, campy way. On the other end of the spectrum, she starred opposite Rooney Mara in the lesbian relationship film Carol. At the Cannes film festival Variety reporter Ramin Setoodeh asked her if this was the first time she had played a bisexual. Cate cheekily replied, “On film or in real life?†The reporter prodded if she’s had relationships with women. “Yes, many times,†she shot back referring to her countless female friends, family members and colleagues. The resulting story went viral, and eclipsed the movie itself. “Look,†she clarified to Brooks, rolling her eyes at the memory, “I also just played a journalist. No one asked me how long I’d been to journalism school. If I played someone who has an affair, I think a reporter would probably think twice before asking, ‘Ooh, how many affairs have you had?’ It would be a slightly delicate area. But there are no holds barred about asking me whether I’ve had relationships with women. And so I facetiously said, ‘Oh yes, I’ve had many relationships with women’ – because frankly, who hasn’t? Of course I said it in inverted commas. But the inverted commas didn’t make the page.†So try as you may, reporters looking for a story will blow up the minutest detail trying to come up with a sensational, headline grabbing scandal.
Similarly, Andrew too has had his share of over eager press. Late last year, paparazzi clicked photos of Andrew “getting very close†with 27 year old Love Child star Harriet Dyer. The tabloid, Star reported that the two spent the evening at the Strawberry Hills pub in Sydney, while Cate was thousands of miles away in NYC with their children. “Drinks were flowing. Andrew and Harriet’s hands were all over the place,†revealed an onlooker, who watched the pair play a flirtatious game of pool in the company of friends at the local watering hole – just miles down the street from the home he shares with Cate and the kids. “At one point, Harriet rested her head on Andrew’s chest and he wrapped his arm around her, whispering something in her ear. Andrew and Harriet looked uncomfortable with the camera snapping away,†said the spy. “It they hadn’t spotted the photographer, who knows what might have happened? Even if it was innocent, it certainly left a bad impression.â€
Australian magazine New Idea reported that “At one point they were holding hands and he had his arm around her before leaving together to hail a taxi. The pair was never far from each other, engaged in ‘close conversation’ and were quite affectionate. Cate recently relocated to Los Angeles with her children for a film.â€
According to the magazine, Harriet told a group of fellow Australian actors, “He’s (Andrew) a notorious party boy, everyone knows that.â€
On holiday with their four kids in tow
Though the two have worked together in the past at the Sydney Theatre Company, a lot of speculation as to the nature of their relationship took place. Cate, however, appeared confident and unfazed the next day when the story broke. Paparazzi followed her around NYC to capture any meltdown she may have or even a hint of emotion she may show. Everyone wanted to know whether there was any truth to the story. Whether she really trusts her husband that much or whether she’s the consummate actress in real life as well is anybody’s guess. She had herself admitted in an earlier interview, “It’s not whether you can act or not. It’s whether you can act comfortable and relaxed. I’m not comfortable, I’m not relaxed. It’s all down to acting.â€
Later the same magazine New Idea reported that Harriet was overheard telling a group of actors at a premiere that she reached out to Cate as soon as the photos were released to ensure she and the children were okay, “I sent through an email to Cate and said: “This is all ‘s***’ We were just having drinks after a show when the images were taken. “ She wrote back, “We’re cool, babe.â€
Happily ever after, or as close to it as you can get
Andrew also broke his silence over the incident, insisting his relationship with Harriet was strictly platonic. ‘We’ve been friends for years. She’s a good friend,’ he explained.
Since then, Harriet has begun dating No Activity co-star Patrick Brammall, after calling it quits with Australian actor Ben Lawson late last year, so there was that narrow window when she was footloose and single.
The Mail on Sunday carried a story of Cate Blanchett generously praising Andrew soon after, “I’m incredibly fortunate to have met the intelligent, generous, risk-taking, stimulating man to whom I am married. He’s really amazing. I don’t think it’s more difficult for actors to have a good marriage than anyone. I think in the end a really important component of any relationship is honesty, and it also comes down to luck.â€
Andrew also praised his wife, describing being married to her as “a daily thrill.†Damage control or the whole truth and nothing but the truth? Your guess is as good as mine.
Looking back at their twenty year marriage, Cate said, “It’s been a great creative partnership with my husband and also a great love affair. Working together, running a creative company in Australia. It’s all been fantastic.â€
If you would like to see Cate perform live and happen to be in the Big Apple, do check out her Broadway debut in Upton’s adaptation of Anton Chekhov’s play The Present, running now through March 19, 2017.